Sept 08: The End of an Amazing year

[Pacita]

Here we are: the thread that will see our LO's first birhtday...

lol at wee drip. Freudian slip.

I am in a very very very bad mood. I am trying not be a precious first time mother about T's birthday, but I am being driven to it! First, my mother and step dad aren't coming. I was a little bit hurt, but mostly cross because it means less dilution of the company of DP's family (who are mad diddly mad). But never mind, I will cope.
And then this morning I have also just found out that DP invited his aunt, uncle, cousin and niece to the 'quiet, grandparents only' birthday party that we had planned and agreed on. It's bad enough that I have to share every single moment of T's life with his parents (and I am not being an unreasonable DIL here, he thinks that they are mad too), but I have to host a whole load of people that I don't even want at T's birthday party. And I can't get revenge by inviting every single relative on my side because we can't fit them in the bloody house. Gaaaaahhhhh.
Obviously there's a whole lot more to the story - I am bored of having to involve DP's parents/family in the minutiae of T's life, and I thought that for once I was in control of the situation, among other things.

I cannot believe that I am just on the verge of crying about this, it is ridiculous. But I am so cross! What do I do? Do I have to just grin and bear it?

hopefully that sounds really frustrating. No advice I'm afraid as DH's family are in Ireland and my family wouldn't come to a birthday party (well my sister might) so there's no point organising a family one

I would let your DP do the hosting - ie if he wants food/tidying up ... he organises it

I am settling (for the moment) for punishing DP by eating all the biscuits in the house so that there are none for him this afternoon . I also burst into tears on the phone to him just now. Terribly mature.

hopefully this doesn't sound awfully thoughtful of him. Is he aware of how upset this makes you?

He is now! He said 'I didn't think...' in that lame way that some men do when they've been silly. I feel so stupid being hurt about it, but I feel like so many things in T's early months haven't gone the way that I wanted, often due to DP's family refusing to leave us be, and that this was finally completely under control. Grrrr. What's so frustrating is that there is no other solution but for me to deal with it and move on.

hopefully you poor thing Can you organise something extra special for just the three of you on the day so the one with the relatives is just a secondary party that dh has to organise?

starlight and whoever else asked on the previous page...ds self weaned from booby juice the day before he turned 9m. He has 5oz ff first thing and 4oz at 3pm after his nap. He takes the occassional sip from the doidy cup at meal times. I can't leave drinks around for him coz he can't move, and when I've given him a tommee tippee free flow cup he's just bashed it around and spilled water everywhere. Attempts to put it in his mouth and tip it have not gone well!

Hows the house selling going debi?

Hopefully Tell dp you want to take T out for the day just the 3 of you, no gp's allowed. am I right it was your fil that took T for his first walk in the buggy which upset you way back last year?
Agree get him to sort out the party if he wants his family there. Or how about no party at all.

carrie ds2 has the same ff as your ds except he does usually finish his 4oz in the aft and only has about 2oz at bedtime. He has got better at drinking water though after being made to get used to it on holiday when it was hot.

House selling not going very fast yet but then it only officially went on market on Fri and onto rightmove over weekend. As you saw on facebook a viewing has cancelled for this aft but assuming the EA isn't lying its coz it was a doctor who was on call and got called in and she wants to reschedule.

debs75 That was me whose FIL took DD for her first buggy walk. Ah, the memories!!!

What do you think of this name change?

who is it?

It's Ponymum in disguise! I do like the name but there is a PelvicFloorNoMore on here and some people get very territorial about their names on MN.

I guess you'll have to grin and bear it Hopefully, but I would get dp to do everything for the party and never let him forget it

Ah, well I wouldn't like to offend any other MNer! I'll change it back.
Although I do rather like it...

Good name, but agree with ILTMIMI

Now I'm a bit bored that we're getting to the first birthday and no-one is pg again. Get on with it girls!

Be our guest Starlight

what about all thiose absent from this thread - one of them MUST be pg. Should we do a bit of sleuthing?

I'm back.

I agree Angrystar. A most unacceptable situation. (And btw, I am currently doing all I can to right this. Unfortunately I think my ovaries must be too busy trying to find their reading glasses so they can send off for their bus pass. )

hopefully, your DP has some grovelling and fixing things to do, methinks.

Yep. I reckon he can make it up to you H with a new baby! Take the pressure off T I reckon. He can't carry all the hopes and wishes of DP's family on his shoulders - it isn't fair!

Can I ask, - does my new (temp) name make me sound mean?

Um yes, it is quite an aggressive name. Where as Starlight is a lovely and soft name. Where does StarlightMackenzie come from?

Do you remember the people who have fallen along the wayside Ninja? I'm crap at remembering people, plus I only joined the thread in either Aug or Sept (although I lurked for ages).

ponymum - have you ever read a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility? It is a great book imo. It tells you how to chart to either get pregnant, or as a type of contraception. It taught me so many things about my body and covers lots of important factors about ttc.

Um... yeeeees.

But is that maybe what you need from it? What are you up to?

And I meant to add that you are not a mean or aggressive person AT ALL.

at your ovary image ponymum

I'm trying to be mean.

Not here, - but in rl with the blardy LA. Recently I've found that I go crazy with irritation at wasps that WILL NOT go away, - and I want to be the wasp that hounds the Local Authority until they abandon their lovely picnic they are guarding so jealously and let me take my pickings!

Make sense, - and ILTMIMI I have no idea where McKenzie comes from. Sorry there isn't a profound explanation! Starlight on it's own was taken.

OMG! starlight are you saying you took a name close to another MNer? Did she get mad at you?

And I hope you succeed and spoil the picnic real bad!