August 08 - they can sit, they can crawl, they can walk, and some can even sleep!

[Miamla]

hope you find me girls! the other one is completely full so i can't do a link to here!

Hope noone minds if i just witter on to myself. We were only saying the other day that things were going better between us and now it is all rubbish again. I can see that we could have such a great life but we cant find a way to deal with disagreement. And it isn't all him by a long stretch. I just get days when i lord my cool over a little thing and reason goes out the window and i cant tell when to drop the argument. He argues back and it all just escalates. So upsetting for all of us. I am calling english counsellor tomorrow. So that is a start. I need to post myself out whether or not dh and i have a future together.

Hi vg. Dr would not prescribe any ads to me because bfing. He then remembered st johns wort so gave me that. But isn't always effective as an ad and according to mn not effective at all for pnd. Dh says i am being selfish for continuing to bf and should stop to take other ads. This all happened today.

What a waste of a bank holiday. Tis a beautiful day too.

And you know what, i like my life here i really do and i want to make the best of it. Coming back to the uk terrifies me. No guarantee of work, not even sure if i qualify for benefits being so long away. No place to stay. Oh i know it would all work out but at what cost?

You put it very well vg. I know it isn't all my fault, this argument maybe mostly, but not everything. And i am not sure it is necessarily pnd as have had this before dd. But maybe stresses of parenthood don't help. I think dh is being lazy in his attitude very much take the pills and they will fix it. He says he is sacred to come home at night. Not sure why as he comes home to a cooked dinner, clean flat, sleeping baby and a cold beer.

Of course you are right and the difficulties of coming back to uk wouldn't stop me. I do love him, but the whole thing has worn me down. The arguments get more frequent and more dramatic. We are both lost and i dont know whether to stay or go. Don't worry not looking to be told what to do just need to get things of my chest.

No sage advice Steaky but lots of virtual, flu free, hugs ((((((((steaky))))))). VG is a wise old bird

steak sorry you've had a rough time of it lately. Was depressed when I was a student, very dark days. What helped was this and this. I dont like to talk so they suited me and although it took years, I got there in the end. Dp's son from previous relationship was addicted to ads for over 5 years and had suicidal thoughts whenever he didnt take his 1/4 tablet when trying to wean himself off them, so they do frighten me a bit.

just met my friend's baby, absolutely gorgeous. His name is Carlos. So small, he is 9lbs, I cant remember ds being that size. I would love another baby !!!!!

wotcha cc thanks for the hugs and well done master caveman on sports day.

gah just got accused of being a benefit sponger because I asked if anyone knew if I was entitled to benefits. sigh

thanks sambo oooh brand new baby sounds delish.

Steak VG has very tactfully and kindly said everything I would have said, including the question of whether this is actually PND. Unless you're sure in yourself that it is AND you've had a diagnosis from a professional following a thorough assessment, I really wouldn't give yourself that label tbh. The impression I've got from all our threads is that any down feelings you have started after all the arguments with your H, not the other way around.

Anyway, VG is also right to say that we have no idea what's going on between you two really. Just remember though, the question isn't do you still love him, it's can you both still love each other. IMO.

cyteen tis true all you say. When we saw the dr then he asked why we thought pnd and we said and he said "okay". I think I might look for an english speaking dr to try to sort this mess out. I really have got myself in a tangle.

steak really feeling for you. you're having such a rough time at the moment. I think the other ladies have really said it all, and I don't think I can match their sensitivity and tact. But I do know how difficult it is when the arguments flare up. I really don't know what to say, except to reiterate what the others have already said.

I've had a lovely visit with an old friend from London. he's out of work at the moment, so he finally had time to meet up. Seb loved him.
Sadly S seems to have a bit of the 'dire rear' at the moment as well. He's off his food as well (very unusual), and pooing mucusy vile smelling poo.
On the good side, I've seen a job advertised which would be ideal for me. It's just what I'm looking for, and isn't too far away - easily reachable by train. Will be sending in CV tomorrow, so wish me luck ladies.

Good luck Ann! Hope Seb's bum gripe clears up too, that's no fun for either of you.

On my way into town today I saw a car full of people including a girl in the back with a baby about DS's age on her lap Wtf is wrong with people? This town makes me depressed sometimes.

Thanks cyteen . Seb doesn't seem too miserable thankfully. maybe it's teething related? Can teething cause yukky poos? he's getting the two top teeth through now.

Know what you mean about seeing lo's in cars with no car seat. but then their parents are probably of the sort who refuse to use seat belts

Yeah, there wasn't a whole lot of seat belt action going on either.

Teething definitely linked to sore botties in my experience - Joe is teething at the moment (not that I'm expecting anything to come through...ever) and his bum is red I read somewhere that the excess saliva produced while teething disrupts the pH balance of the stomach and causes unhappiness. DS has certainly crapped his leg off the last few days so maybe something's on its way after all.

Yeah, lots of hideous nappy rash here too. So maybe the tummy is to do with teeth then. There's one poking through already, and the other is on its way by the look of it.

evening all, strange day here - hope those feeling rough a little better and that inclused physical and mental ailments

Ann - let him have lots of lovely nappy free time to get the air in about him and TEETHA powders are the best thing ever for teething

hots how was the vanilla cake?