Rollin', Rollin', Rollin', Though their gums are swollen, Keep them babies rollin', on't side

[LackaDAISYcal]

Here we go then

roll up, roll up for the six month food fest.

Better night here, only two feeds at 1ish and 5ish, but at one point bumble was having a real chat to his blankie. DH was on the sofa and said he couldn't figure out who was talking and thought it was DD until he heard me say "shut up bumble". I have no recollection of it

We've given up with the porridge for a bit as it might have been that upsetting his tummy. He's certainly more cheerful now it's cleared his system.

Vbab Never had Kalsm, but had anti-d's years ago, and the first week I was really tired, even though they weren't meant to do it. Maybe same thing?

Oblomov, why didn't they do it when you had your section? I would have thought it was the best thing to do. Although I was quite when the surgeon told me he had to "deliver" my womb to get to my tubes

Not really that interesting of a story really, just long, so will try condense it down. I had to have fertility drugs to get pregnant with DS1+2, was told could never conceive naturally. Had EMCS with DS1 after awful 31 hours labour, followed by terrible post natal depression. Elective section for DS2 as didn't want to go down that road. DS2 was dx with ASD when he was 2, me and DH decided not to have any more kids, which basically meant no more fertility treatment. Lo and behold that very same weekend I became pregnant naturally and another section followed for Sumo. After 3 sections and three terrible pregnancies (I make the worst pregnant woman), thought best to get sterelised (even though I'm not supposed to be able to get pregnant without help). Are you asleep yet?

Barb, where is "home"? Sorry you're having a few problems atm. Is there anyone other than DH that can take W off your hands to help for a bit?

Barbs. Vent away. X x

barbs, DD used to bite me, so I have real empathy there....try rubbing in some bonjela before a feed or giving some teething powders. she used to do it when the teeth were just about to erupt iirc. they also get a bit distracted at this age, and DD used to nibble if she had filled up but was still on. I used to keep a vigilant eye on he, with my little finger hooked in readiness to unlatch her if I noticed signs of her being done (ie looking around or at me). She eventually got to the stage where she would push my finger away as if to say "it's fine mum, not going to bit this time"

also with the biting, try not to react if you can as this can either frighten them into a nursing strike...or (more likely) getting a reaction that they think is funny! I used to put DD on the floor facing away from me, after unlatching her rather briskly! there are lots of threads on here and some advice on good ole kellymom about it.

DH and DD are home and all is well She fell asleep in the car, but the poor thing hasn't had any tea so I hope she lasts the night and doesn't wake up ravenous.

Hi all, hope everyone had a nice Easter.

My sympathies for those of you with sleep deprivation. Amy still not sleeping through. She did it a few times weeks ago but nothing regular and has totally slipped back now. Usually dream feed when I go to bed then feed at around 4 and sometimes again before I am ready to get up for the day although at that stage she is usually in bed with me.

daisy Hope dd is feeling better. My dd will drink anything she gets her hands on too.

barbareeba My sympathies with the breastfeeding antics. Amy has two bottom teeth now and is teething again. She is always biting me - I tell her 'no' but she just smiles at me. Can't seem to get the message across that it is NOT A GOOD THING TO BITE MOMMY. I have the same issue with DH. Sometimes it seems like he is doing me a favour when he looks after the dds.

My periods haven't returned yet although I feel it is imminent. Came back after 5 months last time which coincided with dd1 sleeping through so I have my fingers crossed that Amy will do so soon.

Suncream - dd1 has eczema and we used La Roche Posay for her the first 2 summers but bought it last year and she reacted badly to it. No idea what I will try this summer.

Just re-read my post and it sounds like I have an issue with DH biting me - I don't. My issue with him is the same as Barb has with her DH, not the one I have with dd!

hiyer
home is yorkshire (harrogate), all our friends and family are there, think we both feel a bit lonely sometimes - have only seen my mum twice since dec 2007. both just overnight stays. And she's 75 and i feel guilty that she's going to pop her clogs and i won't have hardly seen her.
anyhoo, don't want to rave on. probly some hormones swimming about too - rarely get angry and tearful.
thanks for hugs x

thanks for advice re:biting - have yelped am afaid - must watch that as don't want a nursing strike. will have a look on kellymum
no period here either but then W feeds so much - now has access all night too so if frequency of bf-ing is a factor in keeping periods at bay i think i won't be having one for a while!

suiledonn, meant to say hi the other day . Good to hear from you and pmsl at your issues with DH

bumble clamps down on my nips and then pulls his head to the side slowly......am dreading him having teeth!

I get the distinct impression DH is pissed off with me....he came in, put DD to bed, ate some tea, went outside for a cigar and has gone to bed, saying not a lot to me at all. He never goes to bed before me . He says No, but I know him too well.....he will bring this up in a few months when I have forgotten all about it....how I tried to poison our DD (even though he was only in the other room at the time)

Hi Lacks, to be honest poor DH doesn't get near enough to me these days to bite, let alone try anything else. DD1 is in my bed full time these nights, Amy usually ends up in with us at some stage with DH confined to the spare room.

I really hope everyone is doing well. I feel bad that I haven't had much time here lately and it seems that almost everyone has been through the mill. This parenting lark is tough.

Daisy so glad DD IS OK.

Barbs. Sorry to hear you are feeling down. Homesickness must be hard to bear when you are tired from looking after W.

But re looking after W, my therapist has been talking to me about this a little (long story, but). When I am feeling low I get very obsessed with the idea that I have to show I can manage by myself.
Had a row last week because DH took my DD1's hand near the road- I thought he was implying I couldn't cope. Of course he wasn't- she is his DD too, and part of my stratergy for coping with my children includes having my DH around to help when he can - there should be no guilt or compensation for this!

On this note, DH is taking Mimi whilst I go to therapy tomorrow, as she made such a noise last time! Don't know which I'm more anxious about- the session or leaving mimi.

oooh.
Now I would have to go and find out and pester and prod and generally be a nuisance and then probably make it worse.
Gah. Blokes.

Hi Suiledonn

daisy- ah but this is you DH and his little girl- my dh would be the same I'm sure- I don't think logic comes into it!

Hi Pinky, hope your session tomorrow goes well. Try not to worry about leaving mimi, you are doing this for her as well as for yourself.

Pinky - am like that too! I take it personally if dh comments that W might need a nappy change - like he's suggesting I'm being neglectful which of course he's not he's just joining in with the parenting!
Yikes - sorry - hi Suiledon

Pinky, I see where you are coming from re DH and his little girl. In the same way I was gutted when he said he would take her to A&E and there was no sense in all of us going (I was preparing to pack everyone into the car). I also do that ultimate parent thing and forget that DH has a share in it and that him taking over the reins is him just sharing the responsibility rather than implying I am incapable. Probably just my guilt complex

And totally get where you're coming from with leaving Mimi - she will be fine though and I hope the therapy goes well x

What are we mums like? do our DH's analyse their situations as much as we do?

Pinky, I hope the session goes well tomorrow. I know what it's like when I take DD and bumble to my sessions, too distracting. She'll be fine, and you will be able to concentrate fully on your session

Has anyone taken 2 dcs to a full wedding? DH's best friend from uni is getting married in a few weeks and we cannot decide what to do. He can't afford the loss of earnings if he takes the time off work and we stay over night but I think it will be a very long day to take them with us. I haven't left Amy yet with anyone other than DH and I'm still breastfeeding anyway. DD1 is extremely clingy so won't be leaving her either.
Everyone I know thinks I am mad - they think I should leave them with MIL for the day and drive back that night but I just don't deal will with leaving them. I know I would have a horrible time.

Thanks all
I so rarely go anywhere without a baby these days! I have never left her with DH (or anyone else) during the day before,but she's really past the age of just feeding and sleeping.

I hope you feel a bit better, Barbs, now you know you are not alone with these thoughts!

Suiledonn I don't know. DH and I went to a wedding last year but we only went to the service because the reception was another 40 mins drive further from home! I'm glad we didn't saty because your are stuck if the children need to sleep in the evening if you stay over. It's really tricky. I would say your baby would be easier to manange than your wee girl,becuase babies are just more 'portable', IYSWIM. I think it depends on the details of the wedding- timings etc.

lacks - glad DD home. Sorry to hear about DH and his behaviour. Maybe he is a little emotional shall we say about what has happened and probably for the best he went to bed. But please dont try to analyse as I find the majority of the time DH's dont think as much as us ladies do and when we step in with what we think they think it normally ends in an arguement. MAKE SENSE? Sounds a little bad judging all men the same as my DH, for the most part anyway.
barbs - hope you feel better soon lovely.
obs - all the best for getting your sterilisation ... finally. I'm feeling a little mixed emotion wise (more than normal) regarding more kids. DH got hospital consultation on Wed for the snip. I'm pretty sure 2 is enough for us. BUT ... feeling mixed about it. It's like when you decide you dont want something but then have the decision taken from you then you want it. When out today saw lots of big families and pregnant ladies and just felt numb and thought to myself "not me again" and then felt a little sad but mainly numb.
SORRY RANT.

Morning all!
Hooray, back to normality - DH gone to work!

Hows DD this morning Daisy?

How you doing barbs?

Been up since 6.30, seems to be the normal start time of the day these days

Not up to much today, may walk into town to the childrens centre and see if there are any groups i can take DD to. we need something else in to do in the week now the massage class finsihed.

have a good day all

DD is tired and full of mischief this morning.....she was up screaming in the night, but she has started having the dreaded night terrors so it was to do with that.

bumble slept a bit later than normal; it was nearly one when he woke up; i fell asleep feeding him and woke at 2 but he didn't want to go back on the cot in the other room....cue DH and I taking turns to get out of bed to try and settle him. gave in and fed him some more and he went back to sleep at 3ish and then woke up again at 5 and then DD got up at 6. So not a great night, but we'll give this arrangement a few days and see what happens.

suiledonn we went to a wedding with the DC when DD was only four weeks old, but we were staying in the hotel where the reception was which was only a 2min walk from the church. We had DD down with us in her pram and she just slept. I went up to bed about 10.30 and DS1 who was 5 got to stay up late until he collapsed in a heap. It was hard work though and I can't say I really enjoyed myself all that much, parly cos I wore a normal bra and ended up with a nasty blocked duct!! We also missed the actual marriage as we had to stop en-route to feed DD, then she wanted feeding again when we got there....DH and DS made it to the church in time to see the couple coming back down the aisle though!! I think it would be much easier with an older baby though, so don't let that put you off

DH said he had been in a room with lots of screaming kids last night for hours and was just feeling a bit frazzled and tired.

vbab, I think it's normal to feel slightly sad at the thought of never having any more children. Although I know that three is enough, I do feel a pang of regret that I'll never have another newborn to look after.

Morning all - another beautiful day here. Dh has got the day off and DS1 is at nursery so we are going to do the one thing that we used to do all the time and can't do with DS1 anymore....go out for a leisurely lunch Babies are so much easier than toddlers!!

Daisy glad DD is ok - I am sure your DH was just annoyed at the situation last night - not at you. I guess no-one wants to go and sit in A&E for hours in an evening worried sick about their LO's.

Barbs sorry you are feeling down - with all those worries, it is not surprising. Is there no way you could get home at all (probably a stupid question as if there was, you would have done it)?

Pinky good luck today

Vbab I am sure your feelings are perfectly normal about your DH having the snip. Although I feel a bit odd as I am desperate for DH to have the snip and don't feel any pangs at all when I see pg ladies - I tend to think 'thank god those days are behind me!' - but then again, I have never been broody or a soppy person who goes gooey at the sight of a newborn baby. Unfortunately DH is dragging his heels about going for the op - wants to wait until summer has finished so it isn't ruined Are you coming to the meet-up next Monday? Would be lovely to meet you and your children

Am going to get Sam weighed tomorrow morning - he has really bulked up these last couple of weeks - seems to have gone really heavy!