june09 Weaning the babies and shifting the Mummy Tummy!!!

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Here it is, Juners! New thread!!

hello ladies Very short of time at the moment, if someone could invent a machine to put another couple of hours in the day (preferably for sleeping), that would be great Daisy, you are sharing what works for you, nowt wrong with that! Hope you all have a lovely weekend

Hi all!

Daisy, please there is nothing wrong with sharing what works for us Please please don't feel uncomfortable about that! It's great to have this space to come and ask for advice and see what works and what doesn't work for each of us The routine I started with M is working very well, although only during the day and whether that was borrowed from your experience or a cousin of mine's makes no difference at all Hope you have a relaxing weekend and that the LOs feel better soon

Bigcar, I'll work on that, promise

June, hope C's sleep is a bit better

HI to all Juners!

After her first long nap after lunch M was really sleepy at about 5pm so I let her take a 10 min nap (her eyes were literally closing no matter what ) and she went to bed without much fuss at 8. I'm so sorry I ranted so much in the last few days, I just felt lost. Not that I see things clearly now all of a sudden but sorry about that.

Hope you have a lovely weekend, Juners!

Waves!!!

Reading back my post it might sound like she slept "through" without much fuss, and no, she didn't She woke up twice but went back to sleep quite easily

Hi All.

Why are boys soooooo foul!! Yuk- DS1 did a poo and flushed without telling me and asking to clean him up-- Just spent 30mins scrubbing stair carpet and Imogens bedroom carpet- as he'd snail trailed poo everywhere!! Then points and his dinkle and says "mummy its too big" ( he'd got a stiffy Oh the joys!!!

Anyway feeling rough today with cold- another incentive to stop BF- I can take cold and flu rememdies x Flynn was off again with a temperature ( hes been ill since before xmas on and off with temps and D+V ) but on the brightside--Imi went to her polish friends house and her Mum ( between the girls we translated what was happening- dad has good english- mumhas very little- but lovely lovely ppl) picked her up from school- so I'm in my comfys and chilling!!

As for online advice- we all join sites like these for advice and friendship- just a snippet of someone elses experience make a huge difference to someone who needs it! I don't think I'd have coped sometimes without your advice and daisy you have a wealth of knowlegde that is priceless so keep doing it please!! If its not relevant to someone- it will be to someone else who didn't want to ask a similar question- iykwim xxxx I hope that makes sense!!!

daisy hope your kids get better soon xxxxxxx

gauchita Hope you have a restful weekend xxxx

High to everyone else xxxxxxx Have a good weekend!!

Hey ladies sorry for my last angry post the birthday party is on Sunday and I am still working out how I?ll make things look ok with 2 place settings too few the blowing bubbles also leaked on the plane so had to chuck out some of the precious British sweets too anyway enough of that. The boys had a good time in Scotland ? it was lovely to have them both home but in particular DS, he seemed so much more grown up!

Aaliyah is cutting 2 more teeth (7th & 8th) bless her, sleep is very disturbed and she will only eat fromage frais or cold apple or fruit purees and lots of milk. Her first Bolognaise went untouched tonight ?she can move at such a speed now commando crawling style, it?s so funny to watch

Gauchita ? hope Mila?s waking less now than earlier in the week, it?s horrendous having sleep that broken.

Daisy ? LOL that is a great description of how Aaliyah moves too you are a very wise woman I need to start doing some of the things on your list to make myself feel less of a hamster in a wheel!

Hello The ArcaneMummy my DC?s are exactly the same ages as yours, my DD was 10/06/09 and DS will be 2 on Sunday (24/1). I only stopped BFing DS 2 weeks before I must have got pregnant and I hadn?t had a period either. I know what you mean about the older one waking the younger one up all the time, Aaliyah?s naps were easier to come by and longer when DS was away with his Daddy in Scotland for a few days.

Effie ? LOL at being IDd

Strawberrysam ? you have to think of yourself first with regard to retuning to work hon. I know what you mean about spending all that time on building a career only to discover that you?d prefer to be a SAHM. I have to admit though that I?ve had a few days recently when I wish I was at work some of the time as 2 under 2 is very tiring (especially DS at the mo who pushes me to my limits on patience every day!)

Bigcar ? sadly the supermarkets don?t sell things like that here LOL about the school dinners! Glad to hear Dd1?s interviews are going well

That?s it for now, out of time, more very soon, take care all x

Heya!

Daisy feel free to share, our experiences are really helpful to eachother.
I hope you get some rest and the dc get better soon!
gauchita I started a thread about routines here. The general consensus was that a routine is the way to go and that it was hard to have aroutine if the baby was not up by 7am. Which doesn't work very well for me at the moment since I work before C wakes up and if she was up I do not know when I would do the work as I am so knackered in the evenings.
C's not been too bad with her sleeping since my last post. Ive just accepted that she does not nap between 11:30am and 5pm.
She has had a cold since yesterday but still went down for her morning nap ok.
Is your dh helping a bit more btw? Mine has tried twice and failed miserably to do a saturday morning feed/looking after the baby so I get a lie-in (which annoys me, I've not washed my hair in more than a week YUK). he's jsut given up and handed the baby over to me saying he didn't feel well etc but he does feed C her solids at 6 most days and plays with her between 8 and 9pm.
He'd better get up tomorrow to take her to church with me, I must admit I felt let down last week when I had to do it on my own (for the first three weeks you take the baby's candle and lit it at the top of the aisle and have it lit all the way down to communion at the end of the serivce) hardwork...flame in one hand, baby in the other hand together with dummy/bottle/keys and whatnot. The godparents are supposed to come too but they have had excuses every sunday so far.
Ironic that it is down to me really when I'm the least vocal about my religious beliefs out of them all .

I'm v. tired at the moment (hence the ranting, sorry!), lots of work and not much help from dh who also has lots of work on and been working until early hours of the morning.
We've not had many visitors thankfully as sil has a bug atm and since xmas we've not seen mil (paranoia is back and she's no longer talking to us - again!) or fil (clearly too busy with his young gf).
Also had a bit of an awkward moment with one of my best friends (too long to explain in details but she repeated something we said to her in confidence) which leaves me wondering whether she was genuinely trying to help or shitstirring, keeping my distances for now.
I've not really had time to think about all these people though as there is much work to do and I still want to make it to the baby groups which keep me sane and make the baby so happy She gets so excited at "rhyme time".

skies how's this party going?
mrsmc good to hear from you! have you got family/friends in the uk who would send you biscuits etc by post? I have lots of family and friends in France but none would actually do this, I don't know what it is about going to the post office and posting abroad, too much effort somehow (they are all lovely people and would do out of their way when we are out there as well, so I don't get it?!).

Effie lol @ your post.
hey bigcar, i'm with you, need more hours in the day. did I miss something, what are the moulds for?

sam, yup going back to work and how it's all going to work out is all we talk about in the RL baby groups at the moment. No one really knows what they are going to do with childcare (unless they have relatives who can do it for them) and everybody is worried about going back to work. I hope you are feeling ok today. It's nice to could go to your bf group, are there any other groups you can go to? It really helps me meeting other mums.

snow and @ neighbours complaining, what are you meant to do exactly?? do they never make noise?
get them some earplugs ;)

better go and make some tea before baby wakes up, it won't be long I'm really pushing it today! :D
Have a lovely weekend juners!

Morning all!

Mrsmc, hope you get everything for tomorrow, don't worry about the angry post, we've all had one or two of those lately Well done A on the teeth front! Over here cold things are a hit as well, I guess it helps with all the teething symptoms

June, I'm glad to hear you've had a quiet week re. visitors but sorry to hear it's been so busy for you. I'll have a look at the thread DH helps and a lot (that specific night he was at a friend's house watching a football match) but unfortunately at night - and I don't know if I've already mentioned this and I'm repeating myself - M only wants me, she doesn't settle with DH. He helps with everything else, bless him, so I can't complain. He's getting better also wrt understanding her and what she needs so I guess it was only a matter of time (and patience ) I'm sure your DH will be the same So glad you're enjoying your baby groups, I haven't been to any since moving, then Christmas came and all the snow, it seems so long since I last went to one. The day also flies by, I don't know why! Bigcar, I haven't forgotten, more hours, more hours Hope you get to rest a bit this weekend, June

Hope you have a lovely Saturday, Juners. We have a nice blue sky here Lunch for M now, then grocery shopping and then a walk for us all

Waves!!!

Hi all!

June, I just had a look at the thread, thanks for that You're right, the consensus seems to be up at 7

Bigcar, I forgot the other day but you made me giggle with the wd40! I can picture the odd looks outside the school when you were doing it But glad it's now working fab

Mrsmc, happy birthday to DS!

Hope you're having a lovely Sunday, Juners!

Hey ladies my DS turned 2 today, can hardly believe it! He had a fun day I think and loved his party the sun shone and all the kiddies danced and played nicely together and no one noticed I was a few Iggle Piggle plates down ? phew!

June ? we have a routine but we don?t start at 7am ? we start about 9am I know that the idea behind the 7am start is that you won?t get enough food into them to sleep 7-7 if you don?t get them up at 7 but I?m looking for 8/8.30-9 I guess. That said, if Aaliyah slept at night I wouldn?t mind getting up earlier but the best time to get any sleep with her is after 5am I?m lucky, DH doesn?t start work until 10am and it only takes him 10 mins to get there. Hope you get some relaxation time soon

Gauchita ? Aaliyah won?t go to DH at night either and she?ll always prefer me at all other times too ? she kept crying today at the party if she heard my voice and wasn?t with me a real mummy?s girl. DS prefers DH to me at the moment though, he wants to be with him all the time, they have a really special bond which is ironic as DH complained for months that he didn?t feel as bonded to DS as I was and now I feel it?s the other way round ? that said, my DS loves to have cuddles with me too

Effie ? hope you manage to get lots of things done this week when my DH and DS were away I only got a few things ticked off my list but then again, I did get sick..

Daisy ? hope the DCs are feeling better and you are getting some rest.

No signs at all of a period here I am still BFing at least 4 times during the day and at least once at night so I guess I am not that surprised ? anyone else still waiting?

gauchita - will come on later but just quickly, I can't figure out how to change my name. Can you tell me?

daisy hi there Go to your profile (at the bottom of the page on the far right), they ask you to enter your email address and password, then on the top click on your details and there they let you change your nickname. Save the changes and voila

Back later, lunch is calling! xxx

Hi All

Hope you had a busy and fun weekend!

My DH is away now for a week- so can post as much as I like without being moaned at for being on the lappy too much!!lol

*MrsMC8 Happy 2nd b'day to DS- glad the party went well.

gauchita Hope M is sleeping better x

Teeth-- R has none dd didn't get her 1st til she was 11mths- so not too worried!!

Periods- still haven't had one- but due to stop BF soon so expect I'll get one soon x

For all you who have emigrated- what made you choose your destination? what literature/ websites did you use??? We are seriously considering it-- to NZ, OZ or canada- we've been thinking on and off for a few years!! Would be really interested to hear what you did- you can inbox me on FB if you'd rather x

Had a chat with Mum about the snail story ( big big issue- where it seemed she pinched my DDs idea and told everyone it was hers etc) The deal now is Imi will be Author, Mum Illustrator- and looks like a publisher is interested!!! cool xx

Any catch up later- off to teapots and tots!! for the most dreadful cup of coffee ever-- have now resorted to asking for sugar to make it taste better!! lol

Oh poobags!!! if any of you do have wisdom about emigrating please don't mention ANYTHING in the main FB bit- ie wall- family are not aware yet especially my mother- lol

Hi everyone

Just a quick pop in to say hi, and I will prob pop back in tomorrow! Had a very eventful last few days!! Well it was DP's son's surprise 18th on Saturday and it seemed to go well!! It was a lot of planning though, and he got that drunk that he was dropping pints on the floor at half 9, and was tucked up in bed at 11pm! The room was hired until 1am, and the DJ until half 12, so we had to cut it a bit short, never mind!

Had a real disaster with the car in the day though... I was putting Caelan in the car, so strapped his car seat into the passenger side, threw my car keys over the the driver seat, shut the door, and went to open the boot to put his pram in... Car had locked. Oh my God, I panicked so bad. Caelan was locked inside the car and I don't have a spare, so I was really panicking and crying because Caelan was locked in the car. After calling locksmiths and RAC, there was no luck, and I rang the Fire Station, who told me to smash the window, because that is all they will do. But my car is a C2, so its only a 3 door, and the back windows are reinforced. DP tried to smash one of the back windows but there was no chance. It was horrible, and so loud, and Caelan was crying, which was breaking my heart DP had to smash the driver's window in the end, and I had to hide down the garden, because I was petrified glass was going to hit Caelan. Luckily it never, and DP managed to smash the window, which just shattered. Autoglass are coming out to fix it today luckily, as it is covered in my insurance, and Caelan doesn't seem to be affected by it, but I feel so awful, I will not ever let go of my keys when I am putting him in the car again. I know I shouldn't have down it anyway, but we were rushing to get the food down to the party before DP's son got back in from being out with his friends.

Its all pretty busy busy, and we have a surveryor coming out to look at the house tomorrow, so hopefully that will be okay, and the sale can go through [desperate emoticon]. What do these surveyors do?? Am I going to have to make the house spotless? Because tbh, and really can't be bothered!! Not after the weekend!!

Hope you are all well, and I will be able to pop on here for a proper catch up tomorrow after the surveyor has been!!

afternoon all

MrsMcJnr, happy birthday to your ds, glad to hear the party went well. E is starting to get a little clingy, he's always been passed round very happily but is a lot less keen now. No periods here yet but E has cut down on his milk the last week or so, I'm thinking probably won't be long.

june, the moulds were for dd3s hearing aids, you can choose what colour you want them and of course dh managed to get it wrong and I was worried she'd end up looking a little odd but thankfully it's not too noticeable. Hope your dh got up for church to give you a hand and that Cs feeling a little better.

gauchita, you had sun? We've had overcast and grey mixed with overcast, grey and rain, how lovely, shouldn't moan at least it's not snowing

effie, glad you sorted that with your mum, get your dd, author already, wow, that's fantastic Dh would like to emigrate to NZ, he watches that programme that's on BBC1 in the mornings sometimes but I can't see him being that far away from his family, however much he moans about them!

E has just woken up and is giving me the biggest smiles and waves, gotta go give him a huge cuddle waves to all

Hi - I've changed my name from d5. It seemed to be time for a change.

I'm from NZ if you have any questions. It's not perfect, and I um and ah whether I will go back/we will move out there. We are going out to spend time with Mum and Dad in March and April. The summer weather has been pretty bad the past 3 years, so hope it's not the sunshine you are chasing. What profession/jobs are you in and what kind of lifestyle do you like?

hey venetianred I read that post and thuoght it was someone who posted here by mistake looking for friends ;) read a bit further down the thread and got it!

I think snow is either from Oz and recently moved here or was living there for a while and back here now.

no time to catch up, doing work but quickly dh did get up for church and c is better, I think I have a cold or the flu or something. nose is blocked, headachy and waking up feeling nauseous. no time to stop though :S

I'll hopefully get some time to catch this week,

I too want to change my name, as soon as I find another name to use!

I always thought you had the most desirable name June. I wanted to use my favourite deep red colours but they were taken so ended up with this one.

Sorry to hear about nose and blocked up feelings. Begone cold, begone...

Hi all!

June, glad to hear DH got up and went with you on Sunday and that C is feeling better. Hope you feel better soon

Venitianred, cool name I spent a whole afternoon trying to think of one I'm rubbish at these things Hope the LOs feel better and that you got some deserved rest as well

Bigcar, well, the sun was gone soon after that and clouds came to stay

Skies, oh my! Poor poor you Glad to hear DP managed to open the car soon after that. My brain is still very mushy, every time I go out I have to pay specific attention to the moment I'm closing the door, otherwise I get downstairs and start wondering whether I closed it or not Glad to hear the party was lovely, albeit short

Effie, you made me giggle the other day with your post about DS doing mischief with his poo I bet you didn't laugh though Glad to hear the book issue has been resolved and yay for DD!!

Hi to all Juners!

This has taken me long to post

Do you mind me asking what the new smilies mean? Sorry for my ignorance

Ugh, got to run again! Will try and come back

Waves!

Burns night tonight - today is the birthday of Robbie Burns, the famous Scottish poet and patriot.

Venetianred, thanks That's more embarrassing, though, as I knew about him and never made the connection

vene I actually picked the name before I even knew about the "juners" thread, just didn't know what to pick and chose something that was important to me :D

C. is over her cold, I, on the other hand, am getting slightly worse. Tons of work on which doesn't help. Dh was in charge with baby this pm and she missed her nap, just would not sleep until 7pm but wok eup again an hour late :S She fell asleep at 11pm tonight.
So much for my grand routine plans ;)

Despite the sleep problems, C. is generally a happy baby at the moment, keeps smiling and laughing, it's really lovely.

Re immigration: I think the hardest thing now is being away from your family and friends.
But first you have to get used to new ways, different manners, new humour etc
New way of life too and the laws, the taxes, how to buy a house, the red tape, how to get a job, your rights etc etc.

I moved to the UK when I was 19yo and it was probably the best thing I did.
A friend of mine has recently moved to the states with her boyfriend, their job took them there basically so all their visas are sorted, they bought a huge house there, the pay package offered was much better than here. They were having a shit time here, (probably were going to split up) and they have been there for a year and I know why but I can't understand why they left. it's been really stressfull for them up til now. buying a house, getting builder in a foregin country, getting credit, credit cards, even just phones was hardwork, they don't know anyone as they haven't had time to socialise much because of all the logistics of settling in. I hope for them that it gets better from now on.

better get to sleep...

Yes, enormous stress involved. You really have to be quite realistic about how tough it can be. june is so right about different manners and sense of humour. NZ television is quite grim and NZ'ers more straightforward in their humour, not the delightful subtlety of the Brits. They are very friendly on the whole and embrace life (positives), but it's hard arriving in a place where you feel you don't 'belong' because people just don't 'get' your jokes or your little stories, where you go to barbeques and the blokes hang out together with their stubbies around the fire and the women all chat in the kitchen - and at the table too often - the women together and the men together. I love at dinner parties here how you alternate man/woman/man/woman - so much more fun socialising that way.

It's the little things that make it hard at first, which is why you would probably end up becoming close friends with some fellow Brits for the first few years, to soften the blow, until it all starts to feel a bit more comfortable.

Hi ALL

Thanks for the insite of immigration- its nice to know the difficulties too- as most of the time- you only here the good side!! I have a great NZ friend, who I used to work with- agree about the sense of humour- she married a brit- so it got easier!! I have FB her about our plans- but she never returns the e-mail- I think shes not keen on us going- but NZ is a big place!! I was reading about the snakes and spiders in OZ- those huntsmen things would scare the hell out me!! lol- so need to think about that one!

Went to see my mental health nurse and she didn't increase my anti-depressant dose so I can keep BF for longer--

I have a grumpy baby- so I will catch up more later xxxxx

Thanks for all the happy birthday wishes for my DS he really had a ball, very funny!

I?ve started a post on ?sleep? about Aaliyah just to see if anyone else has a magic tip ? I?m getting so sick now of always being tired and not getting more than an hour of sleep at a time. It?s really ridiculous ? she?s nearly 8 months now Most days I can be philosophical about it but I have tried every trick I can lay my hands on so far and nothing makes a difference

Effie ? Great news on the BFing front its fine if you wanted to give up but when being told you have to its another story. One of my friends had to stop so she could go through IVF again for a second baby and she felt so awful about it. We moved to Spain in May 2008 when DS was 3 months old. It wasn?t a leap of faith for us really though as I grew up here from 10 years old and my folks have been here for 25 years. DH works for my parents; he is being trained by them. I am not currently working but do have some leads to follow for when the time is right for us. I also speak pretty good Spanish. It was easier for me than for DH who had never lived outside of Scotland before. There are things we really miss but we have a great life here. We are the lucky ones to have a regular if low income, its very hard for a lot of people to get by here professionals and otherwise. The weather is the most enticing aspect, the kids can be outside most days and that really appealed to me. We talked to each other for a long time (years) before we came about coming out and spoke to a lot of people who were already here. We felt that if you want to do it it was best to go for it rather than regret never trying it. Cautionary tale though ? I know 2 separate families who have moved to NZ only to come back because they felt so far away from Europe and their families. I think knowing that we can get back in a couple of hours if need be is a comfort to DH. Wonderful about the book for DD

Whenskiesaregrey ? that describes our day today ? rain threatening all the time! Glad your DP?s son?s party went well how awful about the car, what a nightmare my Mum is always worried about this and keeps her car keys in her pocket when we are getting the kids in. I wouldn?t bother cleaning the house for the surveyor; they are just looking at structural things ? best of luck for a good valuation.

Bigcar ? lovely that E wakes up with a smile, both mine tend to wake up crying and they won?t wait either ? eyes open, wahhhh, come and get me NOW!

Venetianred ? interesting name change how are things with you? DP embracing being a father of two well? what kind of hobbies do you have? Just interested I?ve told DH that I am having 2 hours off on Saturday. I am going out with my book and he?ll need to look after the kids ? can?t wait, it will be the first time I?ve had some time for me since Aaliyah was born.

June ? hope you feel much better soon. It seems I had the Winter Vomiting Bug rather than food poisoning last weekend, explains why I still don?t feel 100%!

Gauchita ? I love the Burns? icons with the tam o?shanters they are for us Scottish folk as 25/1 was Burns? birthday and we celebrate our most famous Baird by recounting his poetry and eating haggis, neeps (turnips) and tatties (potatoes) and drinking whisky I was due on 15/1 with DS and when we got to 23/1 I got all excited thinking if he was born on 25/1 that would be a noble date for a Scot living abroad but he couldn?t wait and was born on 24/1

Right ? off to do some cooking