June 07 - Better Living Through Chocolate

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evening!

off to catch up!

both mine in bed, had a crap day as well!
ellen is poorly again, so sick in fact she allowed a nappy to be put on her today

she went through a scary patch this morning, where she went all floppy and wouldnt wake up fully. got some rehydration sachets down her and she perked right up.

shes ok now, had double helpings of dinner AND pudding AND 2 weetabix b4 bed

glad ellen has picked up a bit natty; sounds similar to DD last year...very scary.

I see your wine norty and raise you a bottle of gin.

fucking shitty awful here. It went from bad to worse and I reached my parenting nadir this evening; after almost four hours of constant screaming from DD, unless I was sitting cuddling her, and intermittent screaming from bumble (mostly when I put him down to deal with DD) and DS1 being a complete spanner in the background and Not Helping, I snapped . I strapped DD into the pram and shut her in our (very tiny) front porch, put bumble in his cot screaming and smacked DS1 over the leg, leaving a mark . I left DD for five minutes then let her out and went outside to hang out washing/calm down. she was with me, then she went back in the house. Next thing I know DS1 came running out saying she was hurt and crying.....when I got it out of her what had happened I was . DS1 confirmed, after some coersion, that he had hit her with a leather belt because her constant whinging was annoying him . I am and ; at myself, at him, at DD, but mostly at myself as he took it out on her because I had hit him . Cue lots of tears and recrimination from both me and DS1 and him packing a bag saying he was leaving as he doesn't deserve to be part of this family.....I kind of feel that way myself tongiht .

daisy. {{hugs}}

aw daisy
its horrid when you snap isnt it? i had a day like that with tom last week, he spent alot of the day in his room.

chin up chuck, it'll seem better in the morning

Nap question for all you ladies that know more than me.

DS is now sleeping 9pm-5.30am. I am worn out.
Mum says he probably needs to drop his daytime nap. I REALLY don't want to do this as he is evil without a nap... but I need my own night time sleep more!

Thoughts?

{{{hugs}}} Daisy.....sounds like you need them. Hope today is a better day today.

I could not imagine my day with DD having a nap. She would be even more of a miserable cow than normal if she didn't. She's asleep in the highchair at lunchtime if she doesn't have her nap.Yesterday's nightmare of a day was all due that she only had an hours nap. I thought they dropped the nap rather than us?

Can DS not play in his room until you're ready to get up? Need suggestions from those with older DCs I think.

He is getting you used to sleep deprivation already ....give it a few months and you'll think this sleep pattern is great!

My DS gets me up around 5 - 5.30am atm and I think its pretty good and am grateful for a 5-6 hours stretch.

Osteopath for me today...matching knickers and bra then! Better go and "prepare"

Bloody hell.....I did pass my English language honestly!

couldn't imagine my day with her not having a nap I meant

DS CAN play in his room if we shut the door, but as it involves jumping on the bed, singing, throwing things around, banging furniture, we actually let him come into our room as it's just that little bit quieter until we wake up THEN he jumps up and down on us.

I don't want to drop the nap. I still think he needs it... hence asking for the advice really. I just don't see how a 2 year old can be happy sleeping 9pm - 5am?

DH is going to try blacking out the bedroom windows first, that might help too.

I think the light mornings are part of the waking problem fury. DS1 used to be the same and DD has started waking about 5, although I can usually manage to settle her again for an hour or so (usually by threatening to put her back in the cot if she doesn't stay in bed!)

DD still needs a nap, but is reluctant to have it; so we end up with situations like yesterday.

I hope you have a better day today Norty.

DS1 still not being co-operative in helping keep DD calm and spent the morning taking things from her, trying to stop her from doing stuff and generally causing her to squeal/scream/tantrum. I got really angry with him again and scared him so much he hid in the wardrobe to get away from my shouting . I have real anger management issues, probably aggravated by me not having taken my ADs for about a week. Can't go on like this . My children are terrified of me and wanting to leave home (DS1 packed a bag and was nearly off out the door yesterday ) and I felt about five minutes from packing my own bag this morning. I'm fed up going from calm to beetroot with rage in less than 10 seconds.

off to take out my frustration on the cleaning.

oh daisy

hope things pick up a bit for you, can u arrange a day away from it all?

I was hanging out the washing there and my cat came round the side of the house making a very odd noise.....she only had a bloody baby rat in her jaws and was headed for the house with it . I managed to get to the door first and close it then she let it go and tried to catch it again but it made off through the fence and she is too stupid to chase after it.

My neighbour said they found a nest under their shed last week but that they had destroyed it. I think we need to get together with the neighbours and get rentokill or someone out although it did look cute (as only babies can)

Fury my DS is on a similar timetable these days. I would keep the nap. Blackout is a good idea.

Daisy it sounds like you are having a really tough time. How come you stopped taking the ADs? Hope you don-t mind me asking. But it seems like not a good moment for stopping. Coping with 3 is going to be hard at the best of times.Also have you thought of taking DD to the GP? 4 hours crying sounds like there might be something up. Anyway, hope you are having a better day.

Sputnik, not intentionally not taking them....just my general crap absent mindedness

I did worry that I was missing something with DD, but I think it's just a combination of bloody mindedness, tiredness, hunger (she isn't eating well at the minute) and having a snotty nose. I have let her eat pretty much what she wants when she wants today and things are much easier. I was prepared to fight her when she came through from the kitchen munching on a dry weetabix, but I didn't . I just sat her at the table with it and gave her some milk to drink alongside it!

What stupid dicksplash said BH's don't hurt?

I'll show him what doesn't fucking hurt

knob

lol fury......but not at your BH obviously though!

Mine always hurt like fuck. In fact I had two false alarms with DD and was on the edge of my seat several times with DS2. I had had BH so badly that I was in denial about being in labour until my waters broke.

oh god yes BH hurt! its always baffled me that they tell you they hurt, but when u go to delivery suit with false alarms they say "oh its just BH"

ive been getting them in my back, like my back labour with thomas, so im thinking baby must be back-to-back atm.

got a letter from dwp today, they STILL havent evaluated my claim, becuase they have decided that 4 weeks after sending my claim in they need extra documentation.
well i will just sit here with no money and twiddle my thumbs then eh?
flaming system!

Hi everyone. Have been lurking a little & trying to keep up but just been too weary to post. Things rather bleak around here.

God yes -BH do hurt. I was doubled over in agony quite a few times in last pg. Remember reading about how they were 'painless tightenings' or some such. My arse.

Hey T

Was just thinking about you the other day. Sorry to hear things are a bit bleak . You wanna offload?

Hi Daisy. Well - took Dt's to see doc due to dry flaky skin. She was asking how I was doing & I muttered the usual about being 'a bit tired' blah blah, weak smile etc. Anyhoo she kept at it, probing away about my mood and so on & ended up deciding I was depressed. So went in for an emollient & came out on AD's. Started to take them but over the weekend I broke out all over in red blotchy, itchy rash & ended up at the hosp clinic where the doc reckoned it was the meds & told me to stop them which I have.

Hey Tallulah
Sorry you-ve been having a hard time. It must be exhausting.

hey TB, sorry to hear about the reaction to the meds will you change the ones you are on to another type now?

hello sputnik, glad to see someone else on here awake past 9pm

Not for much longer, though.
And my laptop has kicked the bucket. It-ll have to go off for repair which will take god knows how long.

Anyway, how-s your day been?

Don't know Natty. The ones I got were apparently compatible with B/f whereas a lot of others aren't.