October 2007 These Little Piggies chased the easter bunny..and stole the eggs pt ll

[TheLadyEvenstar]

ok lets try here ladies!!!

hi all

Inzi - great flyer amzed how quickly you've started but I suppose if you can -why not?
Sunburn?!?! hasn't stopped bloody raining here!

Am waiting for a man to deliver a brand new carrycot for Tobias (Stan weed in Ollie/hen's so we couldn't use it again ) I got it from ebay for £75 which I don't think is bad. Ordering Ollie's new bed tomorrow for his new room and are trying to coax someone to sell me a lovely wardrobe/drawers thing for his room but they didn't react too well to my ridiculously low offer

Friend is bringing back the crib I leant her but I do need to get some new cribe sheets as Hen uses them as muslin's and snuggles them.

Had the physio today and have a lovely attractive support belt to wear when standing. I am needing a gym ball also to sit on as I had no balance and nearly fell off! I know it's not for long and then it's over forever so it's not that bad really.

Best friend is still awol and another firend and I are very worried. SHe last said that I was 'so lucjy' to be having a baby so I think we can safley say all her protestations about not really wanting children (she has endometriosis like me and it's bad and they are talking hysterectomy) are obvioulsy not true.

Am really as I've known her 12 years and we've gone through so many things together and now I can't see how there's a way forward. I can't not have my children anymore than I can wish her to be able to have children I really don't want it to be the end of our friendship.

She's having surgery next week but I only found this out through my other friend
Just wish I could do something...

I'm going to send flowers and a card to say I'm thinking of her. Anything else I could do anyone else can think of?

Sorry ..yes, I have been FBing ...

Muppet; I think the flowers and card are appropriate, keeping lines of communication open and the knowledge that your door is always open for her... but as you say there is nothing you can do about being fortunate enough to have children nor about her being so terribly unfortunate as to be unable to have them...
I carried the 'barren woman' title like a cross on my back for more than 10 years after I was told first that I had both Endo and pcos and later that I had the genetic translocation that meant if I did beat the endo/pcos, 50% of my embryos wouldnt make it and if I beat that statistic the my chance of having a child with Downs was 1 in 3...those odds stunted my romantic relationships ('what was the point in falling for someone if they wanted kids?')and my friendships, as I distanced myself from those who had children and pretended that I didnt need either a partner or a child to make me happy; I had an exciting career and my pets to keep my happy....Time was the best healer, the friends with kids kept in touch distantly and slowly it didnt hurt so much and we resumed our old patterns of contact. I was envious of their families but never begrudged them their happiness, just needed time to accept my 'lot' in life.
As you know, meeting Dh changed my ideas about needing a partner and we quickly found out that the endo and pcos did not affect my fertility at all....I am lucky, very, very lucky that I got to get my cake and eat it but I remember well the feelings of isolation, like I was the only barren woman in existance and every other woman was pregnant or pushing a pram...
I think in time your friend will perhaps find other things to console her for the loss of her ability to become a natural mother and your friendship will be able to return to normal. I hope that day comes soon.

Got to go to bed now before I fall...my eyes are blurring so sorry for any sp mistakes...nite all

I am at work today and as you can see not overly busy at the mo so thought I would attempt to have a proper catch up! Still no news on broadband I mean what exactly do they have to do?!!

Inzi pmsl at jane handing you a poo and asking what it is! that's hilarious if a bit grim!!! Congrats on getting ironing business up and running and continued weight loss too

NC on your behalf at the stupid tutor not helping you - erm isn't that their job?! Very unprofessional too to tell someone else you are demanding. Like you say though if usually good maybe they were having a bad day? Sorry exam didn't go so well - fingers crossed not as bad as you think.

LES will go read thread in a min if I get the chance... Sounds like you have come to an agreement you are happy with though so all good...

Dal hope you had a lovely day for your mil's birthday!

Floria you make me feel tired even just listening to how much work is involved in getting your garden sorted! Good luck!

Hello Mine! Of course you have been missed! great news on job offers although understand your mixed feelings... Which one did you go for?

WWAJC sorry to hear you have been having sleep problems with a busy head. I got that loads in the run up to the move and it's very frustrating when your child is actually sleeping!

Muppet I think we have some white cotton flat crib sheets if you want them? Can't promise they haven't already hit the charity shop but very happy to look and send them to you if you want - just send me an email with your address and if I can find them I will stick them in the post on Wed or Thurs next week... Sorry your friend has not been in touch. Understand totally your frustrations with the situation and agree that of course your life can't be on hold while she works hers out. Only thing I can say is that if the worst has happened and the surgery she is having next week is a hysterectomy it may just be too painful at the moment for her to see or speak to you as you will be an in your face reminder of what she can never have. If you are close friends I am sure she will come round - just give her time. One of my oldest friends had a miscarriage while I was expecting Sam and she couldn't bring herself to talk to me for ages. We sent emails to each other and I found it really hard not to be able to be there for her but over time she was able to talk to me and be happy for me again. I think your idea of flowers is a good one. Maybe write in the card that you are sorry she is having a tough time and you understand that she might find it hard to see you at the moment but that you love her and are thinking of her and you will be there for her when she feels she needs you. Floria's post is beautifully written and obviously she knows where your friend has been. I think let her know you are there for her and then you need to give her space to come back to you in time although this may be difficult and upsetting for you especially if in that time you need her. Good luck...

Anyway no exciting news from me. House progressing well - they have started to put our kitchen in which is very exciting! I have my annual appraisal next week so will have to do a bit of work on that later although for once I am actually relatively organised! I'll try and get back on later if I can but going to send this message NOW after the last time i typed one this long from this computer it bloody crashed! Thinking of you all....

Inzi - glad you've not encountered psycho lady again. Wow at the amount of ironing. Not stopped raining here either so no chance of sunburn.

Muppet - so sorry about your friend, can't imagine how she must feel having even a slight chance of having kids removed. We tried for years before Anya came along and it seemed like everybody else was getting pregnant, which I found incredibly hard to deal with. I have friends who are still in that position but much as I wish for them to have children sometimes it just doesn't happen. I think FT/Alice offer good advice.

Went to get Anya new shoes this morning - she's grown a bit. We get a very limited choice as she's an H fitting - she's ended up with pink ones with flashing lights in the heel . So any attempts at sophistication are right out of the window. She was a nightmare in the shops - we went to the ELC and she refused to leave - she kept running off and hiding. At least she didn't take everything off the shelves, which is her usual trick.

Hi Alice, oooh exciting about the kitchen, i've decided if i ever move i need a kitchen with loads of cupboard space as i have hardly anything now
FT-hope you slept well
WWAJC-shoes sound very cooooool I'm afraid that I Shannon has an obsession with shoes and has quite a few of them, pink cowboy boots, summery shoe things from Asda, a few pairs of sandals, and i've just got her some purple boots, sparkly trainers and some summery shoe things in the next size up that where in the sale. They probably don't fit her as well as Clarks ones would but she probably doesn't keep them on long enough to have any adverse effect.

well, i've still got a stinking cold, getting curry from indian(which i don't really like)for tea to try and sweat it out! Fed up of staying in, but i keep sneezing and my eyes and nose are streaming, i didn't want to pass it on to anyone.

sorry meant to say INZI, i didn;t have no advice , but Alices' as usual is fab x

Inzi, no advice sorry. But my mum had me by emergency CS and, now don't laugh...every year on my birthday the scar splits open at the very edge and bleeds. The GP's can not find any reason for it!! and I am 34 now so mum has had to put up with it foreverrrrr

NC - hope your cold is better soon. Have a hot toddy .

Inzi - nooooooo, poor you not being able to have comfort food. Hugs to you and Jane. No advice on CS scar - sounds like I've been very lucky that I've not had any trouble with mine.

aww Inzi-poor you,can't you make a exception for one day? or much some ice cubes up? i'm still feeling crappy, but dd1 got up with Shannon and i slept till 11 so i've had a bath, washed my grotty hair and going out to get supplies as Shannon is devestated over the lack of bananas in the house Hopefully i'll be back to usual in the next day or 2, weird that everyones getting it at a similar time, maybe i passed it to you when playing scrabble!

Just popping on to say I started work. All good so far - everyone is very nice! Think I will be very busy for a bit but will pop on when I can.

Inzi I hope you feel better soon!

Inzi-I have been trying to be productive today and play on moneysavingsexpert looking for --bargains not come on MN too much

Not seen that programme, i've only just started trying to get the monster interested in TV so i can get stuff done sometimes! I don't really watch it, so it is only on over teatime for neighbours but i have been putting Shannon in front of it with all the baby programmes, there are so many! She was watching one today that was showing the signs for monkey, crocodile, lion and snake, but she wouldn't do them, just kept saying monkey and snake.

grr damn the strikethrough not working

Hey everyone

I seem to have fallen a bit behind again, although there were 2 days where I had the same problem as Inzi and just couldn't get on MN?!

Inzi - Your flyer looks great (well the content does, obviously I can't see what it's actually like). Very professional that you've go an email address too! Did you make and print your flyers on your computer yourself? Just wondered if you'd got them done by a printing company and if so how much? Also, which iron did you get? If I manage to get a start up grant through business link I might get this one

Wow at Jane having 16 teeth! Dylan only just has numbers 5 and 6 coming through, poor little man

I haven't seen that program on baby tv, will have to check it out.. Lol at Jane shouting the names. Dylan like to shout 'Pepper Pib' which is meant to be pig obviously and yesterday we were trying to get him to say salamander, he tried and said samama

Sorry you have and awful cold and even more sorry you can't have ice cream, you have more will power than me!

NC - Hope your cold is a bit better

Mine - Of course you were missed! Excellent news on the jobs. I am also very impressed about Eren and his 2 languages!

WWAJC - Sorry the job hunt is going annoyingly slow, guess it's not such a good time right now...

Wanted to ask you a quick question, you know how everyone has a tax free self employed allowance of about £6000 ( can't remember exact figure). Well I was wondering, if you had a full time job, like my dh does, and he wanted to do something self employed around his job (he wants to design t shirts) then would he also have this tax free allowance or because he's already earning a full time wage from his job would it just be taxed as it would be over and above his wage?

At Anyas new flashing shoes, Dylan has some flasing ones too, I am stupidly excited by them

Muppet - Is the support belt helping? Are you managing to rest?

Sounds like a sad situation for your friend I think the others have given really good advice. Maybe she knows she is excluding you at the mo but just can' bring herself to do any other with her going through such an emotional time? I think the flower idea is good, let her know you're there when she wants to talk...

Alicet - Yes thanks, had a lovely day for mils birthday, we sat out in their big garden in the sun with Dylan in the sand pit eating iced lollies

Hope they get your broadband fixed soon, glad the rest of the house is moving along according to plan

Les - How weird about your mums CS scar! Spooky!

Stefka - Great to hear from you! So glad the new job started well, hope you're not too busy!

Well, Dylans early terrible two's have really kicked in now. He doesn't listen to a word I say and keeps smacking, not hard smacls but smacks all the same. We keep getting down on his level and saying NO! and putting him in time out if he has had too many warnings (we just hold him sat in the corner for a minute then let him get up again or if out and about hild him on our knee for a minute. It isn't really working yet though . Not really sure what else to do? Any advice?

My bro and sil and niece poppped in to see us on sat which was nice, they'd been on holiday in Loch Ness and our house was on their way back downt the country. Mu niece is 6 months younger than Dylan, usually they play really nice together but this time he was mr jeckle and hide was kissing her one minute and throwing a ball at her head the next or trying to smack her on the head. I felt a bit embarassed as it didn't seem to matter what I or DH said, he just carried on regardless. You won't believe me but he's been really well behaved up until a few weeks ago when he turned in to a rascal bag!

Anyway, am gonna go now cause dh has just arrived back from work. Hi to anyone i've missed, back again soon x

Just a quickie from me as at work...

LES your mum might have a stitch sinus - basically where they tied the knot at the end of the stitch (which is normally at one end of the wound) erodes through the skin a bit? Just a thought! Nothing to worry about if its not bothering her but if she has they can cut the knot out under local anaesthetic....

Inzi and needcoffee hope you're both feeling better today....

Need to go eat my tea now as they are going to call any minute for me to take someone's appendix out! Hope to see you all soon....x

Stefka - glad your job is going well.

Inzi - glad you're feeling better. Anya adores the cuddlies - they are her favourites (closely followed by Oliver and Draco) and she jumps up and down shouting when they come on - pmsl at 'tasty'.

Dal - everybody gets the first £6475 of their income tax-free, not just the self-employed. So your dh will already have used up his allowance as the first £6475 of his wages will be tax-free (they'll split it over the year so £539 per month or £124 per week depending on how he gets paid). So if he did other work on top that would be fully taxed as you can't have the allowance twice. Not much advice on Dylan - Anya bats me round the head sometimes if she doesn't want to be picked up but it's not really smacking iyswim and she's never done it to anyone else.

Anya's eating loads at the moment - she pinched a whole pork fillet out of the fridge before tea and scoffed the lot (usually she leaves meat on the side of her plate) and then she's eaten cheese & mushroom on toast and a yoghurt as well.

Had a good day at work today. We had an advisers' meeting this morning where we're all supposed to bring ideas about how to deal with clients more effectively . I'd got this quite risky idea about whether we could start doing easy low value work that lots of clients could potentially go for, especially all our elderly clients. It's completely different to anything we do at the moment so I wasn't sure it would go down well but my boss thought it was brilliant and it would fit in well with something else we were thinking of doing and how we should develop it further and could I put something together to talk about at our next monthly meeting. Am very chuffed as it means I can argue back now if he threatens me again with cutting my salary.

Ah - the Cuddlies are on .

Hi alicet

WWAJC - I thought that might be the case re tax free alowance, thought it was worth double checking though. Thanks for clearing that up for me

at Anya eating a pork fillet!

Glad work is going a bit better for you and they liked your idea

WWAJC great news about work! Always good to feel like you're doing well!

Stefka glad your work is going OK...

Meant to say that we haven't seen the cuddlies but Adam LOVES In the night garden - he can say 'giggle giggle' (iggle piggle) and 'cacka cacka' (macka packa) and squeals with excitement! Oh I am so proud that some of my child's first words are from a truely crap tv programme

SOB SOB SOB SOB I am stuck on slowwwwwwwwwwww dial up for the next 10 days!!!
aol mucked up big time and now i have no broadband until 27th.