May 2005 babies

[fisil]

thought I'd start this up - apologies if anyone already has - for everyone from the dyue May 05 thread to graduate to.

profiles:

me: 31, SW London
baby: Murray (ds2) born 8/5/5 7lb 11oz
family: dp & ds1 (2 1/4)

Thanks Fisil It is wonderful just difficult especially at night when I'm knackered!

Did you just leave him to cry for a bit with cuddles and he settled?!

Hello Brighteyes, congratulations!

Sympathies on your nightmare shopping trip, Uwila. I'm going to have to walk to the surgery later with both of them and I am dreading the same thing happening. Might have to call in reinforcements.

fisil, dd is just like that. She screams everytime she is put down and butter wouldn't melt when she is picked up...

Hi all - missing you on the May thread! Still waiting to join you but no sign of baby yet (now 40+4). Had sweep yesterday and now have very achy lower back so maybe this is it (trying not to hope to much!) Booked for induction next Wed so please send me lots of baby wishes before then - am desperate to avoid that as I want to keep my lovely waterbirth in the birthcentre. Anyway congrats to you all and your lovely babies. Hope to join you V soon!!

Thought you might be interested in stats

Cab Due 5/5 arrived 4/5 - Suzannah 8lb
fisil Due 26/4 arrived 8/5 - Murray 7lb 10.5oz
Weezle Due 6/5 arrived 27/4 - Matilda 7lb 2oz
logic Due 9/5 arrived 16/5 - Francesca Charlotte 8 lbs 11 1/2 oz
Claudi2 Due 9/5 arrived 4/5 - Clara 8lb 2oz
Hollya Due 9/5 arrived 21/5 - Alice
Tinker Due 10/5 arrived 21/5 - Eliza 6lb 13oz
northstar Due 12/5 arrived 4/5 - Shannon Rose 7lb 14oz
Maddison Due 13/5 arrived 17/5 - Bailey Wilson 7lb 9oz
Brighteyes Due 15/5 arrived 23/5 - Cerys 8lb 11oz
Shhhh Due 15/5 arrived 16/5 Freya Isabella 9lb 4oz
Missblossom Due 16/5 arrived 18/5 Luca Daniel Michael 9lb 3 oz
LittleB Due 17/5 arrived 12/5 Megan Freya 6lb 10.5 oz
Vic891 Due 20/5
Preggars Due 22/5 arrived 18/5 - Imogen Bo 7lb 10 oz
Flyingdog Due 22/5
maymum Due 23/5
tab Due 24/5 arrived 27/5 - Joseph Henry (Joe) 10lb 14oz
18mumtobe Due 25/5
ABow Due 26/5
fashill Due 27/5 arrived 28/5 - George Anthony 7lb 5oz
uwila Due 29/5 arrived 19/5 - Alexander 7lb 8oz
SamCattie Due 29/5
Holly290505 Due 29/5
Noggermum Due 29/5
myermay Due 30/5 arrived 28/5 - Samuel Jude 8lb 3oz
Muppety Due ?? arrived 18/5 - Edward 9lb 5oz

Of 27 may mums-to-be we now have 19 babies born, 8 still waiting (or still waiting for news), 11 girls, 8 boys and an average weight of 8lb 3oz!! Impressed??

fashill, night is a completely different thing. I expect him to go straight back to sleep after each feed - ha ha ha. Some nights he does, but last night he just wouldn't. I fed and fed him until I knew he could not possibly be hungry. Then I tried just putting him down, but his eyes were wide open. So I tried leaving him and he screamed and screamed. So I then cuddled him and tried a dummy, patting him in time with my heartbeat etc. After I'd been up with him for 90 minutes I went back to bed and told dp it was his turn. He spent 30 minutes cuddling him (during which time he slept) and then ds only lasted 15 minutes asleep! So I have no solution for nighttime, except to keep at it. I can remember a little bit of this with ds1, and he became an excellent sleeper. With him we just stuck to the rule of light off/low, little talk/eye contact, not leaving the bedroom - in other words just really reinforce the point that this is nighttime, and you really should be sleeping!

Hi all,I wish I had got to this thread sooner but I can't believe how much life has changed now Freya has arrived !! DH has been keeping me updated with your stories and news and has advised me to join this thread. I aim to check it as often as I can !
Well Freya is being bf and at the moment its a mixture between demand feeding and me wakinf her every 2-3 hours. Not sure if this is correct but am consious of her feeding due to her loosing weight 3 days after birth. I know this is normal and esp with bf babies but she went from 9lb 4ozs o 8lb 5ozs. She is currently 8lb 7ozs and I just hope her weight is going in the right direction.
Freya is also feeding quite a bit, usually feeding for about 1hr and the last 2 days this has been the case every 1-2 hours so suppose she is going through a growth spurt. She also seems to rev up every evening so sleeping is a thing of the past for dh & I.!!! How we can survive on 2 hrs sleep a night I will never know !

Anyway, on the weight front I put on 3 stone while pregnant and so far 2 weeks after the birth have lost 1 and half stones but clothes still don't fit and just bought a cheap pair of emergency/temporary jeans....The guy in GAP was very understanding of my explanation as to why I needed HUGH jeans !!! My shape also seems to have change quite a bit. All worth it though !!

Before I go does anyone elses stiches still hurt or are uncomfortable a bit? It's been 2 weeks now and they ache a bit..also going to the toilet is still a worry iykwim !!

The sleep deprivation is the worst bit isn't it? You sort of get used to it though.

Ditto on the emergency jeans! I realised that I didn't have anything to wear. Had to buy a size 16 too!

My stitches are still bad too. Mine are coming apart according to the midwife so she is predicting that they will take ages to heal.

I had a nightmare with him the night before last too! After speaking with you on here he just kept feeding and was awake until about 2am then 4.30 and woke again at about 6.30, he must've been really tired too. Took him out for 1st time yesterday and then last night I went to bed about 9 and DP stayed up with him had to feed at about 11.30 and 2 and he slept through until he stired at 6.30, bliss!! Hope we're getting there Also bought one of those nursing pillows yesterday and seems to be helping.

Feel much more human today and plan to try to have an afternoon kip!

You'll be with us soon Holly and definitely try to get some good sleeps in before baby arrives, one thing I couldn't do.

just posted on your other thread fashill

Hi Ladies

Had my first visit from the health visitor today. Was warned that babies tend to lose weight on their first weigh in so was delighted to find out Cerys has put on 7 oz since she was born 11 days ago. Its really reassuring to know that the breastfeeding is working out and shes developing well.

It appears shes also going to be very tall like her dad (unlike me, I'm only 5ft) she measured 57cm at birth using the tape, and 54cm today using the mat. Apperantly the different methods of measuring produce different results but the health vistor said she was very long and wasnt suprised that I had an uncomfortable pregnancy and had to have a c-section.

Hows everyone elses health visits gone? Hope all the babies are coming on well.

I saw my HV yesterday and was pleasantly surprised. She was really nice. Turns out that Ces was above the 75th centile at birth. She has put on 2 oz over her birthweight which I'm pleased about. She is having a hearing test on Monday.

You were right about the emergency c-section then, Brighteyes. Glad that everything is ok though. Hope you tell the consultant!

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Has everyone been contacted/visited by their health visitor? My home address is actually in a different PCt from my GP (and I intend to keep it that way as my local GP is a jerk). I wonder if I have fallen through the cracks of NHS red tape. DS was born 15 days ago. I have no red book, haven't heard a peep from a health visitor -- who I suspect might not know that DS exists.

Myermay, I'm struggling with the breast feeding too. I just don't think he's eating much from boob. I'm on the verge of throwing the towel in. I went by the GP to register him there today and they were none too helpful about pointing to the health visitor... in fact they almost as much as told me to go register in Sunbury. I said no thank you, I'm staying here. Ooooooh, made me ! The GP knows where I live and she accepted me on her books a year ago, so who are these ladies who work the reception to tell me where I should go seek (inferior) medical treatment. GRRR! But I'm really really mad because there I stood with 2 week old baby wanting to know where and how I could weigh him because I'm afrqaid there's no milk in the boobs, and all they can do is think in their NHS minds that I'm out of area... Look people, this baby needs some help, do you think you be bothered to oblige?!?!

I think I'll make an appointment for myself on Monday and go talk to the GP about DS's weight (if I haven't given up on breast feeding by then). And maybe she can tell me how to get a bloody red book!!!

By the way, the GP has been good to me. It's her reception staff that pissed me off.

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Morning all

Had my HV round last week and she was really nice - she gave me a Sure Start pack with loads of info and bits and pieces in it, so I'll have a look through that when I get chance, see if theres anything useful in it.

Took DS1 & DS2to the clinic on Tuesday and had them both weighed - DS1 is 2st 11lb and DS2 is 8lb 6oz! There must be full fat milk in these jugs! (or Imust have hungry babies cos DS1 never lost any weight either!)

On the jeans front, I managed to get back into my old jeans 1 week after the birth this time, I was well impressed with myself because it took me months after DS1 to get back into my old clothes. I do need to lose a bit more and (try) and get toned up a bit though.......like I have the time and energy to excercise......not!!

I also have a baby who likes lots of cuddles - I succumb about half the time but don't want to make a rod for my own back. Its really hard to let him cry, especially when 4 year old DS1 keeps saying 'mammy Bailey is crying again do something!'

Maddison, I am so with you on the cuddling thing. Ad he gets so worked up so quickly - when he cries it sounds like the end of the world - and all the beating his little fists around too!

Looks like I'll have an excellent job to go to in August/September. I got into my suit yesterday to go to the interview. My parents were here to look after both dss. Ds1 asked me where I was going, and I said "to work." And his response was to laugh and say "no, Daddy goes to work. Silly Mummy." Which of course dp thinks is hilarious, and is now calling me his 1950s wife!

Logic I would love to tell the consultant exactly how I feel but after a 16hr labour followed by the c-section "I told you so" doesnt seem to be quite expressive enough.

I know it was discussed on the old thread but is anyone planning on going to weight watchers soon?
I'm only 8 pound heavier than I was before I had the baby but I had some additional weight to lose anyway. I'm going to a family wedding in Italy in September and would love to shift some of the weight before then. Will weight watchers allow me to join if I'm bf? Don't know if I would even be able to stick to a diet at the moment anyway, I'm always starving since I give birth. If I'm not feeding the baby I'm feeding myself.

Congratulations on the job fisil. LOL at your little 'un.

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Hello all!!

Congratulations on the job fisil!

Uwila - I got the red book at the hospital before we were discharged and once the midwife stops visiting she'll discharge me into HV's hands. I would definitely speak to someone

MW came round today and DS has put on 150g so she's really pleased with our BF so that makes me happy that I'm managing to get to grips with it. It isn't easy though and I've thought about formula several times in just a week. Will try to keep with it now though as I feel V encouraged.

myermay - I'm still feeling tearful, just look at him sometimes and can't believe he's here and how beautiful he is. Also cry (which I'm doing now!) at the memory of him just lying there after I've pushed him out, how amazing

Thanks mears I'll check the other thread

DP and I did our first trip to the local shop on our own earlier whilst my brother looked after DS, felt quite okay about it but was only gone for about half an hour!

Brighteyes, quite! You definately need more expletives than that.

Congratulations on the new job Fisil!

I definately want to lose weight but I find WW so tedious. It's effective though. I'm one of those ppl that needs the threat of the weekly weigh-in to be good...

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hi everyone. Ive not been logging on a lot recenetly for obvious reasons.

Its really difficult not to be on tenterhooks all the time with a big toddler and a tiny baby. My ds 1 is almost 3 and really wants to play with baby, over enthusiastically patting him and squeezing and pulling his arms - Im finding it really difficult not to snap and just tell him NO all the time.
This morning I was trying really hard and we managed to make a joke about the baby's funny yellow poo and how the baby's too small to have a nice croissant - lets go downstairs. Its early days but I think Im going to try and focus on the fact that there's still lots of things that mum dad and ds1 can do even though baby's arrived and that baby hasnt taken over completely. Im sure that wont prove so easy in reality especially when dh goes back to work.

Were aiming to go out to the shops today, all 4 of us. Still trying to decide if Im brave enough.

Does anybody know anything about buggy boards for non-maclaren pushchairs. Our newborn pushchair is a Jane Carrera. Just thought I'd check. Im determined not to have to buy a double buggy - they sound like a nightmare from friends who've got stuck in doors etc - and hopefully I can get away with it.

Sorry, Im rambling on.
Hope youre all well. Time between feeds just goes too fast.

Oh Myermay, I meant to say - our ds1 (nearly 3) has been having quite a few tantrums. On thursday evening after nursery he got very upset that the baby was up on the changing table, being change. Bearing in mind that ds1 hasnt been changed on top of the table since he was about 18mths old, he screamed and demanded to be put up on the changing table to be changed, kicking and screaming. He then insisted in siting in the baby bath inside the big bath.

There have been tantrums at bed time and general difficultness (is that a word) and disobedience (especially repeatedly bouncing on the bed after being told that the baby is sleeping or that he will hurt the baby). Its very difficult isnt it.

Yes with the toddler stuff. Ds1 is wonderful with ds2, no poking or roughness at all - except when he doesn't realise that he's being rough (he's only 2 and a bit). But his behaviour is awful at the moment. This morning in church he was shouting out, pulling on my arm, clothes etc. and if dp asks him not to do something, he does it again. Until ds2 came along he did none of these things. And ds2 of course wants to be cuddled the whole time. So just now when ds1 wanted to play in the garden & ds2 wanted a cuddle, I shoved ds2 in his bouncer in the front room and just went out in the garden and got stuck in in the sandpit! Dp eventally saved ds2 - although he's meant to be working.

Hello.

I was a late visitor to the antenatal thread but hope I can join in. Have been reading with interest and feel much better for it!

ds1 is 21 months and v lively and boisterous. He doesn't mean it but is v rough with ds2 so as a consequence he can't go in the bouncy chair or on the floor at all as ds1 wants to jump on him! He also wants to be more of a baby and I feel sorry for him but he is getting masses of attention. Funnily enough he does not mind me holding the baby but will not let DH. In fact he seems to have gone off me altogether.

Breast feeding with a toddler is almost impossible too. Just no time and can't run around after him. Not sure how long before I just put him on bottles. Unfortunately have been trying 1 bottle of formula a day and it seems to make him sick. He is quite an unsettled little chap so far so not a lot of sleep here!

Plus my scar is still really sore and I can't do much or I get dizzy. I presume thats the anaemia.

Sorry for the moan. Bad day maybe?

ps how many of you are using dummies? ds1 is an addict so I swore would resist this time. Have no willpower though and can't stand crying so gave in v quickly! ds2 not as keen as ds1 was though.