October 2007- These Little Piggies started throwing tantrums

[FloriaTosca]

The lastest thread for the fabulous women who were due their babies in the October of the Chinese year of the pig and who now have terrible tantrums and delightful cuddles in equal measure from their almost 2 year olds. New and old members welcome to drop in for a chat anytime....

Hello Ladies. I feel silly having joined this thread and having only posted a few times. Had a scare this week with my baby. He ended up in hospital for 8 hours after running a temp of 104. He went all pale and started shaking like a leaf. They did shest x-ray, urine test and nose swab (for swine flu), and thankfully all was clear. He has had a cold/cough for 2 months now, and I am just tired of it. Sofia has also had a cold and is quite miserable as well. All these sick DCs and Christmas to worry about leaves little time for MN

Dal - Have been where you are. Caught my DH looking at porn one morning while I was preg with my last. He is a little more careful and erases the history, so I have no clue what he looks at. Was not impressed to say the least. But could hardly blame him, since we were going through a 'famine' in the bedroom. I just told him that I didn't want to know or see what he was doing because it made me insecure. Hard to feel sexy when you are as big as a house. I didn't feel cheated on, just made me feel less desirable. To make matters worse, the famine was mostly his doing because he was worried about hurting me! Hope you work things out soon. And hope you take into account those hormones that are likely making this seem worse than it is.

Will try to have a better read through of all the posts soon. Until then... hope you are all well

Hi ladies, sorry I dissapeared last night, we were having the 'chat'.

Thanks for all your advice/reassurance etc it really did help when I was feeling upset.

He eventually brought it up and said he hadn't mentioned it earlier in the evening cause he was a bit embarassed and didn't want to discuss it in front of Dylan before he went to bed.

He said he was sorry it had upset me and felt bad he hasn't told me.

I told him I was ok with the general porn although being pregnant and hormonal it had made me feel a bit insecure and undesired, especially when he looked at it the morning after action.

I said I was actually upset about not being told and the particular 'webcam' site that had come up that morning as although I was 'ok' with general porn I was not ok with live webcam stuff.

He was confused when I refered to the 'other site' (webcam) that had come up and swore on Dylans life that if there was any other site in the histroy than the one he usually looks at then he wasn't sure how.

He had a think and sadi sometimes when he is looking through the pages on 'his' site that pop ups come up and one is a webcam one. He got me to go on to the site and showed me and the webcam one did come up. He says he has noticed it popping up but it always makes the computer freeze and then he just closes it. He swore that he doesn't have any interest in the webcam stuff and it really just was a pop up.

Anyway, I was happy with that and I believe him.

We had a long chat and I feel a lot better about it. I said I didn't want him to stop or anything but we'd have to make sure we clear the history properly so Dylan doesn't accidentally bring any of it up.

He made me feel secure again and said that he doesn't find anyone as attractive as me and nothing compares to the real thing. .

So, all is happy in the dalrymps household again.

afternoon lovely ladies

WWAJC-hope you find someone with a large oven for your turkey, are you staying at home this year?
Blue-Sorry LO was hspitalised, how scary for you! How are DCs now?
Dal-Glad you got it sorted, its horrible arguing with OH esp when pg and feeling insecure, I'd be incline to believe him too, sounds more than plausible.
Well, I've come on for another moan, meant to be doing college work as Rich said he'd have Shannon while I did some today, but he went out last night, lost his phone and his wallet and still not managed to drag his lazy arse here, so I thought I'd put Dora on and try and do a bit, then my mum text me to tell me she can't have Shannon on Tue night after all as she has to work, I asked her weeks ago and have been confirming all week that its still okay. We have paid a deposit on going for a meal with Richies new work mates, now it doesn't look as though I'll be able to go unless my Dad can have her but not been able to contact him. Feeling very let down today. Also feel as though I should text my mother and say prob best as Shannon wouldn't even know who she was since she hasn't seen her since July, but whats the point, don't know why I thought I could rely on her this one time

BabyBlue - sorry your ds was ill, it must have been a real scare for you. Is he ok now?

Dal - so glad you had a good talk with dh and that you feel better about it all.

NC - we're going to dh's family on Christmas Day and my parents are here Boxing Day. My mum could cook it but I wouldn't have time to pick it up again Christmas Eve so she would then have to keep it over Christmas day and she's really not got the room in the fridge. Can't ask dh's family to cook a second turkey on Christmas Day! You must be really annoyed at your mum - you've worked so hard you deserve a night out - it's very unfair of her.

I've got loads done today but haven't been out except briefly out in the back garden to make a mini snowman (only a little bit of snow). Hoping the roads will be a bit clearer tomorrow so I can take Anya out before she starts climbing the walls!

I am just on the sofa MNing. Dh is watching tv. DS is eating a cheese sandwich left over from lunch. There is cheese all over the floor. DH has just said to DS: "i asked you not to make a mess - could you have got any more cheese on the floor?" DS has solemnly nodded his head and said: "yes daddy". It made me laugh!

NC - how annoying that everyone is letting you down at the moment. I wish we all lived closer to each other so we could help out.
WWAJC - we are going to my MIL's for Xmas dinner, so thankfully I don't have the over-sized turkey problem - hope you can get it cooked
BabyBlue - how scary - hope your little DS is ok now
Dal - glad your household is happier now

Right - I am going to cook some tea now. We've had a nice day, went out for lunch, popped into some friends for an unplanned coffee on the way home, now snuggled up in the warm. It's still very cold here, so the snow isn't going to go anytime soon - hate driving in snow and ice, thank god DH has a 4 wheel drive truck. Means he has to come and do the supermarket shopping in the morning though!

Forgot to say before...

Babyblue - How scary and worrying for you having ds in hosp . Hope he's over the worst of it now.

NC - Sorry your mum let you down again. You don't deserve to be messed around like that. Some people are just selfish, I wouldn't waste any energy on her if she can't be bothered to make any.

WWAJC - Wow at the size of that turkey! Hope you find someone to cook it!

Strawberry - Lol at ds and his cheese sandwich comment

Well, dh has gone out for an xmas meal with his work collegues, all paid for . The plus side is I get to sit and watch Bon Jovi live on stage on MTV

So DS2 has been better in the sense that he has no fever. He is still using the puffers/aerochamber. I wish his cold would go away and he would be sickness-free.

NC - I know how you feel about having people let you down. Was at my Mum's house for Christmas dinner last night, and asked her to sit for my kids (which I rarely ask). My DH and I are trying to go on a 4 day vacation in June 2010. My mum says, 'you should have asked me BEFORE you booked your vacation time. I think I am going to be busy'!!! Its 6 months away!! DH had to submit his vacation request in October. When did she expect us to ask her?? We didn't even know we were going until just recently! Yet my sisters kids get babysat by my mum all the time! (and my kids are the more well behaved). Rant over.

Dal - glad you worked things out with your DH. One less thing to worry about while pg. When are you due?

Almost ready for Christmas. Was up until 2am wrapping prezzies. Have a few more to wrap and I am done! Shopping and baking both done. I am not hosting any dinners, which is wonderful (since I hosted the last dinner party for 25 people).

Anyway... gotta run. There is an avalanche of laundry that needs to be looked after

Strawberry - at your ds and his cheese.

Dal - glad you enjoyed your evening despite missing out on dh's works do.

BabyBlue - well done wrapping all your pressies/shopping/baking - impressive dedication.

We've had more snow today - I went out this morning in the car and couldn't get it back up the drive when I got back - it kept sliding back down the slope. Luckily dh had the same problem until he shovelled a load of snow away so it wasn't my bad driving!

Hi all

We drove up tp get the boys yesterday, met Ollie's Godfather + wife in manchester, went round the market (in the snow) and then went to the Il's. She was pleasant, so was I, you wouldn't think we'd last spoken since last July! we drove back and then I went to a friends Mulled wine evening. I had to go as I couldn;t for the last 2 years but was knackered and left at 10.

Ollie did ask Grandma is she smoked and she 'said she'd given up.' Dh and and I looked at each other and then Ollie said '...but I think she's lying' He sighed. It's such a shame when they realise adults are actually quite crap I asked him if he asked Grandad why his tummy was so big and he said he didn't (thank god!)
Both boys have been a bit loopy today so we went out out to the local big park and blew off some steam. My uni friend came round as she travels from london to neath and pops in with her hubby and 2 boys so that was great to see them. Tidying now and working my way through the nountain of washing that we have. yes MIL does it but it smells of smoke so Ollie was right

Dal -glad it's all sorted, fwiw I think it's better you got it all out in the open.

NC- am so sorry people are being crap really do wish we all lived nearer so could help xx

WWAJC - love the mental picture of you and dh trying to stuff the turkey in the oven!! Hope you get it sorted!

Strawberry - lol at hubby and the cheese sandwhich!

Babyblue - am hoping your dc are on the mend xx

So how much snow do you ladies get where you are?? Everyone is talking about bad roads and being snowed in... just wondering if its a lot, or that you are just not used to getting any at all? We have actually gotten very little this year so far (knock wood emoticon). The last 2 years have been brutal, where the snow piles next to my driveway were over my head (and I'm 5'6" tall!!). My DCs are not happy that they cant toboggan yet... but I cant say I am too disappointed. There is enough on the ground to give us a somewhat white christmas, and thats all that matters to me!

So... first official day of the holidays for 2 older DCs and so far so good. They are playing their Wii and I was able to get Sofia and DS2 down for their naps at the SAME TIME!! Huge coup for me!!! We were out fairly late last night, so Sofia was getting crabby and didnt even fuss whe I told her it was nap time. I am sure as the next two weeks progress... the Blue household will not be this peaceful!!

We got some but far less than earlier in the year. My brothers were both in Toronto last year and had tales of massive amounts of snow and my brother had to dig his, stupid sports car car out as it was buried. My elder brother is back now and my Canadian SIL is thankful they only have a little!

We have been brewing some testing times with Henry and today at bedtime he actually managed to get out of his bedroom, down the 2 flights of stairs and was in the playroom watching telly just after dh and came down to clear the kitchen. I asked him to go to bed and calmly said 'no.'

Deep breath from me and I marched him back upstairs so I think we'll be buying a stairgate tomorrow!

We're off to Hampton Court tomorrow so am hoping the roads will be okay. Someone crashed into the side of my neighbours car early sun morning and left without leaving details. It was lucky that another neighbour saw heard the crash, saw him get out of the car to check the damage which gave the neighbour time to take photos. Some people! They've really smashed the side of the car...

Just seen another person slide into the bushes, we don't get the roads around here gritted so it's hell getting out of the estate but when you're out it's fine.

Inzi so sorry to hear about your grandad honey but good to hear you had that special time with him where you could both say what you needed before he became less coherent. Thinking of you xxxxxx

Dal glad you got it sorted with your dh

been on call today and only just back so i'll be brief...

Crashed dh's car on Friday. Like muppet our estate hasn't been gritted and although I was only going about 5mph down a slight hill by my house I couldn't stop or steer and went into the back of my neighbours car! becasue I was going so slow none of us were hurt (although Sam was a bit upset) but becasue dh's car is such a banger it is a write off. just what we need before Christmas! Oh well at least it was a car I drove into and not a child. And my neighbour was a star.

Anyway off to bed now - hope you're all well esp those not mentioned personally and I'll see you soon xxx

just quicckly as I have brain fuzz as usual.

Alice-Really hope you're ok, I know you said none of you are hurt but still a bit of a shock. I wouldn't let DD1 come home last night from her dads as the roads where so bad-I didn't want to go pick her up or her get a taxi, it just wasn't wortk it, I took Shannon to nursery today and it took me ages to clear the car off and roads where really crap, wasn't really worth me taking her in tbh.
They're both meant to be going to DD1s grandmas tomorrow and then ex is going to take them to a party at the pub-any ideas for me to stop them going'd be welcome-I need the time to do work but really don't want Shannon to go to a stinky pub with them, I'm sure she'll be ok as she'll be with DD1 and she knows her DF but still-I don't really want her in that environment, god, I don't even want my older one there. It is a dump of a pub btw I have no problem with children in pubs, just notdrug den pubs-just don't know how to stop it after I'd practically begged exmil to have kids for me whilst I did work!
Off to bed now anyway, sorry I haven't replied to all!

oh ps-everyone got there SS gifts yet?

Inzi; I'm so terribly sorry about your grandad honey ((((hugs)))but how lovely you got to have that chat. I do hope they can keep him comfortable, my thought are with you and the family.

Babyblue; how scary! Glad it wasn't SF and I do hope both the children get completely better soon.

Alice; thank heavens you are ok and that your neighbour was a star. I hope Sam forgets about it quickly.

Dal; glad ev3rything is hunck dory again

WWAJC; I have more than enough ovens but it is prolly too far for you to come (you are welcome if you want to though)...all else failing I'd cut off the crown to cook on the day and freeze the legs.

NC;I really do wish I lived nearer to help babysit....that is so unfair. And how very adult of you to no send the sarky text (not sure I would have been so restrained)

As for me; last night I was cursing the blo*dy sodin'feckin' snow!!!
I spent all day Saturday shopping for Dhs family gathering (14 to dinner), spent a fortune, was preparing lamb fillet(lancashire hotpot) untill midnight that night, was slicing potatoes and making a malibu roulade at 7am Sun morning and the people the meal was in honour of couldn't get here to eat it!!!!! whaqt is more the Ils (who arranged the gathering)were threatening to stay home because of the snow too (they live 4 miles away).I was soooo upset I flounced off and knocked back a couple of cointreau and white wines so Dh phoned round a few friends, and went and collected his parents, sister and the nephews(our Mondeo can manage the weather, whereas their BMW can't)while dear friends (2 couples)trudged through the snow to join us (one had done a North Pole expedition earlier in the year so it was a doddle for him in all his arctic gear )... so, in the long run the night was a sucess. I drank rather too many cocktails (cointreau and white wine is one I haven't had in years...I was introduced to it by a professional gambler...can't think he was ever very sucessfull) and then too much red wine but was surprisingly clear headed this morning...dashed round the house clearing up, trudged to the local shop(for local people...we are a bit rural here)for a few supplies and then hosted a toddlers chrismas party from 12-3 (though half of the normal crowd couldn't make it because they were snowed in)...now truly knackered but strangely unable to sleep. Pressie/card delivering tomorrow (after some frantic last minute wrapping first thing ...can't get to the pressies atm coz they are stored in Alexs wardrobe and after taking an hour to settle him tonight I'm not risking waking him again). Christmas circus on Weds after collecting all the festive groceries, and hopefully we should have a relaxing christmas eve....heres hoping eh?
I fully intend getting on here before Friday but if I don't; Merry Christmas, Peace and Goodwill to you all. xxxxxxx

Wow FT-I saw on FB about the meal, what a busy weekend you had, I would have been more than happy to trek through snow to get some of your food, but probably wouldn't have been there till around now, glad it all turned out ok.

Shannon has been playing up since 2am, she seems to be hsving nightmares but then she gets annoying, needing to cuddle her book, blanket, dolly and me-she needs to have hold of everything at once. So very disturbed sleep last night and she messed about at bedtime, I also caught DD1 watching TV in her room when she was meant to bve asleep, she was being very sneaky as she was prectically sat on top of it, and turned it off when I walked in-I was too tired to shout, so I just cut the plug off to teach her a lesson
Needless to say I am very grumpy this morning, Rich car shares to work and was meant to be meeting me accross the bridge for the meal tonight( my friend has kindly stepped in to have Shannon for me, although my Mum has decided she can have her now, I said don't bother, I know my friend is reliable!)but he has decided to drive to work-it has really annoyed me as it means we are either stuck staying at my Mums tonight which I'd said I didn't want to do really or it means us driving home seperately from the meal and neither of us drinking, I was happy to not drink but I didn't really want to be driving home on my own iyswim. Don't know why he's done it, we where on the phone at 6am discussing it, pigheaded twat. Also if we stay at my mothers I have to take a blow up dbl bed, quilt, pillows, DD1 decided she coming now so need to take her mattress and bedding, plus drop Shannon off with her stuff, bed guard and travel safety gate and make myself look presentable to go to stupid meal.
moan moan moan. eyes too tired to do college work-meant to be taking girls to exmils this morning too, bloody snow, stupid traffic, flaming non-sleeping child tut.

Hope eveyone else has a nice day

Hello ladies,

The snow really does seem to be scuppering things for us all doesn't it?

Floria sorry about all upset with meal but sounds as though it all worked out great in the end!

NC I don't blame you for being unhappy about dds and the pub. like you I think that pubs and children aren't necessarily a problem but it depends on the pub! Sounds a bit (from this and things you have said before) that dd1s dad doesn't really have much of a clue about what is suitable for children and prefers them to just fit in with what he usually does which is frustrating for you! Hope tonight works out ok...

i am in bed full of cold and feeling crap. Oh joys. Would actually rather be at work than feeling rough. Oh well fingers crossed will feel better soon...

Muppet - glad you had a good time up north. Amazing how adults don't realised how smart children are - not surprised Ollie sussed out your mil. How was Hampton Court?

BabyBlue - glad you had a good day with the naps. We've had a few inches of snow - enough to make the roads a bit lethal so we're avoiding driving at the moment - and enough to make a decent snowman. We never get huge snowfalls though so this is quite a lot for us.

Alice - glad you weren't hurt in your car bump. As you say, more of a hassle than anything else around Christmas. Glad your neighbour is being good about it all. Hope Sam's recovered ok. Hope your cold is better soon as well.

NC - at you cutting the plug off the TV - must remember that one for the future! Hugs to you - hope your stress levels have come down a bit.

FT - glad your meal worked out well in the end. Sounds like you had a lovely boozy day! Hope you get some time to relax over the next few days!

Turkey is sorted (thanks for the offer FT) - a friend who lives near work is going to chop it up for me while it's still raw (he knows what he's doing - which is more than I would) so I'll freeze the pieces (note to self - must eat up some food out of the freezer!).

HI all

Alice - really glad you and Sam are alright but sorry to hear of the written off car! We've had 2 bumps since Sunday and someone sliding into the bushes (in a car ;)) We're still very slippy, dh slipped over just after telling me it wasn't really that slippy -oh the irony!! (Oh how I laughed....!!)

WWAJC - Hampton Court was fab! (If extremly cold brrrrrrr!) We had Hen in the backpack, Tobes in the pushchair and Ollie walked around. When Ollie saw the blue ceiling with the gold stars he said 'I can't believe my eyes are seeing this!' He was in awe of the size and gradeur of it. Henry even pointed out things, stars on the ceilings, women in paintings and liked to shout tell us what he didn't like 'I NOT LIKE that man/bed/wall etc etc
It was amazingly child friendly if anyone was thinking of going. There is a lift -very tudory- to the 1st floor and once up there they take you through other doors so you don't have to go up and down any stairs which is great. Cafe was well priced -4 main meals + 4 drinks for £30 which isn't bad as they do have a captive audience. It was bloody freezing though but that was the only downside.

Great news about finding someone to sort the turkey!

Floria - What an eventful dinner party doggy bags to the house of muupet are always welcome

Well, dh checked to see if our online order had been delivered and it hadn't. He checked online to see what had happened to find he hadn't actually finished the chechout and everything was still in the basket waiting to be processes. Shit. No food at all being delivered!

..he's off to M & S tomorrow AS SOON as it opens to buy anything remotely Christmasy. Oh well, kids won't care as long as Santa comes!

Off to Gloucester in the morning to see best friend at her mums and then neighbours (ones with the crashed car) are over in the afternoon.

Hope all are well
xx

Not feeling well enough for a long post, bloody cold took a turn for the worse, but I am reading everything. Just wanted to say Congratulation Inzi :D

OMG!!!!

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Congratulations Inzi!!!!!!!

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Been a long day but just had to say...

Massive congratulations Inzi!!! . I'm so so happy for you!

How far along are you? That was quite quick wasn't it? You haven't been trying long!

Wow, so pleased for you