October 08 - The Birthday Thread

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10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz
3rd Oct (Due 26th Sept) - purpleflower - Girl - Rebecca Jill Erzsebet - 8lbs 10.5oz
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz
9th Oct (Due 17th) - Marthasmama/50ftQueenie - Girl - Martha - 7lbs 10oz - Elective c-sec
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz
16th Oct (Due 11th Oct) - heather1980 - Boy - Alexander James - 9lbs 5oz
17th Oct (Due 10th Oct) - pepperrabbit - Girl - Jessica Rose - 7lbs 15.5oz
24th Oct (Due 29th Oct) - Ekka - Boy - Matthew - 7lbs 15oz - Home water birth with gas and air.
26th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - jenwa - Girl - Phoebe Jasmine - 9lbs 2.5oz
28th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - RachieW - Boy - Jack - 7lbs 4oz
31st Oct (Due 20th Oct) - KnickersOnMaHead - Boy - Samuel Paul - 9lbs 11oz
5th Nov (Due 29th Oct) - Honeymoonmummy - Girl - Poppy Grace - 6lbs 15oz
5th Nov (Due 30th Oct) - MamaG - Boy - Harry James - 10lbs 9oz

myjob - csws is right. You shouldn't feel pressured Only give up when it's right for You and N. No one else even needs to know!!! If you're feeling like you can't stand your ground, just don't answer people when they ask if you've stopped... or say you have . You're only doing hte bed time feed now, anyway. So it's no one else's business - they aren't there for bed time.

who was making those I heart csws badges? I think I need one

It was Ronshar I think, she was making them for me though.

Yes CSWS is right. And if I had a pound for every time someone said that I would be able to buy everything that is currently in my Monsoon shopping basket. However, I can understand you having a hard time standing your ground. Even I am having a hard time sticking up for extended bfing when discussing it with my mum. I am going to carry on feeding M for a while longer as the time just isn't right at the moment. However my mum thinks it's a bit to carry on feeding beyond a year. She even mentioned 'bitty' which made me very cross with her but I still feel unable to say anything about it. I shall continue to feed M and just won't mention it to her. My mum is probably the only person in the world that I can't just say "Oh Bugger off" to. So I can completely understand if the pressure is coming from someone you can't confront. It is very sad though as the pressure you're feeling isn't doing you and your babies any favours Myjob. I really feel for you in that situation. The pressure to stop does seem to step up once they're one.

M has had some medicine and is now destroying the front room. Typical, she perks up just before bed time.

That's one reason I'm so glad I live far from family 50ft.... far from all the pressure for anything to do with child rearing . We can just say.... shgggshhhhhlllllrrrrrrshhhhh ooooh, what's that... bad reception? Oh sorry!! can't talk now, must be a storm coming through or something!

Heh heh. I love my mum to bits, the extended bfing is the one thing we seem to disagree on. However, if we lived thousands of miles from the PIL, now that would be fine by me!

I've massaged and nothing happened It just hurt.

so..... ahem... .I want to hear the mrcsws story about last night!

Q screamed in pain every 5 mins or so this evening and went to bed without protest at 6.30pm. Poor little man. I gave him calprofen because it really sounded like he was in pain. His willy and tesitcles were quite red (???) this morning. I put nappy cream on them, but still red after his bath - not normal.

Hmm.... Not sure about either thing Star. I know that when you're still bfing and you get a blocked duct you massage towards your nipple while feeding or expressing. Not sure when you're not getting rid of the milk. Did you try a hot compress on it first? Or you could try it in the bath and maybe hand express some milk off?

I want to hear the Mr CSWS story too. I even messaged him on FB but he ignored me. Tut!

I will get a hot compress now Thanks. I did the bath thing as myjob suggested. Didn't work well.

that mrcsws or anyone would ignore you, 50ft

CSWS we're depending on you for the story, now!

ok don't want to confuse the issue myjob as i totally agree that you should only give up BF when you and Naomi are ready... but on the biting front Emma has done it a few times and it does (as 50ft says) seem to be very affectionate. She has done when she's nuzzling me and she's only done it to me. I have noticed that she 'kisses' with her mouth wide open and i guess she hasn't really sussed that using her teeth is a no-no.

obvious difference is that I stopped breastfeeding at 9 weeks, so that's all a distant memory for her (if she remembers at all!) so not related in Emma's case. I just think she hasn't made the association between using her teeth and causing pain.... similarly when she shoves her finger up my nose .

I have just been moving her away and sitting her down to do something else. she seems to have stopped doing it (fingers crossed)

Myjob - I agree with KSal, I think it is very likely that N is biting affectionately. Especially as she is doing it to her beloved brother! Obviously N won't associate ds with bfing so it would be strange for her to start biting him when it was you she used to get her milk from. Either way it will pass and unfortunately for DS, he is going to have to be very grown up about it. It would be so much easier if he was biting you! DS was bitten by a boy at nursery when he was about 14 months. It was horrible, the boy drew blood on a couple of occasions and left him with a huge bruise the other times. It was only ds that got bitten and it happened because the other boy adored him.

I wanted to change my name to doodle. Because that's what we call Q. And I'm sick of star6. I wanted star but was obv taken so I like the number 6 and used that. lame. I wonder if doodledoo is taken.... we call him that, too

Hppy Birthday T!

Oh I feel really awful now. S has been biting me quite a bit recently, really really hard. Once it made my nipple bleed. Other times it's been little nips but they bloody hurt and leave tooth marks. I've been getting quite stern with him in the hope that it'll make him stop. I didn't realise it was an affectionate thing, but it makes sense as he only does it to me mostly and occasionally dp.

Myjob, FWIW I agree, you shouldn't give up unless you feel it's the right thing for you both. I imagine it's a very emotional time, and must be horrible if you don't really want to do it.

Pistachio and CSWS - both your parties looked ace.

I'm really struggling with working while STILL getting such broken sleep. DS was awake every couple of hours last night. In fact I'm going to toddle off to bed very soon as it's the only way I'm going to get through tomorrow.

Hope M feels better soon too!

Affection or not Aubergenie it bloody hurts & needs to be nipped in the bud stopped. Don't feel guilty!

damn it. It IS taken.

Aubergenie - I am in bed by 9pm most nights. It's the only way I make it through the day, really. I'm not feeding in the night anymore, but he wakes SO OFTEN (except last night, of course!!! hoping for a repeat performance tonight from him!).

Oh the dilemma.... What to watch tonight? ANTM or Life?

oh yes, aubergenie... if he's biting you while feeding, it does need to be stopped. Q did that to me, and my gasp of pain was enough to startle him and upset him He stopped biting very very soon after.

my bed 50ft. That's all I'm going to watch

I should probably watch the inside of my eyelids too, but that's not going to happen.......

I should probably watch the inside of my eyelids too, but that's not going to happen.......

ANTM.

star - did you say that his only wake last night was for 10 seconds, and that in that time you'd already given him back his dummy? Have you tried not responding so quickly? Babies often stir a bit in the night and sometimes have a little whinge, but then settle right back off by themselves, but if you are intervening straight away every time then it is going to disturb you and him much more than necessary. Much harder to ignore when you're in the same room of course, but might be worth trying to hold off doing anything for a couple of minutes and see what happens.

I can't CSWS. Poor DH is all excited about watching Life so I'll have to watch it later on +1.

That actually makes a lot of sense csws. I do have this sudden knee jerk reaction the moment I hear him stir, to bolt up out of bed and race to him because I'm afraid if I leave it too long, he'll wake even more and then it will be even harder to get him back off to sleep. But I'll bet you're right... if I leave him a bit longer, he may be able to settle himself back to sleep. Or do you think I've screwed him up by now since I've been doing this for so long? I hope not!!

ANTM gets my vote...