July 2008- The wonderful/ whingey Ones! - Delete as approriate!

[pigleychez]

Shiney new thread now our Bubbas are One.

The wonderful/Whingy Ones!

hi bebe good to see your back

sympathise with the ms im looking for a lightweight wheelchair right now as we went to legoland today and i didnt take my sticks stupid of me really, but with not much strength in my arms they are quite useless anyway, sounds like little P had a good time,

legoland was great the boys had a lovely time and it was precious watching them have fun and samuel laughing away, im going to put a pic on here tonight of samuel .

he loved the train and dino safari, fairy tale brook he was smiling away with not a care in the world......

well tired here so night time i think, hope all you guys are well and new bubbas ok xxxx

thanks everyone for thinking of me. I'm feeling a whole lot better now. I actually ate yesterday and shared cake with DH!

This situation with my friend is really frustrating because my ex sort of had the ear of all my friends when I left him and smeared my name pretty bad, and it's almost like I lost custody of my friends there. It's been 7 years but still stings. DH was really thoughtful about it and said to consider it collateral damage. My ex was an abusive jerk and I had to do whatever I could to get away.
Sorry to moan, I've just never talked about this and that's the end of it, amen.

Anyway, It's so nice to be able to eat again.

Mini - glad to hear your mum and SIL are on the mend...all of that at once must be really hard to bare. so sorry about your nan.

SK - have so much respect for you now. Toddlers into everything and being sick and tired. blah.

Pigley - this is way different than last time isn't it?

Bebe - glad you are back from hols, awful about the MS flaring up. Let us know how you get on with the docs.

Bebe- that your break wasnt quite so relaxing and that the MS is flaring up again.
Its so hard when they dont see the GP's that often and that they dont get that bond easily isnt it. DH and I have decided that we will need to make more of an effort to get Abigail more used to them what with Number 2 on the way. We are hoping to ask them to have Abigail when i go into labour. But then they are an hours drive away so could be tricky if i dont get much warning. Ahhh so much harder with Abigail to worry about this time too.

Jodie- Im 8 weeks tomorrow and huge! So many people have started noticing and dropping hints at me. Yeah my parents know and are really pleased as are the inlaws.
DH's job- Yeah he started there in November so not really that long. Not ideal changing jobs again so soon, but has a reasonable reason what with the travelling and a young family.

Mcchesers- Glad to hear your feeling better and able to eat again.
Yeah, totally different this time. Not really sure why but just feels different.
Plus more to think about with a LO. Im already starting to worry about leaving Abigail when I give birth and dreading staying in hospital without her
Also the actual birth is starting to play on my mind after my horrible experience with Abigail.

DH has gone to a client site today and had to leave at 5am. Typically Abigail woke as he was leaving so its been a looonnggg morning and im knackered already! Will probably be home late tonight too.

Pigley, just a quick one to say go get that debrief on A's birth!! DD1 was a dreadful birth (IMHO ), and the debrief helped me hugely. And DDs 2 and 3 were much better - I know it gets said all the time on here but every birth is different.

do u guys use toothpase when brushing your lo's teeth?

M2L - I use 'Milk Teeth' toothpaste for P, just the tiniest smear of it on the toothbrush, luckily she loves it!

Pigley - would def consider having that debrief about A's birth. From what I've read could be really beneficial, and I think I would look to do it 2nd time round as well.

Saw GP this morning & he is ringing my consultant to talk it over with him what course of action to take. So watch this space, could be another stint in hospital for me!

Really playing on my mind if it is just selfish of me to have any more kids. Think it's just coz I'm feeling low. I just don't want P to be alone. And 90% of the time I'm fine, it's just so agrevatingly unfair!! Just want to walk properly again, I know it's not forever & it will improve, but for now, it sucks!! Sorry, mini rant over!

P is hilarious at the moment, she is just so smart sometimes! She loves making us laugh, a proper little clown, she very deliberately does things that she knows we will find funny as she looks for the response & falls about laughing when she gets it! Today she has started saying 'go' when we say 'ready, steady.....', very cute. She has also perfected her "Roar" when you ask what noise a lion makes & can make a 'Owwwwwww' noise for a Peacock too. Also holds her hand out, points to it and says 'garden' for 'round & round the garden'! Just can't believe how much she is learning every day! No wonder we are knackered, it's non stop!!

hi everyone

had the excitement that is the GP appointment this morning, he even had the cheek to mention "like shelling peas" only a man would ever say that. Still that's me all booked in and official. Yes it's hard with the dog tiredness and the school/nursery runs with B as well, DP being away from 6.30am-6pm and no family help but ho hum

bebe - it's great isn't it, it's such a fast growing and learning stage this, B is just a little sponge just goes about copying her sisters, DD1 was all chuffed today she said "Abbie" at her, she cannot say "Talia" it's a loe harder but she knows who she is. I have no advice about having another, I think from what you have written you really want another one but are scared about the impact it will have on P especially. I cannot imagine what it feels like, I know how down I was being immobile with the SPD and I knew it would go. Can you look at coping strategies instead to make your life easier, could P go to nursery/childminder a few hours a week to give you a break, practical things like a cleaner, your DH working different hours to give you more help?

M2L - yes use toothpaste here, childrens stuff, B loves getting her teeth brushed, she chases after you going "ahhhhhh" with her mouth open, you are trying to brush DD1 or 2's teeth and there is a little person going "ahhhhhhh" round your ankles

pigley - agree get a birth debriefing and remember second births are usually a lot quicker and easier than firsts

Jodie - 9+2 weeks and feeling like I have a constant hangover

mcchesers - poor you but glad you are feeling a bit better

Right ladies I am off to bed, had a sore head for days now and trying to get rid of it by sleeping it off

evening all,

Poledra - Thanks. I think I will ask about one at my booking in appointment.

M2L- Yeah we too use the "first teeth" one. Only a smudge though as Abigail like to suck it off the brush! She loves to brush her teeth ( all 2 of them!)

Bebe- Def with on the constant learning. Everyday Abigail amazes me with a new word or something.

SK- Hope your headaches improves soon

Ive been feeling pretty grotty the past few days which is pants. This morning the MS got me! I missed it totally with Abigail but doesn look like im going to be so lucky this time.
Plus so tired at the mo as DH has been working away and we seem to have a busy social week this week. Managed to nap with Abigail this afternoon which was nice.

Had 2 swimming lessons this week. 1 was a catch up for the one we missed on holiday. Thankfully Abigail is better than she was and isnt so much of a limit to me! She is doing really well with the actual underwater swimming. The instructor took an underwater pic of her which im hoping she lets me have a copy of. Im knackered today though with all that swimming.

hi ladies

i am "working from home" so have just had a quick skim

pigley - sorry to hear about your hubby's job move. hope something works out. my dh works in sweden and commutes but gets home in time to bath elodie and put her down which we are all happy about.

mcchesers - so sorry to hear about your friend - must be really awful. hope all is well with you.

sk - glad the scan went well. seems like its going really smoothly compared to the last time with all our early angst and scans and bleeding. god, it was horrendous. I felt kind of robbed of the joy of first pregnancy (if there is such a thing)

hi to disney, jodie, mini, poledra, rumpel and everyone else!

we are doing good here. my parents are coming over today so I have been cleaning up - haha!
they are going to spoil elodie wickedly.

its getting a bit embarassing at nursery - they constantly comment on her clothes and shoes. I didn't think she had that many but my mum loves to buy her stuff and she's cute so i enjoy making her look nice.

but I am beginning to think that the "pedagogues" at nursery kind of look down on me for it for being superficial or something. or maybe i am just a bit oversensitive.

I have had a few issues with them recently though - sometimes they sound a bit rough or impolite and it may be because of the language issue but i perhaps i don't stand up for myself enough because i want them to be nice to my daughter.

anyway, better get on with some "work". have a great day!

hi tjuice really lovely to hear from you again, i often look at your pics on FB and miss elodie is a very beautiful little girl
have fun with your parents too.

not much to report here really took Samuel to the docs for his pre op swabs was in there an hour and then complained and left apparantly they forgot to book us in so werve got to go back friday now.....

not really thinking about it now i know its looming but if i think about it it makes me so sad and i cry so its best i deal with it when it happens which is under 1 month now

hope everyone is well and ok xxxx

TJuice - hello again!!

Disney - Big Hugs as always!! xx

Anyone have any ideas how I can help P start feeding herself with her spoon? She gets so stroppy with me trying to feed her but just can't seem to do it herself although she is fab with finger food! I swear she would eat nothing but toast given half a chance! Also on that note, any ideas on lunches? I tend to give P toast/sandwich & yoghurt/fruit (or both if she seems hungry) but that has to be boring for her right? I'm stuck in a food rut...again!

Still haven't heard back from my GP about the MS relapse so will have to ring him in the morning! And just to cheer me up AF arrived this evening, so really hope that if I do end up in hospital it won't be til next week!!

Gonna try for an early night! Little bit of bejewled first though!!!

Tjuice- Glad you are doing well and are all happy

Disney- How annoying about the appointment!

Bebe- re spoon.. we have been loading Abigails sppon up for her for a while and she feeds herself easily like that. We now let her try to scoop it up herself but it depends on the food. Soft "wet" foods are best as the stick the spoon easier. Ie Shepherds pie, fish pie.

Lunches- Cheese on toast, pasta in a cheese sauce, fruit bread, filled pittas.

Well Dh is away tonight. He was had to go away on business overnight and not home till late tomorrow so poor Abigail wont see him till Fri now He did come home and have dinner with us tonight before he went which was nice. Feel abit loney on my own though.

Thanks for the comments on his job. Things have taken another interesting turn today. He found out today what his pay rise would be. Extra two and a half grand! So pretty good. He was on very good money to start with and now is on excellent money! Still doesnt really wanna commute though but doubts he will get that money closer to home... Such a nightmare. Seems his boss has spoken about reduced hours so he can get home earlier. Something else he needs to look into.

Got my appointent through for my booking appointment at the hospital and the form i need to return for my scan. Feels abit more real now!

hi bebe hope things settle down soon for you, and it gets sorted, i wonder if we have the same consultant

pigley so its good and bad news then, like us my dh has to work the hours he does and is hardly here too but the pay is good, but i really look forward to the weekends with us all together, shame we cant have the best of both worlds isnt it, decent money and them home every day at a reasonable hour well i can dream

also everytime i was pregnant even though i knew i was it wasnt till the scan and i saw on screen i actually believed it,

wheres dh got to commute to then pigley, how far?

Disney - GRH has 4 neurolgy consultants & i have seen all 4!!! I hate the neurology ward at the top of the tower though, always seems full of the over 80's!!

Pigley - have tried loading her spoon just usually she looks at the loaded end and grabs it with her other hand and throws it everywhere!!! I think she does it just to wind me up!!

bebe i know what you mean about the people in there, and it is always full of over 80,s people except when we walk in there

samuel will now only feed him self im not allowed to help him he gets so stressed

he has a 4 compartment suction bowl in it was
mash potato
little cubes of beetroot (his fav)
bits of fish
sweetcorn
and always a cup of prune juice (were hoping this works as hes always constipated.)

tonight he will have
tiny bit of cut up sweet and sour pork
rice
brocolli
and the prune juice, but he like it though

i load his spoon whilst hes not looking and he picks up and eats.

on fb we were all talking about the drinking cups i have a bickipeg cup no lid he uses this for meals a few spills but quite good really

today we are buying a new tv we have 42 inch but we got it 7 years ago and the picture quality isnt great and has no hdmi socket for xbox 360 or a ps3
so hunting around online here my dh is like a new mum with a newborn

hes def a gadget man.

Morning all

Re the spoon thing, I operate the two-spoon principle - O gets a spoon of her own which she sometimes gets some food on and sometimes gets into her mouth while I have a second spoon and feed her while she's distracted guddling about in her bowl. If it's things that can be eaten with her fingers (e.g. fish and chips), I just leave her to get on with it. She loooves peas but it can be excruciatingly painful waiting while she picks up each one individually to put it in her mouth! Oh, and we discovered the othe day she likes brussels sprouts too! DD1 loves them, so I have 2 of the strangest children on the planet

Disney a couple of years ago,we bought a 40'' flatscreen LCD - since we could no longer get to the cinema, we treated ourselves to the big telly instead. DH is dreadful though, he kept putting off buying one till this gadget or that was on it till I said, no we're buying it NOW! He still mutters every so often when he sees how much they've come down in price since we bought it but I think we've had the pleasure of using it for the two years we had it, and the decrease in price was always going to happen, IYSWIM. He can be a real tightwad sometimes

Hi everyone...only had a quick scan of posts...sorry always seem to be rushing in and out these days Been busy clearing grandma's house and working Anyway I'm on October hols now and dc's finish up tomorrow it is ds4's birthday today...my wee man is 4 today!!! He got a bike and had said he wanted one without "those things at the side"(stabilisers) So dh built the bike and left the stabilisers off to see what he would do.... he got on first time and off he went no problem at all.....my little star!!!!

Hope you are all well!!

Pigley....each time I have had another baby I have cried going to hospital because I have to leave the others.....it's normal and soon passes when you get into the midst of things Don't worry you'll be fine

hi all well he got his tv so alls well, he wanted a 60 inch i firmly said NO so a 42 inch was got but its nice and ive got the other 42 inch in my bedroom now.

mini what a clever little or should i say big boy now and yes a total superstar i say just riding it bless him

pigley everytime i was pregnant i always always cried but its unfair on the other/s they dont understand and ive worried myself silly over each labour, apart from samuels i really embraced that i loved it,
its very natural to feel the seperation issues remember M2L before having A,
but it will be ok so relax and enjoy you lucky lady you

feel a bit alone tonight no idea why just a lost feeling im trying hard not to focus on things to do with hospitals,

really tough here regarding food issues with my ds4 hes 8 but he only weighs 2 stone 3 now hes gone up a bit, hes so tiny he has crouzons too and has endured many ops and many more to come plus heart surgery, hes also got arthritic psoriasis which is painful in itself,
well he was tube fed for years as he coudnt swallow but he hates food
he eats now but is machine fed always has been over a 12 hour period in the night, trying new foods all the time textures etc.....im very patient but its hard to have my smiley mummy face on all the time, he cries when the tube is inserted but actualy smiles when his tummy is full up,
i shoudnt moan i am blessed with my boys but its just hard work right now, i never imagined id have 3 boys with so complex medical problems. never mind onwards and upwards

disney I have so much admiration for your resilience and patience. don't be so hard on yourself when you feel down...allow these feelings to come out..it's normal and natural and will allow you to carry on.....my love and thoughts are with you xxxx

thank you so much mini xxxx

well samuel had his 3 pre op jabs today how he cried it was horrible my dh held him whilst they injected and swabbed him i think he hated being held down, he clung to my neck like a monkey afterwards
hes asleep now but keeps whimpering i think im going to give him calpol when he gets up.

my other 2 get respite care every other saturday now so they will love it, there also with other sn children,
plus the hospice/respite centre are taking them out for a day on the 14th november along with a group for a fun day

anyway got to go as dh picking them up from school which is nice as its raining and the weather has got so cold here now
sure can tell its autumn

hope you ladies are ok and the lovely bubbas

and all the pregnant ladies take care x

Feeling really cross today! GP said he would ring me today to tell me if he had spoken to the consultant. Said 'give me til after lunch' when I spoke to him yesterday. Rang up at 2 today to be told 'oh he doesn't do surgery on Friday he isn't here'!!! Was ringing mainly because I have had a letter telling me I have a consultant appt next Friday, kind of wanted to know what had been said & if GP knew as letter was posted yesterday & he told me yesterday he hadn't spoken to them!!! Numbness getting worse, starting to be difficult to know when I need the loo and legs are so wobbly it takes me a while to get there when I need to!! I'm 26 FFS, just so depressing feels like I'm 86!!

Rant over!

On a brighter note, sort of, P has 2 new molars poking through, poor thing has been 'weird' for a couple of days now I know why!! (Although she hasn't been as bad as I thought she would with these ones!) She also slept for 3hours this lunchtime!! She has also decided that she wants to sit in her Bumbo which she hasn't used since about April!! Dragged it out and plonked herself in it, sort of!!

Disney - Hope Sam is ok after the jabs poor little guy xxx

bebe hes ok really hes a bit whimpery but asleep, he had some calpol and its calmed him

bebe try to calm down over the numbness i know easier said than done but the more you stress and worry it doesnt help it , sounds like another episode doesnt it, you poor thing i know your only 26 im nearly 42 and my dh helps me to the toilet often now, and when i have my AF i have no choice and i often feel embarrassed but i simply cant manage
big hugs to you, have they suggested therapy at all, its supposed to help, maybe you can get a quicker appt, i hope you get it sorted out soon, does your dh help you with things?

i love P doing round and round the garden little cutie she is.

sorry that sounded like a thousand questions

GP rang at 6pm from home!! So come back all I said! He pulled strings to get me seen that quick so can't grumble really. MS nurse also rang back and thay are going to try and help. Just want to have the steroid treatment so I can get on with my life!!

glad thats sorted , and he rang from home too, thats good isnt it.

have a good weekend all, xxxx