Sept 08: the thread for when they may start crawling, and there will definitely be some separation anxiety bawling ....

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Welcome ladies

Well, there's no crawling going on in our house, but there's defo some separation anxiety bawling going on .... tears, screaming, the works - oh joy!

jenpet yes that is my dss on the email. very impressed that I won a t-shirt.

DH didn't get the job I'm so annoyed and upset because they told him on the phone that he would get a proper interview and they'd email asap to organise when and then he got an email today saying he hasn't got the job at all. Why would they do that?!? I'm gutted and so annoyed with them

pacita the cartons are more easily digested due to the heat treatmtent process.

Oh starlight, so sorry to hear that. I don't know much about the autistic spectrum, but there are varying degrees of autism, aren't there? Have you any idea where on the spectrum he is?

At least now you know you can start to take steps to deal with it, but it sounds like you have already been managing his behaviour very well so far.

(I know you don't do hugs, but here's a large G&T to take the edge off.)

So sorry too you've had this news Starlight - as DG says, it would be useful to know where he is on this spectrum so you can look into it further...I'm sure once the shock of the news today sinks in a bit you will find it easier to look at the positives etc. Only tiny bits of alcohol pass into breast milk don't they?! Thinking of you x

Oh Starlight

From what you said it sounds like you were sort of expecting this diagnosis, however it doesn't make it any easier to hear, does it? No doubt you will always grieve for what you think could have been, but he is your dear dear boy. And what has been confirmed to you today doesn't make him a different boy from who he was yesterday, today and tomorrow. I haven't put that very well, but I hope yswim.

Sod the wine, here's a couple of champagne cocktails and a box of chocs - all to be consumed tonight.

best wishes starlight. i hope this is the start of you and him getting useful support.

A's 'Auntie'/main babysitter is autistic, and many of my friends are on the spectrum, so it'll be interesting to see who he copies as role models.

starlight sorry to hear your news. As you have a diagnosis I hope you get lots of support. So lovely the paed said you were so in tune with him, a lot of children wouldn't be that fortunate.

I have nearly had enough of spoon feeding DD for even 5 mins, so i left her to it with avocado on toast, broccoli and banana for tea. She seemed quite happy and she even managed to drink out of her sippy cup.

Sainsburys have 1/3 off baby stuff so I took the car and bought loads of nappies and wipes today. I might go back for more and just stick them in the loft . It's not like they have a best before date is it!

Here's another box of chocolates Starlight. We didn't need the paed to tell us that you are a fab mum - you've been dishing out useful, common sense (and often very funny) advice throughout our pre and post natal threads.

I bet yes, your DS is very clever and very special, and however hard work, I also bet you will both find the best way to enjoy life. Could she not in fact be wrong, and he is just a little chap with a peculiar personality? The autistic spectrum is sooo wide...

Starlight - sorry you're feeling upset at the moment, it must be a shock to get a diagnosis, especially when other people were telling you everything is fine,but shows you really are in tune with him. A couple of friends have children on the spectrum,there's a huge variation in how they're affected. At least now you should get access to all appropriate support though instead of your concerns being brushed away.

Meglet sorry to hear about your ex, what an idiot he's being, well done to you for not putting up with it, and taking action. P is hopefully moving out anyday now. Tbh i long for the day. I do everything as it is,as well as put up with so much awfulness from him, life has to be better. He seems reluctant to go, no doubt because has cushy deal here.
Also understand operation scary, but would be worse to be worrying constantly if you didn't have op.

Whoever said about Boots stock cubes - I was excited too when discovered these! And have bought a few Plum baby things including the sugar free fromage frais - C ate wholepot keenly this evening. She loves food though hasn't had much yet. Mainly mashed banana or ready brek. Grabs spoon with both hands and cries when has to wait milisecond between mouthfuls. Oh she's crying.........

starlight I know you have had an inkling for a while so am hoping you aren't too shocked at what the paed said. The ed pysch who told me said she had never seen someone take the news so well, I just gave a big sigh said 'well lets do something about it then' and was so laid back. I had known something was wrong for about 10 months.
As someone said the asd is so wide and it will be quite a while before you find out where he is on that. If you ever need to chat about things then I would be happy to lend an ear.

Debi So glad you gave dc chicken korma, we had it last night and Robyn loved it. How do you give breadsaticks? She poked herself in the eye, up the nose and gagged on it yesterday

For one reason or another (generally sleepless nights and feeding woes) we all need a little tlc.
I think it is time we bombarded MNHQ and told them to get rid of that sodding CBeebies add and replace it with a huge box of calorie free choc biscuits, wine, champagne and anything else that we like to indulge in. Then we could dip in and out whenever we feel a bit low.

morning all
starlight >

up at 5 today....[sleepy face emoticon- why isnt there one btw]

starlight So sorry to hear your news. Of course he is clever and unique and wonderful - he is yours!!!!! You are a fab mum, and he is lucky to have you in his corner.

As you know, we have been pushing to get ds1 assessed for dyslexia (which I am not comparing with autistic spectrum disorder of course) and I know how frustrating it is when people/experts who do not know your child are telling you they are fine when you know they arent. (We also had this with ds1 when he was born.....after 6 weeks they finally realised I was right and then spent the next few weeks telling me and dh that he would "probably" be deaf and blind )

On the plus side, it was parents evening on thurs, and he is making progress and they assessed him on thursday morning!!!! (after telling me they dont assess kids that young!)

Really hope that your ds (and you) start gettng the targeted help he needs....

Toby seems better...still sounds awful but AB's finish today thank god....the nappies I have had to deal with this week have to be seen to be belived!!!!!!!

Have a good weekend ladies x

starlight - ive just managed to jump on here and im so sorry to hear about your DS...and i agree with everyone else had said that you are a great mum and glad that you knew that summat was not right with him as some mums do brush it under the carpet and think its all in the imagination. {{{hugs}}}

i do have a friend who ive known for years and her oldest dd who is now 16yrs old had got autistim. She is a lovely girl, but my friend did tried to turn a blind eye over her dd when she was a baby and also my friend was very young as she was 17 when she had her so she had no knowledge of it at the time but now knows lots. Her dd's Dad got autistim too as it was on her Dads side that got a few autistims too.

starlight I just wanted to say a big WELL DONE. Well done for being a brilliant mum, well done for spotting that your ds needed to be referred, well done for being so tuned in to his personality, well done for producing such an intelligent little lad! We look forward to sharing many a g&t with you as go for your appointments and learn to live with the diagnosis. In fact you can drink my bottle of wine that's been chilling in the fridge coz I'm out babysitting tonight so can't drink it myself and I'd hate it to go to waste!

I had a pedicure today and went swimming with my friends. Absolute bliss. But I've just discovered that the clocks go forward tonight so we lose and hour's sleep. No one tell the kids please!!!

Starlight it's all been said by everyone else. You're obviously a great Mum and being so in-tune with your DS is a great compliment.

Having this assessment can only help in the future and doesn't change your lovely DS.

I hope you're all managing to have a good weekend.

Another 7-3 sleep last night, that's 2 in a row. I daren't say too much in case M hears me.

Trying to decide what colour to decorate her room.

Starlight I can't say it better than all the others have, but I agree with them - you are generally marvellous.

Crap night again last night - too many wakings and feeds to count. No poo despite 2 days of lactulose. We're at day 5 without poo again, so expecting another horrendous night. . It's such a shame, as T is so easy when there's no poo issues!

hopefully we had a grim night too. DD is a bit under the weather though, even so I wasn't impressed to not have had much sleep by 3am. They were both grizzly all morning and I was only saved from a nervous breakdown by my sister who popped by and took DS on a toddle to town . I achieved more in the following hour than I had all week. And I got them both to bed in time for Primeval.

DD has antiB's as the doc thinks she has an ear infection, the medicine is scary fluorescent yellow stuff. In my day we had yummy banana medicine, I loved being ill

Hope everyone gets a better night tonight.

hopefully - I think lactulose softens the poo's rather than makes you poo. So in theory the poo will be easier to pass but it won't help T poo more often.

I've not forgotten you carriebo, I am making a list of things to do in Suffolk for you

So clocks going forward means A will be waking up at 7am from now on instead of 6am...

Also means he won't be going to bed till 7-8pm. Which I suppose is a good thing if I'm thinking about feeding him in the evening when I'm back from work. And hopefully by the time they go forward again he'll either be more easy going about bedtimes or he'll just need a cup of warm cows milk.

Or am I kidding myself?

ILTMIMI I think you're right, I was just hoping that it might soften so much it would just fall out!

Breakthrough - we finally managed to get T to take some fluids in other thank milk, for the first time ever I think. It was 40/60 juice/water (so insanely concentrated for a small baby) and in a bottle, but at this stage I'll take anything I can get! He drank about 3oz of it. Going to stick with that for a few days in the hope of just getting him used to it, then reduce the concentration a bit before attempting to move it to the cup. Ordered a doidy cup as well. I'm so relieved we've managed to get something liquid into him at last, even though it's a far from ideal solution.

starlight I'm just going to ditto what everyone else has said about you being a fab mum as I agree with them all and am too tired to think of something original to write!

well done T for drinking juice and sending you some pushing vibes.

Someone obviously told ds2 that the clocks went forwards, he woke at 5.30 and seemed to be very awake, my clock said it was 6.30 which I thought was 6.30 old time but then eventually realised that it had gone forwards itself (its a radio controlled one but has never ever adjusted itself before). I then fed him even though I said I wasn't going to feed during the night again (apart from 11pm ish when he usually wakes) but he still didn't want to go back to sleep. Thankfully dh took him downstairs where he wasn't sure what to feel about getting to watch the Aussie grandprix live for the 1st time! DS1 and 2 and dh are now all asleep and as you can see I'm making the most of the peace and quiet by doing useful things