May 2005 babies

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thought I'd start this up - apologies if anyone already has - for everyone from the dyue May 05 thread to graduate to.

profiles:

me: 31, SW London
baby: Murray (ds2) born 8/5/5 7lb 11oz
family: dp & ds1 (2 1/4)

northstar you are very brave! i'm far too scared as i'm sure it will hurt, still feeling a bit tender where stitches were

Hello all. The in laws have finally departed. OMG what a week! We now have to retrain ds1 to be a good boy. Everytime I asked him to get undressed and he did the usual toddler trick of "it's to diff-i-cult Muuuummmmeeee" my MIL would jump in and get the clothes of for him. And every time I said "now put your clothes in the laundry/cup in the sink/get in the car" etc. she would jump in and do it for him. So we are now having to cope with the tears and refusals every time we ask him something, cos he's hoping someone will do it for him. Grrrrr.

DP has taken DS2 to the cinema! DS1 is at nursery and the cleaner is here. It is so blissful. I bought a PDA 10 days ago and hadn't even plugged it in. So I am busy inputting all my contacts and my diary (that won't take long), and enjoying being me! Except of course that I keep listening out for DS2, thinking he's only sleeping and I'll be back on duty soon. And I'm sure there'll come the time when I need to milk myself too!

Sex. I plan never to do it again. There is nothing physical stopping us (except the heat and tiredness and the presence of in laws). But it seems to me to be the best contraception there is. I'm sure the time will come when dp or I want a bit of it, but it probably won't be this year! We are incredibly lazy sexually (always have been). In fact, I've fallen pregnant every single time we've had sex since 2003! But we are also phytsically very close. Hmmm.

i think i am going to pull my hair out by the end of this week!! dp's dad is with us from australia at the moment, he's a nice enough man, but i am very selfish and hate having guests! i don't feel comfortable bfing in front of him, so am cooped up in our bedroom for a lot of the day. also all of dp's clothes and nappies etc are in the spare room where he is sleping, so when he is getting changed, having a nap etc i have to wait for him to finish. dp is also having his nightmare evil children from hell this weekend (3 boys aged between 9 and 13, they all hate me because i don't let them do exactly what they want and tell them off). so in my new house this weekend i have 3 noisy, rude boys, a screaming baby, dp's dad and myself and dp. bearing in mind we live in a 2 bed flat i think i might die of stress!!

sorry about the moaning, but had to get that off my chest!!

Hollya

Your dp wears nappies???

see how stressed i am!! my dd has turned into my dp!! how embarrasing [blush

hollya - sounds exactly like the week I've just had. Dp's parents don't sleep in the same bed, so we've had two rooms out of action for the past week. Nightmare, isn't it? I also hated the fact that I had to wear decent clothing in order to get up to feed my baby in the night in this weather!

Hey,
its almost 2pm and I still have not had a shower ... things are not going to well today and dd is screaming her head off in her bouncychair, but I have tried everything, and now I am just fed up and have decided to let her cry, the only thing that will stop her from crying is my boob, but it isnt hunger, because she is refusing the bottle ... I am so fed up ... just thought I'd tell someone, rather than phoning up dp in the office

babies are so variable, monday my dd was awake non-stop for over 3 hours, and yesterday evening was feeding every 2.5 hrs which i put down to heat, but today she seems really content and has been 5 hours between feeds this morning, which she's never done except a couple of times after her last evening feed. Don't know what to think, at least she seems happy.
18mumtobe, perhaps you should ask your hv about water, dd did take some yesterday between feeds but only because she was asking for a feed soon after the last one, I think if i tried to give it to her when she wasn't asking she'd poke it back out with her tongue!
hope this isn't tmi but dp and I started having sex 4 weeks after dd was born, I was very worried about my stitches (had episiotomy)but found that spoons position was fine, just had to take it carefully. Most difficult thing was fitting it in when dd was sleeping, 1st time she kept waking and was then sick all over me, kinda spoilt the mood!
hollya, if i were you i'd go out with your dd somewhere really relaxing or shopping and leave them to it - hope you cope anyway and feel free to moan to us whenever you want to.

claudi2 - go for a walk! Seriously, it is often the best option. The baby gets overtired and just can't settle. We generally end up going for a walk most days by about 4pm because I've tried everything! Another thing I've tried is popping him in the sling if I have housework to do - or anything that involves moving about - as it calms him. But in this weather I don't fancy it much (just ordered a new sling though, which should be lighter and cooler). And failing all that, put her in another room where you can't hear her, pour yourself a nice drink and cry if you need to!

claudi2, didn't see your message when I posted, if its too hot where you are to go for a walk what about going for a drive, with the windows down, it often sends dd off. or hoovering or hairdryer, also sends dd off, have even just turned hoover on without hoovering for a few mins to get her to drop off. (not very eco friendly but only occaisionally!) Also my hv said, if they've been fed, have clean nappies and aren't ill, its fine to leave them to cry for a few mins as they can be overtired and might just drop off. good luck.

Thanks for those tips ... hairdryer worked well ...as I did go and have a shower ... now she is cooing under the babygym, and I am getting ready to go out for a walk so things are looking brighter... thanks

claudi - sympathy, sympathy, sympathy. I feel I have a tiny "window" at about 9.00 to get the shower. If I miss it, takes the whole morning plus to get on track.

claudi2 i have a graco swing, it's an absolute godsend. it's the only thing that shuts alice up otherwise i'd never be able to put her down. i think they're quite expensive new, i got mine secondhand from the freeads and it is so worth it!!

Its 4am I'm totally exhausted. Thea is asleep but I have insomnia. Where is the justice in that! I am so knackered that I feel I have turned into the bitch from hell. I keep snapping at everyone. Thea isn't the problem particularly - even though she feeds a lot especially when its hot. I feel as though I'm coping with that now. Its dealing with my parents and dh. Everyone is being helpful in their way but I feel as though I'm having to keep the whole family amused and I don't feel as though I can get 5 minutes peace and quiet. Dm takes the baby off me everytime she cries which is seriously starting to get on my nerves even though I know she means well. Everyone keeps wanting their share of hugs from baby which seems fair enough but yesterday it got to the point where I felt the b/f was suffering as a consequence. And now I'm complaining about it and feel guilty!

Sorry - just needed a whinge

Tinker, I know just too well about that tiny window ... i missed it yesterday and that meant that the whole day was a nightmare, as I was trying to catch up with everything I had not done and Clara was very aware of it
Hollya, I must try and find one of those swings ...I read somewhere else on MN that they are absolutely great ...although I must say that Clara is usually pretty good and that she sleeps pretty much through the night, but yesterday was just one of those days.
ABow, lots of sympathy going your way ... it seems that when one is over the initial tiredness, ie being able to sleep standing up ... when one then does get up, thats it, one cant go back to sleep ... for me its 5:30 at the moment so I cant really complain, but those extra 3 hours of sleep would be great
Oh no, I better have my shower soon

Hello everyone,
Sympathies on the feeling of losing it. I'm there too. Had insomnia last night until gone 5am. The previous night I almost got up to sleep in the car.

I got my graco swing from kiddicare, £20 off! Pity dd can't stand it.

No sex yet for us either but I'm getting my 6 week check on Monday so I'll ask about contraception then.

hi everyone

im gonna join in with the maoning coz i feel like it too.

this hot weather is driving me mad, can't sleep at night spend all day sweating its just horrible.

also had a bad morning as i think i have got an infection in my right boob, i had it in the left a few days ago and it cleared up itself after my body sweated it out and made me feel terrible, so now im going through it again, nearly passed out about 7 times this morning from the infection, heat and coz i hadn't eaten yet.

i find it hard to find time to eat and in this weather i just don't feel like it but i know ive got to coz of my breast milk.

i think thats all my moaning done now.

me and dp haven't had sex yet but ds was only born just over two weks ago, so im not that worried yet.

take care everyone xxx

It looks like dd's birthmark isn't a storkbite after all. I've been doing some research and I think that it's a haemangioma. It's getting bigger and more vivid almost every day. I am totally gutted. I am going to try and get a referral to Great Ormond Street at the 6 wk check but I know that I have a massive fight on my hands that I'm really not up to coping with.

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ds2 is more wakeful now, myermay. On a normal hang-around-at-home day (when MIL isn't here determined to put him to sleep constantly)he is generally awake. But if we're out and about he'll sleep most of the day (and night too). I hope to get him into a daytime sleep routine soon (6 weeks is recommended) but don't have a very straightforward schedule right now.

It's on her nose, myermay.

Claudi2 glad the hairdryer helped, I have the shower window too (between 8 and 9), and drying my hair after helps keep megan asleep while I get ready.
Logic, sorry to hear about your worries, I don't know much about birthmarks, when is your 6 week check?
Myermay, my book says young babies sleep 18 hours a day, although this can vary alot, so he sounds pretty normal, although I can't believe he sleeps while you bath him!
I don't wake megan for her feeds, just wait until she wakes up and she's hungry, I think its too early for me to try and get her into a routine, I heard 3 months is a good time, but I guess it varies. We do have a bedtime routine, its just the timing that varies, and she's dropping from 7-6 feeds a day at the moment (seems to alter day by day), so her feed times vary alot. I spoke to my doctor and he said to just do what we're happy with and not get stressed by trying to do things by the book. And we're happy with the way things are so I guess I shouldn't worry. Its good to hear it from a professional.
We were going to go to aqua natal, I get fit while Megan watches from her car seta (she can join in with a short baby class after soon, but we're not too keen on dodging the hailstones to get there!

logic, I had a friend whose little girl had an "angiome"(that was in France) .... I think they waited til she was 5 and then had it lasered ...I'm sure there are things you can do, but you might have to go private ... I dont know, and dont always understand the health system here ... so good luck with your appointment

Thanks, Claudi2. I'm probably overreacting but all I seem to see when I look at her is the mark. Nobody else comments on it though.

Hi everybody, hope you're all fit and well, Myermay, I don't get much time to log on these days, I'm well impressed by those of you who log on everyday! the only reason I am on is because DS1 has gone on his first school trip, both the nursery and reception class have gone to Tynemouth to the beach and aquarium, just wish they were having better weather. I miss him like crazy and feel lost

Well, we're still exclusively breastfeeding, I daren't give Bailey a bottle of formula incase it upsets his stomach, although I do have some formula in for when (if) I crack up And he is doing really well with it, in this last week he has put on 18 1/2 ounces!