May 2009 - loved-up new mums and/or sleep-deprived zombies this way please

[pulapula]

Here's a nice new thread for us to share our experiences with our new LOs.

[pulapula]

Yes, I can't remember how long lochia lasts either, although mine seems quite light as they suction a lot away during the cs.

Is anyone else suffering from bladder weakness? I seem to leak on my way to the loo each time . At first i thought it was just lochia pooling due to sitting down a lot but i dont think it was...Might need to get it sorted- i spent 6 months with a physio after having DD and hoped having 2 elcs would reduce the chance of this happening again.

[Belgianchocolates]

Hi. Back from my meal and on my way to bed.

After being brilliant all day C decided that she wanted to be awake and then on the boob during the whole meal. When we arrived at the pub she was wide awake and so I knew I was in for trouble. She spent a good 30-45 min wide awake looking around and generally charming everyone around us, but as to be expected the minute our food arrived she decided she wanted some food too. Despite having been fed before we left , typical. Anyway. She's quite good at getting herself on and I had a muslin square with my just in case, so there was no boob flashing going on

lochia can come and go for up to 3 weeks, especially if you're doing a bit too much, 2 weeks is normal. Mine got worse on fri, but then funnily enough seems to have stopped today. That's amazing, because C isn't even a week old.

age gap I do think it's making no3 easier for us. Dd1 is 5 now and independent. Both of the eldest don't need entertaining anymore and on top of that they're in full time school, so during the week I'm on my own with C from 9-3, which is lovely and even gives me a chance to nap if C co-operates. My dream was always to have 2, then a big gap and then another 2 close together. However after having PGP so badly, I'm not sure that that'll happen.

Tummum your G sounds like my C yesterday and this evening. Only difference is that yesterday she was doing it a bit later and she didn't settle until after midnight. You wont run out of milk. Either he wants more and then he needs as much time at the breast as he wants so you'll start making more OR he's just fussy, not really hungry, but wanting to be on the boob, like babies can sometimes do. C has been feeding on and off from 4.30 until about 30 mins ago too. She seems to finally have gone to sleep now and I think she's in quite a deep sleep and off for the night now, well for a good few hours anyway. Can you believe we went for a meal during one of those feeding frenzy episodes too?! Good luck and hopefully G will settle soon so you can get a sleep too.

Right. Off to bed now C's asleep I need to catch up on some of that sleep I lost yesterday

[Belgianchocolates]

pula I've got the same problem I've started doing my pelvic floor excercises and hope that'll sort it. If not, it'll be the physion and contince nurse or something.

Anyway, really off to bed now...

[Tummum]

Thanks for the support ladies. G finally went to sleep at 11 after chewing my norks off, but (to be fair) he slept til 4 and is now asleep again so I am feeling much better today having had some sleep. DH has just left, so I am feeling a bit . Lochia seems to have gone away again... but this time I am not counting my chickens !!!!

Going to make the DC brekkie and get myself a giant cuppa to get through the school run.

[Reggiee]

HI all. Hope you got a good night's sleep....
TUMMUM Glad things settled down - it's awful when they scream and you can't seem to do anything to make them happy. Oh, the evening hours in our house....swaddling has once again helped us massively during the big screaming for no reason phase.

First day on my own with B today - can't believe he's 26 days old already! I've left him sleeping like a proverbial baby, and come to MN. Wonder if I should be sleeping too?

PULA / BELGIAN my pelvic floors are knackered. I'm not even sure if I'm doing my exercises correctly as I can't feel anything, and not sure hopw often I should be doing them. When I did them (occasionally) whist pg, I could always feel a 'pulling in' sensation. When I need the loo now, I really need the loo , so need to get back in to shape.

SPANGLE lol at your scales going 'EEE'. My problem is that loads of people have sent me chocolate to congratulate me on the birth. THere's loads sat in my cupboard and am not so slowly chomping my way through it. I'll need to do lots of 'pramacise' to loose those last few pounds.

Hope everyone has a good day, and looking forward to seeing the others from Ante-Natal. The babes are a-coming

[Reggiee]

Oh and my locia has pretty much gone, although still have a pad in as a 'security blanket' . It took 6 weeks to go with dd and was really heavy (had c-section), but this time has been really light. I lost 600mls blood during delivery this time, which was more than with dd.

[LoobyLou36]

Hi all..
thanks pula for starting this thread.

Re: weight.
I weighed 12st 6 when I went into hospital to have Matilda - now weigh 11st 2, so its coming off. I've never been slim so will be happy to get back to 10st 4-6.

BF not going too well, M fusses and still struggles to latch 50% of the time, we are now 50/50 formula and bf
Last night's 10pm feed was formula, 1.15am BF, 4am BF, 7.30am formula (still having a guilt trip every time I give her formula but she's putting on weight now so I guess its working)

I think her thrush is getting better as she is feeding better now.

[LoobyLou36]

Re: alcohol. I had a can of cider last night really fancied one for the first time in ages. woke up this morning with a thick head tho feeling v.dehydrated.

[SpangleMaker]

I'm of those of you with LOs who the odd long stretch of nightime sleep. H is nearly 7wks and the longest he's gone from feed to feed is 3.5 hours, so the longest stretch of sleep I've had is less than 3 hours. I generally feed him around 11pm, then he wakes at 2am, 4.30am and 6-7am. He'll go down quickly after the 2am feed but can be quite lively at the 4.30 one, and properly awake after 6-7am. If I want anymore sleep after that I have to put him on the bed with us. I guess he's still only the size of a newborn (prob going on for 9lb now) so the frequent feeds will go on for longer.

lochia think mine was fairly heavy/period like for 2 weeks then just needed a panty liner for a further 2 weeks.

alcohol I am a bad mummy, I've been having a small glass of wine most evenings after a feed. I just really enjoy wine with a meal and it definitely helps me unwind. It's good for H to have a chilled out mum, right??

[SpangleMaker]

I'm of those of you with LOs who the odd long stretch of nightime sleep. H is nearly 7wks and the longest he's gone from feed to feed is 3.5 hours, so the longest stretch of sleep I've had is less than 3 hours. I generally feed him around 11pm, then he wakes at 2am, 4.30am and 6-7am. He'll go down quickly after the 2am feed but can be quite lively at the 4.30 one, and properly awake after 6-7am. If I want anymore sleep after that I have to put him on the bed with us. I guess he's still only the size of a newborn (prob going on for 9lb now) so the frequent feeds will go on for longer.

lochia think mine was fairly heavy/period like for 2 weeks then just needed a panty liner for a further 2 weeks.

alcohol I am a bad mummy, I've been having a small glass of wine most evenings after a feed. I just really enjoy wine with a meal and it definitely helps me unwind. It's good for H to have a chilled out mum, right??

[SpangleMaker]

oops double post, sorry

[1stMrsF]

Hi there

Thanks pula for setting up thread for us - this one might be a more manageable speed for new mummies than the antenatal one?!

Re weight I put on about 2 stone in total, but of couse the twins were 1 stone of that (!) I am going to write a celebrity diet book - the Twin Plan as I am also a stone lighter than my prepregnancy weight after 2 weeks, and with the amount of breastfeeding I'm doing (seems to be all that I do) it won't be stopping there. This is fine as I was 12st 4 before pg which is pretty overweight for 5'3" and so I'm hoping that this might be the year I get down to my ideal weight of 9st 12lb.

I was wondering about the lochia too, mine is still there, but is very light now after 2.5 weeks.

Having twins is manageable so far, but I cannot imagine being on my own at all yet. DH has been out for short trips to gym etc. but that's all. This week my sister is here to help and that's a huge relief. They don't often wake at the same time, so it is double the feeding so far. When they do wake at the same time I try to feed them together and have had some success, but it's not always possible e.g. if one has already started, so then there is a lot of screaming whilst the 2nd one waits and that's a bit stressful. However, I won't complain because as you know I was really determined to breastfeed, and I am doing so, DT1 has even mostly weaned herself off the formula top ups.

Spangle I'm with you - having a drink most evenings. Just the one and as far away from a feed as I can - us being chilled is important.

[Belgianchocolates]

Hi everyone,

tummum C has done the same for 2 nights now: feed feed feed and then a longish stretch of sleep. Last night she slept from when I posted on here until 3am! I actually woke up before her and couldn't believe the time. Afterwards she only went 2hourly and today I think she's making up for the lost feeds as she's wanting to feed every hour or so. My boobs feel totally empty. Hopefully though she'll have another good night because of it

1stMrsF Well done on bf the twins and on losing all that weight.

alcohol while bf is nowhere near as bad as when pregnant. I tend to drink right after a feed and so hopefully (if she doesn't go 1h) most of it will be out of my system by the time she feeds again.

looby glad M's thrush is getting better. I'm pretty sure she'll settle better once it's gone. She'll feel much more comfortable.

[pulapula]

Unfortunately my LO feeds around 7 or 8pm then sleeps til i wake him for a feed before i go to bed, and THEN he decides to feed feed feed, which means bedtime is 12.30 or 1am. I should maybe encourage some evening feeds but its nice to just chill in the evenings too...

Today (Day 6) we have had our first explosive poos (now have a king size duvet cover to wash as it went through his clothing), and our first baby sick. He isnt very settled and seems to want to feed a lot, but then takes on too much. He is still very yellow but i'm not too worried as he's eating so well.

DH just popped to the shop and so it was my first time home alone with 3 kids. DS was upstairs having his nap, but i still felt very anxious and unable to cope. I was desperate for a wee and DS2 was unsettled so this ring sling is great. i think when DH is back at work i will just have to go out to playgroups or have friends round or something as i don't like the feeling of being on my own with 3 kids...

[Tummum]

Pula - I so know what you mean about being alone with 3 kids. I am getting very anxious about being on my own with them - I think it is the responsibility and worry about them all kicking off at the same time. And with G not being in a routine (and unlikely for a long time) it's very difficult to predict when he will need feeding / sleeping it is very difficult. I am hoping this feeling will go away as the weeks pass otherwise my blood pressure will be mounting. That's also part of the reason I am thinking about giving up BF, just so that I can give G to someone else to look after while I deal with the DDs. But after G throwing up the formula yesterday I'm not sure that's an option... he's obviously a boob man already

[Tummum]

Forgot to say well done Mrsf on bf the twins. Fantastic !

[pulapula]

tummum- I am worrying about when S needs 1 hour long feeds or has a growth spurt which ties me to the sofa. I may well also decide that formula feeding (or mixed feeding) is the best option for everyone.

I also used to settle DD and DS (awake) in their baskets/cots for naps to promote independent sleeping, but think this one will have to sleep wherever/whenever. At the moment he can usually be found curled up on the sofa after a sleepy feed.

[SpangleMaker]

Ooh I just got my Health in Pregnancy grant I actually didn't apply until after H was born as the MW didn't get a supply of forms in until then. She made me promise to spend it on myself too. Am thinking jujube changing bag

1stMrsF very impressed at bfing the twins!

[1stMrsF]

Thanks!

I think I am also going to spend some of mine on a changing bag - it might help me get out of the house at some point!

[llareggub]

I've spent mine on a new pair of jeans and 3 new tops. Just pondering how to spend the rest now. I told DH that the additional child benefit is going on a cleaner!

I weighed myself today and I've lost 3 pounds this week. I think it must be the extra breastfeeding.

It is my 1st day on my own with 2 today, and it has been fine but I am dreading DS's bedtime if George wakes up.

[Momino]

Hi all.

was on my own wth th 3 dd's for 2 whole hours today (what a feat!). luckily it wasn't a meal time so just spent it holding Harper whilst dd 1& 2 played.

i must admit, i do let Harper cry a bit (after making sure not hunger, pain, tired etc.) and goes over my head [bad mummy emoticon] if I need to tend to one of the other DD's needs.

i'm dreading bedtime, too, llareggub. I hope yours goes/went well tonight on your own.

[Momino]

Hi all.

was on my own wth th 3 dd's for 2 whole hours today (what a feat!). luckily it wasn't a meal time so just spent it holding Harper whilst dd 1& 2 played.

i must admit, i do let Harper cry a bit (after making sure not hunger, pain, tired etc.) and goes over my head [bad mummy emoticon] if I need to tend to one of the other DD's needs.

i'm dreading bedtime, too, llareggub. I hope yours goes/went well tonight on your own.

[Momino]

sorry for double post. don't know what happened .