August 08 - they can sit, they can crawl, they can walk, and some can even sleep!

[Miamla]

hope you find me girls! the other one is completely full so i can't do a link to here!

cyteen ds does that too now. They definitely know whats what these days dont they. I have had my head in my hands today too. I think it's teeth as he's pulling his ears - he screamed for 1.5 hours this morning after breakfast because he didnt want to go to sleep I have nothing sensible to say except I always pick him up and cuddle him and then feed him to sleep - exactly what your supposed to not do I think. Oh well.

The wire will have to wait apparently, celebrity masterchef is more important than quality time spent a deux
We have cancelled our tv contract and the damn thing is going in the loft in 3 weeks heh heh heh

ts you're day sounds great.
dizzy the photo's are gorgeous, what beautiful girls you have. I am glad the day went well, and the weather looked great too.
oops what a cheeky fecker, what on earth was so urgent for her when she was coming round later anyway.
Hope you have/had a wonderful evening anyway.

cyteen hope you managed to settle ds, sorry no advice, as I have routine and then cave in and cuddle if I need to.

ds got bit of temp tonight, but gone to bed ok,if a little early. Bless him, he has been very sweet,despite been pushed over 3 times by dd.
sambo glad you enjoyed soft play. Lots of people hate them, but I go every week,sometimes twice a week as well as toddler group.They are my lifeline when days are tough/rough

although today I did not cuddle him because I was too premenstrual and cross so I did some ironing whilst listening to his wailing then felt guilty and cuddled him. Not a good day. His little tear stained snotty face was rebuke enough

oh no cyteen and sambo, I had similar this afternoon but she was overtired and I ended up cuddling her to sleep, putting her down to more screaming so had to leave her all hell was breaking loose downstairs so I had no choice

DD2 has started scratching DD1 for no good reason, on the arm and just a couple of times but am hoping to have solved it before it escalates

dh apparently on his way home - not convinced though

x post sambo I think it is teeth here too, ds has been pulling/tugginh his ear.
I could live without tv, in fact dh is on nights tonight and I never have it on when he isn't here anyway, and dcs are limited to what and how much.

no1* have been wondering how you manage to fit in making your beautiful bears with 2 dcs - I am in awe. It has taken me 3 months to hem some curtains

thank you all for kind comments and the eagle eyed amongst you I am actually in a photo

dizzy I am ata loss as what to do with my dd hitting ds, thought it would have calmed down by now. It is making me very Hv says she will put her in to see Psychologists if she doesn't improve soon. She told me I was dealing with it the right way, and that sibling rivalry is common and in a way normal but she is at the extreme end of the scale.

Dizzy did you see where a 2 day baby boy is without a name. His mother is desperate for help. Baby O'Dwyer!

sambo I havn't made any for a while, but I am planning to. You see if I wasnt sat here then I could get sooo much done
dizzy are you the lovely one in the Blue??

We've had terrible nights for much of the last week with heartbreaking wailing. It is just awful isn't it?

Off to check Dizzy's pictures in a mo .

I got thrown off the computer this morning before I could send best wishes to the little boy with the burns on his arms. How awful for his mum.

No1 - you made me buy a jumper at 1am this morning when I'd finished doing computer work for DH. AS VG will attest, I am a big fan of stripy children's clothes. Thanks for the link to that.

Cyteen- we've just got The Wire on DVD to take on hols with us. I'm really looking forward to it.

crap! 2 day old baby boy (forgot the old)

here

No1 I have a book called siblings without rivalry, have you heard of it?

Glad to be of help red
Oh I forgot to mention that about that poor boy's arms I was telling my dsis today, I bet the poor mum feels awful.

dizzy no I havn't will find out and order it from my local library.

x-post No1.

Sorry the sibling thing is so tricky at the moment. You are doing the right things and so it will come right.

I found that at the age your DD is at, both of mine were much stronger than they thought. DS was particularly rough, so in desperation, I got him to lie on a large piece of paper and we drew around him and then decorated the cut out.

Then we chatted about what he must look like/feel like to other people when he moved about.

He genuinely had no sense of his own physical presence and it was a major wake-up call to him but with no obvious moralising attached. Might that be an idea?

The levels of talking here are about to go up another notch.
DD2 picked up a toy torch today and started shouting 'allaaa' into it in the manner of a small Dom Joly.

lol at Dom Joly that has made my day. I really am laughing out loud here. Bless her.

That is a good idea, might try it, it's just Iam not sure how much she grasps. In one way she is very clever and crafty, and then other times I think I am waffling on at her and she looks at me like WTF am I going on about.
I am just so worried/conscious about negative attention. I don't want her to get in the habbit of that(recieving it from me I mean) as it can be a very difficult one to break. Anyhow I am sure it will pass.

banana and pecan loaf anyone??

My mouth is watering now, so I am going for a glass of water.

See the willpower

hi VG, bye VG

No1, my dd1 is quite physical naturally. She has a temper like a viper too. I'm sure I'd be in the same boat with you had Reese been born at less than the 4.5 year gap.

I've found that a whole lot of my dd1's aggressive behavior comes from growth. During growth spurts (and even breaking teeth) she is less able to control her anger and the physical nonsense escalates.

In the past and even now when I see that storm coming I bring out the ibuprofen. Oddly it tends to calm her. The pain of growing isn't something little folks can relate to us. It must get overwhelming to them. Not to mention with each growth spurt there is a hormonal surge that happens too. It's not chart topping like our cycle but it is a burst of the unfamilar which can lead to irrational behavior or behavior they can seem to control.

Whenever dd1 has had a bad moment I always make a point to reflect on it. Our reflections have grown as she's grown. She can now verbalize how scary it is/was to loose control in a fit of anger. I've worked with her over the years to help her understand the situation when it occurs and given her skills to help cope. Taking a breath is a BIG skill. She understands now that when she feels like punching (me) that if she takes a breath she can regain some of her self control. There are still times when she'll scream, "I DON'T WANT TO TAKE A BREATH!" Time will work for us though. It's the realization bit that is helping us now.

Your little girl is probably not yet on the cusp of realizing what she's doing. It's a caveman response. She's mad. She hits. End of story. That will change.

I hope this little insight into my world of problems helps you OR helps you see we all got problems.

looks like I x-posted with everyone.
HI!!!

How awesome VG for your BIG BOY!! That first trip alone for me was thrilling so I totally understand how he feels right this moment. YOU ARE AN AWESOME MOM!!

vg Hi. Bless you're ds1 how very grown up. I can only imagine how you were feeling.
I would have been welling up.
Feeling proud and sad at the same time.

ts thanksyou for that.
I agree I have to be consistant and explain away anyway, as she will understand eventualy.

Right I am off for a few hours before ds wakes at midnight. Didnt want to jinx it but for last few nights he has done the 7-7, with one wake up at 12ish and drained a 7oz bottle.
Dh on nights so off to enjoy all the bed before dd sneaks in.

night no1