Fab Feb 2009: too sleep deprived to think of a new thread title

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'nuff said

Beantin, hope the weather over towards you (think you're only a few miles from me according to your profile page) got better like it did here. It was grotty this morning and I'd arranged to meet a friend in a park a couple of miles from here, but the weather brightened up and was very sunny by the time we reached the park about 2.30.

I've done quite a lot of meeting up with people in real life that I first talked to online over the last 8 years - have been as far as the US and even Anchorage Alaska to do so. I don't really care who thinks I'm crazy. The internet's a good way of getting to talk to people you wouldn't have met otherwise because distance/age gaps etc etc would keep you apart (a couple of my favourite originally met online friends are in their 70s.

SMS, what a rude woman in the supermarket.

I agree elkiedee its a great way to meet people I moved here a year ago in May and still dont have any friends here yet they are all still in Guildford. I dont know how i would have managed being pregnant without the advice and support i got off these lovely ladies

LMN and SMS you are right and im sure there is nothing wrong with my little man, i was just thinking too much (autism mostly) but DH came through the door from work half an hour ago and he gave him two big smiles so i think your right it is a boy thing. LMN Milo is a grumpy sod too - he cries at loads of things and only seems really happy when hes perched over anyones shoulder - i will speak to the doc next week about it at his 8 week check up.

Have also noticed what i think is a hernia this afternoon, god knows why i didnt see it before but its really sticking out now (his bellybutton) like a little tomato all round with a red patch on it. I tried to get an appt but nothing till next week so may as well ask about it when i see her for his check up and jabs. They arent serious are they as the triage nurse who fields the emergency appts didnt seem to think so or didnt want to give me an emergency appt for it?

Hi everyone....God I feel awful now about the putting DD on the kitchen surface on her changing mat...what was I thinking. I'm normally a sensible type me aswell . She's staying in her bouncy chair on the floor from now on.

DH has got a week off this week so we took DS and DD to Marwell Zoo with a good friend who's also got a little girl the same age as DS. The weather was gorgeous, the kids had a lovely day and DD well she slept and slept...she really still hasn't woken up much and she's 10 weeks tomorrow . I'll make the most of it whilst I can - DS wasn't quite such a sleepy baby.

Hope this weather stays with us til the weekend.

Seems DD's waking at 6am was shortlived. We were back to 4.45 yesterday but still nearly 6 hours so I live in hope.

Re the 3 hourly feeds at 5 weeks - DD was doing this at 5 weeks too so I was feeding twice in the night after 11pm. She's slowly getting better but was definitely like this then. They're just hungry !!....You're in for a 6 week growth spurt soon too I think ?

DH gone out for a leaving do at work tonight in town so I have the telly all to myself. Sky+ Greys Anatomy beckons. Just watched Danielle being killed off in 'enders. God what a tortuous story line and that Dan' woman was sooo irritating.

Rosie....re the hernia thing, I think they go down of their own accord but can take up to a year. I know DD had a little "knobble" thing in her belly button and the doctor put silver nitrate on it and it went down but I think Milo's is probably raised from the outside? Doc didn't give her "knobble" thing a name though. Also, my DS was a right grumpy sod as a baby at times (like father like son eh ) - DD seems a bit more, chilled and content than he was. Different kids I suppose. DD is 10 weeks tomorrow and she doesn't smile all the time either. I find first thing in the morning after a good night for eg she might or if you give her a good tickle under the chin but most of the rest of the time she looks pretty vacant ....

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not been around much today.

Yes, weather got better here, but only after had left the park with my friend and come home.

Luc is 6 weeks and has been feeding on the dot of 3 hrs for last week or so and then yest and today started feeding say at 10, then at 11, then nothing for 4 hrs, so not sure what that's all about.

As a result he's now awake and no idea when he'll be sleepy.

Can't read anymore as desp need to take contact lenses out as am sure they've gone solid.

Ms I told a few people I was meeting some friends and then said similar to you . They also looked at me like
swampy rosie I would think his belly button is fine. I think spotty's Aaron also had one on his belly button?
herb Glad you had a good day. very of you watching Grey's. I really miss it as we don't have sky/virgin

Re: EEnders, Ronnie yelling baby across the road. Pur-lease! Thought it was all a bit silly, very sad but I waited so long for Ronnie to find out and that is how they do it? By killing the annoying one off straight away? So frustrating!!!!! I feel I should be rewarded for watching it 4 times a week for months, and all I wanted was to throw my tv out the window!

I think me and dp have serious problems.
What part of "Please do not leave ds1 unattended in the bath" does he not understand? So, he's only popping across the hall to throw a nappy in the bin, but I keep telling him if ds falls face first, he will not be able to get up again and he could drown and die. But I am being overly-dramatic apparently. I told him he is never to bath ds again (this is not the first, 2nd, or even 3rd time it's happened). I am seriously thinking of ending our relationship over this, it is dp potentially putting my son's life at risk, the same as when dp lets ds run around the car park. The only thing making me think tweice about packing the boys up and going is that dp will want and get un-supervised access. At least if I am here most of the time, I can ensure ds's safety. Am I over-reacting?

SMS With you onthe Eastenders front - What a rubbish ending, Ive been waiting for months & months to find out what happens. what a cop out!

About your Dp leaving Ds in the bath. Obviously is not intentional (sp?) so doesnt mean to do any harm. I can understand you reacting like you did. Can you not try and tell him again how serious it is?

Last night was a great night for sleep in this household...
Poppy fell asleep after her feed at 6, so put her to bed at 7.15 - she slept until 2.30am!!!
Then from 3am until 6am.
I went to bed at 8.30, so ive had a really good stretch of sleep.

We went to the Hv yesterday, walked all the way (30mins) there. To sit in the waitin room then be told that she would have to rearrange my appointment.
All be it for good reasons....She had had to call Social services on a lady/baby. I felt horrible when she said that. Obviously I dont know the situation, but cant help thinking that something nasty had happened to the baby

not sure what to do today - Weather is pretty rubbish at the moment

We are going to buy a matress for the Cotbed this weekend as Poppy has overgrown hr moses basket already, her head keeps touching the top cant believe she has grown sooo much.
anyway - there is so much choice of mattresses - Can Anyone reccommend any? one type more than another? We will be going to Mothercare, as we have vouchers to use.

KT Wow on your sleeping last night.
Hopefully this baby will now be ok. Either SS will give the parents the help and support they need or will do something to ensure the baby is safe from harm. It is very sad and upsetting when you hear stuff like this isn't it? How can anyone......? It makes me feel physically sick.
Dp is doing it intentionally, he is choosing to leave the room while ds is in the bath despite me telling him that babies and small children can drown in a munber of seconds in inches of water. When I yelled from the bedroom for him to get back in there NOW he said "Oh, don't start all this again"

Oh, and today is supposed to be warmer than yesterday. Yesterday started off like this didn't it?

SMS - I dont know what to suggest then? My DP left Poppy on the changing table when she was quite new, just to get some water from bathroom next door - I did chuck a fit at him and he hasnt done it since!
Blokes just dont seem to think lodgicaly(sp?)
He hasnt dared bath her yet though, he is too scared that he might drop her. Everytime iI ask him to do it, he just tells me he will help me.

SMS, I'm with you on the bath thing, DH does the same and it drives me mad too, he says it's ok as he keeps chatting to ds if he pops out of the room Mind you, I can think of plenty of other reasons to leave him most of the time so might as well add this to my list. Also, maybe you are right about the sleeping re DS, could just be a reaction to the baby. I wish I could just bring him in to our bed, but as soon as he hears dd he leaps up and shouts 'babeeeee babeeee'!
Whoever mentioned the 6 week growth spurt is so right! DD is starving at the moment, she is 13lb at 6 weeks ds took 12 weeks to weigh that much! We had her 6 wk check yesterday and the doctor siad that her left hip has a slight click and should be re-checked in a month. Of course I googled which is always a mistake!
Is anyone's DH coming to the meet-up next week? I do want to come but don't fancy the travelling by myself with a wild toddler! But it would seem a shame to leave ds at home as he would be so excited t go o a train, see farm animals etc etc

Jenniferturkington don't know if it's any help but I am co-sleeping with DS1 & DS2 (DH is in spare room). At first they did both disturb each other and I thought we'd have to do what one of my friends does (she sleeps with one and her DH sleeps with the other one) but now DS1 sleeps through DS2 wailing and DS2 ignores DS1 kissing him when he wakes up. And I lie there listening to them both snoring... it's lovely!

Did think of bringing DH but now not. Where are you coming from?

I'm in Brighton, not a long journey but still will be a challenge!
Re co-sleeping, I have never got on well with it tbh. DS will feed constantly if he is in with me- I can't turn my back to him, he just rolls me back over! We used to just let him in at 5ish when he naturally wakes. This used to buy us an extra hour in bed ( he would feed, I would dose). Now at 5 he still wants feeding but as I said, if he comes in to the bed he just springs up to see the baby as soon as he hears her. Therefore I just go to him at 5, feed him, then DH gets up with him. I coslept with the baby for the first few nights while she was feeding constantly, but once the milk came in and she settled a bit we put her in her own bed (hammock actually ) where she seems very settled. I always wish I could get on with co sleeping but seems it's just not for me.

I suppose I'm lucky that DS1 is a bit older & I managed to night wean him when I was pg as I couldn't sleep through the pain. I think I'd go loopy if we couldn't co-sleep. DS1 was in an Amby hammock until he was 9 months and although he slept well in it until then it still involved getting out of bed, which is no fun!

The thing is, DS is esentially night weaned i.e. DH settles him if he wakes, I never feed him until 5am. but if he was in our bed, there is no way he would just sleep, he would be frantic for the boob! Oh well, one day these sleepless nights will seem like a distant memory.

Morning all. Have been offline for a couple of days as genius DH told our builder to cut some wires outside the house - one of which turned out to be our BT cable... doh! So have had a fun 2 days of waiting in for BT guy to turn up with drilling outside and cranky vommy baby to contend with. Also v sleep deprived as Danny was up every hour or so last night. Ho hum...

Pink - most impressed at Aaron's rolling exploits. Danny gets maybe 2 minutes of tummy time a day (as if do it too close to his feed he throws up and he's currently feeding every 2 hours to 2 and a half hours because of his cold) so dont forsee any rolling any time soon. When I put him on his tummy with his head on a little cushion he shuffles himself back off the cushion and then just lies on the floor lifting his head up to give me a "why me?" look..

MoS - have a fab holiday. YANBU to want to take spare nappies etc - better prepared than caught out. I'd also take a change of clothes for you (but not DH) as have been chundered on/got poo on me on flights before with DS1 as a toddler - would serve your DH right if it happens to him and he doesnt have a change of clothes (which is what happened to my DH when he told me I was being overcautious when we flew to the US last year so didnt take a change of clothes for him... he now no longer complains about the packing of clothes in hand luggage)

Swampy - I really love the revolving baby story. Danny shunts himself diagonally across his cot every night...

JenniferT and Catstar - sorry you're having difficult times with your older ones; remember, its a phase and will pass - you just need to live through it. And I figure the more the merrier at the meet up...just hope the weather warms up by then.

SMS - I dont think your DP really understands your worries because guys brains dont work the way we do (we anticipate potential problems; they dont) - my DH and I have arguments about stuff like that all the time and the only thing that works is getting DH to see that I'm not being irrational by giving him examples of why it is a bad idea. Maybe google a few stories about toddlers drowning in baths and show them to him and he will get the point that something horrible could easily happen and stop doing it. Oh, and DS2 gets mistaken for a girl all the time (DS1 did too until he hit 1!) - god only knows why as I dont dress them in pink...

sms... we had ds1 when dd was 18 months and i bathed them together, there wasn't space in the bathroom to get ds1 dressed so i'd leave dd and be in the bedroom. i'd chat to her constantly and if she went quiet for a second i'd pop back in to check. where drowning is concerned, it's not like if they fall face first in the water they drown instantly, dd fell down in the water at swimming a few times (once was held down by another horrible child ) and she just seemed to hold her breathe until she was hauled back up. the running around in the car park would piss me off too though.... that one seems to be a dad thing, dp doesn't but at a birthday part recently we almost ran over a small boy who's dad was standing chatting to another dad while their 3/4 year olds legged it around

ds1 is driving me mad. he was going loopy in the supermarket... flung tomatoes on the groud, ran off repeatedly, was generally manic... now he's been wailing since we've gotton home

hmmm.... lots of angry rabbits in this post... think some chocolate might be in order to destress

bollox... just checked my internet banking, was supposed to leave 38 euros on the card to pay for my drivers test online and i've bloody well gone 5c over how dumb... i'm damned if i'm walking into a bank to put 1euro in my account!

ps Rosie - great news you're on tablets for the diabetes - hope it all stays in hand.

Jennifer - I've noticed Harry has a hip click on his left leg - didn't think anything of it, but now I've googled it and I'm worried too
Better mention it to the Paediatrician when we go on Monday. What did your doctor say?

Jennifer - have you seen the Pavlik harness??

Pempe, doctor said in most cases it is fine, we just need to follow it up in a months time. Don't mention the harness!!

Should I worry?? Poppy slept loads last night, I thought it was just a good night. But today she has been awake for about 2 hours from 6 until 8am and has been sleeping since. Iv woken her to feed her, she drinks 5oz and sleeps again. She is normally wide awake in the day time?

Sounds like a growth spurt to me KT. If you're worried, check her temperature, check for rashes or any other sign she is ill. If no signs of illness, I'd relax.