May 2009 - we're all here! btw, does anyone know what the Hungry Cry sounds like?

[Momino]

phew! how many threads have we done since last aug?

Bf is going really badly now half and half with ff manage late night and first feed in the morning with bf, the rest of the day I have to fight to get M to bf she cries and cries and just get so wound up she prefers a bottle.
Not sure if its the heat? i strip her off to just her nappy, spend alot of time trying to calm her but nothing seems to work.

Wish i could express more had to just give M a bottle of formula so will have another go at expressing now if i can settle her in her bouncy chair - pass the fenugreek

Bf is going really badly now half and half with ff manage late night and first feed in the morning with bf, the rest of the day I have to fight to get M to bf she cries and cries and just get so wound up she prefers a bottle.
Not sure if its the heat? i strip her off to just her nappy, spend alot of time trying to calm her but nothing seems to work.

Wish i could express more had to just give M a bottle of formula so will have another go at expressing now if i can settle her in her bouncy chair - pass the fenugreek

oopps!

is anyone suffering from hayfever? i usually take zirtek but i assume i can't take this when bf?

Monimo our first injections here today too - not looking fwd to 11.14. Mind you, DDs didn't really blink at theirs so I'm not sure what I am worrying about. Hope you have a nice day today. (Wish I lived near York to come to the Big Scream!)

FiK Hope it goes OK with MIL. Mine is due to land here on Friday, so getting some alcohol and chocolate in to see me through

G was up at 3am for a feed after a fair few days of sleeping through - I reckon he's thirsty from all of the heat. Been having fun and games with the referral to the specialist. G is now on my health plan (at last) but the GP has referred us to someone who doesn't see kids under the age of 3, and apparently it's v. difficult to find someone who will see them under 3. So back to argue with the GP this morning. It shouldn't be this difficult!!

DD1 'Graduated' from Reception class last night. It was really cute - they dressed them up in mortar boards and gowns. Can't believe she will be in Yr1 soon.

Well after S fed in the evening til 8.30, and wasn't settled in his cot til 9.30 we decided to skip a dreamfeed and see what happened. He cried at 11.50 but i just took him into bed with his dummy and he went back to sleep til 2.30. Fed on and off til 3.30 then back to sleep til 6.45 . so great again but just wish he was sleeping in his cot so i slept more soundly.

looby zirtek no prob.. my midwife told me to get some to help with those hives i had after the anti biotics. sorry to hear the bf not going well during the day.. could it be she likes the easyness of sucking the bottles? if i remember right they have to work harder to feed at breast

Hello all,

I'm sat here with a baby asleep on me! He's been asleep for 2 hours after i tried unsuccessfully to put him down in his cot.

I am starting to fret that i'm starting to hold him a lot again rather than encourage independent sleep which means he gets used to being held again, which means i can't get on with doing things (like eating, drinking, housework, weeing...). I keep saying to DH we can start serious sleep training at 4 mo but that is still quite a way away. I also keep thinking he might be easier to settle when he doesn't startle so easily, which could be around 14 weeks which is again a long way away. He can sleep for 3 hours+ in his cot in the evening so somehow he's happy to do it then .

Might go and put him down now, as he is due a feed soon anyway so doesn't matter if he stirs.

M has been screaming and crying, tears rolling down her face for the last hour and a half i think its wind have tried bf/bottle/patting back with her over my shoulder/over knee/walking round rocking, gripe water, etc
she has now just conked out on me but she was so wound up
i am now sat here too scared to move in case i wake her

Looby and Pula, ds2 is the same today - crying and crying. He's finally conked out on my bed. I was up with him for an hour in the night too. He has a suspicious looking spot on his bum. I really hope it is a spot and not chicken pox as it will be a nightmare in this weather.

I am getting really fed up and frustrated by my inability to do any house work. I just want a tidy house, but one or either of the ds's needs my attention all the time. I'm not particularly house proud so you can imagine what my house does look like. DH and I took it in turns at the weekend to do some tidying but we didn't manage much as ds1 undid most of what dh did

Anyhow I'm going to attempt something whilst ds2 is asleep, even though I could do with a kip at the mo! Got to go and pick DH and DS1 up in an hour. Mum's taxi - thats my name

Loobs poor you. if it's any consolation A has been doing similar since 7.30 this morning- fussing, crying, feeding almost non-stop and when she does fall asleep I can't move or she wakes and starts all over again. I think it's the heat tbh. Not much fun tho

I am seriously wondering when DS2 is going to get a bit happier . He is fine when he wakes up in the morning but then you never can tell. For example, he had a nap in the pushchair at 9am (admitedly only 30mins), then was crying due to being hungry and tired i guess, asleep again after an hour for a good 2 hours (on me), wakes crying due to hunger i assume, cries during feed (falling asleep and waking) and I put him successfully in his cot an hour after he woke . He just seems to be forever hungry and tired. Sometimes his only proper activity is when he wakes up (chat, bouncy chair etc) and just before he goes to bed (when he sits in his bouncy chair for 30mins, and has a bath etc). Is this normal for a 7 week old? I was hoping to go to NCT coffee this morning, but he was too grumpy. And I made it to the post office to buy some packing materials, but didn't stay to post out my ebay items as he woke up crying, so i need to go back later.

Hi ladies

Have been catching up with everyone's news after our week's holiday at my mum and dad's in the Lakes. 'Twas lovely; very relaxing and the weather was fab - although not as hot as now.

Felix doing brilliantly - 4 weeks old now and really starting to watch people and objects / be more aware and alert. He's also definitely smiled at me over the last day or two which nearly made me cry - I know that's early but as he was 2.5 weeks late arriving I wondered whether he might therefore do some earlier than expected developing the same way as pre-term babies have their dates adjusted backwards? Hmmm, that didn't make a lot of sense. Bum. Must be the heat.

We also have no routine although F only usually wakes once in the night for a feed which I'm still thrilled about. Today's been a bit tricky as like many of you I've found he just wants to be cuddled in spite of the heat, and every time I put him down and he realises, he screams blue murder.

He's finally asleep now but earlier I was ready to cry due to a rough day, highlights including: Dismembered pigeon, pigeon organs and feathers discovered courtesy of cats this morning all across dining room and lounge floors, dirty dishes waiting for dishwasher from last night, washing abandoned half pegged out (and then one of the bl00dy dogs pulled half of it out of the basket and round the garden), unbelievable poo - wee - sick combo from F in no nappy time after his morning wash... he pooed on a towel and then when I moved that wee'd all over himself and his changing mat and shelf and then when I was cleaning that was sick and it all went into his ear and his hair....

Looby, I really feel for you, sounds like you're going through it with M. Fingers crossed things improve quickly.

Have got a massive list of things to do and am trying not to beat myself up when I don't do them but that's easier said than done. Plus DH has just left - he's away on business until tomorrow night so am on my own (aagh!!).

Momi, am def not going to attempt the Big Scream this week as have HV tomorrow and that and the menagerie with no DH will probably keep me busy.

Sorry about epic and me me me post.

hi all

im so sad today a friend of mine just lost her 7mth old baby boy to cot death two nights ago. he was so lovely and she was a great mummy to him she is absolutley devastated and has had to be sadated as she just cant cope. i feel so bad i dont know what to do or say. life is so cruel i just want to get hold of my boys and never let them go, its made me really nervous about baby L when he is sleeping i really cant sleep anymore. specially with this hot weather im really paranoid about him all the time now. i just cant believe things like this happen to great people its just not fair

i also just heard about someone losing their baby at 34weeks pregnant too

sorry to bring such sad news to the thread just needed to talk about it. our babies our so precious and we are so lucky we should make sure we cherish every minute with them life is too precious.

daizy - sympathies about the housework, I have the same problem! Looked great for about 10 minutes at the weekend.

Well, well, what a surprise - HR have miraculously sorted my problem out on the day I threatened them with the union, how funny . tummum - the problem I've had is that they've been deducting the money for my vouchers from my Statutory Maternity Pay but legally if you only get SMP and nothing else then they can't deduct any money from it. I was so mad because half of the money I got for June was deducted, when I should have got the vouchers on top of the SMP, not taken from it. Info here www.payingforchildcare.org.uk/Data/Sites/1/Factsheets/childcare%20during%20maternity%20leave%20Apr09 .pdf if anyone needs it.

Thanks for that link flippineck- I am still on paid mat leave but once i am on SMP only it will come in handy.

matthewandbumpsmummy- gosh cot death at 7 months- that is really tragic- poor mother. How horrible , and a reminder that even when S is being a crying baby and not much fun, I should treasure him dearly as I am really very fortunate.

Another reminder for me to be grateful was when I spoke with a mother yesterday at playgroup who's little 5 mo boy has a heart condition which meant he'd already had 3 operations in his short life, and needs to have more as the previous ones were to do with a heart valve being too narrow, and now they've discovered a problem with his heart muscle . None of this was discovered til after he was born. She was very anxious when he got a bit breathless kicking around on the mat and had to pick him up so he didn't get too carried away.

Matthewandbumpsmummy - what sad, sad news, how terrible for your friend and anyone close. You are so right about life being precious.

M&Bsmummy, such very sad news. a couple of others of us noticed your fb status and hoped you were ok as well. devastating and does make me want to hug my LOs closer. hope you're ok.

Looby, Pula, RM, Daizy, flippin, and others, though Harper has slept most of the morning she is now un-put-downable (as she usually is) so i can't do anything but hold her or, like now, bounce her with my foot in her bouncy chair. sigh. am stuck in one position! thank goodness MIL is here to amuse the other DDs.

Reebee, we'll miss you but will catch up hopefully another time.

tummum, how did Gs injects go? H was asleep, woke up upon injection with a little cry and promptly went right back to sleep for the next 2 hours . she seems ok now, maybe a bit grisly but nothing unusual.

going to try to do some house work if i can stray with my foot from this bouncy chair...

hope all ok.

oh no, matthewandbumpsmummy, what terrible news. It makes my little niggles and worries so trivial.

Flippin Thanks for that - tis good news as I didn't realise that you can't make deductions from SMP. Will be scrutinising my payslip v. closely this month as that's when my SMP kicks in.

M&BMommy very sad news for you and your friend. I can't begin to imagine the pain that must cause and have hugged all of my DC a little bit more today. Hope you are OK as this is v. shocking news to deal with by you.

Looby Big hugs your way too - sounds like a nightmare.

G was very at the injections ! He screamed the place down and gave the nurse a really dirty look, lol! He seems to be OK now, but I have just put him down and he is howling which is unlike him... perhaps I have more of this to come? I was also really because the stupid GP (whom I am going to complain about and has left us in the lurch with Gs foot thing) didn't write up G's 6 week check, so technically the nurse couldn't give the injections and had to get another opinion. Bloody useless!

Anyone else melting? Phew, it's hot.

Afternoon all! I'm another one with a wee fussybutt today, I've only just been able to put Greer down after holding her pretty much all day

matthew&bm i saw your fb post. such dreadful news our worst nightmare

tummum with your gp what a pita

another lo here that wouldn't be put down in bed to sleep.. fortunately mil was delighted to have grace sleeping on her shoulder for the afternoon & after bf her since 5pm she's now settled in her crib hopefully for a while at least.

Matthew&Bump really really devastating news . How do you support someone going through that? Hope you're ok too.

Hi everyone,

C was unputdownable (how do you like my new word ) yesterday, but much better today. I've discovered that sometimes she's grumpy because she wants to play! Yes, a few times, not knowing what's the matter with her, I've put her under the baby gym and she was happy for a good 30 min. Today she even had a 40 min stretch of playing with it! And on top of that I had loads of smiles around lunch time (rather than 1 that needs to last for the day) Aaah, my little girl is growing up

This hot weather really has me worrying about keeping her cool. It didn't help that the radio warned that the heat is especially dangerous for young babies. I hope that it'll get a bit cooler soon. I can't remember who mentioned 1 layer extra than you would wear for baby. I tend to abandon that rule once it gets over 22-23 degrees. When it gets very hot I'll go for just a nappy I think.

matthewandbump I hope you're OK. I can imagine it makes you scared for your own 2 boys. I almost cry just thinking of the possibility of loosing one of my 3. I'm sure it's every mum's worst nightmare.

pula Your comment about being grateful for our dcs even if they can be difficult made me also think about one of my dd's best friends. I think I mentioned the little girl on one of the a/n threads. She's had tumors that need to be taken away regularly and over easter she was in hospital. One of the mums mentioned that the little girl's bladder was taken away and that she's got a catheter. I wasn't sure whether to believe that, especially as the little girl is back at school now. But today my dd1 mentioned that when the little girl goes to the toilet she unzips something and lots of wee comes out. I can only imagine that that's her catheter bag. Poor little girl

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