May 2009: Brides and bibs

[EtherealFiByTheSea]

Here we go...

Well, all my family have gone to bed. I'm trying to stay awake despite all the wine. I'm expecting the same tomorrow and the day after and the day after until they are gone. My family likes their wine/beer/any other type of alcohol

Slings, ah, but there are so many colours all to match my different outfits. I'd ask for money, but DH's family is totally opposed to it. I've wanted a nano for 3 years now, but every year I get a book. Now if they'd just buy me the nano and then not give me a gift for the next few years, I'd be perfectly happy

flippin I hope you wont have to wait too long to see the counsellor and that the appointment will be very helpful. Glad to hear that you're starting to make some positive changes.

xmas presents (not my own) C is getting a stacking ring. One of the ap's managed to lose a ring of ours, so it's incomplete. So I'm getting C this new one. She might be a touch too young for it, but i'm sure she'll enjoy chewing the rings, lol.

ladyH Oooh, enjoy your hen night. I could do with a good night out.

BLW Same here. I get when I mention it. Most worryingly I met a bf supporter from a bf group at a baby expo last week who was surprised I had a baby as big as C that's fully bf. Like ses I'm sort of putting it off as long as I can. Having a fully BF baby is just so much easier. Saying that, she's played with a bit of brocolli and a chip this week, so things are happening.

reggie glad to hear you're all better now. Fingers x'd we've managed to escape the nasty vomitting bug here so far.

Right, off to do some harvesting on FB now.

The effects of wine seem to be wearing off now, lol.

All this weaning talk has reminded me what I concluded about BLW. I don't understand why it needs a book, and a label. I didn't read the book or know much about it last time around but I still gave finger food and things off my plate.

I've done with Gill Rapeley's book what I've done with Gina Ford, Dr Spock and the rest of them. I read them, take the bits I want and then do what comes naturally. Those sorts of books do make handy coasters though.

This evening DS2 nibbled on brioche, cucumber sticks and courgette puree. He loves fromage frais and has produced some artwork worthy of framing with the contents. But he is enjoying the puree, but wields the spoon himself, mainly. DS1 is thrilled with the mess as he loves mopping the floor.

flippineck I do hope you get your counselling soon. I didn't have PND last time but did battle some issues with DH post DS1 and found counselling enormously helpful.

christmas presents With two boys already we have pretty much everything so I've no idea what we'll buy for DS2. I'm guessing very small things wrapped more for DS1 to see that they both get pressies from Father Christmas. We'll definitely buy PJs, socks,a few books and bits like that. I think for DS2's birthday we'll buy a wheelybug as DS never had one.

Jenn how are things now?

Grumpy I was sorry to hear how things are going with you. I hope you are able to get some RL support. You always sound so strong and positive.

Headless have a great weekend

Loobs how are things with your mother.

Sorry if I've missed anyone else. I've still got heaps of work to do and I'm still feeling a bit rubbish.

belgian - I like that stacker, I'm going to add it to our list. I'm so sad, I've been sat here making a spreadsheet of potential gifts, with prices, links to websites etc for each of the girls. I get fed up of people asking what to get them so am being organised this year! I've been finding some lovely stuff for DD1 (fab wooden dolls house, with furniture and dolls in John Lewis!) but poor A is getting left out again.

Oh, and how many slings are you up to now, Belgian? I've just sold one, so back down to four...temporarily!

evening sorry to not name check... have just read everything to catch up but my brain is not holding any information for more than a minute... ds (3.3yrs) went to sleep extremely early tonight 4pm! but woke at about 21.45 and is still awake although looking at books in his room from the chatter I can hear. G didn't give in to sleep until 8pm so has been an interesting bonfire night i've been a bit down tonight as this is the 1st bonfire night since our dog died the week before g was born. I always had to give him lots of cuddles around this time of year and esp on big firework nights as he was petrified poor thing . Funny how some things can bring memories flooding back.

Xmas presents... not going to get G much as we've also got so much from ds but i do want to get her a lovely Haba teething toy. DS absolutely loved his and as it's seen better days I thought i'd treat G to a new one but there are so many to choose from! DS had this one in different colours but i think i'll get G this one. There are so many lovely ones I keep changing my mind!

HI. also not namechecking but love you all .
fi, was your dog Douglas? rip. poor george is petrified. he's by my feet right now shaking. can't believe people are still setting off fireworks at 11 pm.

yes momi it was douglas... still weird him not being around but fortunately I don't often have time to dwell on it. It tends to be 'occasions' like tonight etc that i get a bit maudlin...

aw, Fi, I totally understand. Dogs are part of the family too and are missed when they pass. xx

DS is asleep again... just checked on him and he was lying half in/out of his duvet with his bedside light on and his new book marvin wanted more book (he's a sheep) in one hand and his blankie in the other

ooops too many books there!

Morning!
Sorry I posted and ran last night. O struggled to settle at all last night so co-slept from about 10.30.

This morning I'm hopefully picking mum up from hospital. Dropped her off yesterday afternoon for keyhole surgery on her shoulder, so nothing major.

Christmas - I'm going to check on all those links people have posted. Thank you!!

Looby - hope your mum's doing ok. Don't wear yourself out tearing about all over the place!

Jenn - hope you're all clear soon.

Headless - have a great wkend

Grumpy - at Beebee's boyfriend!!

Morning everyone

Fi un-mumsnetty

flippin like your idea about the spreadsheet. I'm not a particularly organised person but I do get a bad case of list mania at this time of year.

We had a bad night here. H took ages to get to sleep then was up at 10pm - my fault due to dropping a knife on the kitchen floor (above the bedroom) - DH tried to settle but he needed a boob... then up again at 1.30am, 2.30am and 4am, and up for the day at 6am. He's waking himself up by rolling on to his tummy and trying to crawl. He's perfectly capable of rolling back onto his back but gets too frustrated and cries until I come and pick him up.

pula thanks for replying about the sugar. That's a sensible approach. I don't intend to be too PFB about it, I suppose I'd been thinking he shouldn't be having things with added sugar (but when I think about it I've not actually read that anywhere - perhaps it's the MN attitude to Fruit Shoots that's filtered into my consciousness) and was a bit to see that the healthy sounding organic banana yoghurt breakfast, and supposedly ok to eat on a daily basis, is actually loaded with sugar!

Morning all

DH here today so he got the DCs up so I could have an extra hour in bed as R was up feeding, playing and talking in the night.
We had a scare yesterday. We went for a walk to town when DH got home from working at about 4 and DD wanted to walk as I've been encouraging her to walk so she is worn out and naps . Anyway we started swinging her in between us in a lovely family moment until we managed to wrench her elbow out of its socket . We went to a & e and she cried for 2 hours in my arm with her arm hanging at her side. We hade been waiting for an hour and a half when she suddenly sat up and pointed at something out the window . She then got down from my lap and started playing with both arms with the toys [shcck]. I think her arm must have gone back into place by itself!!
She's fine now but has a small bruise on the inside of her elbow. Won't be doing that again.

Christmas Presents I have got both dcs toothbrushes, toothpaste, new bowls, for DD knickers and pjs and a few toys from car boot sales for each. We are going up to Derby to my BF so don't want to take too much with us. They are only young so we will have a cheap christmas while we can. I was thinking of choosing one or two of DDs toys to regift to R as well.

Momi My cat was cowering under my feet last night too.

BLW we are doinga mixture of purees and finger foods but R seems to like the finger food more he isn't quite 6 months yet (next week) so we are still just experimenting but he is having 3 'meals' a day as he sits up with DD and usually has a bit of what ever she is having.

My sister is ok. DT are in neonatal and still hooked up to lots of tubes and she hasn't cuddled them yet . She has managed to express off some BM and when the babies are distressed they put a drop of BM in their mouths .
Hi everyone else

Febes - that must have been so scary. Quite a day but glad you're all ok now and yay for DH letting you have a lie in

febes Hugest congrats to your sister, forgot to say yesterday.

fi Douglas. I remember from our ante-natal threads....

Good morning everyone belgian how's the head

I posted and ran last night - DD2 had a nightmare and needed lots of cuddles and then S woke up again and needed feeding and then I needed sleep.......

Christmas presents I won't get much for S, a couple of chewy toys (she sounds like a puppy!), she'll enjoy the paper and whatnot more.

Must make some lunch

I wish those bloody kids would stop waving.........

Febes that must have been a frightening experience. Btw I think I also forgot to say double congratulations to your sister. Hopefully it won't be long before the DTs are out of neo-natal.

I have come to the conclusion that H is dairy intolerant. His face/neck goes red and blotchy, like a shaving rash. I wasn't really sure to begin with as the dairy has always been alongside other food, and because when I took him to the GP about it she said it was caused by acidic (actually she said alkali ) saliva due to teething. But last night I gave H a piece of cheese which he seemed to enjoy, but half an hour later his face was all red and itchy, poor thing. This morning I spoke to the woman who runs our baby yoga class as she's very knowledgeable about this sort of thing, and she told me it sounds exactly the same as her two DCs who are both dairy intolerant. She said it could have been caused by me OD-ing on dairy products during pregnancy. I do seem to remember eating a lot of cheese and drinking way too many lattes.

It's strange as I'd have thought with bf-ing that I'd have known by now. The only symptom he seems to have is dry/excema-like patches on his skin, but no colic or digestive trouble. . Think I will have a browse around and see what I can find out.

Hmm, just read that back - actually if I'd been ff-ing I'd have known about it sooner!

Afternoon,

Sorry I ran last night, A got woken up by some twunt letting off bangers on the green right by our house. Grrr.

sparkler That's interesting I didn't know that OD'ing on something in pg could be linked to intolerances - prob means A is going to be allergic to biscuits I have heard that there is some evidence to suggest that the human digestive system finds it hard to digest cows milk up to about the age of 5-7 which could be why dairy 'allergies' are fairly common in babies who then grow out of it. Might be worth another trip to the GP now you have a bit more evidence too as they can refer you to get an allergy test done to be sure.

fi douglas I also remember his passing. Hope you are ok today.

belgian hope the head wasn't too sore this morning

febes scary stuff. Hope you are all ok this morning.

Thanks for all the Christmas chat, given me some ideas our parents keep asking what they can get A for Christmas, also have a small house. Mum has got A a trolley with bricks in and we're going to ask my Dad and Stepmum to either get us a bike seat so we can get out on some bikerides in the new year or one of those wheelybugs like llare as I think they're sooo cute

Oh I can hear poo explosions... hopefully this means A will nap now

hmm, sparkle, dairy intolerance 'could have been caused by me OD-ing on dairy products during pregnancy'...i don't think they know too much about such a connection do they? don't start being or guilty about what you ate in pregnancy.

ironically, i avoided peanuts in pregnancies 1&2 yet both girls still got eczema (not that it's that simple to avoid); for dd3 pregnancy, I disregarded that rule and ate peanuts without worry and Harper has lovely skin with no sign yet of eczema. maybe it's a coincidence but my point is that no one really knows what the connections are.

febes, that sounds like a scary incident, so glad all is well.

running, fireworks were annoyingly close last night as well.

some happy news: my BIL's wife just had a baby girl, Farrah, 8lb 11oz. my IL's are inundated with girls! we're going to knutsford to see them this weekend. can't wait fo a newborn cuddle .

COngralations Aunty Momi- another girl in the family .

Febes- I saw your FB status last night- it sounded very distressing for all involved, but glad DD is OK now.

RunningMonkey- sorry i missed your post last night. My DD is nearly 5 and DS1 is 2.4 years old. They usually do understand consequences, but yesterday they were just thick as thieves and not listening to a word I said, thinking it was funny to run around and hide. DH and I have decided to come up with some formal rules "a la super nanny" - 5 forbiddens (e.g. no jumping on furniture, no hitting each other) and 5 nice to dos (e.g. remember please and thankyou, ask before getting down from the table). Good behaviour will be rewarded with marbles in the jar (never got round to starting this) and naughty behaviour might result in "naughty step" or marbles out of jar. Not sure what to do yet . Can't remember what supernanny does, as she usually has both- maybe naughty step comes first, but repeat bad behaviour results in marble coming out?

Pula That sounds very good to me. Kids like rules and boundaries and your plan sounds really fair.

Hello all!

Febes - are you all ok now after yesterday's trip to A&E?

Pula - I agree that sounds like a v good plan. Let us know how you get on.

I'm just waiting for potatoes to boil and DH to (finally!) get home from work. O has been asleep for nearly half an hour despite the fireworks. If last night is anything to go by though, he'll wake up when they stop!
Oh and most importantly I have a glass of wine poured First one in a couple of weeks so probably won't be able to drink a second

Hope everyone's having a good Friday night

Well that jinxed it - O now awake. I'm sitting feeding him and hoping the fireworks stop soon.
I'm fed up with this. I do not have my evenings back
Lots of people say that weaning will make a difference. We start on Sunday. I can't see that it will make much difference, especially as he probably won't take much in to begin with.
I'm so lucky with O as he's such a happy easy boy generally. It's just this staying asleep thing!!! Aaarrgh!!

Ses I think weaning does help but not straight away. After a month or 2 they seem to fall into better routines and therefore sleep better. Not sure if it is weaning or age but it slowly gets easier. The first year is so hard but it does get better. Saying that R is stillllllllll waking loads during the night so I'm clearly no expert but I have faith that life will get slowly better. We will look back on this time with our little ones and want to go back to it in years to come.

DD is fine after her dramas yesterday. I took her to the toy library and swimming today. The first time we have been to the tots time swimming lesson since R was born. It was really good but DD has lost lots of confidence not going for the last 6 months. I am going to try to get my neighbour to come with me so I can take R as well as the coach/teacher is so good.