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claraquack · 26/10/2009 14:19

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verybusyspider · 13/04/2010 19:54

skid I jinxed it, dh away till next week, had a disasterous afternoon - nothing major just one of those days where I forget Bear's milk, 10p short for parking ticket so had to walk back into town to get cash, late for dinner etc etc and when bathing them found 10 spots on Bear's back and tummy, what do you reckon the chances are he has chicken pox whilst I'm on my own!?! ahhh and I know for a fact we had a play date about 2 weeks ago with a little boy who had the pox!

clara dh wanted a vascectomy after ds3 but they won't let him - apparently not keen if you are under 30 and you have to have 'cooling off' period after a newborn, I'm glad tho I'm not ready for that just yet but the alternatives are pretty pants

becklespeckle · 13/04/2010 23:00

Hi all, its been a long couple of weeks here. All of us have been poorly one way or another. DS1 missed the last couple of days of term with a fever, DS2 had a huge wart which fell off but wouldn't stop bleeding (queue trip to A&E) DH has had tonsilitis and a fever, I had a fever and I think tonsilitis although I have no tonsils... DD has been the worst though and poorly on and off for a couple of weeks. Her temperature was really high in the week and she was covered in a red viral rash and listless with cold cold hands and feet, her right eye was swollen shut too I ended up spending a night in hospital with her as they were concerned about her temperature and thought she had a bacterial infection in her eye and wanted to treat her with IV anti-biotics. Turns out she had celulitis in the skin under her eye (presceptual celulitis) We had another trip to the hospital at the weekend too as she had a purple/brown rash on the back of her neck which wouldn't fade...luckily it turned out to be tiny burst blood vessels where she had been screaming in protest at the oral anti-biotics she's on (she says they "don't taste nice Mummy"). Things are thankfully (touch wood) returning to normal routine now.

DrSkid, how is your DS1 now? Hope he's on the mend. I'm not sure I exactly manage to MN successfully with 3 DCs (hence the sporadic posting) but life with them gets much easier even if it doesn't get any less busy I don't get the guilt thing about dummies, if it gives a baby comfort then what's wrong with that? I actively gave DS2 one to try and stop him from sucking his thumb, it worked and he had it for naps until he was 3 and he gave it up when he was ready. DD wouldn't take the dummy and sucks her thumb, the trouble with a thumb is that its always there, you can't put it under the pillow between naps. I sucked mine until I was 12 or so and only stopped because it wouldn't fit in my mouth with the braces I had...

Buzzy, still waiting for my appointment... Ouch for your trip over, are you okay?! DD is definitely agressive, she too is baited by her older siblings. Her brothers use her as a weapon when fighting each other too... "Evie, go pull DS1's hair"..."Evie, go and bite DS2"... unfortunately she now bites them quite often and also does the same to my friend's DS. She is fiercly independant and shouts a lot to assert herself (much like everyone else's DCs are seeming to at the moment). It can be very wearing but luckily she is so lovely the rest of the time

Clara, I remember the short burst things when learning shorthand! I never quite got the hang of it beyond 80 wpm though as although I could take it down I then struggled to transcribe it. My shorthand is like my fast handwriting - scruffy! Hope you have a fab time in Disneyland!

Cazzy, your hols sounded fab, I love the Lake District! How is Evie's poor rib now? Hope she's feeling a bit less sore, have you tried giving her some arnica tablets to help with any bruising she might have?

Clairey, at your H for behaving that way to your poor poorly DD as for suggesting a reward for looking after his own child... Hard as it may be to deal with him though at least it is not an everyday thing like when you were living together. I guess thats small comfort at times.

BT that you've had no viewings but that you're thinking of trying for DC2! As for potty training, I'm not even thinking of it at the moment even though I did the boys at this age. Although Evie will tell me when she's done a wee or poo (or farts - that's what having older brothers does to a girl) I'm not convinced she's ready yet, she won't sit on the potty without a nappy on for starters! I'm waiting for summer...

Dundee, I love your DD's favourite phrase!

Arcadie, at toddler/newborn kisses!

Insy, I can't believe Bear is 10 months old! Glad you got your mortgage approved, when are you putting an offer in on the house? The scan was interesting thanks, I don't know when/if I'll get to hear any results as it was mostly for research purposes but still it was an experience! The MRI machines are much smaller and noisier than you see on TV. You did mention the coil before, the bleeding you are having could be due to the hormones they emit. I have had a lot of problems with on/off bleeding since stopping BFing DD and I think that's mainly due to the mini-pill messing up the hormones, if it doesn't settle down then go see your GP. How are Bear's spots now? FWIW, DD had chicken pox at 10 months and she came through it soooo much easier than her brothers did when they had it. Have the other 2 boys had it? When is DH home?

BouncingTurtle · 14/04/2010 15:11

Beckle - sorry to hear of all the illness in the speckle household what a rough week you have been having!
Insy - I have had days like those when everything goes wrong, hope you are having a better day today!

verybusyspider · 14/04/2010 19:24

nope not much better, its chicken pox and ds3 sick in car when I left house to get more calpol - my evening will now be spent tidying and cleaning, rubbish, missing adult company already! how long does it take for spots to dry out? Other 2 haven't had it so could be a long couple of weeks in quarentine. dh back on monday

beckle I shouldn't complain really compared to the past few weeks you've all been through this is an easy ride! hope you have a good run of it now, sounds like you all need a break.
Not sure what is happening with house at moment, dh was going to contact them, I'm kind of leaving it in his hands but know that there's not much he can probably do between meetings in a diff country... will wait and see.
I have an IUD without hormones, I didn't want to take hormones as I don't have periods and it never agreed with me, think it is my hormones though as I stopped breastfeeding 6 weeks ago and still leaking milk and having to wear breast pads.
Ooo could have bored you told you all about MRI's, dh has designed parts for them (to try and make them quieter) and told me all about them, luckerly for him we'e both engineers so I am actually interested

Caz10 · 14/04/2010 22:38

OMG beckle you deserve a medal!!

V tired so will post properly tomorrow but just wanted to say I really appreciate the kind words re having no.2 or not, thank you ladies.

becklespeckle · 15/04/2010 01:40

I hardly deserve a medal Caz, I forgot to say hi to you I can't really give any advice on No2 or not as I always wanted more than one DC. Saying that though, DH would like a 4th but I am enjoying so much having DD that I just don't want to share her with a baby!

Insy, complain away, it sounds like you had an awful evening yesterday Always harder when you are by yourself too. IIRC the spots should dry up within about 5 days, baths with bicarbonate of soda help if he gets unbearably itchy and try to keep him cool too. If the other 2 weren't exposed to the friend with chicken pox then they will be likely to come out with the spots in around a week (when DH will be home) I think stopping breastfeeding does affect your hormones an awful lot, did you stop feeding gradually or just stop? I would be interested to hear about the MRI machines, I don't really understand how they work! It was all very interesting, they are very noisy though but despite that I'm sure I fell asleep during my scan

FreakoidOrganisoid · 15/04/2010 09:31

Just getting this back on threads I'm on

Beckle sorry you have all been so ill.

Insy no idea about coil but I remember searching old threads when I was thinking of getting one and quite a few people mentioned bleeding, pain, mood swings, loss of sex drive etc-could be worth a look.

Caz glad you came back to us Sorry you are having issues with your dh, hopefully nothing serious. Like beckle I always wanted more than one so can't really advise on having another baby. Only thing I would say is that havinga second really exposed the cracks in my relationship with H and led to him showing his very nasty true colours more frequently (which thinking about it was actually a good thing or I might have wasted many more years on him!) But that probably isn't relevant to you at all anyway!

BT about the house.

Skid hope Milo is still getting better.

Have had a bit of window cleaner excitement lately, have met up with him twice now though not in a date way, just matey.

strandedatsea · 15/04/2010 16:18

Clairey - I couldn't let that last comment go without a big - so is he single??? Flirtatious???

Beckle, others dealing with illnesses

Everyone else

BouncingTurtle · 15/04/2010 17:30

Stranded - any more news about your friend? How is she doing?

Clairey - get you! It does sound very promising

strandedatsea · 15/04/2010 19:05

BT - thanks for asking about my friend. It's all so difficult and I there is nothing I can do about it. He is physically harming her three-year-old son (who is in dd1's class), she blogs about it (I will link the blog again in a moment) but she can't leave him at the moment because she would leave with nothing. No money, no job. And she used to have a really good, high flying job and brought lots of money into the relationship. But it isn't like the UK (she is American) where she could get support from social services and women's aid and all the rest, I don't think she would have access to anything but very very basic help. So she is biding her time and we have a plan which I am going to help her with to escape with enough money to be able to survive until she can sort herself out with work etc. Luckily they own a flat in Florida so she would at least have somewhere to live. I have forced her to set a date for her escape, if she makes some excuse to change the date I am going to have to come down heavily on her with the guilt. Not that she needs it. She feels bad enough as it is. Unfortunately I also can't talk to anyone in RL about this as no-one else here knows.... blog here

FreakoidOrganisoid · 15/04/2010 21:15

His availability is under question, I accidentally sent him a text about men that was meant for my cousin and the next day he sent me one saying that if he was single he would ask me out. Which I took to mean he was not single. Last week sat he brought his dc round to my house and we established that he is not with their mum but he didn't mention a gf and I didn't like to ask in front of the dc. Since then he has sent me a few texts, some flirty ones but not outrageously so and last night he came round and we chatted and drank beer until 12.30am but it was purely friendly so I didn't ask-we did discuss exes but he didn't mention a current. He text me twice last night after he left and again first thing this morning so the signals are kind of there but I'm still assuming he is seeing someone. Especially as he didn't make any moves on me, have never experienced that kind of gentlemanly behaviour

(feel like a 13 year old conducting relationship by text but I have no bloomin phone signal so any calls end in me going "what? what? Hello? Hellooooo?" and getting cut off.)

Anyway, am not really bothered either way tbh, he is attractive and v easy to talk to but I quite like being on my own at the moment. It was nice to have the company last night though! Just as long as I don't end up needing to find a new window cleaner

kelbel · 15/04/2010 21:33

(sneaks back in)...i really do intend to get up to speed i promise!ds2 will be 3 weeks on saturday - it's flown! that would've made me 37 weeks! it's my birthday tomorrow and i still can't believe we're home and settle with ds2, i still can't believe i'm not pregnant. he came home last tue and he was fully discharged today. he was 4lb12 born ad went down to 4lb5 being tube fed ebm, since we've been home and fully bf he's up to 4lb11, 6oz in a week which is apparently really good for a prem baby, feel so proud. his jaundice levels are high ut heading in the right direction, feel so so happy. also not to gloat but he really is one of those babies where people say all they do is eat and sleep...ike all the time! nothing like ds1 - but i think we needed and easy few weeks after trips to the hospital 5 times a day, i promise to catch up on all posts soon!x

strandedatsea · 15/04/2010 22:28

kelbel - congratulations, glad it's all going so well!

clairey - he is so into you!!! SO many texts, whether he is with someone or not he definitely likes you.

I would start looking for a new window cleaner if I were you. Scrap that, make him do them for free..

becklespeckle · 15/04/2010 22:37

Clara, I just read your friend's blog and it made me cry, I feel so for her and her little ones, she sounds a lovely lady too. I really hope she does get away very soon x

Clairey all sounds promising...

Kelbel, so glad little Zac is doing so well and Happy Birthday for tomorrow!

FreakoidOrganisoid · 16/04/2010 11:07

After 5 years or so of not even being able to talk to men without repercussions I am quite enjoying the flirting, it's good for the soul!

Kelbel sounds like Zac is doing really well

BouncingTurtle · 16/04/2010 11:54

Kelbel - been followng on Facebook, how wonderful to have Zac home and that he is doing so well, are you still tube feeding him or is he feeding from you now? You must have gold top milk

Freaky - perhaps he is in the process of getting divorced and wants all that done and dusted before going any further with everyone else? He could just be very cautious, may be a nasty break up that has left him gun shy!

verybusyspider · 16/04/2010 19:43

hi everyone, going for blatant hijack and vent, dh came home early last night before he had to go again this afternoon to help me with boys/so I could actually get out to do some food shopping - instead was sick about 9pm and took to bed so I had to do the whole night shift (which to be fair I had 5 hours unbroken sleep so not bad) on my own and get up with boys whilst he recovered, was fuming, not for any reason other than that wasn't want I'd planned - he did this when ds3 was in hospital at 4wks, I got home and he had atemperature and spend day in bed whilst I did non stop feeding and tried to look after boys. I know its not his fault and he was genuinely sick but its so irriating, I kind of wish he hadn't come home, having him dripping around is far worse than not being here at all

once I've got the boys to sleep, they are still monkeying around upstairs, I'll catch up with all your news

strandedatsea · 16/04/2010 20:15

Beckle - I know, it's awful isn't it? I find it hard to read as I know her little boy so well. She is a lovely person, really intelligent and interesting. Just goes to show that these things can happen to anyone.

Insy - how annoying! Was it genuine illness or "manflu"? My dh isn't too bad except when I get ill he always has to be iller! Also, I don't think men realise quite how ill a mother has to be to go to bed. The only time I have done it in 4.5 years (apart from the odd bout of mastitis) was when I had flu a couple of Christmases ago and basically slept on and off for two days. Otherwise we carry on regardless, because if we don't no-one else would....

....anyway I hope you're not feeling too exhausted. Once your dh is back properly and hopefully no longer ill, take as much time off as you can. I used to just go and sit in a cafe for an hour on my own with a newspaper between feeds - just that alone made me feel more human.

strandedatsea · 16/04/2010 20:16

Sorry I am posting far too much, can you tell how bored I am? Really need to get off this island!

Btw whatever happened to Spiralqueen?

Caz10 · 16/04/2010 21:34

strandedatsea that made me laugh, my DH suffers from competitive illness too- he is not often ill to be fair, but when he is, NO-ONE in the history of the universe has EVER been sicker...

Your friend's blog is so distressing, that poor girl. I hope her date for leaving is v v soon, and good for you for supporting her with it. Makes you wonder how many other people could be living like that and we might not even know

insy hope dh gets up and about and helping soon!!

kelbel I have totally missed you having another baby, congratulations!! He was premature I guess? Sounds like things are going well now, that's great, I will read back for the details!

beckle I will not remove your medal for not personally welcoming me! . How are all the ill people now?

BT any viewers? We've had a couple, but no-one seriously interested, it is fairly depressing. How are you getting on with BF your DS? DD is v cute now that she is old enough to chat about it a bit, and sometimes says thank you for her milk!

clairey - he is SO interested!!

verybusyspider · 16/04/2010 22:08

caz - dh left again this afternoon, I told him he either had to go away or spend night at his parents and be ill there, I only have enough energy for one sick child at a time.
stranded - to be fair he was actually sick - that probably saved him from me being less sympathetic than I was! he gets back on Sunday evening unless I call him before, at least he's in the UK now

Anyone's lo's had chicken pox? ds3 spots came out on Tues eve and he's steadly got more and more and worse, tonight he has a fever, I thought he'd be on the mend by now...

kelbel - congrats! been following your progress on FB, glad to here little Zac is doing so well x

becklespeckle · 17/04/2010 00:20

insy, I find that DHs are always ill/unavailable when you need them most. Mine has gone to work when I've been poorly and feverish leaving me with all the DCs (telling me to rest on the sofa and put the telly on for them ) and yet when he's ill its always so bad he takes to his bed... I think women just have a higher tolerance and pain threshold than men. WRT chicken pox, all mine have had it and as far as I can remember they did get new spots for 4-5 days and all had a fever of varying degrees with it. From my experience I would guess that he should start picking up Sunday but obviously if he gets too poorly and you are worried then speak to NHS direct or someone, poor little Bear, sounds like he has a nasty dose. Be prepared that they will all probably get it differently too - DS2 got it first here and had a smattering of big fat spots and a nasty fever, DS1 caught it from him and had loads and loads of smaller spots but less fever.

Clara, she sounds a lovely and intelligent person. Its great that she is so aware of what her H is doing too, she doesn't seem caught in the trap of thinking its her fault - that will give her strength, as will her babies and support from you x

Caz I did mean to say hi to you though, made a note of it and everything but then didn't read the notes I made Ill people are all better thanks (touch wood), only 2 more doses of ABs for DD too which is a relief as she hates the foul tasting stuff really doesn't like it and fights like mad its almost impossible to get it into her.

strandedatsea · 17/04/2010 00:29

beckle - dd2 on antibiotics all this week and we have to use "sprinkles" to get them into her. I used to laugh at that Mary Poppins song Just a Spoonful of Sugar Helps the Medicine Go Down...I laugh no more!

BouncingTurtle · 17/04/2010 10:02

Insy - what a pain, sometimes having a DP can be like having another child in the house!

Stranded - your friend is so lucky to have you being strong for her, I could just cry for her little boy though, what a truly awful her H is Is there no family she could go to then, I take it?

Caz - still no viewings! Bloody depressing but I am going to tart things up a bit, getting a painter & decorator in to do the downstairs, hall and stairs.
Bfing going okay - I got "mum yum" with him pointing at my boob and also "ball" again pointing at my boob! I am trying to stop him from pulling at my top when he wants milkies, he hates it when I say "not now"!

verybusyspider · 17/04/2010 15:10

beckle - yes Bear has got it bad, spoken to out of hours doc in early hours of this am and they told me not to bring him to surgery unless he was floppy and unresponsive as they don't want him to infect anyone, he said Bear sounded ok and he managed to drink some water this am without being sick so hoping he's on the mend, he still has a fever.
I called dh home this am as I literally had 1 hr sleep and a screaming baby all night, never known anything like it, not even when boys were small did I actually get no sleep.

Clairey - I don't know how you managed the other week when ds was ill, its exhausting and very frightening.

anyway since dh came back he has been a star, obviously disappointed to miss out on racing but not ill (!) and packed older 2 off to my mum and dads and held Bear whilst I slept even bringing me lunch in bed I really hope other 2 don't get it so bad, it really is so worrying when they are ill...