October 2007- These Little Piggies started throwing tantrums

[FloriaTosca]

The lastest thread for the fabulous women who were due their babies in the October of the Chinese year of the pig and who now have terrible tantrums and delightful cuddles in equal measure from their almost 2 year olds. New and old members welcome to drop in for a chat anytime....

Ladies,
Just a quicky from me....I think I am going to be leaving MN for a while. I made a huge mistake today and have been taking a beating for it on here. I am so embarrassed by what I have done and I feel the only thing I can do is leave.
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LES-Whats wrong? I'm sure it can't be that bad. Have you admitted to giving the kids fruitshoots? Seriously though, whats up?

I have had a crap time lately with karl being bullied etc anyway I put a thread up today asking if anyone could help with bits of the uniform for his new school he starts on monday. We just don't have the money to find it in such a short time. well a load of Mumsnetters started telling me i was a nastty person etc and it really got to me.I need to find karls uniform and because it is all logo'd has to be from uniform shop....... but they were all quite nasty

LES - stop fretting and mulling over it. Haven't seen the thread which must've got deleted but general gist of the other one doesn't smack me as unsupportive. Most folk seem to understand yr predicament, even if they didn't think it was appropriate to ask. Please don't take that so personally. Quite a few seemed to be saying give you a break. I think some of the suggestions of doing it cheaper / compromises with the school were fair and well intended (tho I can understand how you wouldn't WANT karl to start school like this - specially with all the previous bullying) And you yourself come across as all flustered and regretful of posting your request

Reckon perhaps where you got laid into more it was prob more case of folk reacting to bigger objections / dislike of people asking essentially strangers for help. Quite hilarious really in context of advice on that other thread about struggling with pushchair / suitcases on bus I dunno. Mention money and it seems to rile people. Very british really

Have a bit of a break from it all. Yr going through a lot at the mo - obv you don't need stuff here to make things worse for you. Course yr not a nasty person. Cmon does anyone you give a toss about REALLY think that?

no they don't i was just having a bad moment!!!

I knew you could kick me up the butt

LES-don't worry about it, some people can get so nasty on here, just remember 'what defines us is how we rise again after falling' or something like that, taken from a J Lopez film I just watched lol
Let me know if you see any Brightbots for sale x

Hippo Bird Day Two Ewes
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Hippo Bird Day Dear HENRY!
Hippo Bird Day Two Ewes!!!

Happy Birthday Henry, the last of our 2yr olds to be celebrating. I hope he has a fab day Muppet and I hope you and Tobias (and Dh and Olly too of course) are doing well...

And wishing a Joyous GuyFawkes/Bonfire night to you ALL. Enjoy the fireworks!

Happy Birthday Henry!!
hope you have a lovely day

Aw Inzi-I bet she'll be fine, don't worry. Have you tried having her in a steamy room and using vapour rub stuff?
How about giving her this as a change from calpol for a day or 2? Is there anyone that can have her for a night while you get a nights sleep? or swap with DH for a night? Although I know it wont be ideal as you prob don't want to leave her.

TBH I'd prob taker her to GP and just not mention flying on Tue. You still got 4 days for her to get better, believe me, last weekend I didn't think I'd be moving off the couch this week, but I have

Inzi; Personally, I would get her to the GP despite your fears, to get her checked over and ask if keeping up the calpol/ibuprofen is ok. If it is an infection there is still time for antibiotics to kick in before you go.
Steam is the best cure for snottiness and clearing the tubes (especially the eustatian (sp?)tubes from the ears to the throat) sitting in the bathroom full of steam playing helped Alex with his last cold...
Pineapple (esp. fresh, it has more enzymes than tinned))helps thin the mucus so it clears quicker. ...
And the act of swallowing clears the tubes too, so lots of drinks/ice-lollies...

I do hope she gets better soon, viruss' rarely last more than 7 days so she should be ok for your hols but asI said I really would get her to the gp to be sure.

NC xposted.... glad you are moving off the couch... hope it is getting easier every day.

Tles; Herjazz talks a lot of sense. I hope you haven't let it get to you too much. You know what some MNers are like. And I do hope you get the required bits of uniform in time so K can have a fresh new start.

Happy Birthday Henry xxxxxx

FT, somehow I will get it sorted....I am trying to sell my buggy lol I only just bought it but Zachary is too tall for it so it is no good grrrrrrrr lol...

Thanks all, I knew you lot would make me realise it is not worth worrying about lol. x

AAAAARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHH!!! I have just written a long post TWICE and mn has swallowed it in to the darkness. I am going to screeeeaaaam

Ever since mn went weird the other day all sorts has been happening and mine is still not back to normal. I can't believe I am about to write all this a third time!

Happy 2nd Birthday Henry !

Hope you have a fab day and get lots of lovely pressies!

Inzi - Sounds like Jane just has a bad cold to me, sure she'll be fine. These colds that are around at the moment are hanging on for ages, had mine for 6 days now! I would agree with floria, pop her to the docs asap then if she does need any antibiotics they'll kick in before your hols. The restrictions on calpol are just a precaution I think in case it wasn't a cold and something else that required more/different treatment. It does sound like a cold to me though so try not to worry! Steam is a good tip as the ladies have suggested, I always put honey in Dylans juice when he has a cold too, I'm convinced it helps.

Dylan is a bit under the weather today, he was off his food yesterday then suddently got a temp at tea time and went all tired and whiney. He didn't want tea, just milk and was just laying on my/dh's knee feeling sorry for himself. We gave him some calpol in his milk and he went to sleep fine when we put him to bed. I cheked on him about an hour and a half later and he felt almost normal temp agian... Strange thing was that it was just his head and torso that was hot, his arms and legs actually had goose pimples?!

He seems a bit happier this morning although still a bit warm. He had a little breakfast though so must be at least a little better. Gave him some more calpol and put him down for his morning nap, he's still asleep! Going on for 3hrs now, must need it...

Not sure if he's just teething, he's had a mild cold since his birthday but now i'm not so sure if it was a cold or just a runny nose due to teething. Maybe he's caught our cold now adn it's affecting him like this? He's not that snotty though . He was saying 'moush' and 'tees' (mouth and teeth) last night and poking at his gums so maybe it is that...

It's our dog, Tess's birthday today , gave her a big 'jumbone' to chew on as her present lol

Forgot to say but got a parcel on mon of presents for Dylan from my parents. It just had bits and bobs in it and a note saying they would be sending mroe stuff?! My mum wrote in his card that they would 'love to be able to get to know him'. This reallt annoyed me, how fcking unbelievable, I gave them a chance that they most certainly did not* deserve to do exactly that and they just abused it and messed it up!

They always do this, try to guilt trip me in to thinking it's all my fault for depriving them of their 'right'. It's so bl*ody infuriating that they messed it up again and now are acting like they've done absolutely nothing wrong and I am just ignoring them (again) for seemingly no reason, that I am the one who is unreasonable! ARGH!

I gave him the presents as they were sent for him but I will not be showing him the stupid card.

I can't let them back in again, I don't think I could take it, my mental health will not survive. I hate the way they play it all down so it looks like they're just the doting, present sending grandparents and i'm the cruel ungrateful daughter

What's so stupid is that the only reason they keep sending parcels on birthdays etc is because they POLICE have warned them to stop contacting us, that's how serious it got. They seem to have forgotten the constant abusive phone calls and messages and then turning up at our house when we didn't even give them the address and screaming insults through the letter box when Dylan was ill in bed

I hate that they still have a way to get to me. Just because the police did not specifically say not to send parcels (the police lady had not got instructions from me about that so didn't comment either way)they are using the one form of contact they have left to their advantage.

They have been peading ignorance to their behaviour for the last 4 years in the hope that we'll eventually just 'give in' and let them treat us in the dispicable way they're used to doing. I will not accept it, ever so they can keep trying as long as they like, god, I am so angry with them. Dylan deserves 2 sets of grandparents and they have made it impossible for him to have a relationship with them, not me. If every parcel they send affects me like this i'm going to have to start sending them back, don't really want to do that as it will be seen as me reacting/contacting them.

Sorry to go on and on and on there, just feel sooo wound up!

hope you're all ok x

Hi Dal, grr at having to keep posting, always copy it before you press post, then you can always paste it if it messes up.

Can you contact the police about your parents? If you let this one go, they may take it as an indication that you are willing to put up with more abuse, thus subjecting you to more phone calls etc. Nip it in the bud to prevent any more stress.
Do you want that door bouncer?

Dal; I totally understand how and why they get under your skin but you can't keep letting them upset you like this,...sending pressies back is one option however, why deny Dylan the toys and cost yourself postage?...personally I would give him the pressies and not even open the cards, just put them straight in the bin so their words couldn't get me wound up....but that is easy for me to say... I hope writing it out 3 times [ggrr] was cathartic and you are feeling less stressed now.

NC; lol, for a second I thought you were offering Richs' sevices as a 'heavy' standing guard on Dals' front door!!!!!

Hey NC, not sure what to do. If they want to send Dylan stuff it's up to them, it's just the emotional abuse in the cards etc that upsets me... They can't respect us whatever form of contact they use. They already sent me my wedding dress for my birthday to try and make me feel bad too (they kept it since oct 2005 so was just to upset me).

Thanks for the offer of the door bouncer but we already have one, sure someone will take it though

How are you today?

hahaha FT-never read it like that.
DD1'd be more scary than Rich I reckon

Has anyone been to Formby Hall? I bought 2 spa day vouchers and they need using by Feb, but not sure if it'll be worth travelling 2.5 hours to do it, would really like to go though!
Also got 2 for Alexandra hall in Huddersfeild, only 1.5 hrs away so more manageable, really should get it booked.

Am off to my Dbs tonight for a firework display and maybe bonfire, lots of yummy food that I haven't had to cook too What is everyone else upto tonight?

am in a good mood as feeling loads better and also my phone contract is nearly finished so can get a lovely new phone that works soon! Although i've got behind on college work, will really need to make an effort next week to do some.

sorry x posted Dal, I would still ocntact the police about the emotional crap in the cards or do as FT says and rip them up before you read them. I'm just worried that they'll think because there has been no repecssions from sending the card and toys that they think they can up their harrasment campaign again, don't get upset, what's DH said?

Floria - lol at rich being my door bouncer

I know I shouldn't let it get to me. It's hard to throw the cards away cause curiosity gets the better of me and somtimes the things they write give me a clue what they might be up to next iyswim?

My mother even uses some of the presents as emotional triggers to try and get to me too.. I know it sounds silly but this time she sent a little toddler food parcel as part of it, it had goodies ginger men biscuits, car shaped pasta etc but she also included a sachet of buterscotch angel delight - this was my favourite flavour when I was little, she sent it to remind me of my 'wonderful childhood' and make me feel guilty... I know that sounds mad but it's the kind of thing she does.

Other than that she sent him a book about farms, we went to a farm/petting place last time we saw them so another way to remind me of that. She sent him a sheep, again to remind us of the farm visit.

I sound totally mad, I know what I mean anyway

NC glad you're feeling better

We're not up to much tonight with Dylan feeling a bit off, his temp seems to have gone for now but will stay in anyway. Usually have loads of people of the estate setting off thier own fireworks anyway so will no doubt have our own display out the window!

DH just thinks my parents are predictable and very annoying. Maybe I should revert to my old way of getting someone else to read the cards they send to censor them before I read them?

The only contrubution my dad made to the card was to write 'Hi Dylan, do you have a photo of you now'. My mum had to add her own scrawls around his comment even though she wrote the whole of the rest of the card, stupid control freak. She added 'recent photo' and 'please' underlined (like that wasn't obviosuly what he meant?!) she also added excalmation marks etc

That one comment from my dad made me feel really bad and guilty and I felt as if I had to send them a pic but have forced myself to just wait and think about the repercussions from that. Dh pointed out that after their behaviour they don't really deserve a photo and if I send one they might see it as an invitiation back in to my life. It's so dfficult cause i'm a naturally empathatic (sp?) person and always put myself in other peoples shoes in my head, I was thinking, 'if that was me i'd really want to see what he looked like now'. They're not me though are they, only care about themselves

Great you can get a new phone soon!

Dal-I understand what you mean about your parents, at least you know what they are trying to do by being manipulative.
I would maybe decide myself to send them 6 monthly photographs of Dylan(and bump) growing up but have no other contact?
Send the first one saying if they contact you again then they shall have no more contact from you ever.

def get them sensored before you read them too.

PS Who doesn't love butterscotch angel delight as a kid

Lol, who doesn't indeed

Hmm, will think about the photo's, not sure about bump ones, they don't know i'm pg.

Happy belated birthday Henry! Sorry I missed it.

NC - Thanks for asking - I feel a bit as though I'm treading water at the moment - but not going to bore you all with more mememe stuff! You can be sure I'll post if it all gets too much .

Did you get Shannon's soreness sorted out or has that gone of its own accord? How's your bruising now? Annoying about the pram - hope you managed to mend it ok.

FT - at 'flabby woof woofs'.

herjazz - hope your voice is better. At least you don't need it on here . Hope the antibs are working their magic.

LLL - hope you enjoyed your night out with dh.

Inzi - hope Jane is feeling better. Glad she enjoyed her party. I've been told you can keep children on calpol indefinitely - I asked a few people when I was giving Anya a lot for teething. That's the paracetamol version though, not sure about ibuprofen. Fingers crossed for Tuesday.

LES - hope you stick around - there are lots of supportive people on here, it's easy to get focused on the few who aren't.

Dal - hope Dylan is better soon as well (so many lo's with colds/viruses- poor things ). at your mum's note - I'm amazed she has the nerve to get in touch again. At least you know it's all they can do, but I can see why you'd want to send them back. I don't suppose that parcels can be added at this stage to the list of contact they can't have? (And you don't sound mad at all - she is completely manipulative.) Agree with your dh about not sending a photo - that would be an invitation to them to have more contact - you don't want to give them an excuse, and it's not as though you've not given them every chance in the past.

NC - I thought you meant a 'heavy' as well .

Hope everyone enjoyed bonfire night. We didn't go to one - thought Anya might still be a bit young. We did see lots of fireworks from the window though and she enjoyed that. I'm going out with friends tonight for a meal - looking forward to getting out and socialising a bit.