April 2009 - Chapter 8 - "Come to mine, I've got stacks of tampons..."

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12 Feb: Skiingone: MARIANNA 4lb 4oz
20 Feb: Glaskham: RUBY MARIE 4lb 3oz
04 Mar: Barbarella: ESTELLA, ROSANNA, OTIS
05 Mar: Kazkiss: ISABELLE FLORENCE 4lb 6oz & OLIVER THOMAS 3lb 7oz
15 Mar: Babypringle: OSCAR WILLIAM 7lb 2oz
28 Mar: Claireykitten: VIOLET ROSE 7lb 9oz
29 Mar: WhatFreshHell: FELIX DEVLIN ALEXANDER 10lb 5.5oz
31 Mar: Mumblemum: ORSON XERXES
02 Apr: Oddeyes: ELEANOR 9lb 8oz
03 Apr: Bleuravin: MEGAN LILLIAN CONSTANCE
03 Apr: Bumpalump: JACOB 8lb
04 Apr: BabyBolat: KARAHAN 6lb 5oz
05 Apr: Mrsfossil: ISLA LILIAN 7lb 10oz
05 Apr: JumeirahJane: MILLICENT ROSE 5lb 15oz
06 Apr: BoffinMum: FELIX DAVID GORDON 7lb 9oz
08 Apr: girlylala0807 JAMES EUAN
11 Apr: SpringySunshine: GEORGE NATHAN 8lb 15oz
11 Apr: RachelinScotland: CLEMENT JAMES 8lb 14oz
11 Apr: Lou031205: ISLA SOPHIA 7lb 9oz
11 Apr: Electra: ISABELLA CAROLINE 6lb 3oz
11 Apr: AuldAlliance: ALEXANDRE 7lb 6oz
12 Apr: Phdlife: Name TBA GIRL 9lb 3oz
12 Apr: BethDivine: Name TBA GIRL 9lb 9oz
13 Apr: MathsMummy27: AMELIA CHARLOTTE
14 Apr: Purlease: ADAM 9lb 2oz
15 Apr: Juwesm: HUGO GEORGE 9lb 2oz
15 Apr: Bronze: ISAAC JOHN 7lb 14oz
15 Apr: HeidiT: HEIDI
15 Apr: Kalikaroo: Name TBA BOY 8lb
15 Apr: Minush: ZAFIRAH ROSA 7lb 12oz
15 Apr: FatandFedup: EMILIA ROSE 7lb 6oz
16 Apr: PuzzleRocks: HOLLY ELIZABETH 8lb
16 Apr: Brettgirl: HANNAH GRACE 6lb 15oz
16 Apr: ReallyTired: Name TBA GIRL
17 Apr: DungunGirl: ADEN LEE 9lb 4oz
18 Apr: Staryeyed: Name TBA BOY 7lb 11oz
18 Apr: Dawntigga: SAMUAL 5lb 11oz
20 Apr: LuLuBai: SEBASTIAN 9lb
20 Apr: Swaliswan: BETH 7lb 9oz
21 Apr: Kittycatisgettingfat: GABRIELLA AUDREY BIANCA
21 Apr: B52s: SAM MARTIN 7lb 9oz
21 Apr: Schulte: HAZEL LOIS 7lb 9 oz
21 Apr: Mrsgboring: EDMUND 8lb 12oz
23 Apr: Tristaleejac: LEWIN 8lb 4oz
23 Apr: NuttyTaff: TIAHNA SKYE 8lb 8oz
23 Apr: Purplemonkeydishwasher: ISLA ELIZABETH 8lb 14oz
24 Apr: Soon2befamilyof4: TALIA 7lb 6oz
26 Apr: Carameli: THEO LAURENCE 7lb 6oz
26 Apr: Surprisenumber3: EVIE ANNE 8lb 2oz
26 Apr: Bicnod: OSCAR MATTHEW 8lb 1oz
27 Apr: Lauren61: OLIVER STEPHEN 7lb 7oz
27 Apr: Gingersarah: VERONICA ROISIN 9lb 1oz
30 Apr: MegBusset: ARCHIE 8lb 15oz
30 Apr: Elpis: ISLA JESSICA 8lb 11oz
01 May: Satheresitting: Name TBA BOY
03 May: Conkertree: Name ANGUS ANDREW 8lbs 8oz
06 May: Frekkles: HARRIS MERLIN 8lb 5.5oz
07 May: TarteTatin: ALBERT JOHN
10 May: Ilovesummer: Name TBA BOY

Please, everybody must go to the visiting your parents thread and read ShowOfHands post of Fri 23-Oct-09 10:54:15, page 6. Once again, my A is on the F having LIO!

Have put the laundry in Boo's room to dry and have closed the door... perhaps that will help moisten the room too and make her little nose less likely to bleed

Zombie - that does make sense. Not sure my brain was engaged. I always thought you weren't supposed to block the nostrils though. But imagine it's different advice for infants.

When we visit the States, I do enjoy the lovely temperature control of proper air conditioning, but the dryness is unbearable. And it is very difficult to keep a glass of water by your bed at my friend's house, as a cat will come along at some point in the night, carefully dip it's paw into the water, and then tip the glass over onto the floor! Said cats are usually fully charged with static electricity too, which also appears to be a side-effect of the dryness!

lol Gui abt the cats reminds me abt my cat growing up... couple times the doofus even stuck her head in the glass and got it stuck...

Don't talk to me about cats. Mine has just done his 3rd vomit of the day on the floor. Add that to the ginormous crap inside the door to greet me when I got home earlier....

As if my children didn't generate enough bodily fluids for me to clean up.

Grrr.

Doctor just rung. BFN. Told me stop BFing and give B formula if I wanted to conceive

Oh Swali. How do you feel? Is it too personal to ask which way you wanted it to go?

I'm a bit disappointed and a bit relieved. more upset by DH's reaction of a smug look, clear relief and a comment about how he didn't think that I was pg. It is not the time for us to be having another baby. BFing during pg is no joke and I don't have to worry about that now. I'm also enjoying B too much to want to deal with being pg right now. Plus, yet again the other evening I walked in on DH looking at porn after I'd gone to bed. He looked very sheepish and came to bed straight away when I told him to. He hasn't said anything about it since and neither have I. I want to tell him how much it hurts and how it damages my confidence and libido but I know that he will accuse me of just attacking him and will get all defensive. I could be a bit more understanding if he was still sex deprived but that area of our relationship had been improving and we'd only had sex that morning FFS. I don't know. Maybe I should just accept that he is a man and no matter how much sex we have, he will still want to watch teen lesbians

Just marking the thread.
Too much work, shouldn't even be here.
Naughty.

Sex in the morning. I'm v. - that hasn't happened Chez Wriggly since we had children.

Very tricky. I think the majority of men have an interest in porn. I would prefer to know about it than for it to be kept secret. But at a time when confidence is low, like after a baby I can see how demoralising it is finding him looking at it after you've fone to bed. How about getting him some different sort of porn that would be less difficult to deal with (e.g. erotic literature or those japanese erotic cartoons so that you don't feel you are competing with 'real' women).

As for pregnancy - I can relate to mixed feelings. I thought I was pg when DD was 5 months old and in retrospect am glad I wasn't but at the time still felt a bit upset that I wasn't.

Oh Swali. So many complicated issues for you to deal with!
Just remember that porn isn't abt love or loving and being turned on by your partner, I think with guys it's more about erotica and abstract turn ons...maybe he was getting prepared for an evening with you. Tho I so know what you mean and how such things can make me feel especially when I'm in a delicate spot.
And when libido is low it's a bit of a turn off to say the least. It's insensitive of him to look when you're (both) struggling with issues.
It such a primal worry isn't it? catching a partner secretly looking. It triggers a fear and worry which is hard to explain.

Boo is screeching like a wicked witch- (

DH is a knob and clearly thinks with his.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh, that's better

Now, where on earth do I begin to explain things to him? It makes me very sad that he clearly doesn't think of me how he used to. If there are two ways to interpret a situation he always thinks the worst of me. He acts more like I'm an inconvenience than an amazing wife. It feels more like a battlefield than a loving marriage.

oh Swali! (hugs) I don't know, but I'd say one issue at a time. And the inconvenience seems to me to be the place I personally would begin. (hugs)

Gave Boo half a banana in this strange mesh bag pacifier looking thing which is to ensure no choking (dunno what they're called) -gave it to her like that so I could concentrate more on cleaning than watching her eat. She ate the whole thing! amazing! Hopefully I can get dh to use them with her until he feels ok about her not choking

marking spot

XXX

Ach, porn. Men in the main are very visually driven to sow their seed hither and thither, and really like looking at a great variety of girls and their bits. It's probably the inner caveman or something. But if one of those bizarre overplucked specimens walked into the bedroom, they'd turn to their wifey for comfort any day, probably half scared to death. It's about fantasy, not reality. Personally I do not feel threatened by porn like that.

I watched a hard core (actually somewhat tamer than I thought hard core would be after all the fuss and UK censorship) porn film in a German hotel room once when I found out it came free with the sci fi film we wanted to see. Apparently I spoiled it for DH by asking what was happening the whole time and commenting on the actresses' razor rashes and ingrown pubic hairs. Really, it wasn't that pretty a sight, and I still have painful flashbacks due to the low production standards and seeing things only a midwife should see. But if other people want to watch it, that's their business. I probably draw the line at snuff movies and kiddie stuff and so on though.

Swali, I'd agree with Zombie (a phrase I never thought I'd type...).

The porn thing is maybe not the key issue to be solved, but a by-product of the other problems. His whole attitude is sapping your self-confidence, and that needs addressing pronto. How to do is a horrendous minefield, though, I admit.

Good luck. Feel free to rant and vent here, it does a power of good IME.

Quick question - now that we are in the early stages of weaning, and there is a reasonable amount of porridge, fruit etc going in with the bm, when should I be worried about not pooing. Other than a teeny tiny nugget this morning, H has not had a poo since Monday (I think, possibly Tues ). Is this a worry?

I have painted my husband green and sent him to play poker.

Insert '?' up there ^ somewhere

No idea, Gui, sorry. That sounds like quite a long time, but things do necessarily slow down when they start eating solids.
With A being at the CM's, I have no idea when/how often he poos.

A very sound response from Boff. Men are v. visually driven. They really can't help myself. Have you seen this pic of two of the world's most powerful men unable to resist a gawp.

Gui - is H still larrgely on bm. They don't tend to get constipated on bm

Aye, still mostly bm. But the foody poos he has done have had a fair amount of substance to them. I'll load him up with pears and plums over the weekend!