October 08 - The Birthday Thread

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10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz
3rd Oct (Due 26th Sept) - purpleflower - Girl - Rebecca Jill Erzsebet - 8lbs 10.5oz
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz
9th Oct (Due 17th) - Marthasmama/50ftQueenie - Girl - Martha - 7lbs 10oz - Elective c-sec
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz
16th Oct (Due 11th Oct) - heather1980 - Boy - Alexander James - 9lbs 5oz
17th Oct (Due 10th Oct) - pepperrabbit - Girl - Jessica Rose - 7lbs 15.5oz
24th Oct (Due 29th Oct) - Ekka - Boy - Matthew - 7lbs 15oz - Home water birth with gas and air.
26th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - jenwa - Girl - Phoebe Jasmine - 9lbs 2.5oz
28th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - RachieW - Boy - Jack - 7lbs 4oz
31st Oct (Due 20th Oct) - KnickersOnMaHead - Boy - Samuel Paul - 9lbs 11oz
5th Nov (Due 29th Oct) - Honeymoonmummy - Girl - Poppy Grace - 6lbs 15oz
5th Nov (Due 30th Oct) - MamaG - Boy - Harry James - 10lbs 9oz

I'd only planned to feed her for 6 months pistachio! Then at 11 months I cut her back from 9 feeds a day (no, that isn't a typo!) to just 2, and figured that I could carry on like that happily enough for a while. Then gradually the feeds crept up with teething. But she has always been strong willed when it comes to bf, and stopping her at any point would have been close to impossible. I too wanted her to stop close to 2 years, and never would have believed anyone who told me that I'd still be feeding her at 4, which I now think I will. But it's only once a day now so it's not really a hardship.
I'd feel mean stopping ds when I've let dd carry on, so will prob wait for him to self-wean too, though I don't think that he'll go on for as long as dd.
I also don't want to stop before he outgrows his allergy (assuming he does).

Sorry that you are both feeling rough today pistachio and star. Do expect to get a bit worse over the next few days too star, as your hormones will need to adjust to not bf anymore, which can be very emotional for some people.

Oh and star - I don't suppose I need to say this, but don't keep valuable items in your car in future.

Well, as of about 4am tomorrow morning I am on my own for 3 whole days. Expect me to be a gibbering wreck by the end of it! Am hoping that I manage to get a good night in first tonight, as I only had 4 hrs sleep last night .

Star- Sorry to hear that you are having such a bad day and about the car. It sounds really tough with your friend. Maybe she knows deep down that her boyf isn't all that great so avoids talking about it as she's afraid you'll tell her what she doesn't want to admit? I hope you start to feel better soon. Can you put an alarm on your mobile to remind you to take your ADs?

Pistachio- Am really glad to hear that DD is settling at Nursery. We have quite a few that still shed a tear but like your DD's Nursery teachers have said once the parents are gone and they are involved in an activity they are fine.

CSWS- Good luck for the next 3 days, you are a braver woman than I though of course you have little choice. Hopefully we can keep you sane and maybe a medicinal small glass of wine?

Well very urgh day at work as we couldn't get outside due to the rain which makes all the chn very stir crazy. Had a late meeting too so didn't get to pick up Jack until gone 5. Felt like an awful mummy as I'd dropped him off at 7.45am. I know it would be a longer day if I had a 9-5 office job but I felt so guilty for abandoning him for so long. He had a good day though, it was just me that had a little cry about it. Think it's going to take a lot of getting used too this working mum life. Aside from that nothing else to report here.

Hi,
just popping in to say goodnight really. J's been up with a horrid cold for about 3 days now so we're all dead on our feet.
star & pistachio sorry you're both a bit down at the mo, can't help on the BF front except to say a very dear friend of mine has been BF for 8 years now, as she could never quite bring herself to stop the older one each time and then she had another.
the only time she got tough was when her 3rd arrived and she felt it was time for her eldest to stop after he rummaged around in her top when she collected him from school!
She can, quite literally, BF anywhere and while doing (almost) anything else, it is amazing. So I guess it's a stop when you're both ready story.
Jeez, just read that back, sound like a sleep deprived loony. Going to bed....

Hello! I've had internet problems, just popping in very quickly. We've had a shit day today too. M has been super grumpy and had about 6 feeds in the day as she is really suffering with teething. And I'm grumpy as I am really fed up with being lardy. Grump, grump, grump.

M has managed to do some cute stuff, she brushed her hair with the hair brush, she tried to put a hair clip in and has started blowing on her food copying me.

I am a bit concerned that I am going to bfing forever! I really don't see how I am ever going to get her to stop. I would ideally like to just feed her morning and night but when we're home she just wants to feed all day. She can't be distracted from it and just sobs until I feed her. Who else is still feeding in the night? I know you are Pistachio, but anyone else enduring this continued torture?

If bfing kept me thin then I would feed her until she was 18! Alas, I seem to only lose weight when I stop. M feeds throughout the day too. I would guess she has about 8 feeds in 24 hours. Bloody hell, that's almost like a newborn isn't it? Booohoooo!

Still night feeding here mm. And quite a bit in the day at the moment due to teeth. But I refuse to count the total number.
Did you call back the consultant mm, or are you waiting for them to call you again?

Off to bed now I think.

Big hugs Star, and big raspberry to your DH for his reaction!

Christ MM, that is a lot! I thought I was still doing a lot with 4 during the day! But you didn't seem to feed that much at Warwick, none of you did, i thought Poppy was feeding more than the others!

I tend to try to get her to sleep at night before I resort to feeding her, unless she obv wants it or is teething/ crying a lot. She doesn't root anymore, I assume this is common of all babies, she just grabs my boob now!!

Everything has been "Gog" today, pointing at everything and saying gog. She's been in a vile mood due to sleep deprivation & teething and cos she was tired she had a couple of accidents while we were out, she banged her forehead in costa coffee then her chin on a slide She crawled down a slope for the first time today which was rather amusing, she kept going faster and faster to keep up with the momentum!

CSWS, can I join your 4 hours (interrupted) sleep club please??

Just posted a few more photos on FB, really cute "postcard" one of Pops and her friend who I shan't name as his name is distinctive!

I'm still feeding at night too . I don't bother to count becuase it's too depressing but last night it must have been at least 5 times, but that was because S was in the bed with me because he kept waking up and going straight for the boob. I had to bring him in with me because he woke 3 times between 9.30 and 11 and I've got to get up for work. He seems really snuffly so I don't know if it's teeth or another cold, but I do know that I'm knackered and I've got a really important Performance Manangement meeting this morning so I'm not happy.

Sorry to hear you're both feeling down Star and Pistachio (but great that dd has settled at nursery).

Star - It's so hard when relationships come between friends but, like the others have said, your friend probably knows either that you don't approve of her relationship, or that it's not a great one. Hard as it is, I think that, unless someone's being abused, you just have to let someone make their own mistakes and just be there to support them when it all goes wrong. It's tough on you though in the meantime. Can you still arrange to do stuff together, just the two of you, or with dcs and no partners, or has she shut you out?

Day 1 not off to a good start. Dd coughed so much that she was sick in the night, so between that, ds feeding, and them being up at 6:30 (plus me being later to bed than orig intended) I am still knackered. Managed to just about get everyone ready for going to school, but dd can't see doc until 10:20, so all a pointless rush!

Sorry to hear about the rough start, csws
Thanks for all of your replies on my situation. Aubergenie - no she hasn't shut me out, we do things together but only when he has other things to do iyswim... If I want to do something at a certain time it's almost always not possible but she'll think she's sounding generous by offering me a time slot when he's busy (which is not very often). I think it bothers me because before dating him she said "I'll never put a guy over a friend again" and.... she's doing it. Also her ex is a classy, high earning guy (who is an a* for sneaking around) and this guy is, well, a thug

oh god that sounded so horrid and snotty!!! SORRY. hormones.blaming hormones. That is not like me. I'm not judgy like that. This guy just drives me insane.

Star sounds like you & Q had a fab birthday. Men really dont understand how important is is to us to feel protected. Even if he had given you a kiss better or offered a tissue you would have felt better! Git.
Now without wanting to cause more trouble for you. Is this the friend who looks after Q during the day? If so you would be well within your rights to request a criminal check on him, especially if he has any contact with Q. That could turn up a good reason for your friend to dump him

Hmm I would like to see pictures of the clown suit Did you put some on FB? Or are they the ones you were talking about?

Pistachio. You would manage just fine without DH. You are much stronger than you give yourself credit for.

CSWS. Three days is nothing, lady you coped for weeks before..

It wont stop raining.

Morning
raining all the time here too. my coat this morning was still wet from yesterdays school run .
Looked proper sad using the Bob The Builder umbrella on the way home! but my hood was soaked through. DD has holes in the raincover of her stroller - has anyone else got a MacLaren stroller? Mines years old but had to buy a new raincover and it came with slits for the feet???? WTF. Within a week DS2 had made them into massive holes and DD has inherited it now. Loath to buy a new one from them (£20 + postage) but not sure where to get a suitable one from otherwise. Grrr
star. my best friend had a horrid (womanising, rude, money "borrowing", unfaithful etc)boyfriend for 6 years . We all knew he was dreadful within 6 weeks, but he carefully alienated all friends he felt were making her "choose" between them. She wasted most of her 30's on him - but the point is, she had to decide for herself, no matter what we all said, or how carefully we said it, she was blind to what was sooo obvious to everyone.
J in bed at mo, no playgroup for us this morning as she's so snotty she threw up all over me....

Pepper. My rain coat still wet and I drove! I also had to get the hamster back so that was fun.
I think we have all either been in that relationship or know of someone who has. Sad really that we waste so much of our lives on wasters. It is men too. We have a friend who has recently married his waster. She was pregnant within days of the honeymoon. Our friend said recently that he wishes she could be pregnant all the time because she is much nicer then!! Even his mum cant stand her. The wedding was awful as all his friends were really uncomfortable. I wasnt sure until the day before if we were even going as she said we couldnt take W, who was 3 weeks old at the time! It caused a big fight between them. Our friend won and we went.
Sorry rambling now.

CSWS I have mapquested you. I think I can make it in 1h30. But only if the m25 is clear. I had a friend who lived in H so not far from you. I have been drunk in public there. I need to confirm with DH if he can do the Saturday running around.

Yay ronshar - it will be lovely to meet you.

I coped for years before without dh, but since having ds he's actually only spent about 3 weeks away! Ah well, needs must and all that. Dd now despatched to school - apparently it's 'just a cough'. Got him to listen to mine and ds' chests too whilst we were there, but all of us are fine.

Ds now asleep in car so I'm having a sit down with a cuppa for a few mins. Shame I don't have a monitor in the car, since ds takes most of his naps there . I have to keep popping out in the rain to check on him.

I might be coming without DH so he can get some work done on our flat so we can put it on the market! Yay! So, who is coming so far? I'm excited!

csws - I get it about not keeping valuables in the car... but do people take their sat navs out every time they leave their cars? I'm not being cheeky here, I honestly want to know. I thought everyone just left them in. I won't be doing that now, obviously . The ipod has always been in there, too - tucked between the seat and the hand brake so out of sight. I won't be keeping anything of any value in there now.

Oh and as far as the registration documents and insurance stuff that they took. Do you not need to have that stuff in your car here? In America, I needed to have that stuff on me so that in case I was pulled over I could show them (they ask for license registration and insurance when you're pulled over for any reason, even random checks). Does that not happen here? What would a police officer ask for if he pulled you over? Come to think of it, I never see people getting pulled over here... maybe they don't do it.

Ronshar - HA! lol. I'm almost positive a criminal check would turn something up for him. Although he'd probably lie about it and say he's had one done and it's all clear and offer to let me see it - would probably go so far as to create a document to look official, too. I'm definitely convinced of that. He's manipulative (just like her ex - but she can see it in her ex, not in him). If this goes on for 6 years it will be unbearable. IT just sucks to watch someone you care about fall into a shitty trap. She honestly thinks he's genuine because he "speaks his mind". well, he plays this up, too. "i always say what's on my mind, nothing to hide..." (yeah, RIGHT).

You have something like 7 days to produce your documents at a police station over here star, so no need to keep them with you.
We always removed our sat nav when we had a portable one.

I'd assumed that you were coming without dh because of the journey time thing!
We have me, MM, KSal, you, Ronshar and HMM.

Where are you thinking of moving to?

Think I'm going to take ds to a soft play centre this afternoon, as he missed his group this morning. It's free for under 1s!

We're probably just moving within 15-20 minutes of where we are now csws. Just need a bigger place with another bedroom. A 1 bed maisonette is getting cramped with a toddler. Just difficult to afford at the moment.