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January 2009 - Wiggly babies, wobbly mummies (well some of us) and never shall we all meet??

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LenniEd · 14/08/2009 22:22

Reverse psychology...

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moosemama · 03/09/2009 13:43

Monring - oh, its afternoon, how on earth did that happen?

Not too bad a night last night thanks news got more sleep than the previous three put together, but still nowhere near enough.

Lenni hope you all recover quickly, its awful when you are both ill at the same time and still have to look after the dcs.

Our pet insurance was beyond a joke, getting up for £75 a month for only two of the dogs and now they are both over ten the excess was huge plus we had to pay 25% of the treatment cost on top of that!

Dog we won't be going ahead with the referral. If we go back in a week like the vet asked, we will probably see a different vet (nearly always do - its a teaching practice) who will have yet another opinion or see the main vet who says the conditions are only manageable not curable (we tend to agree with her after 11 years of going round and round in circles and subjecting the poor dog to endless tests). We know she is allergic to house dust and grass so there is very little that can be done about either of those. They operation she mentioned the specialist would probably want to do is called aural resection and its where they take away part of the ear structure to allow greater air flow, but even she said this wouldn't cure the problem and wouldn't help much with the recurrent inner ear infections anyway, so imho its not fair to put an 11 year old dog through it for very little, if any, positive outcome.

at all these standing, cruising babies. I think dd must be lazy, she has pockets of trying to crawl, nearly gets there then decides its easier to manipulate her big brothers into bringing her whatever she fancies and gives up again. Its weird for me as both boys were off like rockets as soon as they were able (ds1 was proper walking at 10 months and I think ds2 was about a month behind that).

Been trying to do some reading with ds2 today and honestly, he just doesn't get it. I really thought we had made some progress, but working with him this holiday I can see that he isn't really making any progress and is still getting stuck in all the same places. I have been reading some stuff online about dyslexia this morning and it really does ring a lot of bells in relation to him. We also had a friend, who is a teacher, do some reading with him this holiday and afterwards his first words to us were "has he been tested for dyslexia?". I am going to have a quiet word with his teacher when they go back, he is still on the SN register at the school, so hopefully it shouldn't be hard to get someone to at least look into it.

I know I sound like one of those parents that insists that their children are 'special' or need help and goes round searching for problems that aren't there, but honestly, I promise I'm not. I really thought he was just a bit behind, but he seems unable to learn and retain the information he needs to read and as soon as I read the dyslexia info it just seemed to slot right into place. A good friend of ours is dyslexic and so is her daughter, she is very active and sits of committees and things relating to getting appropriate help for dyslexics at school and developing homeworking programmes for parents to help their children. I will give her a call as well I think, just to run it past her and see what she thinks.

Gumps what sort of rash is it and where? If he seems ok in himself and has no temp he is probably ok, but I think I'd probably cancel the playdate just in case if it was me.

VeryHungryLennipillar · 03/09/2009 20:03

MissJ as you say, next time but hope the meeting next week is fruitful and can't wait to hear all about it.

Pat I am down south from tomorrow so let me know if you've thought of somewhere to go on Sun. I might manage a little MNing on my phone but prob won't be able to post - text me though if I'm not on here. Anytime fine for me, although around 11 might be best since then DS will sleep on the journey from my mum's and will be up for playing rather than napping/grumping once we arrive.

Gumps I hope you enjoyed the playdate and the rash has subsided. Talking of playdates I have noticed my playdate options diminishing as more and more of DD's friends start nursery. I need to get back out into the world of M&B groups and meet some new people since otherwise DS is never going to discover the world of playdating!

Moose I would think there would be someone in your school able to do a dyslexia test with DS2. It is quick and relatively simple. So much so that in one school I worked in we did them with every child who was below a certain standard in literacy to screen for dyslexia. They need to be done face to face with a child otherwise I would link you to one - adults can do them online, but the results for a child would be misleading. There is plenty of info on the dyslexia association and dyslexia action websites iirc.

furrymonster · 03/09/2009 20:45

Hi all, goodness, what a lot of chat! No time to catch up tonight as want to go to bed soon. Hope everyone is happy and groovy. Sorry if I have missed anything huge.

DD is drinking her milk again she seems much happier although I think she may have thrush. GPs again tomorrow to check.

Had a good day today, chilled with a friend and her little one. Got jobs done.

My friend had the best thing at her house which I came home and copied She had just got a basket and filled it with household stuff for her DD to rumage through. I filled a tupperware bowl with stuff like a lid, a chinese bowl, a (clean)sock etc. I gave her the tub to choose things out of and it kept her busy for over an hour!!!!!!

Got a sofa and chair off freecycle this evening, no more crippling futon!

PatTheHammer · 03/09/2009 20:47

MissJ but Yay! for meting in london......how exciting

Moose- I second what Lenni says, they do those tests on loads of kids at my school it is quick and simple. Sorry about your dog and her complaints but agree that the insurance is extortionate!!.

Lenni- Hope you are feeling better if you are on your travels. I have been thinking of conveinient places and so far have come up with two which would be good if the weather is ok; this place is quite nice it has animals you can hand feed but no tearoom or anywhere for lunch or this place which I have never been but looks nice, no animals but has a tearoom. Anyway they are both off the A46 so basically on your way down the A417 towards junction 11A you turn off for A46/Stroud and its a short trip from there. Then you can hop back on A46 and back on the motorway ( 10mins max). I am however stuck for things if its a dodgy weather day, I am just thinking a pub or indoor play area but I will get back to you!

PatTheHammer · 03/09/2009 20:49

Furry- x-posts, glad DD is on milk again but sorry about thrush!
We call those assortments of odds and sods 'treasure baskets' and yes they keep babies occupied for hours

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 20:51

Hi all.

Bit glum this evening, some sad threads out and about. And had our last full day at home before dd1 flies the nest for school. We are on holiday or have a prepacked plan for the 2 days we are in UK iyswim. Sigh. Bit with h too. He might get his D back but not yet. He decided to cycle home, open fish and chips and splatter with fat and generally wreck the new shorts I got him for his holiday. I feel peeved about this. I got nothing new for our holiday, nor do I expect it/nned it/afford it. But for him I start a thread as he needs a makeover, buy him bits so he looks nice, less like a scruff bag and I might fancy him a bit more, but no - he has to wreck them. ANd he needs a God damn haircut.

Grrrrr. End rant.

Moose - if ds does have issues how wonderful for him he has Moosemummy to be on the ball and chase whatever it is her needs I hope the school respond in a good way.

Gumps - how's it going? Ok?

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 20:57

x-posts!

I love the treasure barkets idea. Its so funny to think if toys for little folk - my head has been wrapped in dd1's world and she is totally moved on form all that at 4.9 Her toys are tiny pets in my pockets etc. Looking forward to going all baby again!

AM very glad about the minimonster furry! Hope your feeling reassured. Thrush - we are plauged with it. Armpits and the obvious area, and also her bum crack! Clotrimazole has it banished in a day or even a half day though. H is prone to it though, it flares up now and again.

SHe is eating!!!! Praise be - it seems to have clicked. SHe scoffed the sauce I made to go with falafel. Tinned toms, dried apricots, spinach, hemp seeds [don't tell dd1 she'll spit it out] and quinoa. Loves it! Will fill freezer with it when get back. Also digs chips....fair enough.

moosemama · 03/09/2009 21:12

Thanks Lenni I've looked on the dyslexia association site today and a lot of the info certainly does seem to apply to ds2. I was shocked actually, as I was telling myself I was being daft and reading the website would put my mind at rest.

Obvious stuff like confusing not just b-d, but also, n-u and m-w and not so obvious stuff and struggling with phonics, reading a word in one sentence then not recognising it in the next sentence, finding it hard to identify letter sounds even in simple three letter/cvc words and more obscure stuff such as fist-hold, thumb up pencil grip, constantly tripping over, bumping into things and lots more things that apply to him.

Surprisingly, this doesn't worry me as much as the problems we have with ds1. I suppose its because as a recognised condition there is help available and I can learn to understand and help him myself. With ds1 its harder for myself and others to understand his problems and even harder to know how to help him.

Am starting to feel like I'm not very good at making babies with the correct 'wiring' so-to-speak though. It makes me feel like its all my fault. I am even finding myself starting to worry about dd now, what will her particular crosswire turn out to be?

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 21:20

Moooose - stop now. Brain anxiety shed collapse spirals are no good. They produce nothing usefull.

Nothing that is maybe going on is particulary rare, you are noticing it as you are clued up, intuitive, completely zoned into your boys. There are 1000's, 100 000's of families with stuff going on. Some of those parents may barely have noticed, some will have but won't deal with it for whatever reason, some will be like you. On your game and kicking ass.
There may be stuff with each ds, or it may all pass over to be replaced with teen angst and all the rest of it. Either way you will continue to be totally ace.

We all have crossed wires don't we? It's the way of things, Maybe C's will reneder her a chess champion and you can have a stellar bespoke VW van and travel Europe in your older years.

Can I come?

moosemama · 03/09/2009 21:25

Hey news, sorry you are feeling so glum, try and think of your lovely holiday and let everything else wash over you. My dh is a right scruffy mongrel as well, I've given up now and accept that his style is just varying degrees of scruffy depending on the occasion. Great news on H's eating.

Fluffy glad to hear dd is back on the white stuff. Dd has a strong affection for my wooden spoon and spatula. She also loves unpacking boxes or baskets of any shape/size or content.

My 3 dcs have been a complete nightmare today, am totally knackered and feel like I have been run over by a steamroller. Dh got just a smidgeon of a taste of my day when he put the boys to bed and came downstairs white as a sheet. He he he! Didn't think I would say it as was quite tearful at the thought of the boys going back to school next week but - ROLL ON MONDAY!

moosemama · 03/09/2009 21:29

Aw thanks News I needed that.

Ds1 is already the chess champion in our house. Dd is currently showing signs of wanting to be a dentist if her regular mouth inspections are anything to go by. Either that or some career that involves sticking her finger up people's noses!

Goes without saying, we will have an extra bunk fitted in our mega vw especially for you.

VeryHungryLennipillar · 03/09/2009 21:40

Sorry to barge in and not read through - am packing - but Pat have you been to either of these: Chedworth Roman Villa or Sherbourne Estate? Both look like there is wet and dry weather options, although not sure whether much for the DCs. Northleach nearby to both for pub/cups of tea... pub sounds great to me

VeryHungryLennipillar · 03/09/2009 21:41

Just saw your post Pat - off to look at websites.

VeryHungryLennipillar · 03/09/2009 21:46

Garden looks beautiful, and although the Prinknash website has given me a headache that looks good too. Think DD would prefer Prinknash and I'm quite intrigued by the monks and the abbey!

VeryHungryLennipillar · 03/09/2009 21:51

((Hugs)) Moose and Tree - the shorts thing would have me spare too Tree. Don't worry too much Moose, you are an excellent Mum and dyslexia is so common, it won't harm DS2 at school, not with you on the case.

Off now - Pat unless I hear different, will meet you at 11am at Prinknash. Let me know on my mobile if plans change. Looking forward to it.

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 21:59

He brought me a bar a green and blacks.

Hmmm. Its all very well isn't it, but I hate this smudging of the lines between who is who. DH floats between being a helpfull father figure [ie my father] doing handy jobs about the home, and the 3rd child who needs packing for. Which makes me a dependant daughter and also big mamma figure.

How does one work a sex life and adult companionship into that????????????

Am so very new to this longterm relationship stuff.

VeryHungryLennipillar · 03/09/2009 22:05

I think you have rather succintly summarised the roles of most men in most families Tree. Adult companionship comes with time and shared experience ime, a sex life... er, a work in progress atm! Give us another 6 months to redefine that one.

Really going now - someone keep check on the thread though, not so far off a new one.

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 22:41

He also brought luxury rice pudding. ok. Forgiven.
Have a nice time Lenni

New thread soon. How many have we had?

moosemama · 03/09/2009 22:51

News have to agree with Lenni you have perfectly described the average male in most families. Dh is exactly the same half partner/carer half additional child.

Luxury rice pudding would definitely swing it for me, rice pudding is one of my favourite comfort foods when I'm poorly (although obviously not at the moment with my no/very low fat diet going on). My lot had chips from the chippy tonight - I had a salad pitta.

Lenni Chedworth Roman villa used to be a favourite day out for our family, we loved it. I also went there on a school trip. That said, I think its more for older children who understand a bit about Romans.

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moosemama · 03/09/2009 23:12

I hear ya Dog I've been a horrible shouty Mummy today and am thoroughly ashamed of myself.

You are a great Mum, try not to be so hard on yourself. Everyone has bad days, we just have to try and chalk them up to experience and move on.

Maybe its something astrological? Its a full moon on the 6th, maybe we are working up to it.

Right am off to bed.

Hope everyone has a better day tomorrow.

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 23:14
missjackson · 03/09/2009 23:24

tree, moose, dog you all sound like excellent and lovely mothers to me so stop feeling guilty. Just the fact that you care about how you parent makes you waaaaay better than 99% of everyone else.

And tree, if you want to meet scruffy, meet my DH! He walked around our recent festival wearing dirty jodphurs, great big boots and a wax gilet! I think some of the Londoners thought he was pretty damn cool .

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 23:34

I am fine with the scruffy really. Especially after a slab of green and blacks and the rice pud....

I think its because they were new and for the holidays you know? God when I get new stuff it so rare I look aften it like a baby!

speaking of which...

I looked a total loon at my recent festival going, I was so determined to wear the lovely summery skirt I brought I just wore it over leggings and with a bobble hat! I looked bonkers
Poor dd2 found herself with a pair of leggings for a hat and in 3 pairs of trousers and some babylegs. Ha! Not really selling the family camping thing am I?

newspaperdelivery · 03/09/2009 23:36

..yes, the baby. Must go - I hear spluttering and whimpers.

Thanks MissJ. Am Still trying to walk the fine line between caring and worrying all the time.
Any tips on that one gratefully recieved!