August 2008 - Whistle No. More Here It Is!

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LOL dizzy, you are not alone , No1 and i are here for your entertainment . Double benefit of this computer is that i can access FB here as well [why did i not think of it earlier emoticon]

no1 glad your sister read my post and is offering to look after the DCs again . My Dsis says she will look after them but not overnight

Re DD No1, i have no idea but children bite for a number of reasons i think, and they definitely wind up siblings (from all families i have seen). If you like i will ask my neighbours who are child psychotherapists if they have any ideas as to why and any strategies to try and combat it

No1 -I can see that would be really upsetting. I know a lot of nt children develop tics of some kind at this age. DS did some kind of head movement, dd1 licks her lips obsessively ... So I think the biting might be part of that process as well as a release valve for her.

We haven't met her. Could you tell us a bit what she is like in general so that we can get a sense of her outside the biting and jealousy problems?

Got to run ...

No1 I bath my kids once a week, whether they need it or not and they just have sink washes during the week. They love bathtime but it takes aaaaages, and as they don't get their tea till 5.30 at least on a weeknight we just couldn't fit a bath in. Sorry to hear DD biting herself I have nothing helpful to say on that, but my DD who is a whole year older than yours I think is still hurting DS sometimes when she thinks we are not looking for example she trod on his hand today, totally on purpose, luckily we were outside so his hand just sunk into the mud

Welcome back Sazz, good to see you, and oh, look how much has been posted this afternoon since you came back online and Dizzy is feeling a bit better

Everyone else, hello

We had to get DD1 out of the bath after 3 times of asking her not to pour water over DD2's head, snatch toys and try and ambush her round the neck. Sibling love . Also i remember holding my sister (3 years older than me) up against the wall by the neck in order to gain control of the remote control . SHe tried to get me back emotionally by telling me i was adopted

hots no-one was missing my mindless drivel, well apart from an illing dizzy

Cyteen and No1 Sympathies on your sucky weekends. No1 if you want to put your mind at rest (or not, mind), here's a toddler ASD checklist (scroll down to bottom).

QOD Well done you, you'll have to think of some worthwhile evening actvity now (other than Mumsnetting.)

Miamla Hurrah re 28th, I'm really excited about it. I think I shall probably drive up - would you recommend the M25 or North Circular on a Saturday teatime?

Love and large doses of yummy sedative cough mixture for those with poorly babes (strictly for the mums, mind.)

Will send out Secret Santa recipients tonight via FB.

Mission on now to get all 3 kids in bed by 7pm because it's DR WHO DR WHO DR WHO!!!!

oh god, rugby and Dr Who in one day - I think I might poke my eyes out with a blunt spoon - sorry buckets but DH loves it if that helps?!?

evening all... buckets def M25. north circ is a nightmare at all times! I think all that are coming have got my address from marianne's hearts but if anyone needs it again, fb me

ooh, getting excited about secret santa so off to check if now counts as 'tonight' yet!

mealtime tonight has been so much more successful. DS is obviously feeling better because he's demolished an adult sized portion of pasta,broccoli and cauliflower in a cheese sauce. And that's despite the &^%$£ fireworks going off that are scaring him

buckets hope you have a mission successful to report later!

Oh I am really looking forward to Doctor Who, although getting a bit anxious too as it's nearly time for him to regenerate and according to the radio times this and the nexy two episodes are going to be heartbreaking . I don't want David Tennant to go plus that new doctor is really funny looking. No chance of watching it live though, it's that rare thing named bath night in the hotter house but I haven't even started running it yet. Thank flip for freeview+

I want a magnum white I haven't wanted one since pg heartburn but I was thinking about what might help my throat and I'm done with soup

bets on ladies please on the chances that DH will nip to the shops and get me one?!?

eh, no

Oh he would wouldn't he? Say your throat may be improved enough for a bit of bedroom action and i'm sure he'll change his mind . Oh, and obviously you can then have a relapse, if necessary

no I'm not going to ask him because he's already bathed the girls/put them to bed and changed the sheets on out bed as I was freaking out about germs and then he asked did I need anything else as he wanted to put him jammies on - I said no so he's now pootling about in his jammies loading the dishwasher and tidying the kitchen

shall have to raid the freezer and see whats in there instead - just don't tell the hot mammas

Secret is safe hn

he's bringing me some chicken noodle soup instead

Very healthy

Hello,

Oooooh, so I have a webcam so we could say a very brief hello via Skype on the 28th ...

(does anyone else with a webcam think that the in the night garden game where it uses the webcam to put you and your DC in the ninky nonk is really cool, or are you all too busy doing improving activities with your DC).

dizzy pretty much settled on Magdalena Isabel (which is what I have been saying all along but still enjoying the dithering about names anyway ...) I liked the suggestion of Carmelita as DS is Thomas Augustine and so with the Augustinians and the Carmelites we would have a religious order there in both names which is kind of cool, but anyway probably not to Carmelita as a name.

Sorry to hear about so many poorly babies, and mums, and stressful weekends. Lots of thoughts to all of you.

Off to wake up DS now ...

lwfh - Magdalena Isabel is lovely and can I ask why you're slaying vampires?!?
how many weeks are you now, apologies for asking but I blame my flu addled brain?

I am just that you are going to wake a sleeping baby. Not happened here. Ever

was going to catch up but having just seen lwfh's post, i'm off to have a ride on the ninky nonk instead

buckets Have looked at the list of questions and answer YES to everyone, I could even answer yes on behalf of HV and just know it would be yes to those five questions as well.
I could even say yes to them all for ds too.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SKIP AS IT IS VERY LONG.SORRY

sazzles that would be great if you could ask your friends. thankyou very much.

lentil I just wish someone could give me the right form of action to take when dd hurts ds.
I have tried many different things, and at almost 15 months later it is still not getting any better.

Since she started pre school she has come on so much, she has always been a chatterbox, but communicates very well now.

She is also nicer to ds now,kisses,hugs and always says 'good morning' to him etc. whereas before he held no interest to her,but
even though she is nice now,she is still consistently nasty to him.

Now obviously its nasty to an adult because we know what is right and wrong.IYKWIM, but maybe to her she is just jealous and frustrated.

I worry that she has done it now for so long,it is a bad habbit which she can't help.

I also feel very sorry for ds as maybe this is why he is terribly clingy and cries a lot.

I am by know means looking for sympathy, but I do feel like I am failing them both, and I worry about any negative lasting effects it will have on them both as this is not just every now and again. It is EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Sometimes all day.

I am worn out with it all, I love them so much (obviuously) but just do not know what to do now.

HV has not returned four of my calls. I was reluctant to get them involved,but maybe they can help???

Re dd biting, I am not too concerned as it is very very rare that she gets that upset and does it.
Or should I be concerned?
She is very happy as far as I can tell,very very outgoing and sociable and is very very affectionate. apart form to ds.
Very independant and has to do everything herself. Re toilet,dressing,undressing,pouring drinks,buttering bread etc...

Oh, No1 sorry to hear you are feeling so rubbish . I have seen you with DS and you are a fantastic mummy, so please don't blame yourself. From what you have said it is no wonder you are exhausted. You deal with your DC's with so much patience it must be too much

The only thing i have been able to do with DD1 when she gets frustrated that DD2 is intervening in her drawing/jigsaw/reading books etc is to say to her to just move out of DD2's way - sit up on the sofa, at the dining table or on the window sill . We also have much random hitting and she went to her room this evening for swinging DD2 round by her hood . i think the close age gap makes it that bit more competitive

If your HV is ignoring you i would go and speak to the GP (but then i have a lovely one who adores children - is there one like that at your surgery?). I hope that they support you all the way for seeking advice and support

{{Big hugs, you so lovely}}

QOD that is fantastic! So pleased for you all

no1 glad you got the night out in the end (and the night in )...cling onto those memories when tired DC are doing your head in, I find it helps

dizzy did I hear you're on the mend? Hope so.

Well, we had a great journey back in the end, got home in 2 hours and DS slept all the way so he seems a lot better for a proper kip. Had a bit of a depressing phone conversation with my dad, yet again I seem to be the go-between for things that people should really sort out for themselves Being an only sucks. I used to be able to share the load.

So sorry you're feeling so worried about the DCs no1. I have a friend with a gap similar to yours and DD followed by DS. Her DD (who definitely has no problems with communication etc.) has consistently been utterly uninterested in her little brother (they are now 3.5 and 2), so I don't think that in itself suggests anything. Don't be so hard on yourself. I am constantly amazed by your stamina with both the DCs and the horses and couldn't believe it when you managed with your DSis's children too. I'm not suprised you feel you need a break. Glad you got a small one last night and that there is another on the horizon.

For all those worrying (again) about my parenting with the DD2 on the table incident, that was not really down to my fecklessness as I was in the same room, but with my back turned and she was up there within seconds. Never having climbed onto anything before I wasn't prepared for it, but I was there to deal with it asap.

Sorry about your rubbish weekend cyteen and your rubbish Dr TS.

Feeling totally, totally shit here. Feel like an entirely useless mother, crap wife, dreadful housekeeper and failure with my career (not that I have one anymore). I realise too that I miss home. Like you no1 I worry about the effect it's all having on my gorgeous girls. I know I'm unspeakably tired at the moment but just feel completely over-sensitive and tearful. I think it's just the last 6 months catching up with DH and me but still. My Mum arrives in a couple of days which could be great (another pair of hands) or make things worse (stressed DH having to deal with his MiL when he gets back from work each night)..

Anyway, on that note, I'm afraid that I may not be able to make it away for 28th now. . Will still aim to but think it's better to to count me out for now. So sorry and thank you v. much for the offer of a fry-up miamla.

sazzles thankyou

I suppose I am on a bit of a feel sorry for myself mode atm.

dsis thinks something wrong with ds
dbro thinks something wrong with dd
dh thinks something wrong with ds.

Atmosphere and tension re this bloody pony.

So I have very reluctantly but probably sensibly advertised the pony for sale.

I am thinking go enjoy my sisters,leaving both dcs at home and enjoy this for Me,my time,my break/therapy.

Wait (like dh said) till they are older.
If dd still interested,then dh will buy the land the pony,trailer etc.. In his words not on a budget and properly.
thanks you so much for letting me vent and ramble on.

I have taken the week or so away form mn and internet full stop in the hope that I could tackle all my problems and worries, but they are still here.lol

Sorry, forgot to say that I'm sorry that I can't help with the white magnum dizzy, but glad you're feeling better enough to contemplate food. Also, hooray, hooray, hooray for qod and S!

no1 never feel you have to tackle problems/worries on your own. we're here as a sounding board as well as sympathetic advice. i took agree with others that you are a fantastic mum and the level of stuff you do (without dh's support most of the time from what i can gather) is fantastic