October 2007 These Little Piggies chased the easter bunny..and stole the eggs pt ll

[TheLadyEvenstar]

ok lets try here ladies!!!

Morning ladies. Ok AF officially 'late' now and I did a test this morning which had 2 lines and the second line was darker than the last time.. so a bfp . So basically i'm pregnant!

NC - Glad they came back, sorry it interupted you MNing!

Dal - congratulations that's fantastic news!

Thanks can't quite believe it!

WOO HOO Yay Dal, CONGRATULATIONS
[g rin]

Inzi - Hope your back continues to get better and that you enjoyed the cinema (have you been yet? Don't feel too guilty about Jane either, even if your back had been ok you probably wouldn't have got to her in time anyway, they are like lightning when they are about to fall and you are on slow motion, very odd feeling

NC - glad you didn;t have to spend all night on your own, what a bummer it happened in the first place, bloody typical

WWAJC - I'm sure its something perfectly simple that happened with your 'friend' I know how paranoid you can get over something like that though. Hopefully she is not being petty over it.

Regarding MJ dying I have no feelings either way, my first thought was blimey, I bet the promoters for his tour are going to be pissed Bring on the sympathy for Farrah I say, suffered a long painful death and then hardly gets a mention because of MJ.

Muppet Glad DH is now walking the dogs, is he helping with the clean up too?
How is Henry on the walking front? I hope it doesn't get that hot for you, I remember when Sam was born it was hideously hot, not nice in the maternity ward

My friend had her baby at 23.59 on 21st June by C-section - 4 weeks early she finished work on the friday had it on sunday. A baby boy called Thomas 5lb 11oz. He was in the baby unit for 4 days but is now with mummy. He has poorly feet though bless him, it was picked up on the scans but they didnt know how bad the one they reckon they can fix by physio the other one needs operating on tho

We are all well, I am conscious I haven't been on here much lately again, real life seems to keep getting in the way I am working my way up to the summer holidays, sam breaks up on the 9th July and doesn't go back till September!!

I'm still trying to lose more weight, just can't seem to be able to drop into my 10 stones tho, get as far as 11st exactly then go up again perhaps I need a week on Inzi's diet I have two weeks before I need to fit comfortably in my wedding dress again as we are having a posh party and I wanted to wear it. I can get in it and do it up, just can't breathe, even tho I am now the same weight as when I first wore it. Oh well may have to have a drastic diet week next week.

Right better go and get dressed catch you all soon xx

Oh, forgot to say... Is it possible that those of you who are on facebook could not mention that i'm pg on there cause i'm keeping it secret till 12 wks (if I can manage!)

LLL - Hope you manage to lose the weight. No chance of me fitting back in to my wedding dress! (thats without being pg)

Inzi - hugs to you and Jane - I think we suffer far more than they do with things like that - Anya's always getting bumps and bruises, toddlers move like grease lightening.

NC - at the mouthful of snot. Glad they got it out though.

LLL - glad your friend and baby are ok but shame about the op. At least they can fix stuff like that fairly routine now. Hope you manage to get into your wedding dress ok - how long would you have to hold your breath for ?

Anya's cold is much better today, although she's still having an early nap (just gone to sleep now). Parents are babysitting tonight while we go out for a meal (wedding anniversary today - 6 years already ).

DAL - will not mention it on fb though

NC - hope the lo was ok - my sister got a bead stuck in her nose (on more than one occasion lol) when she was little, and the process of getting it out was incredibly unpleasant for everybody! Have a lovely time in the caravan.

Inzi - hope your back feels better soon.

LLL - glad to hear that your friend's baby has been born safely - hope his feet get sorted out soon.

muppetgirl - I really don't envy you being pg in the heat ... not long to go now!

As you can probably tell from my fb comments - I wasn't a MJ fan ... even before the child abuse allegations!

J has taken M & R swimming - I supposed to be sorting out Sunday School, but thought I'd pop in and say hi!

I need to ask your advice - as you may know, my dad had a huge heart attack and an angioplasty just before I got pg with M. He then gave up smoking straight away, and hasn't smoked since - as I thought.
However, with the arson attack on my sister's flat, he's really taken badly about it, and has starting smoking again.
I was with him on the ward when the surgeon who did the angioplasty told him that if he smoked again, he probably wouldn't be as lucky a second time.
My grandad Charlie died when I was 4, and my memories of him are very hazy. My Nana died when I was 7 (on my birthday!) and my memories of her are not great either.
I really want my kids to have the longest possible time with all of their grandparents (even my MIL ) and dad is putting his life at risk by smoking again.
My mum doesn't know he's started smking again. He's not back to buying his own yet, he just pinches my sister's.
He's got to have another angioplasty soon for one of the arteries in his leg - no stents this time, just the ballon thing.

What would you do? Should I speak to him about it? He gets very defensive about things since his heartattack, and I don't want to upset him unduly.
Should I tell mum he's smoking again?

Or should I leave well alone?

Would be grateful for your opinions - I know it doesn't compare with the dilemmas some others have over their parents. I am fortunate to have wonderful, loving parents.

oh and wwajc - glad to see that the cold is making its exit!

Congratulations Dal! Your news will remain a secret from FB - as long as we get to talk about it here!

Crochet - very difficult - I think some people have a very addictive nature and despite them knowing they shouldn't smoke the pull is too strong. DH gave up for about 6 weeks when we were arranging IVF and it nearly killed him. I have no idea whether it was a coincidence that we got pg naturally the next month but he then started smoking again pretty much straight away - for ages he thought I didn't know and he still looks sheepish if I catch him with one. I think Inzi's advice is good.

Had a very nice evening last night - food was lovely. I am taking Anya to see my sister's horses this afternoon - she'll enjoy that. I can't get her to have a nap before we go though and she's really tired - aaggghhhh why do toddlers save naps for when they're supposed to be going out?

Dal...I'm so thrilled for you. Hope you are taking your folic acid and being a good girl

Crochet;....my Dad stopped smoking when we put smoking information leaflets in every pocket and drawer he posessed....my brother stopped the second time after I grassed on him to our parents....but seriously I think Inzis advice is the best approach, Dhs mate stopped when his teenage son broke down in tears because his great uncle was dying of cancer and watching his Dad put "cancer sticks" into his mouth was more than he could bear....I dearly hope whatever you decide to do, it has the desired effect.

WWAJC; happy anniversary, glad you had a lovely meal and hope Anya enjoyed her aunties horses

Thanks Floria, yes taking my folic acid like a good girl, in fact i've been taking it for about 7 months now!

WWAJC - Happy Anniversary, hope you had a lovely time

Crochet - A difficult one with the smoking. My fil is the same, he had a major op, not smoking related as such but he had something removed and they weren't sure it was canerous or not till they removed it (it wasn't thankfully). It was a worrying time for us all, especially mil and he promised to give up smoking and managed whilst in hospital. Anyway, after being home a few days he started again even though he had been told it would hinder his recovery. A while later he had an incident coughing up blood which scared the cr*p out of all of us and we mentioned again that he should stop (the incident wasn't smoking related just a blood vesesel in his neck or something but enough to scare us). He has promised he would give up smoking when his first grandchild was born (he didn't!) then when his first female grandchild was born (again, he didn't!). He has since said several times 'i'm going to quit', it's gotten to the point we just don't believe him anymore as he always starts again after one or two days .

Another thing that bothers me about it apart from his health is that he seems to turn a blind eye to the passive smoking aspect of things . He doesn't smoke in the same room as us but sometimes goes through to the kitchen (2 rooms away) and does it there and the smell just drifts through, ot we'll ring to say we're popping in and he'll have on just before we arrive then spray air freshener (he thinks it 'kills the toxins') we've told him it doesn't and that they're still there in the room for ds to breathe in . Sometimes he'll follow us out of the house as we leave with a lit fag in his hand, smoke drifting in Dylans face! He just does not get it! Dh had a word with him at xmas as he was smoking in the kitchen as we put Dylan down for a nap in the dining room (basically the same room as there's an archway through) he bascically had to spell it out for him!

Sorry, I went on a bit of a rant there, it's just something that constantly annoys me and doesn't seem to change. He even smoked around me when I was pregnant and only stopped as we told him it made me feel sick .

I don't know what the answer is, we've all expressed in no uncertain terms we want him to stop. He's been to see the stop smoking people at the clinic but ignored their advice to use the nicorette inhaler thing and tried to go cold turkey and only lasted 2 days. Bil bought him the Alan Carr cd to listen to to stop but he's not bothered... I've left 'dangers of passive smoking leaflets' around. I think I would try and just play on the guilt side, I used to smoke when I was younger and what made me stop was the thought of my future children being exposed and the fact my grandad died of lung cancer, it was always on my mind and the guilt of that made me find the strength to stop.

Dal-another congraatulations!! xx

Crochet-I'm not sure really, tbh, I have had a few relapses lately, and I hate myself for it, and been feeling guilty, I am sure he will start buying them again if it isn't nipped in the bud as soon as possible, so my advice would be to tell your Mum, as if she is there to encourage him not to do it, and help to take his mind of it, then that may be more useful that keeping it sneaky, also tell your sister to STOP letting him have them, even better, tell her to get help with stopping, to set a good example for your Dad they can support each other. It is so hard though..

LLL-just go on a detox for a couple of days before you need to get in the dress...breathing is overated anyway!

WWAJC-hope Anya stayed awake for the horses.

Hi everyone else [waves]

Not been hom e long so just popped on, meant to tell you all the last time I was on, Rich passed his foundation degree with 4 firsts...Swot

Anyway, off to put another load of washing in, hopefully on tomorrow xx

NC - congrats to Rich - that's brilliant.

We did get to see the horses yesterday, although we didn't stay long as it was raining and standing in a field in the rain isn't that much fun! We compared notes on job hunting as we're both looking for new ones (at least we're both employed so not too bad).

Ok I am officially paranoid and neurotic. That mum from Friday who I thought was ignoring me has just texted me - her husband was working away over the weekend and took her phone charger by mistake .

wwajc, thats good, you are not paranoid, it means you're a good judge of character and you where righnt in the first place when you thought she was nice

Hello ladies, sorry not been about much. i was in Glasgow at the end of last week for work and then we had a wedding to go to at the weekend. So I've had a couple of drunken nights and was feeling a bit sorry for myself yesterday even though it was all self inflicted!!!

Well the most exciting news is def dal!!!! Congratulations! Really excited for you

Inzi sorry to hear you've been having trouble with your back - fingers crossed it settles down soon...

needcoffee pmsl at Shannon being a natural tramp! Sorry your weekend didn't quite work out as planned though

Stefka I thought of you when we went through Falkirk on the train! that is where you live isn't it?

Crochet glad to hear that J is officially firing blanks . About your Dad - i know how you feel as my dad smokes and I hate it. I had a run of seeing men with lung cancer at work about 5 years ago and just decided that I couldn't keep quiet anymore. So I told him that I needed to tell him how i felt and that all I wanted was for him to listen to me and have a think about what I had to say and then if he still chose to smoke I would respect his choice and not bring it up again. He listened, and has cut down as a result although not stopped and I at least feel as though i have done all I can to get him to stop even though it didn't work. Good luck...

Muppet - this time next week you will have Tobias! Can't believe it's come round so quickly...

WWAJC can understand you being upset at the mum's (non) reaction to you not being able to meet but glad to hear you were worrying about nothing! and that Anya is recovered from the cold

Lisa I agree with the others that breathing is overated! I would love to wear my wedding dress again but I am at least half a stone heavier than when I wore it!

Hello to everyone else - can't remember now if I have mentioned you all in person but I am thinking of you all if not!

Oh and we complete on our house tomorrow although not moving in until next Tues - the day after tobias arrives! Getting very excited now...

NC - nice way to look at it!

Alice - counting down the days...

Bugger, don't have time for any more, she's just woken from nap.

Thank you for all of your advice - I think I am just going to have to bite the bullet and try to talk to him about it. I'll also ask Angharad to stop giving him cigs - she gave up for a couple of months when R was born, and has been on about stopping since, but never gets around to it.

TBH, with all her other health problems, she's unlikely to live long enough for smoking to take its toll - is that a horrible thing to say? Besides, she's a nightmare when she's trying to give up ...

Glad everybody else is ok - I'm very tired, as going to work whilst still suffering from labyrinthitis is exhausting! Oh well, not long until the end of term - and I've nearly finished my form's pastoral reports - they've taken me ages - 2 of my form have lost a parent this year, so I've taken my time over their reports ...

HI all!!

DAl! I am sooooo excited for you,congratulations xxxxxx

WWAJC - Glad you weren't being paranoid

NC - Well done Rich!

Alice - I am so excited for you about our new house, we were just the same with this house as it was our first that we'd bought and were stupidly excited.

Crochet - sorry to hear of your dilema, MIL smokes also and it is a severe pet hate of mine and dh. I think the older generation really don't see it as we do and think that sucking a mint, washing their hands really does stop the effect of passive smoking. MIL won't accept that she absolutely stinks of fags and also won't accept that she has little or no sense of smell. When she goes on about not being able to afford certain things I have to resist the urge to say 'well that's ££££ amount of fags really if you think about it...' As to her massive yucky cough which I find rank when she starts.... It's also hard when you know someone who has smoked for years says 'I've been smoking for 25 years and I've not got cancer/am still here' The don't seem to associate their current difficulties with smoking, well, MIL doesn't anyway, or at least she doesn't talk about it openly. I also can't stand the cloak and dagger way she goes about having a fag. She sas 'I'm dying for a coffee' meaning she needs a fag and also 'I'm off to do the pots.' in a poor me way and then spends 40mins-1hr clearing up the kitchen - she has a dishwasher ffs!!! If she gets offered help then she turns it down in a 'woe is me' way in order to have time to smoke, all covert and dishonest and emotially manipulating if you ask me.

I think sometimes you're allowed to say something when it really is in the best interests of our children or someone else's health, it's just how you go about it and how they recieve it. MIL would go mad, get offended start a family fight, make it a 'poor me' thing so as we see her so little that it's just not worth it. I can't remember the last time I saw her and she only has Ollie + Hen for a week 3 x's a year. She won't have Tobias as she wouldn't be able to cope with the 3 (I wouldn't expect her to to be fair!) so for us it's not something we're going to tackle. She does smoke no-where near the children though.

Am very hot and sweat at the mo and wishing this time away which is a shame. Henr is so clingy and cuddly as he's like me and really doesn't know what to do with himself. He napped from 10-2 today, didn't want lunch then stuffed himself silly for tea and then back to bed for 5.30pm. He didn't get up till 9am this morning. I'm not saying he's actually asleep all that time! But he's very happy to be resting in the semi dark in his cot.

Love to all

xx

congratulations Dal! Great news

big sweaty wave to everyone else. Need to turn computer off now and do some chores so will catch up proper later

Muppet - glad Henry is giving you some peace.

Anya had a follow-up at ENT today - we thought it would be a waste of time as we were convinced that they had signed her off last time. Also we saw really snotty doctor - first time we'd seen anybody who wasn't nice/understanding/patient - she was German (or similar) and very abrupt to the point of rudeness - no please/thank you - just 'hold her there/bring her here' and no attempt to be friendly to Anya. She also started on about the results of the sleep study saying that they weren't ok but she just rattled off loads of jargon and then said oh well it was over a year ago so doesn't really matter . DH and I were quite cross by this point! So she then sent us off to get her ears checked and it turned out she's got glue ear - might explain why she's not talking yet. She's on antibiotics (I think) for 3 months when they will reassess her to see if she needs grommets.

WWAJC - MIL is Austrian. I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. Hoping the AB's clear up Anya's glue ear -is it painful?

I have my last midwife app today (nervous emoticon) and then pre-op check app tomorrow at the hospital with dh and then it's all on for monday (really nervous emoticon) though I do just want to get on with it now.

Oh and had an embarassing moment with Ollie's teacher yesterday...

He and another little girl had agreed to meet in the loo to do a 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine...' tpe of thing so the teacher said it was all innocent, that the class have been told the need to keep their bits and pieces in their pants and only 1 person in a toilet cubicle. I was

..and I have Henry to follow him!!!