Inzi - you look fantastic!! I love the grin on your face in the left hand sideways photo! Well done xxxx
Well, didn't want to constantly winge but I'll let you know the lastest with the IL's...
I had planned this week so they had at least one of the boys each day and Ollie got to see his mates and Henry got to go into his new toddler room at nursery -he had visits to intorduce him slowly as he's having a lot of change at the mo. I had organised our lovely babysitter to do all the driving so MIL didn't have too. IL's + babysitter would sort out Ollie + Hen and dh could then help me, Il's would take the boys back up north when they left at the weekend, dh would be with me and then I would have the first week with dh at work on my own without the boys. Dh will get them next weekend. I drew up a day by day timetable so everyone knew what they were doing...(I think it's the teacher in me )
What actually happened was;
Dh says that he has to work in London on fri as he's interviewing, something he's been doing for ages to find someone to help with what he's doing. Loads of cadidates but no one really qualified to do the job. Dh getting stressed about it as having to do the extra work himself. I say, fine, Il's are here, babysitter here, all is fine.
I get home on wednesday and about an hour later MIL comes into the room and says 'I thought we'd head off tomorrow (thur) around midday...
I said that Hen was booked in at nursery, Ollie horseriding (with new hat he got for a good report not used yet), dh going to work on fri but she said that Hen would be fine and she really wanted to be getting home.
She had told dh that FIL was getting a bit bored -he'd not appeared to have left the house since they arrived sunday and spent his days sitting on the sofa emailing.
She then told Oliver in the kitchen that he was going to Grandmas's the next day so he came into the playroom where our babysitter was sitting and said 'I won't see you tomorrow as I'm going to Grandma's...' well done grandma, you've manipulated the situation brilliantly, The babysitter looks confused as do I. I bluffed and said the decision hasn't been made yet but let's face it we all know where it was going.
So we all got up yesterday (thur) and she said, 'did you get any sleep? in the woe is me voice and the second things she said was 'C I need a suitcase for the boys' to which dh said okay but in a minute and then she got the hump, she went upstairs, sorted out the boys clothes, asked me to check they were okay, got FIL to bring down all their stuff and fill the hall ready to pack the car. She wasn't really talking to anyone and when she said she really did think Henry would be okay I did say I disagreed but that was ignored and she carried on.
She made comments bout dh working 'does he always work when he's at home?'To which I said no, but he does work when he's working from home. DH is self employed and he worries about money. We agreed that he would work around Tobias as we had lots of help.
The upshot is they went yesterday with the boys and we had to phone nursery, explain to the babysitter, pay her for 2 days she didn't work etc etc. Dh said that she would be awful if they stayed so best just to let them go. I do agree but was very angry/cross that we didn't get the family time with the 3 boys with help I'd hoped for. As it was dh and I were really trying to take photos of the 3 of the boys before they left. It was interesting to see the size of IL's suitcase that they were never staying a week..
They phoned when they got home and she was very happy and chirpy, well she would have been, she got everything her own way.
The house isn't clean -she did the boys washing and nothing else. I even had to plan what they were all going to eat for the three days on sunday for her. My best friend is coming tomorrow to clean/tidy/help (yes, she's back in touch and as lovely as ever xx)
and I am sat here on my own while dh worries in london.
Dh said this is the last time. We do things without relying on anyone from now on.
Really cross with them.