May 2009 - we're all here! btw, does anyone know what the Hungry Cry sounds like?

[Momino]

phew! how many threads have we done since last aug?

slings I'm considering getting a baby bjorn active, anyone got any thoughts feedback on this carrier?

thanks

slingwise I want one like a Babasling - one that you can carry baby in foetal position. I think it was a BabyBjorn I had for DD1 but that was many years ago, I loved it.

DD2 has a temp of 38.8C. She's snotty and smells catarrh-y. Gah!

gert i have a bjorn normal one.. ds loved it and using it with g. at first she wasn't sure but is happy bunny now..

glad i mentioned the bonding.. feel a lot better now. i thought i'd take a deep breath and be brave as i'd not even said anything to dh.

fi glad you are feeling closer to G. I think every time your feelings are different
but i agree that part of it could be getting used to juggling more than 1 DC. You just don't get enough 1 to 1 time with the baby unless they are feeding, but not time to play IYSWIM.

Yes Fi at DH - we were together for 10 years and then he left me and is now living with a blonde half my age, younger than DD1 (not his child ) Such a cliche but so hurtful, especially hate it when DS3 and DD2 go to stay at his flat and she is their.I hate the thought of her anywhere near my children. The ironic thing is he was always quite jealous/possessive yet he ended up cheating on me.

gert glad the jabs went ok. Fingers crossed for you E not feeling unwell, but if you need it Calpol is brilliant stuff.

I just had my 1st real smile of C . Sooooo lovely. She's wide awake & alert now, studying me and her own hands very intently.

Grumpy Hope your dd2 gets better soon.

belgian love the smiles when they come.

for 2nd night in a row thought we'd try the feed bath feed routine with some gentle massage after bath. g didn't settle yesterday but has worked a treat tonight.. she's soundly asleep on me. just hope she doesn't stir when i pop her into bed..

Matilda really didn't enjoy her jabs I couldn't watch. There were 2 nurses tho so they did them both at the same time. M has been v.unsettled so gave her some calpol at 6pm and have been bf pretty constantly ever since, I think its now more of a comfort thing but havn't the heart to stop her.
She looks absolutely knackered as she has only had a half hour nap since this morning.

Just popping on quickly, just wanted to reply to;

pulapula I understand how you feel about shouting at your LO. I've done it several times too...and then I feel really really bad afterwards and it makes me cry, I was trying to do something the other day, think it may have been preparing DD's lunch and he was crying and crying and crying, and I'd just fed him and changed him, and I really wanted just two minutes peace, and I shouted, then picked him up cuz I felt bad, and he did a HUGE burp, which made me feel even worse, as the reason why he'd been crying so much was wind I've felt majorly down recently...sometimes I've felt like I'm only looking after J because I have too...if you get me, my score on the PND test was quite high the other day, so my guessing is I've probably got it again, talk to your HV, they won't judge you, only give you help and support if you want it.

Hope you're all ok XX

re; bonding. It took me a while to bond with M I think its because she was taken straight to scbu and I just had a quick glance at her and that was it, then with her spending 2.5 days in there and the bf not going well I just felt that she wasn't my child
I think the first time I started to feel really close to her was when we got readmitted to hospital when she lost too much weight. It was just me and her and cuddling/feeding and nappy changes for 24hrs. I left the hospital the 2nd time a hell of alot more confident and closer to M than when I first took her home.

I too have left M to cry a few times so I could shower, put out washing, etc

Looby jabs are horrible aren't they. The nurse made me hold H's legs . He's had a similar reaction this time to last - fine until the evening then a bit of a meltdown. ot as bad as last time though, and the Calpol has helped (probably just me but it feels weird squirting sticky strawberry stuff into a baby's mouth).

We're starting to struggle a bit with naps too. Mind you, I don't really know what he 'should' be having, but I got the impression most babies have one fairly long nap in the day? Today, H has had 40min this morning, 20min lunchtime, 40min mid-afternoon. He started looking really tired at around 6pm but couldn't get him to do more than doze for a few minutes, then the meltdown He's been in a light sleep on me & now DH since the Calpol kicked in at 8.30pm though.

I should add that all 3 naps took about 20min to settle him (quiet room, dim light, bf and cuddle), even though beforehand he was yawning, eyes closing etc. Tried for over an hour this evening with no luck, but I think he was suffering with the jabs.

Fi am thinking of trying a bath-bf-bed routine too.

still bf Matilda. She is sssooo tired but won't settle poor love

I have been doing a feed-bath-feed-bed routine for the last week. It seems to be going OK, but I can't always get the timing right. Usually S wakes around 5-5.30pm, has a feed, has a bath around 6-6.30, feeds and then sometimes can be down at 7 but sometimes (like tonight) it is 8.30. Sometimes he'll feed until he's asleep, other times i have to walk him around until he finally gives in.

I have been doing a feed-bath-feed-bed routine for the last week. It seems to be going OK, but I can't always get the timing right. Usually S wakes around 5-5.30pm, has a feed, has a bath around 6-6.30, feeds and then sometimes can be down at 7 but sometimes (like tonight) it is 8.30. Sometimes he'll feed until he's asleep, other times i have to walk him around until he finally gives in.

routines I'm going to wait until C is 8 weeks old before I try to introduce some sort of routine. Both ds and dd1 seemed to naturally get into a more regular rythm around that time, so I'm hoping so will do something similar and then it'll be easier to know when to put her down for naps etc. At the moment she's still all over really. E.g. the last few days she was wide awake from 9.30-11. Today that was much earlier and she's just drifted off (by herself) for the night.

I've finally got round to trying her with a bottle of EBM and she's taken it. I had only managed 1.5oz, so I gave her that first and then finished her feed the normal way. She took it without even looking surprised at the different teat or anything. All that remains now is continuing to give her a bottle every so often so she doesn't loose it like ds did.

Come to think of it. I had a very productive day today: grocery shopping (in person, not online), mowing the lawn, spending ages trying to sort out the eBay/Paypal disaster and 2 loads of laundry too. Phew. I think I deserve a treat now

Sorry about the double-post.

I have started a new hobby - ebay selling .

I have listed my first 6 items (maternity clothing). So as a newbie, does anyone have any hints/tips re selling- e.g. do you go for a low starting price to encourage interest? How many days do you normally list for (i've gone for 5 but am getting impatient as i want to see some bids/people watching!). Do you ever do buy it now prices? DO you think people will be put off because i havent sold before?

I will be putting some newborn clothes on tomorrow if i get chance - I figure 3 kids is enough, and i guess i can always borrow stuff from friends/family if we decide in 2 years time to have one final child .

g stayed asleep till i popped her into bed.. then had to top her up with all the ebm from this afternoon and some formula too. she's now been asleep in her crib since 9.30ish. so far same pattern as last few days.. so hoping next feed will still be like last few nights at 4.30 ish. feed bath feed routine def helped calm/tire her out and help with snuffly nose too.

evening all.
Have asked question to DH about the frozen peas... he's looking at me oddly now. seems to be ok on the painkillers but I'm realising how much he does normally: cook and bring me tea, washing up, dishwasher, walk the dog, bring me a cuppa before bed. i'm doing all the above for him now and am knackered!

BTW - DH wants to thank all of you for your best wishes .

bonding - have bonded well with Harper and bonded well with dd1 straight away but it had taken a long time to bond with Dd2. I even feel guilty about it now. when she was born, i was disappointed she wasn't a boy, and wanted to give most of my attention to dd1 who was having a tough time adjusting. i feel so differently now and am so in love with my peanut, dd2.

slings, i used a baby bjorn (original) with dd1&2 and now with Harper. I love it.

Sorry for all of us feeling down - sounds like the majority unfortunately. please do try to get rest and support as necessary.

Hope those who've had jabs are better now. bless.

Looby last time it took H until 11pm to settle, but then he conked out and slept for ages. Am thinking of going to bed soon and taking him with me (he's still in a light sleep on DH), dealing with bf or comforting or whatever is required.

I'm not sure what time to do a bed time routine. We had one for a few weeks (3-8wks? can't remember!) - cluster feed all evening then bath, cuddle, bf in bed with me then down in his moses basket. That worked well but he's ready to go to sleep earlier now (around 9.30pm), however, he isn't consistent. We tend to have dinner around 8pm so I'm getting myself all in a tizzy wondering whether to try eating earlier/later or doing the bath thing at 6.30 ish like pula, even though H rarely goes to sleep early in the evening. I'm sure we'll find a way though.

pula, i'm not a very experienced ebay seller but have just sold 2 maternity things. I had them on for 5 days starting at 99p. not sure about buy it now but haven't bothered with it yet. don't think people will be put off by your lack of experience either. Good luck!

I've got 3 pairs of maternity jeans left to sell. can't wait to get rid of them .

M still bfeeding/comfort sucking have decided to go up to bed and try and settle her.

night all...

night looby.
i may follow you.

Time for me to go to bed too, as I'm sure S will be awake around 11 or 12 for his next feed.

pula i found it no problem selling my stuff without any feedback ratings. my tips would be..

1 take good photos they really make a difference
2 describe item accurately & mention any marks in the description etc.. show photo if necessary.
3 listings that end in an eve do better and the weekends are best.
4 check out www.auctiva.com for a cheap way to do professional looking listings straight to ebay with supersize pics at no extra cost..
5 select all relevant categories and put as much info in ad title as fits..

i set my starting price at the lowest i'm happy with and then do free postage . i have done buy it now's sometimes on larger items..

i'm not the most experienced but getting there not sure if link will work.. on phone atm one of mine