May 2009 - loved-up new mums and/or sleep-deprived zombies this way please

[pulapula]

Here's a nice new thread for us to share our experiences with our new LOs.

I DONE A JOBBY!

What an event, unbelievable. I had DD1 standing beside me howling in rage that I was putting her in a bath, DS2 asking me to read him a story and then the effing phone rang! By this point my bowel had changed it's mind and it took a good talking to before we got going. I think it might sink a submarine though, I even made hubby come and look.

Fi I seriously wonder about people. I had a few folk say to me last week about not being long until the baby got here - what planet do these people live on?!

Anyway. I managed to get my pre-pregnancy trousers fastened on Saturday and I now weigh 4lbs less than I did the month I fell pregnant. That's without including the half-stone worth of jobby I just lost!!

blotted - congratulations, that must be a relief for you!! And lol at getting other half to have a look!

fi - can't believe that comment!

spangle - I'd say keep trying with the wrap, you'll both (probably) get used to it; good idea about the sling meet, you'll be able to get tips for making it easier, and be able to see other kinds of slings too -it may be that the wrap just isn't for you.

pula - hugs to you, and anyone else feeling a bit down.

jennster - we were discharged from the MW on thursday and only seen three times too. Also have one of those HVs - are they all like that? Useful for getting LOs weighed I guess but I can't ask mine for advice ever as she doesn't have an opinion on anything, even a wrong one!

Well, after a couple of good (ish) nights with A she's as miserable as anything tonight, really grizzly, not sleeping and just wanted to be cuddled or fed all the time. I'm wondering now if it's because I had cheese and onion sandwiches at lunch time - the last time she was like this I'd eaten raw onion. Am I clutching at straws?!

We've had a good weekend, DD1 seems to have settled down a lot now, but on the down side she seems to be dropping the day time naps. We've managed to get some jobs done in the house, been to the seaside (and had chips and Mr Whippy ice creams!) and Dh has got up with DD1 every day at 6. And then brought me tea and breakfas in bed much later. Tomorrow is the test though! Not sure whether to go to my friends for coffee in the morning, she lives about 30 mins walk away.

hi all.
gert, I'm BF but have given Harper two bottles in the last week of expressed milk and she took it fine, didn't seem to have too much a problem switching to/fro.

belgian, i had H in a girly dress yesterday (pics on FB)and she absolutely swam in it but looked adorable. happy sigh.

pula, really hope you're feeling better and think shopping Wed morning is a good idea . do keep a check on your feeling down and talk to someone (GP or HV)about it. try not to feel guilty about your older DCs. wish we lived closer so we could meet and chat.

Fi, hope all is well for your homecoming tomorrow.

DD1&2 were such nightmares today. not eating, trantrumming, not listening, whingeing, etc. the inlaws/grandparents were here yesterday/today so I wonder if they go through a sort of 'withdrawal' from the attention-giving grandparents which affects their behaviour .

well, should try to get some sleep. might be back on in the middle of the night.

Hallo all - just a quickie - I knew i would find it imposs to keep up once A arrived!

Anyone any tips on thrush (fanjo) apparently can't take diflucan so need the pessary/cream internal solution which I'm nervous about post stitches/bruising and general nervousness. Been using calendula and tea tree but its making no difference and its a bit of a pain?

All well here - posted on the other thread about the BF/FF issues regards lack of attention to the other children/child. I'm struggling with this - actually a lot more than I think my DD is. I'm kinda hoping that the BF will settle into a good routine soon and we won't be constantly attached. AT the moment I'm just demand feeding so not even noticing the time between feeds - tho I think this is getting longer.

Started with mastitis yesterday but found hot/cold compress, constant expressing and good ol homeopathy have really helped to clear it - phew

Spangle where's this sling club then, I'd be interested in that as I appear to have lost my instructions for my sling.

How do I find out about local baby clubs - I made a few friends last time via an event pre birth that the HV organised for people due at the same time - but they didn't do it this time and its nice to have people locally who have littles the same age.

Sorry that has become a very me me me post - wasn't intentional - am off to make a cup of rooiboos, yum

pula where are you hun, I keep thinking you are nearish to me but I might be completely wrong (normally the case at the moment!!) Mind you my lack of geography makes everyone close

Blotted congratulations! (on the poo and the trousers)

Health visitors What's the 'typical' HV like then? Mine spent the first 10 minutes of her first visit explaining how she is there for help & advice and not to give opinions, but half an hour later was practically lecturing me the reasons not to use a dummy (I hadn't expressed an opinion, or even mentioned them). Very pro-BFing, baby-wearing, baby-led weaning, co-sleeping... fortunately most of her opinions co-incide with mine to a greater or lesser extent (baby-wearing in the shower is a step too far IMO) and she's very knowledgeable about BF-ing which I found useful.

Also want to report my first BF fully in public at the picnic today - v proud of myself!!

Oh and blotted i absolutely love hubbys blog of Greer 365 - what a gorgeous idea and a totally beautiful baby girl

Right as per am talking to self and need to sterilise my milking machine. I'm a bit confused about this whole expressing malarkey - wasn't successful last time and this time I think I have enough for the whole street but good for the freezer I guess.

Detsy it's in Biddulph, think it's a Monday morning or lunchtime, not sure. Is it a stretchy wrap sling? Can share the instructions for mine if you like.

NCT do stuff in Congleton, I think. I was told today there's a Monday morning coffee thing at Ceramic Experience (or whatever it's called, on Sandbach road). Happy to team up if you fancy going & want a companion.

Thanks for all the hugs and kind wishes. I'm feeling better now i've stopped crying. I probably just need to get S down for a decent nap - he will sleep well on me (anything up to 2 hours) but if put down, will generally wake after 5 or 10 mins so i end up sitting and cuddling to make sure he is rested which although it is nice (my cs wound is a bit sore so i'm trying not to do too much) doesn't really help DH or the older DCs. And if he's asleep in the lounge i feel sorry for the DCs as i'm always telling them to be quiet.

detsy - I'm in Sheffield but think the nearest people are in Leeds, York and Nottingham - all about an hour or so drive.

detsy have you looked on netmums? They have a good local section which I use to find out about local baby groups, toddler activities etc. Just don't leave us for their forums!

HV I have a new one this time around and this time I've struck gold! She is pretty amazing and I'm very pleased with her.

BOttles I've got to give G a bottle next Tuesday because I am off to see Take That. He hasn't had one yet and I've no idea how much EBM I'll need to leave so I shall be expressing like mad this week. I'm so fed-up of tandem feeding now and I am hopeful that DS1 will give up soon.

I've seen my CMW 3 times (with one more visit on Weds) and my HV is coming a week on Thurs. I really like my HV as she is really easy to talk to (she's the same one i had when DS1 was born) but she wouldn't give an opinion on anything - just told me to go with my instincts on things.

Pula The thing I am struggling with is that I have gotten used to my DDs being independent-ish, and G will just not be put down when he is awake. Luckily he will sleep on his own but has to go to sleep on the boob. I know that this is not ideal but I am just going with whatever works / an as-easy-as-possible life. I am digressing - what I am trying to say is that it is a real shock to me how much time I am using to sort out G which means not spending it with DDs. I am trying to rationalise that this time will not last forever and the DDs won't mind but that's difficult with less sleep than I'd like and absolutely no me-time. I think your idea to put your DC into nursery for 3 days is great... once things are on a more even keel you can always take it back down to 2 days again.

HVs - mine is lovely but my previous one was a complete dragon. I'm not sure what they do really, apart from weighing babies. Mine is pretty hot on PND and really supported me with my AND so I am a big fan of hers !

Detsy Go to your doctor re the thrush. You can actually give a newborn fluconazole (diflucan) although not recommended before baby is 4 weeks old. Will look into it tomorrow for you. Have to go have a screaming baby and I'm ready to drop.

pula you're bout an hour ish from me too i guess, i'm sth mcr - happy to meet one day, half way house, if you fancy it when the bigger littles are at nursery or something?

spangle - up for the mon thing if it doesn't class with lotti's music class - 130 in mossley. no idea where the ceramic thing is tho??

My sling is a combo wrap/ring thing called close baby.

best go dd eally disturbed 2 nite, seems to be having recurring nightmares - maybe the last week is catching up with her?

thanks jenn and llare won't leave i promise!! x

pula thanks for the link on the other thread

DD just come into lounge in dads arms - bad bad bad plan - he could have a long long night on his hands....

Lets make that a v v v v v v v v long looonng loooonnngggg looonggg nite for everyone - men honestly

detsy, how did your night go then? hope your dd settled. my DH does that as well, not sure dads understand consequences.

i've just been pooed and sicked on and also had to change the duvet (2nd time in as many days). damn leaky nappies [anger].

we have so much laundry. and our tumble dryer broke last week so we can only do laundry as quickly as it can air dry - with our weather, not very fast. not the end of the world, i know, but a bother anyway.

a bit wet out today so looks like a morning in with 3 DD's. prob is i don't have energy to 'do' anything creative with them and take care of newborn, bf, etc at same time. pula, i feel your pain and can't wait for nursery day tomorrow.

hope all are well.

oh, blotted, congrats on your 'jobby' ... what a relief!

2 hours sleep is not enough! Thankfully DS1 is off out with his grandparents today so G and I can snooze in peace.

Well done on the poo, blotted. 9 days sounds horrific!

Morning all

detsy hope there was some sleep in your house last night! Will investigate the Monday morning thing - only clocked the place once so not 100%.

LOL at dads not understanding consequences, H is not 8wks old yet and I can see that is going to be true here. DH likes to do the dad thing of wiggling H's arms & legs, jigging about etc regardless whether H is in a playful mood or half asleep. I have a 'you wake, you deal' policy, only it doesn't work when he (H) wants a boob.

blotted looked at your DH's site - really lovely idea and your DH takes great photos. I love the first one, it brought a tear to my eye actally It's such an amazing moment and you have it captured forever.

llare 2 hours, ouch! hope you manage to catch up today.

I managed 11.45 - 2.30, 3-4 and 5 - 7 so not too bad. H's tummy woke him up at 4am & I went to change his nappy but he was doing one of those poos with several instalments so had to stand there for a while til I thought it was safe to open the nappy. A 4am poo explosion is definitely not what I need!

Morning ladies,

Thanks for your reassurance re. bottle feeding and breast feeding. Think am just going to go for it. Will get the steriliser instructions out and give hand expressing a little go. Will let you know how E takes to a bottle.

My HV has just been. She's very nice. Gave me advise re. winding (I know nothing about it), she said that winding is a cultural thing and many countries don't wind babies at all, but it's the done thing in the UK. She said unless E 'asks' to be winded she doesn't need it and will get her wind up by herself. Very relieved as I thought I was doing something wrong! I just feed her and put her down and she has seemed fine, so glad I've been doing the right thing.

I've also had chance to read more posts on this thread and it's so good to hear that what's happening hear in Gert Towers re. E is perfectly normal and very similar things are happening in your homes with your babies! Reassurance is such a good thing for my worrying mind!

Spangle well done on your bf in public expedition - isn't it wonderful? I'm quite prudish and have to admit that I was one of those people, prior to giving birth, that felt ridiculously uncomfortable when in the presence of mum's breastfeeding (quite funny when working in a children's centre) and thought I'd NEVER be able to get my norks out in public. I am pleased to say I have had my boobs out now in front of most of my friends and family and many strangers!

Blotted hearty congragulations on your poo - an achievement!

Going to the doctors today to register E. And maybe a visit to the market for some early english strawberries. Might take E in the moby wrap (thank you to the people on here who recommended it - I'm loving it), though not sure if my back is strong enough yet to walk that far with my little joey in her pouch! We'll see.

Afternoon ladies,

Someone has announced a new arrival on FB (I think quite a few of you are friends with her so should hopefully be able to check it out)!

I feel much better today as i made it to the NCT babies group, and then DS2 fell asleep in the car on the way back and is still asleep now (nearly 1.5 hours later) so i have had some lunch and a sit down with DH without a baby on my knee. Also managed to get him on a 3 hour routine today (was 2 hourly yesterday) which is not as tiring on the feeding front.

Detsy- I am actually from South Mcr originally (Altrincham) so know it quite well round there, so once i am driving again, it would be nice to meet up somewhere convenient to us both. Thanks for the offer.