AUGUST 2008 - One year on and you would think we would all be getting some sleep by now!

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New thread!

Yes, I do remember MrSazzles and his cooking skills. Do you by chance remember what mine did during any and all cooking episodes?

Revision done, feeling moderately confident for my test tomorrow. Just need to be perky for the hazard perception so off to bed in a minute but just wanted to say

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SEBASTIAN

The last of our babies has turned one it has been a roller coaster time but made all the lovelier for sharing it with you guys

evening all

Just been on the phone to a friend for a whole 2 hours just like when we were teenagers and lived 3 streets away and saw each other at school from 7.30-4.

DD slept like an angel last night. She suddenely increased her food intake yesterday and was fine until 4.30am. So she wasn't just being a monster she genuinely was hungry. I have had a minor panic that I have been starving her but she was refusing anything I tried to feed her and would only feed herself if it was berries, tomaotes, avacado or banana. but yesteday she had 12miniweetabix then 1/2 a banana lunch was 1/2 an adult portiuon of macaroni cheese and peas, 1/2 a banana and 4oz milk for post nap snack then chilli and mash for dinner yogurt and finally 5oz milk. although she did throw up a little on DH when he threw her in the air

TS - I have a similar man - he gets up, I get breakfast for 3, he washes/showers and dresses I do it for 2 in half the time. I feed 2 of us breakfast and he goes to work and I tidy! BUT his saving grace it that when DD has had a crap night he will get up (only after 7.30am though) and give me an hours sleep before he goes to work.

Sazzles - do you and the family fancy coming over for lunch and your DH can explain about wife lie ins that don't involve me being up for hours before he gets up and I go back to bed.

I'm off - Dh has to be at Heathrow for a client meeting at 6.30am and guess who will have to wake him and ensure he gets going at 4.15. Who flies in from New York overnight and still wants to have asensible conversation with someone who has been up since 4am?

oh dear oops be careful what you request. once mrtwilight and mrsazzles started a conversation at breakfast that went on well after midnight. i do believe the conversation had bits about how lucky they were for finding such incredible ladies...blah blah blah blah. lol!!

sazzles that is hardcore. i recall i had similar days. ha! i still have hard core days...many, up every hour nights then all dressed and ready for school at the buttcrackofdawn!!

you must be right sazzles

almost lost our favorite feline tonight. he climb up onto the top of the open garage door while i was parked in the garage earlier (i never park in the garage). i walked out this evening, clicked the switch to close the door, and up he popped (thankfully i noticed). he'd been sleeping. i had to pull back into the garage so he could climb down.

dd1 is still grumbling about school saying she doesn't want to go or she'll go on the days i have pilates so i don't miss class. geez! her teacher gave me the thumbs up in carpool line today signifying she'd had a good day. however, dd1 said she cried again. uuuggghhhh

reese is crying from her crib. brb

guess she just needed to see if we were still around.

had something i wanted to post but between the girls room and here i've lost it.

night

Feeling a bit guilty here as I have a DH who will put on a wash before leaving the house, can cook well, does bedtime stories and really fab games after he comes in ... much better than I can think up. He is the king of the grand tidyup.

He also lets me sleep in at weekends, though the deal is that he does no night wakeups as he is a disaster without unbroken sleep.

We are both parents, and I expect him to do his share emotionally as well as practically.
It took him a good year to get confident with managing the children independently and he is prone to TV minding, and dressing them back to front/in ways defying the seasons but he is confident with the children in a way a lot of dads aren't.

He is 40 on Friday and deserves treats and time off far beyond our paltry means ... I'm buying him a guitar though whcih I'm very excited about. Any ideas on what a good acoustic one would be?

I've been up doing computer work, and just needed to wind down for ten minutes before bed which is why I'm on at this time.

TS-DD1's version of the day is probably a lot less accurate than the teacher's. It does sound as if she is settling in.

Happy birthday Seb and Good Luck Hots.

And now to bed ...

Glad the cat is fine TS ...

Morning..

Belated happy birthday to Seb, hope he had a great day...

I was just thinking about my situation with DH this am before i logged on and you lot had been talking about it last night ..

My situation sucks!!!! Had to work for DH yesterday as he was snowed under, he runs a recruitment business so that is fine... and obviously i have started to look for work too.. however, on top of working for him i have had to do every single job in the house and for the girls aswell ... dd2 had a bad night, he got up once for 5 mins, i was up for an hour and a half initially, dd1 kept getting into our bed so had to keep movig her.. eventually dd2 ended up in with us.. dd1 came back,so ended up gettig up with her, only for dh to storm downstairs with dd2 who had since woken and stormed back to bed....

the girls are so used to me that they refuse to go to bed for him dd1 takes anything up to an hour to settle... i take dd1 to nursery while he "plays" with dd2 but as soon as i get back have to get her morning milk (he has never made milk up and has changed about 5 nappies since dd2 was born).. and thats it..Am i being silly is this normal "dad", "dh" behaviour as i feel i am walked all over...

to top it all he is away sat night again!!! sorry for massive rant!!

in this house we say "for goodness sake", "jesus mary and holy saint christoper" and "jesus wept"

Morrrning

Why can a man not get up without waking the whole house turning on all the lights, leaving the alarm on snooze to go off every 10 minutes. I moved DD into our bed as he was leaving as he woke her up thumping about looking for clothes in the spare room then yell 'bye' as he left and left me with a jack in a box yelling Papa. PAAAAPPPPPAAAAA for 20 minutes. Finally she went back to sleep and woke at 6.40 when I promptly turned on cbeebies in our room and she sat (still tied into her sleepingbag) watching and I napped until 7.20 when we got up for the day.

I do have to say although DH isn't the best in the sorting DD out and things like that he always tidys the kitchen post dinner and loads and unloads the dishwasher as it is a pet hate job of mine. He has also been known to do loads of washing whilst I am occupied with DD.

Today we are off to see a lady about rearfacing next stage carseats but they may be a long way off if DD doesn't put on some weight!

Morning LOTI and VG.

TS - the crying at school from my experience only lasts a minute or two but is a BIG deal to the little person doping the crying so I would let he know it's okay to cry at school if she needs to but it's not going to change any arrangements and if she is sad tell someone.

GOOD LUCK HP. I was going to say knock 'em dead but I don't think that is the point of today's exercise

ah Sazz, that was sweet of your DH to let you know he loved you!

my DP on the whole is pretty good brb... DS needs me!

Miamla - TAKE IT EASY ON THAT KNEE!

Good luck today hotter!

I think my DP and Red's DH are dadcore twins, they sound exactly the same in their strong fatherhood skills: changing nappies, playing amazing fun games, making up stories and songs, getting up in the night, confident with feeding, able to dress DS in appropriate clothes, will take him downstairs and give me a bit of peace in the mornings if need be. He does all of this without being asked and is very patient and loving with DS. I know I am extraordinarily lucky. But at the same time, as Red says, I also expect this of him because we're both parents and he obviously expects it of himself, so it shouldn't really be considered a matter of luck. We try and share things equally, so if I've had a lie in one day I'll try and make sure he gets one the next.

LOTI, Ms Gardenia has given you the kinder version of what I think. She is thoughtful enough to consider what goes on behind the scenes, as it were, whereas me and my big stompy feet just think your H is getting away with murder. On balance you're probably best off listening to her although I do wonder what exactly he is getting out of parenthood. From what you say, he never sounds like he's enjoying the girls much and that is just as much of a shame as the fact that you're not getting a great deal of support.

Somewhat disturbed night last night with an hour of screaming between 2am and 3am. Teeth, I think - the poor boy was quite beside himself. Still got us up at 5.30am though. I am farcically tired.

Thanks for your honest Cyteen, to be true to myself i completely agree with you.. sometimes i wonder why he had children.. to be fair on him, he wanted one and i pushed for a second dc but still ...

All i know is that i give the girls enough attention and smothering to make sure they do not miss out on anything and know that mummy is always there.. Me on the other hand am just existing.. ho humm...

Anyway forgot to say GOOD LUCK HP!!!!!!!!!!