June 07 - From babies to toddlers to Little People; my how the last two years have flown by!

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A big Happy Birthday for the weeks ahead.

And to remind everyone......the birthday honours list:

Natty's DD - 24/05/07
Lilkel's DD - 25/05/07
Norty's DD - 02/06/07
Izzybel's DD - 02/06/07
Daisy's DD - 05/06/07
Derlor's DD - 08/06/07
FairyFay's DS - 10/06/07
Trace's DD - 11/06/07
BadZelda's DD - 12/06/07
Jammy's DD - 13/06/07
SeansGirl's DS - 14/06/07
Motherhurdicure's DS - 14/06/07
Sputnik's DS - 15/06/07
Tallulabelle's DD - 16/06/07
Ria's DS - 19/06/07
Bumper's DD - 20/06/07
Fury's DS - 21/06/07
Andiem's DS - 21/06/06
Holly's DS - 23/06/07
DKMA's DS - 01/07/07
Justbeme's DD 10/07/07
Annobal's DS - 10/07/07
Foxy's DD - 12/07/07

Lots of missing posters from even a year ago....if anyone is lurking come and say Hi and let us know how your LO is doing

and I can't remember what name motherhurdicure is using at the minute, but where are you?

He normally goes to sleep well on his own Jammy. Not sure what was wrong with him tonight.

DS1 definately went through a horrible phase, waking up after 45mins and screaming the house down. DH solved it with CC (although I didn't know that's what it was called then!) and also a bit of controlled mummy restraining as I couldn't bear it! I don't remember anything with DD.....need to go and search the archives!

All set for the Apprentice final tonight then?

Ohh my Sister and BIL have just gone having come round for Chinese so we are about to watch the final

Glad parties went well Daisy and Sputnik

Ria....hope DH talks....I usually have to get a few drinks down DH to talk (or late at night in bed)....is he worried about new job tomorrow?

Jesus Fury....what silly sods! Hope your mum improves soon xx

My MIL appears to have forgotten nephews 18th, SILs birthday, DD birthday, our anniversary and probably DHs birthday tomorrow . I'm so for DH

We done CC sort of with both our two...and that rung a bell Daisy - mummy restraining . I have to go outside and hang the washing and block my ears to it. It bloody works though - and Foxy is right, its reassurance, not leaving them to it!

Right, sees you all tomorrow

Ria - that wasn't meant how I wrote that. He obviously is worked up about the hospital stuff, but is the prospect of tomorrow making it worse than normal I meant...shit...still can't get across what I mean, sorry.......hope he is ok and you can get through to him. I also have a DH that is like getting blood out of a stone.

I'm 15mins behind on the Apprentice thanks to my little charmers (bless their socks) so I daren't lurk on the discussion thread!

Ria, hope things are OK.

Jammy... you asked why

They row a lot
they have broken arms fighting... pushed a hole through a wall...various injuries.
Who knows why?!
It's just what they do
They are big 17 year old lads with the mental age of about 11 (honestly - I'm not being cruel) and don't know when to stop.

oh dear fury..
makes me scared, i will have two teenage boys...

eek!

daisy have u caught up can we discuss the apprentice???

ahah...yes; all caught up. I thought Kate had a better pitch, but the price was and the box was a bit insipid. Not sure about the neon pink thing with Yasmina

Natty don't be scared, they have been in foster care since very young as they were very badly abused as children, they don't understand right/wrong like other people and simple things (to us) are things they just don't understand.
They are not really representative of the general teenage boy population!

had they had a hard life before they came to your mum fury?

An old friend of mine's mum is a foster carer....takes a strong person to do that I think.

oh i agree.. its not something i would be strong enough to do.

my fav won! yay! i loved the electric chocolates, i would buy them

only problem is i fancy some chocolates and no shops open on a sunday round here! lol

morning all.

Norty - no worries, I think I know what you meant! Still no talking, he got up about 7pm last night, just as I was starting baths etc. He did do DS2s homework with him (luckily cos it's making paper aeroplanes), then by the time I'd got the boys in bed and settled (after 9.30 - I missed Kingdom) I made DHs tea and went to bed.

He is up and slingless this morning, he is going in to work at 10, he has to try and get his dressing changed at the surgery before then (not much chance, they have a "polite notice" saying don't ring the surgery on a Monday morning), luckily the first couple of days is just planning and paperwork, so fingers crossed it will all go well. He is managing his own bath this morning (just as well cos Dsis offered to come and do it)

DS1 is trying to convince me he is ill

fury, are you still in touch with Derlor? Happy B'day to her DD

I have been up since half four this morning. Just couldn't get back to sleep after feeding bumble. Eventually gave up the bed at 5.30.

I'm now nodding off sitting upright. Need to go into town this morning as well for an eyetest (does tiredness affect it? ); better take the bus rather than drive I think. Definately not safe!

And a Happy Birthday to Derlor's DD.

Morning

Tiredness definitely affects my eyesight. Found that one out driving across that big long road from Scotch corner to Carlisle at midnight last year. Couldn't see a fecking thing even with my glasses on

We had a shit night as well....not due to DCs....they slept fine, but DH and I kept waking each other up snoring I think. I don't know whether to be worried and just fucking angry about MIL.

I thought Kate was the better candidate all round last night, those pink chocolates looked disgusting (well the flavours anyway)

DS has just puked over outfit number 2 today, went all over his face, in his ears, up his nose and its only 8.30am!

Good luck to DH Ria

Happy Birthday to Derlor's DD

worried or angry I meant!

I will pass on Birthday messages

Yes Daisy they had a very hard life, they were badly sexually abused and beaten etc. They came to my mum at 9 years old, unable to use a knife or fork and tell the time.

However they also called my mother all manner of bithes/motherfuckers/c*nts.

I am in the process of applying to be a carer. I am beginning to want to change my mind though.

Maybe a quiet word with your MIL Norty? Does DH have any siblings? have they noticed her being forgetful as well?

Say Hi to Derlor from me fury

DD is asking "where's mummy gone?" and telling me I'm not her mummy . Odd child.

fury. good for your mum doing it though.

DH has gone off in a huff because he can't find the disc with his menu directory on. Apparently this is my fault as all the discs were in the box last week. Twat. Will try and email him it. Hopefully his boss will take one look at him and be very nice and understanding. Thanks for the good luck wishes! could you cross everything, and arrange a miracle by any chance?

phew, luckily my mum hasn't taken her laptop with her, and it still has DHs work stuff on it. A slight reprieve

has set me back on my housework though

That's very about your foster brothers' life before your Mum took them Fury. Hats off to your Mum for doing it! They obviously still have some problems, but it sounds like they could have ended up in a much worse place. I have considered whether or not I might like to foster in the future (on the grounds that I think we are in a fortunate position and ought to help) but agree with others that I'm not sure I'd be strong enough. My cousin fosters littlies, and I also don't know how he does it - he's now had 15+ years of looking after babies, think of all the sleep he's missed! He mostly only has them short term, sometimes a few weeks, but sometimes several months and says that the hard bit is saying goodbye if they've been with him for a while.

Ria, keeping everything crossed for your DH!

And am I the only one who finds that my eyesight varies with the time of the month?

Jammy, eyesight varying dependng on the time of the month is a little odd

The UK is short of homes for something like 10,000 kids.

We are in the process now - we have had our initial meetings etc.

the left side of my face and mouth went numb, then my thumb, and each ofmy fingers in turn, now its back to my face.

I am freaking out.

jammy, our optician told DH that his eyesight was probably better last time he had them tested because he hadn't been working so had been eating a better diet etc, so it could be. Maybe it's the moon?

I didn't realise you could foster if you had your own LOs still at home. I would like to when ours are older, but obviously will have to shunt them off so I can have their rooms. Dsis has mentioned it too, she'd be really good I think. I don't think DH is quite as keen as me because his ex-MIL used to foster Downs kids and he was involved in a couple of heartbreaking deaths Good luck though fury!

so, DH is home He was given his contract and the salary had dropped by £5k to what he was offered at the interview Back to the drawing board...

Sounds nasty Foxy

Ria, about that £5k drop! And yes you can foster while you have your own children at home, but I think there must be a certain age gap between your youngest and any foster children, so as to keep the family hierarchy in order. My cousin started only able to take babies as his DDs were still very young, but although they are now almost adults (in fact one has left home) he has chosen to keep with the babies, apart from one little boy who they never found a permamnet home for, so he now with my cousin as a long term foster placement

And yes, it does sound odd, but several times I've found that the first day of my period I find it hard to focus (as in eyesight, not attention) properly, especially when driving (which is worrying). In fact the past 2 periods have announced themselves to me by this rather than by stomach cramps etc. I get all worried about why things are a bit blurry and then go to the loo and oh! there it is.