May 2005 babies

[fisil]

thought I'd start this up - apologies if anyone already has - for everyone from the dyue May 05 thread to graduate to.

profiles:

me: 31, SW London
baby: Murray (ds2) born 8/5/5 7lb 11oz
family: dp & ds1 (2 1/4)

I think I'm about to start my period. Ds2 is nearly 7 weeks old and I am still exclusively breastfeeding. Isn't that a bit odd?

Hi fisil, I keep thinking my period is going to start as I wake up with mild cramps but I'm not breastfeeding. I asked my dr about this and he said its probably still my womb shrinking, could it be this with you?

Well, sex was fine. Quite nice actually, once I convinced myself nothing was going to tear or hurt. Will definately be doing more over the weekend, have started on the mini-pill(i think) because I'm combining b/f and bottle for a while. Shannon wasnt getting enough from me, she wasn't gaining weight like she should, but she sure is now she is on 3 bottles a day. I find I have more energy too, but it is weird not having a spare hand while feeding as I am so used to bf.
I am really busy organising her christening for Sunday, and when that is over I am going to try and get to log on every day or two - that is the plan anyway - although my children might have other plans for me. Enjoy your weekends everyone.
PS I live two minutes walk from the beach, we go every day and it is heaven in this weather. We always have a sea breeze to cool us down. Anyone want to visit?

Message withdrawn

Mayermum
Im the same as you, just enjoying Luca being a baby abd not trying to rush him, as he will definately be my last... maybe (wink)

Logic- I don't think you're overreacting. Hopefully there isn't anything to worry about but there is never any harm in checking - and anyway isn't it a mothers job to worry!

LittleB and fisil - I keep getting the period-type pains but hv told me it is probably womb still shrinking too.

I'm really enjoying baby too - much better than being pregnant. And although I moaned about him the other day dh is fantastic and really helpful. World war 3 is brewing with dm though. but somehow now feeling really chilled about and have a 'what will be will be' attitude

I'm very envious about you being so close to a beach, must be lovely. We've booked a short break (4 nights) in my cousins holiday cottage in a couple of weeks, 2 mins walk from the beach, on the north devon coast, can't wait. I'm also really enjoying being a mum and just watching megan grow and change. Glad everything went well for you northstar!

Logic I totally sympathise with your worries. erys has a birthmark on her eyelid and one on the back of her neck. Hv said the one on her eyelid was common and known as an 'angel kiss' birthmark and the one on her neck is a stork bite birth mark. Although she has reassured me they will both fade in time I'm parinod about them and I'm forever checking them for changes.

Myermay, I also went back to WW this week. Was delighted to find out that I have an additional ten points a day because I'm bf.

Erys = Cerys

hi everyone

i just wanted to say i think us mums are so clever not only do we have to give birth we then have to learn how to do everything one handed due to having to hold them all the time.

is anyone else finding this or is matthew just getting spoilt, i try not to rush to him at the first moan but he just seems to be getting to used to being held.

dp went back to work today so this is my first day on my own with him. its going ok so far just getting a dead arm now. is anyone leaving their babe to cry or do you think at this age its better to pick them up if they want it?

also ive found matthew is having trouble going to the toilet it seems to take him hours and really distrubes his sleep, is this normal or is something not right? i suffer badly with constipation would this be affecting him too due to lack of fibre in my milk?

also he is three weeks now and is still really snuffly in his nose and he is finding it hard to breath while feeding etc. should this have got better by now or will it take abit longer still?

sorry for all the questions but im new at this. glad everything is going well for everyone. take care all xxx

Hi everyone, hope you are all enjoying the beautiful sunshine while it lasts!

18mumtobe - If I know Bailey has been fed, winded and his nappy is clean and dry, most of the time I leave him to cry, mostly because I have 4 year old DS1, and thankfully we haven't had any jealousy issues so far and want it to stay that way - he loves his baby brother and I don't want to risk upsetting that by holding Bailey whenever I do something with Dylan. But I do believe babies and children need cuddles, so sometimes I don't have the heart to leave him!

Re: constipation - DS1 suffered with this and I used to lay him on his back and make a cycling motion with his legs - I think this helped to loosen it a bit HTH and I'm pleased that everything is going well on your first 'solo' day

Fisil, I have started my period too yesterday, dd is also exclusively breastfed ... what a drag

18mum ... Clara suffered from constipation at the beginning, and I do think that if he is bf it helps if you eat more fibre/fruit ... but babies often make lots of grunting noises ... which is why ours has been sleeping in her own room for the last 4 weeks ... at least that way we only hear her when it is feedingtime

Logic, had my friend, a doctor from France was here this we ...she said that the angiomes dissapear by themselves in 80% of cases by the time the child is 3 years old ...but I'm sure the consultant will be able to tell you more

18tobe: my dd [10 wks] gets blocked nostrils. doc says due to its shape at the mo - and babies can only clear secretions by sneezing. was prescribed saline drops which softens the bogies up and brings them to the edge of her nostrils where i haul them out. [yuk emoticon]

ps: newborns have to learn to relax their bum muscles rather than clench them to have a poo. they aren't constipated. just concentrating on doing the wrong thing.

Thanks for the info, Claudi2, appreciated.

Both kids are asleep atm so I'm actually getting to play a PC game for 5 minutes! luxury! OK, so the housework needs doing but tough

when do the stretchmarks start to fade? i really want to take dd swimming as i'm sure she'd enjoy it as she loves having a bath, but i have horrid red marks all over my thighs and i'm too embarrased

They take a while to fade, hollya. Can't remember how long exactly.

Had my 6 week check yesterday. Baby is fine and I've got a referral to the local hospital for her birthmark.

Also hollya, they shouldn't really go swimming until they've had all their jabs. Apparently the reason is in case they do a poo and then other pool users who are not immunised or who are vulnerable could get polio etc.. I have to say that I know someone who took her baby swimming before he'd had his jabs because she and her baby weren't at risk. But my conscience made me wait until he was fully immunised because I didn't want to inflict illness on anyone else! When I went into hospital just after ds1 had had a load of jabs I left him with my mum for a few days, and she had to go and have a polio immunisation before she changed his nappies!

Hi, Haven't had time to post for ages but things are generally going really well. Daniel is piling on the weight, 2 pounds one week but back down to just a pound last week. Generally he is really good but the poor thing didn't like the heat much and just fed all the time. He also has had really windy days that make him miserable where he crys all day. I've found infacol does help bring it up.

We start water babies this afternoon so I hope he will enjoy it. He also loves the bath. The NHS advice on immunisations and swimming with babies is here immunisations faq they say it is ok at any age which is good or I would have to give up Daniel's place on the course. We have to use a disposable swim nappy and a particular swim nappy on top to be sure nothing escapes.

Starting a baby massage course next week which I'm really looking forward to. He will be well massaged as I will have to show DH what I've learnt!

Booge thanks for the link for water babies. It looks great, definatly going to consider going although I do think its a bit expensive.

Please let us know how your first lesson goes.

Right..................I finally give in........................... dd is now 6 weeks old and dh & i are finding things so hard (Sorry to admit it...it makes me feel like a bad mother ). dd has days when she is adorable and is the best baby ever and there are times when she is the opposite, at the moment it seems that the bad days outweigh the good days or maybe that because yesterday was a nightmare.
Basically i'm bf and bottle feeding baby and she is gaining weight and is average as per guidelines but we are finding that she will only sleep when she wants to, seems to feed constantly and blimey when she screams she screams iykwim. The screaming periods also last for well over 3 hours. We are thinking she may have a bit of colic (a bit..? I would hate to see it at it's worse ). But she does settle when she is bf which I didn't think colicy babies did?.
People keep commenting that "she should be in a routine now" and I know she is our baby but I have no idea if she should and how we go about doing it. She is still in with us and I wanted this to be the case till she is 6 months but I think maybe things would be better is she was in her own room? btw she is sleeping well at night ie she goes down solidly for 5-6 hours although this is usually after 11pm/1am.
Help.......!
Is there a book that anyone recommends for routine? A lot of you have mentioned gina ford and further info would be brill.

DH goes back to work next week after 7 weeks off (he's self emp) and i'm so worried about coping alone.
ps trips around the shops are hard as i'm petrified if dd wakes.....When she sleeps though or wakes happy she is adorable and I long for more .

shhh - am posting one handed so can't type uch but all sounds so familiar. ignore others who say "should" be in a routine, babies find their own i find (eith a bit of nudging). if calms down when feeding, think it's likely to be trapped wind?

Forgot to say hollya: Re stretch marks, I have bought a cream from Tesco call Skin Wisdom and it's for stretch marks. It claims to reduce the appearance of them and to firm the skin within weeks. There has been a write up in one of the sunday mags and it was recommended. It's priced at about £7.
Not sure if it's working at the moment as I only started it a few days ago but will let you know. Also try and apply fake tan to the problem areas as this usually makes them look better, well if they can look better ! Well it usually helps for me. hth. x