April 2009 - Chapter 1: We're not pregnant, just fat!

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We made it!

The fab April ladies and their blessed progeny...

12 Feb: Skiingone: MARIANNA 4lb 4oz
20 Feb: Glaskham: RUBY MARIE 4lb 3oz
04 Mar: Barbarella: ESTELLA, ROSANNA, OTIS
05 Mar: Kazkiss: ISABELLE FLORENCE 4lb 6oz & OLIVER THOMAS 3lb 7oz
15 Mar: Babypringle: OSCAR WILLIAM 7lb 2oz
28 Mar: Claireykitten: VIOLET ROSE 7lb 9oz
29 Mar: WhatFreshHell: FELIX DEVLIN ALEXANDER 10lb 5.5oz
31 Mar: Mumblemum: ORSON XERXES
02 Apr: Oddeyes: ELEANOR 9lb 8oz
03 Apr: Bleuravin: MEGAN LILLIAN CONSTANCE
03 Apr: Bumpalump: JACOB 8lb
04 Apr: BabyBolat: KARAHAN 6lb 5oz
05 Apr: Mrsfossil: ISLA LILIAN 7lb 10oz
06 Apr: BoffinMum: FELIX DAVID GORDON 7lb 9oz
11 Apr: SpringySunshine: GEORGE NATHAN 8lb 15oz
11 Apr: RachelinScotland: CLEMENT JAMES 8lb 14oz
11 Apr: Lou031205: ISLA SOPHIA 7lb 9oz
11 Apr: Electra: ISABELLA CAROLINE 6lb 3oz
11 Apr: AuldAlliance: ALEXANDRE 7lb 6oz
12 Apr: Phdlife: Name TBA GIRL 9lb 3oz
12 Apr: BethDivine: Name TBA GIRL 9lb 9oz
13 Apr: MathsMummy27: AMELIA CHARLOTTE
14 Apr: Purlease: ADAM 9lb 2oz
15 Apr: Juwesm: HUGO GEORGE 9lb 2oz
15 Apr: Bronze: ISAAC JOHN
15 Apr: HeidiT: HEIDI
15 Apr: Kalikaroo: Name TBA BOY 8lb
15 Apr: Minush: ZAFIRAH ROSA 7lb 12oz
15 Apr: FatandFedup: EMILIA ROSE 7lb 6oz
16 Apr: PuzzleRocks: HOLLY ELIZABETH 8lb
16 Apr: Brettgirl: HANNAH GRACE 6lb 15oz
16 Apr: ReallyTired: Name TBA GIRL
18 Apr: Staryeyed: Name TBA BOY 7lb 11oz
20 Apr: LuLuBai: SEBASTIAN 9lb
20 Apr: Swaliswan: BETH 7lb 9oz
21 Apr: Kittycatisgettingfat: GABRIELLA AUDREY BIANCA
21 Apr: B52s: SAM MARTIN 7lb 9oz
21 Apr: Schulte: HAZEL LOIS 7lb 9 oz
23 Apr: Tristaleejac: LEWIN 8lb 4oz
23 Apr: NuttyTaff: TIAHNA SKYE 8lb 8oz
23 Apr: Purplemonkeydishwasher: ISLA ELIZABETH 8lb 14oz
24 Apr: Soon2befamilyof4: TALIA 7lb 6oz
26 Apr: Carameli: THEO LAURENCE 7lb 6oz
26 Apr: Surprisenumber3: EVIE ANNE 8lb 2oz
26 Apr: Bicnod: OSCAR MATTHEW 8lb 1oz
27 Apr: Lauren61: OLIVER STEPHEN 7lb 7oz
27 Apr: Gingersarah: VERONICA ROISIN 9lb 1oz
30 Apr: MegBusset: ARCHIE 8lb 15oz
01 May: Satheresitting: Name TBA BOY
03 May: Conkertree: Name TBA BOY 8lbs 8oz
06 May: Frekkles: HARRIS MERLIN 8lb 5.5oz
07 May: TarteTatin: ALBERT JOHN
10 May: Ilovesummer: Name TBA BOY

hey everyone feeling much better now thank you for all your lovely messages on here and facebook, MAJOR thank you to gingersarah for mentioning about going back to docs for proper wee tests that friday. that was when i got admitted to hospital because he realised it wasnt just a urine infection, and if i hadn't gone back then i'd have had to wait til following tuesday because of bank holiday. so thank you It was a womb infection as well as urine infection so not very nice combined! hardcore iv antibiotic drip in hospital did the trick though, was awful being back in there but worth it to get me better !

havent caught up yet will have a read later, we're off shopping in a minute.

ooh had ollie weighed today, 10lb !!

xx

Hey Looby, i'm glad you are on the mend. And well done GingerSarah.

Woohoo! Both Orbit and DS1 are asleep, and I did it all by myself (DP is away) and with almost no yelling!

(Well one small yell when DS1 elbowed Orbit in the head during stories, but it was only a small one, honest )

Of course, I haven't had any dinner yet or anything, but I do have wine

Looby so glad to hear you're better!

Have posted a pic of one of Orbit's smiles on my profile - didn't manage to catch the full beam, but you get the idea!

anybody here?? i have sooooore nipples :/ heeelpppp

Juw DS1 was a very slow gainer and it looks like Edmund is going the same way. DS1 dropped off the bottom of the charts at 5 months old, at which point we started solids (at HV's insistence against my instincts) and it was a huge success. He climbed eventually to the 75th centile. Which was great in one way and awful in another, since I always had that question mark hanging over my head. BUT we did do exclusive BFing for five months and I carried on BFing him for three and a half years so there must have been something in it for him. I don't know really what I'm trying to say here other than it's hard and there are never any hard and fast answers, but you're doing the right thing.

WFH what beautiful pictures. I am sure you have done the sensible thing by now and got some shuteye. I've been up having one of those horrible agonised conversations with DH. You know, where it's not quite an argument but both of you are a bit upset and shouty, and you can't just stop the conversation, even though it's horribly late and the baby is picking up on the tension and refusing to sleep. I think it was helpful, but am definitely going to pay for this in the morning.

Looby, do you have thrush on top of everything else, or have you just been chewed?

My goodness WFH, he looks so grown up. Ace photo.

Looby, sore how? Any other symptoms?

MrsG - Did you resolve things with DH?

Morning all,
Hope you are OK, Looby.

WFH, that is a gorgeous smile!!!

We saw the osteopath yesterday, who says she thinks that Alex is just overeating a bit, rather than suffering from reflux. And he is a bit curved over to one side, if you'll pardon my translation, which may or may not bother him. He was as good as gold, I was amazed that he lay there smiling while she manipulated him.

I ate something with cow's milk in yesterday, and the evening was sheer hell, it clearly makes a difference to Alex.

DH got in at 9 and said he'd take over as I was exhausted. Alex was still screaming half an hour later, so I came to see what was happening: DH had laid him in his carrycot and was rocking it. I suggested it might not be a good plan to lie him down on his back, and was told, "I'm dealing with this my way".
An hour after that, I awoke from a doze to hear the screaming still going on. DH had left him in the carrycot to scream, had shut the door and gone into another room and was playing chess online. When he heard me coming downstairs, he ran into the living room and picked Alex up defensively. Alex screamed, did a huge painful burp and then fell asleep. DH announced, "You see, he got tired of screaming."

I have this terrible feeling that I will never really want to leave Alex alone with him for the next few months. Maybe I am overreacting.

morning everyone!

well went to edinburgh for the day. isla spent most of the morning crying. she really really doesn't like H&M, cried every time i tried to go in! she's ok with joh lewis though which worked out well since i had to go in to use some vouchers. got a new baby monitor. digital this time so hopefully it won't sound like an airport any more!
didn't get anything for me though. i was going to try those £12 jeans from marks that are supposed to be flattering for everyone but the fitting room was downstairs and i just couldn't be arsed. and on that topic WHY are all the baby departments up or down stairs??

Oh MrsG I hope you and DH are ok today - I know exactly the sort of argument you mean, and it's very tiring (and often comes about because you're both tired). Hope you aren't too shattered today.

Looby my left nipple is raw today, and Orbit has chewed it until it bled - ouch - so I'm slapping on Lansinoh every opportunity I can. Do you have any Lansinoh?

Right, must get on, Orbit is sleeping (in theory, although I just heard a squeak from the bedroom) and I am off to see my sister and three nieces/nephews today.

oh, x-posts! Auld I can understand you not trusting DH after that - had Alex been screaming constantly or had he only just started up again? And did your DH say how long he'd been playing chess? I can understand needing a break from the screaming sometimes, but it all depends on how long the break is.

I do think that sometimes women are more patient with the sort of inconsolable screaming that you get with reflux, although I have been tempted to chuck Orbit out of the window occasionally!

purple glad to hear that isla approves of John Lewis - she is clearly keen on quality and good value! Perhaps you could get them to sponsor you in some way?

Just dry cracked and stings like a bitch when he feeds, i dread every feed atm. have been covering myself in lansinoh hopefully it'll work soon, just wondered if anybody had any other magical cures

WFH lovely big grin bless him!!

WFH, I think Alex had been screaming the whole time: he was exhausted and went straight off to sleep as soon as he'd burped. If DH had picked him up and burped him - which might admittedly have taken 10 mins of screaming - the whole thing would never have needed to last so long.
Women are probably more patient than men, and I also appreciate that DH had come in from work and was tired, but what p'd me off was that I had come down after the first half hour and said I'd put Alex in his sling and walk him about a bit, but DH insisted on doing things "his way".
I don't know how long he'd been playing chess...he has been doing it for a few hours each evening recently, as soon as he comes home. Never a good sign.
In fact, I am seriously concerned about the state of our marriage. Wrote a huge post about it the other day, which the server swallowed up so I let it go.

Alex has been asleep for over an hour in his pram in the garage. He seems to like the sound of the cement mixed currently churning outside on the square...I am a bit at leaving him down beside the bikes and walking boots, but if I unclip the carrycot from the base and lug it upstairs, he might wake up...

Purple, better that your daughter appreciates the value of a store that is "never knowingly undersold" than H&M, surely?

Catching up ... ROFL re: BB's YouTube clip. Is that pointy thing on the rear of the underneath one a hamster willy, I wonder? And double ROFL at money shot!! DH used to be a film maker so I am sure he knows of some kind of special camera for this . He had a special camera when my toilet needed filming from the inside for a documentary on EU toilet law (don't ask).

BTW DH read BB's post about strapping himself up whilst turning my PC off, and was very careful not to get me up the duff again whilst 'distracting' me in the kitchen yesterday evening. He is baffled as to how we could have 33,000 ante-natal posts considering the apparent banality of our conversation. Really, they don't get it at all, do they?

BTW feeling a lot more cheerful now AP has gone, even though she tried to be very useful in the last couple of weeks (gleaming oven, etc). Lovely cleaner very supportive, and has chatted through a plan of attack for the house, so neither of us have to run ourselves too ragged keeping on top of it.

Purple - sorry to hear your bad news - and at the same time as such good news - very strange feelings I'm sure. Does it feel weird being in another country?

Looby - glad you are getting better. GPs repeatedly prescribing things at random on the basis of probabilities is one of those sloppy things that really gets to me. (Also everyone who is bfing remember to tell the pharmacist you are bfing when you go to fill a prescription - your GP doesn't have a clue what you should have or not).

Auld, sorry to hear things are fraught. I wonder if your long post might have been cathartic if it had not been eaten? Or if that was a good thing...

It's hard with babies to get the space you need to deal with issues like this - I suppose this is the same for MrsG - you keep prioritising the baby and the children because you just don't have a choice. What else can you do?

BW says new mothers should nap every day between 2 and 5. hollow laughter rings around Chateau Ginger, and all of mumsnet.

V really did not want to go to sleep at all last night. I am trying to do BW techniques but - it is almost as if she hasn't read the book!

Name? Juwesm
Occupation? Dairy cow
Chosen specialised subject? How to make a cup of tea and bowl of porridge with only one hand.

Hi Juw
Sorry to hear H is gaining slowly. But he sounds well - isn't that the main thing? And there is a chance that his birth weight might have been recorded wrongly - surely it must happen sometimes, however seldom.

I feel you on the cow thing. I feel particularly animalistically lactative when I am lying in bed with V latched on beside me. Then I feel as if I am in a stye with straw. Especially because I am like that purely because I just cannot be bothered to get up into the prim straight-backed, cross-legged pillow-on-lap position that was the only one I could do at first and feels a bit more like rational, human lactating (but is SO FAR from the horizontal at 5 in the morning)

Huge hello to all the April Mums and Babies. I haven't posted for ages, but have been lurking from time to time.

Trista: I was so sorry to read about your DP leaving, but hugely impressed with how you are dealing with it. Well done you!

Everyone who has had SEX: congratulations. I haven't and would like to say I am but that would be a BIG FAT LIE as I don't particularly want to be touched at all at the moment (poor DH!)

Springy: I really hope your DH is treating you better. Before resorting to (justified) homicide try to get him back on the ADs.Perhaps they won't make a difference, but he can, at least try. I know ADs can make you feel zombified, but depression is a serious illness and ADs can often help (although I think they are over prescribed and often not fitted well enough to patient). If he broke his leg or got tonsilitis he wouldn't refuse treatment and expect to get better through will power, would he?

Nutty, hope that letter comes for you soon and enjoy the clubbing. Fingers crossed for an all nighter, but realise that might not be possible, but hope it's a late one none the less.

GingerSarah and all the others who feel robbed of their lives and personalities, I'm right there with you, but glad to hear from Auld and co that it does get better.

Boff: glad to hear the AP has finally PO'd, Don't know how you put up with her for so long.

Auld: Don't blame you for being with DH, mine also has no patience with crying (and DD is actually pretty calm). Sorry for your concerns about your marriage

Not sure if I would trust DH with DD, but I'd like to have the chance to find out!! He doesn't trust himself with DD and hasn't been alone with her for more than an hour. He phoned me while I was in Monoprix (nearest supermarket, so justifies the expense) in a blind panic because she was crying. I suggested he try changing her nappy and he said he couldn't. He begged me to get back ASAP, so I ran home (it was hot!) with 2 huge bags of shopping . The crying must have got too much for him as he Changed her nappy FOR THE FIRST time, hope it doesn't turn out to be the last.
Also, despite me expressing milk he refuses point blank to feed DD. My cunning plan is to repeat monoprix expedition when I know she is hungry and hope the crying will this time result in him feeding her

Schulte, I hope your LO lets you get some sleep soon.

Looby, for your health probs but glad they're getting sorted.

"BW says new mothers should nap every day between 2 and 5. hollow laughter rings around Chateau Ginger, and all of mumsnet."

and let your infants walk home from school on their own I bet