October 2007 These Little Piggies chased the easter bunny..and stole the eggs pt ll

[TheLadyEvenstar]

ok lets try here ladies!!!

They've just repetedly called both our mobiles for the last 1/2 an hour. We hung uo on them everytime apart from the first time cause dh's phone was on silent so he got an awful message from my dad saying to him 'you might contol Amy but you're not going to contol us sonny boy' and similar names. He also said 'of course we cam to your house, we didn't know where Amy lived for 2 years you stupid boy!'

I answered on one occasion to and simply said 'stop calling us' then hung up, she still rung back. Has stopped for now. Feel all stressed but not going to let it ruin my day. Gonna pop in to the police st I think for some advice in a bit. Also off to do some ironing service competitor reseach.

Thanks NC, sorry to bother you, i'm just fuming. Have a lovely weekend. We're off in to town soon x

you're not bothering me silly

They're really pathetic, grr, and selfish.

Sorry, really got to go now, have a lovely rest of the day, please DO pop into the police station, it needs sorting xx

oh Dal

can you phone your phone company and have their numbers blocked?

If not I would email all friends and relatives you speak to and tell them you're keeping your mobile turned off for a while and that they can get hold of you on your home phone number. Do this for a couple of days and let your parents fill up some recorded messages and put them onto a dictaphone. I would then go to the police with it (plus any wriiten diary) and see what they can do. She has clearly said she's nnot going to stop so this may be helpful in a harrassment case?

Great idea re the ironing. ALl the plus points of working for yourself, no childcare costs, with Dylan all the time so it seems the perfect answer really. My fiend did it and she cahrged by weight but I think per item is better as it leaves no room for disagreement. MY friend had those plastic covers (bought on a roll for not much) which gives you an air of professionalism whilst protecting the clothes. Could ask for them to be returned as good for the environment to re-use (also great to keep your costs down!) Would you supply coathangers? Could be another way of making a little extra? Are you going to pick up / deliver back? I think targetting offices would be great as you could get a few customers from the same place

Had a good day here, revising this morning whilts the boys in creche or games session at the gym (dh running) then home and my dad took the boys out for a walk and play at the park. Only 1 sarcastic omment from my dad so that's not too bad from him really!

Dh gone to halford's for new bulbs as we have no brake lights and the good people of swindon have all been telling me with beeps and flashing of their lights -maybe they were just showing off they had lights ('..look at mine, aren't they bright and look....they WORK!')

Tomorrow swimming and hopefully my bf is going to visit but she has gone awol for a while and has just sent a rather desperate email detailing how her life is going wrong at the mo yet she doesn't return calls so I'll see if she does or not. WOuld be lovely to see her as friends and I have all been worried but when someone's low it seems you can't really reach them until they want to be iyswim.

love to all
xx

Hey Muppet - I might just change my number eventually but am happy to keep storing and recording the evidence messages for now.

Dh has recorded all the messages on to my phone to save them today so thats good.

We popped in to the police st, they were really busy with an incident in town so there were no officers available to chat with us. We could have waited around but had to get back to feed Dylan his tea so they said they'd get the day shift to call us in the morning.

I gave the guy on the desk a brief outline of what has been going on. He said he didn't know the ins and outs of the law but that he thought it might be difficult to get a restraining order if they hadn't actually threatened us. He did say however that it is an offence to pester/harass someone so that we can discuss that.

Regarding the ironing, I do like the idea of using those plastic covers. I had thought about asking people to provide there own hangers but will have some on hand if i'm short of them. I like the idea of asking for the plastic covers back .

I am going to collect and deliver, Berwick is only small so might as well. Not sure if there are many offices in Berwick but there must be some?! I might do a leaflet drop on some of the 'young professional' flats that are popping up here. There are apparently a lot of people who live here and commute to edinburgh so will try target them too, not sure how yet?!

Sounds like you had a nice relaxing day . I am curious to know what the comment was your dad made though

Funny yu mentioned your brake lights being out, we just noticed when we got back from pils that one of ours has gone.

Hope you do get to see your bf tomorrow and that she's ok

Well I'm supposed to be out swimming with Anya at the moment but she fell asleep on the changing mat while I was getting her ready so I've put her back to bed. Fingers crossed she doesn't wee in her sleep because I'd just changed her into a swim nappy + swimming costume (easier than doing it at the baths) and I've just realised I don't think swim nappies are very absorbant for wee. Hope I'm wrong!

Dal - sorry not sent email yet - I'm having trouble with hotmail at the moment - I think it won't let me login if dh is logged in on his computer . Sorry about your mum's response - not surprised she said all that given her past record though, seems about right for her. Muppet's advice is good. Hope the police are helpful today. Re the ironing service - I think you should charge a small amount for all extras (it all adds up ) such as collecting/dropping off.

NC - I couldn't do 2 courses plus work at the same time so hats off to you if you go for it. Is level 3 the last level for AAT? If so I'd do that first so you've got that qualification under your belt then do business/management course after. I did a management course with the OU a few years ago and couldn't believe how much time it took up because it was mainly coursework/assignments rather than study/revision iyswim - I wouldn't do it again.

Muppet - hope you get to see your bf today and enjoy your swimming.

Hope everyone's having a good weekend.
x

Dal, my dad siad he bumped into my neighbours, 'you know, the african ones?' I said 'oh you mean my english neighbours who are black and with family from Jamaica? It was just the hushed way he said it it 'the african ones...' typical 70's man unfortunately.

Also I was running around cooking tea and I had made a pot of tea but not poured it and he said 'you going to pour this tea then? We're dying of thirst here...' I said why couldn't he just remind me/do it himself instead of the sarcasm. I am sensitive at the mo but he really has the ability to get under my skin.

WWAJC -hope the swim nappy holds up!

NC - not sure what the work load would be but WWAJC has some good advice from one who knows...I'd go for the qualification one first also x

WWAJC - Aww, although inconvenient it is very sweet that Anya fell asleep in her swimming costume

Don't worry about the email, there's no great rush, just whenever you can manage.

Re the ironing, I had originally thought I would charge £1 for collection/delivery if the order was under £10 so might do that... I want to get the balance right between earning enough money and not charging too much so I scare people off! I went round all the shops I could think of yesterday that I thought would adviertise that kind of service and haven't found anyone else advertising it yet. Also most of the places I went round said it was free to advertise in their windows . I'm sure there must be other people providing this service in Berwick but they're not easy to find if they are so thats good for me!

The police lady came round this morning. She was really helpful and sympathetic. She said it doesn't matter what my parents say because they are harassing us and the sheer volume of calls is grounds for a civil anti molestation/restraining order. She said to see a solicitor and get one set up. She also took their number and said she would call them and give them their first warning to stop contacting us. She just called to say she hasn't been able to get through yet and finishes her shift at 2pm so will try to call them again tomorrow and let me know what happens. She said if she can't get through at all then they will take a statement from me and send a police officer to visit them down there.

It feels lie a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders. My parents kept saying I didn't have grounds for a restraining order cause they hadn't done anything wrong and hadn't damaged our property. The polie have confirmed that they have done wrong and we can do something about it. I was feeling powerless and like I didn't know what to do next but I feel a lot better now

Muppet - Ah, I see. Yeah I think it is a generation thing. Unfortunately my parents are quite badlt racist, another thing we don't agree on!

I'm afraid I'd have told him to shove the tea! You're supposed to be resting, was his arm broken?!!! Ah well, at least that was the worst of it and it's over now, aaaand breathe

Dal -good news re the police, I hope you'll relax a little in that you know you can do something xx

Yep, my dad's an arse. I used to work in our village pub and when my dad walked in one night a regular said 'I'm off, he's tighter than a duck's arse...oops, sorry, that's your dad isn't it?' I said don't worry, it's true He has his friends but hasn't really been popular outside his equally chauvenistic mates. Both my brothers find his just as hard work so I know it's not just me. When my eldest brother visited last year he said he would come round to see my nephew (his grandson who he hadn't seen for 1 1/2 years) but then didn't turn up (after we'd told the boys he was coming) and when my brother phoned (dad didn't ring us) he said he'd had a long day and he was tired...
Needless to say my brother was furious. I think it's one thing to let you down but when they start on your children it's a whole different ball game.

Great news Dal and good luck on the ironing front.

I don't mind ironing but couldn't do other peoples too

Just quickly

Dal-glad you feel good about knowing exactly where you stand now, and that the police woman is going to warn them, bet they blame your DH for corruptinng you blah blah! You're stronger without them.

wwajc-Level 3 is only the 2nd year of my AAT, will speak to my tutor and the one doing the other course to see what they think, it'd be 2 full days a week rather than the 1 day i do at the moment.

Does anyone want some Alton towers tickets for this Wed? I'm not going to be able to make it, if anyone does i can get them in the post tomorrow.

Will be back tomorrow, bit busy at the mo xx

Muppet - Lol at 'tight as a ducks arse' . Must be annoying when he says he'll do things to do with the children then lets you and them down . Well, they say you can choose your friends...

LLL - Thanks . I find ironing quite theraputic, lets see if that is still the case after a few weeks of doing everyone elses!

Inzi - You've got that right, they are sick . We know they're looking for a rise, they're not going to get one but the things they say are hurtful none the less... In all honesty I knew there was a good chance it would turn out like this, thats why I waited till Dylan was 14mo to contact them. At least I can say I tried.

It's an odd feeling to know that you don't have the support of your own parents in your life. As i've said before it's almost like a grieving process. Weird to know they're around, still alive but I won't be in contact with them cause it won't work, very sad . With pils I feel as if i've found parental figures that i'd never had, I look up to them and they are great friends too. It's sad I couldn't have that with my own parents but at least I have support here with my lovely dh, pils and also my bros and sils.

Anyway, on a brighter subject, DH has thought of a name for my ironing business. I haven't decided on it for sure but wanted to run it by you all...

Creased Lightening

What do you think? lol

Might help if I spelt it right... I meant

Creased Lightning!

Morning all. I am soooooo hungry at the mo! We had fish pie for tea yesterday (I made and froze in, Tana Ramsey's recipe and actually not bad) so was stodge food, followed by trifle that I'd made the day before that needed eating up so we all ate far too much and then about 7 ish I said to dh I was still hungry and so he went out for a McDonalds

This morning have had breakfast, and at 10 ate a banana as so hungry but are going to have to cook my lunch (tuna and rice) early as I don't think I'll make it till 12

Not putting the weight on anywhere else so it must all be Tobias' fault (oh yes it is!)

Trying not to snack and eating LOTS when I have meals but I still really want more food!!!!!

xx

awwwwwww Muppet, i remember it well lol.....

Muppet I admire you restraint that even though you are constantly hungry you are managing to eat snacks such as bananas

I would be constantly stuffing my face with cream buns, chocolate cake, yahoo milkshake, babybels etc etc. Thats what I ate with Dylan anyway towards the end

Any oppinions on the ironing name?

Dal its great!!!

Think the ironing name is fab!

I gave in and had lunch at 11...

I know I'm going to be hungry again around 3!! It's like I'm having an extra meal a day.

Dal - good news about the restraining order - am glad that you're getting some support. Love 'creased lightning' - that's brilliant.

Muppet - am impressed by your willpower not to stuff yourself with too much junk (I know I did ).

Of course I meant yazoo milkshake, not yahoo

The police got in touch with my mum. She put on the fake tears as expected and asked the officer is she could still send cards and presents. The officer refused to comment on this as she didn't want my mum to be able to say 'the police said we could'. My mum tried to tell the police lady to call my dad and talk to him, the officer said no, she has already given the info to my mum. The officer cut my mum off whilst she was trying to tell her 'version' of events and just told her that the volume of calls was too much and that we had already stated we don't want contact and to respect our wishes. She told my mum if it continues they will have to take it further. My mum said my dad would call the officer later, the officer says if he does she'll just tell him exactly the same thing.

I feel relieved and also very sad that I had to cal the police on my own parents

I told the police i'll see how it goes, see if the calls stop and if they do i'll leave it with no further action for now. I said if I get more calls we'll take it further and see the solicitor etc...

okay, so I gave in a drove the car the 5 mins to the local shop and bought a double decker, lucozade AND a bounty. I came home and ate the lot.

Dal -great news re the police. Interesting your mum still feels the need to try to manipulate the situation, glad that the police woman saw through this and didn't let her have her way!

muppet - at the snack attack, thats more like it! lol

Re the police, yeah I told them she would do that and she did so no surprises there!

Ok we have another condender for my ironing name, also thought up by DH.

Hey Pressto!

or it could be written...

Hey Pressto!

What do you ladies think? I'm wavering, this one seems to be more clear as to what the service is iyswim...