Fab Feb 2009: attack of the zombie mums

[dinkystinky]

So here we all are, complete with babies and gro-bags under our eyes

Thanks Dinky!! Just heard that Sam's lumbar puncture came back clear of meningitis - phew! just got to wait for bloodc ultures now to see what they reveal but thank god it's not the big M.

I'm sure little O will come round to the idea - i'm finding it quite tricky to know hoe to discipline but have had a good chat with health visitor and just need to work on my parenting skills!

Really must go now to hook myself up to the breast pump .....

And thanks Spotty!! Well done you - put your feet up,now!!!

So pleased the results came back negative Catstar. What a huge relief xxx

Crumbs catstar - how scary. Thank God it's not menegitis... Hope you get more good news tomorrow. And I'm sure little O will be fine. Give a few weeks and she'll accept that Sam is here to stay!!

Spotty Yikes, woman. Have some hot chocolate and get in the bath with a good book. Ox is the year, so all bubs are ox, and they will all be earth ox (think the element rotates each time ox comes around). There is also another part of the sign in Chinese mythology, but I can't remember what it is.

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TinkerBellesMumandFifi2 - DD Sîan Anne Denise, 4lbs 8.5oz, 02.01.09
Dinkymum - DS Isaac Christopher, 5lbs 8oz, 19.01.09
Ooogs - DS Luke Daniel, 8lbs 6oz, 20.01.09
Herbgarden - DD Amy Hannah, 5lbs 14oz 23.01.09
idontbelieveit - DD Freya Rose, 6lbs 8oz, 26.01.09
laidbackinengland - DD Mabel Lucy, 8lbs 14oz, 29.01.09
tinasan - DS Enrico Marco, 6lbs 10oz, 29.01.09
onwardandupward - DC2 [I'll put name on fb], 8lb exactly, 30.01.09
stacysmom - DD Tabitha Rose, 6lbs 15oz, 31.01.09
MsLucy - DS Stanley William, 8lb 7 oz, 02.02.09
LittleMissNorty - DS Ewan Scott, 6lbs 13ozs, 02.02.09
swampster - DS Jacob, 7lb, 02.02.09
Jelliebaby - DD Olivia, 7lb 3oz, 02.02.09
MarkStretch - DS Frankie, 7lb 15oz, 03.02.09
Pempe ? DS Harry, 03.02.09
Nkweto - DD Alexandra, 8llbs 11oz, 04.02.09
MamaGoose - DD Indigo Norah Rose, 4.15kg/9lb 1oz, 04.02.09
SomeMightSay (lbb)- DS Luke Alan, 7 lb 13 oz, 04.02.09
fgpl - DD Phoebe, 8lb 9 oz, 05.02.09
McDreamy - DD Abigail Louise, 7lb 1/2oz, 06.02.09
Rosieposey - DS Milo John William, 8lb 10oz, 06.02.09
mumoverseas - DS Harrison William, 3.1k, 08.02.09
Questionkid ? DS Alexander George, 08.02.09
PinkTulips ? DS Aaron Matthew, 8lbs 2oz 09.02.09
Dinkystinky - DS Daniel Nikhil, 8lbs 6oz, 10.02.09
MrsY ? DD Meredith Lilian Faith, 7lb 7oz, 10.02.09
Givethedogahomebirth - DD, 8lbs 15oz, 11.02.09
KT1983 - DD Poppy Louise, 6lb 80z, 13.02.09
Pluto - DS Albert David Magnus, 10lbs 10oz, 13.02.09
JenniferTurkington, DD Harriet, 9lb, 15.02.09
America - DS Leo, 3.3kg, 15.02.09
KazzaL - DS Benjamin Hector Douglas, 8lbs3oz, 16.02.09
Astarte - details to follow.
winemakesmummyclever - DS Issac Alexander, 7lb 4oz, 17.02.09
TheHouseofMirth - DS Tarran James, 7lb 2oz, 18.02.09
Fruitstick - DS, Arthur, 8lb 13oz, 18.02.09
Calico1 - DD Lilian Helena, 7lb 4oz, 19.02.09
Mentalpup - DS Harry, 7lb 10oz, 20.02.09
Neerly3 - DS Charlie, 7lb 8oz, 20.02.09
Cocodrillo - DS Rufus, 8 lb 8 oz, 20.02.09
pinkbabybump - DD Eleanor Catherine, 6lb 14oz, 20.02.09
lardybump - DS Owen Francis, 8lb 12oz, 21.02.09
Catstar - DS Samuel James, 9lb 1oz, 22.02.09
eejaykay - DS Alfred, 6lb 14oz, 22.02.09
chilledmama - DD, Niamh Lauren Hannah, 8lb 5oz, 23.02.09
Littlesez ? DD, Isobella Rose, 8lbs 23.02.09
katieblirdsnest - DS Ivor, 8lb 4oz, 24.02.09
ihavenewsockson - DS Viktor Jake, 8lb 15 oz, 24.02.09
ScubaGroover - DS William 7lbs 10 oz 26.0209
Spottypushedherbabyout - DS Samuel James Edward, 8lbs 1oz 02.03.2009

WHO'S NEXT.....

Munteria - DC2, due: 11.02.09 (age 37, Putney)
Ranirani - DC1, due: 13.02.09 (age 35, Herts)
Justme84 - due 14.02.09
Bunsen - DC2 (girl) due 21.02.09 CS booked for 16.02.09 (age 32, Leeds)
fruitstick - (a suprise), due: 18.02.09
DizzyBrummie - DC2, due: 20.02.09 (age 36, Berkshire)

Finally got round to putting Niamh's name on list..how lazy am I! Must do birth story next!

Any more news Catstar, what a horribly worrying time! Hope your DS is better soon.

Don't worry about your DD, it won't be long before she can't do without him. My older two can't bear to be apart for any length of time now.

morning all
catstar huge hugs from 3,000 miles away, I hope that DS is better very soon xx

SMS FYI, pringles CAN be an essential item IF, and only IF, they are for YOU!

Just a flying visit for me now as rushing to get the bus to another compound for a coffee morning and to meet a friend. catch up later x

catstar I hope today brings good news for you and your baby feels ok.

Harry has woken up with a cold, courtesy of some visitors yesterday. I know it's probably more distressing for me than him, but it's horrible watching him struggle to swallow and breathe

Am feeling better today (((((lobs back greek yoghurt with fruit and honey - a local speciality - as a thank you to everyone))))) helped by the fact that it's a stonkingly beautiful day and we can go out for a nice long walk later and hot chocolate on the harbour front.

I hate my husband. No particular reason. Everything he does at the moment pisses me off. Ignorant snoring arse. Just thought I'd share

Moooorrning all.

catstar how worrying for you. glad it's not meningitis and i hope the figure out what's wrong soon {{{{hugs}}}}

spotty, you're not the only one

i have a stinking cold and i think i'm getting mastitis in one side. had a rotton nights sleep as a result and then had the kids jumping on me at an ungodly hour. ended up having to get up at 7.30 (unheard of in this house!) and went in to have a shower as was covered in milk and baby sick. dp refused to be helpful so had to leave aaron grumbling in his cot and keep the en suite door open to watch the other two. aaron started to cry so shitbag gets out of bed to get him and sits on the bed holding him and glaring at m while i get dressed he's up there stagnating til god knows what time this afternoon now

keeping in mind that when it's my lie in he's never once gotton up before 9, usually closer to 10, and i'm supposed to mind the kids til whatever time he decides to shift his lazy arse

Catstar - poor poor you and DS to have gone through that. How scary. Hope he's on the mend soon.

Pempe - Am very of your hot choc and harbour walk later. That sounds like a lovely way to start a Sunday morning. The sunshine just makes everything feel so much better doesn't it.

It's like the arctic in the herb house today. Am fuming so DH has taken DS swimming and I was left with miserable screaming DD (who also has a cold which I think is making her miserable) who thankfully is now in bed asleep. I just am unable to be reasonable right now. I get broken sleep every night and DH goes to bed around 11/11.30 pm (til around 6.30am) after feeding DD late. In the week he goes to work at around 7am every day and gets back around 7.30pm and yes he has a fairly senior role in a big company and that's a hard slog. My day is a 12 hour day looking after two kids and it's a hard slog. I shop, I cook proper food every day for all of us and the washing is up to date. The house is relatively tidy and the domestic stuff up to date(I'm really not looking for a medal here....). I do stuff with DS and don't plonk him in front of the telly all day so it's hard work entertaining him too.

Yesterday morning, I got DS out of bed and he came in with me and DD and when DD went back for a nap I took DS shopping. DH then just had to get her up and feed her around 10ish when she woke. I got back around 11.30. He then went off for an hour and a half for a golf lesson at 1.00....I was really tired yesterday. I cooked dinner last night (he put DS to bed I did DD). This morning, he got DS out of bed at around 6.30am. I brought DD in around 7am. He didnt' then say "you go and have a lie in and I'll take the kids"- he picked up his book whilst sort of talking to DS and proceeded to lie back and read whilst I fed DD. Ds really wanted some attention. I then said (sorry I'm mean but) "no chance of a lie in then?" He said "what do you mean" .....apparently I "didn't wake him up yesterday" ...He did the old "nothing I ever do is quite good enough for you is it ?" routine and stomped off downstairs with DS to have breakfast.

He does do stuff with DS at the weekends - he should, he's his son and we have kids and that's what it's all about (don't get me wrong they love each other and have a great relationship) - but he's not doing me a favour by doing stuff with him - he should do it. I just want him to offer to do stuff and for him to feel that I deserve time off for me rather than me having to beg for it......

God....rant....rant.....rant.....I'm sure some of this is familiar to some of you and I know I'm not alone. DH is a lovely man and really much better than some but he is a definite, if no-one asks, I ain't gonna offer merchant.

I've now calmed down marginally - cup of tea and an episode of Brothers&Sisters...Must go and dry my hair as DH and DS will be home soon and DD will be awake again soon (whingeing no doubt)...DD is nearly 7 weeks old this week - for those of you with one /two DC('s) already - do you remember that 6/7 week ?? I do from last time and that I felt quite fed up.....

PT - we've cross posted.
Fancy a cuppa round mine for a good old whinge ?!!!! we could let the kids run riot !!!!..............I have fantasised about leaving for the weekend and checking myself into a hotel......

oh, that would be bliss.... a weekend of peace and quiet!

it's freezing cold (there was actually snow this morning) and the dc's are insisting on going out to play.... i'm so not in the humour for tramping around outside with them, don't want to bring aaron out in the cold either. [grump]

Herbgarden - I am looking forward to the walk but unfortunately I have to go to dinner at my ILs first....a Sunday ritual. May be a tad tense as I walked out on my MIL yesterday - she bought her grandson upstairs for me to babysit for the afternoon and got funny when I said me and the baby were planning on feeding, then sleeping, so couldn't entertain a manic 7 year old. The cheek of me, eh?

Also, you've worried me about the 6/7 week thing - what happens then to make us fed up??? This is my first baby and he's just coming up to 6 weeks old....

catstar - sending big hugs to you - hope DS is on the mend - how terrifying!

herb rant away.... it'll make you feel much better. My DH thinks he should get a medal if he manages DS on his own for an hour ! He was very put out yesterday when I suggested that he might like to bath DS whilst I made us all dinner.....

excellant... it's snowing so we can't go out [mean mummy]

pempe, it's hard to describe but at around 6 weeks/2 months i always find you get a bit fed up and grumpy. you no longer have a newborn but a baby and you're settled into a routine (not always a good one!) and the tiredness is really catching up on you. people no longer give you the help or sympathy of the early weeks (dp/dh especially) and you can start to feel a bit jaded and isolated.

it passes quickly enough though as once baby starts laughing and hitting milestones you really start to reap the benefits of motherhood.

Thanks everyone for the well wishes! Not a bad night chez Sunshine Ward for us (not a great one tho!!). Sam's temperature still spikes each time the Calpol wears off - doctors have just been in and he definitely has an infection and they are just trying to find out what it is to find the right AB's to treat it. They also think his abdomen is tender and distended so he is having a scan today to see what that's about. Apparently we will be here til Tuesday at least, longer if something needs treating ! Because he's in isolation he can't leave the room, therefore I can only pop out every now and then. Think I will go mad! DH will come today with Little O and stay for a few hours to give me a break and spend some time with O, and we'll have to try to get her into nursery for the next few days `i think.

Just been reading the various DH stories and would have liked to add my own, but DH doing a grand job on his own with O at the moment - he's all worried about Sam too. However, he has had the look of a condemned man over the last couple of weeks and I seem to spend my time pussyfooting around him. Am going to bite my tongue for the time being though...

Do you think it would be awful to ask DH to smuggle a glass of wine into hospital for me to enjoy tonight .

Pempe - am ofy our walk and hot chocolate!! Enjoy!

catstar - smuggle away...I think it just might do the trick.
pempe - at mil....they have very short memories don't they about what it's like. And, sorry didn't mean to worry you re the 6 week mark but PT put it perfectly....6 weeks is half way through the supposed "12 weeks and it'll all get a bit better time" - You almost can't envisage another six weeks of feeling knackered !.....but then you're through the other side and it'll all be a distant blur soon.

Catstar - sounds like you'll need more than one glass...hope docs manage to figure out the infection quickly and sort it out. Babies do get ill quickly but also recover quickly too, so hopefully you'll be back home soonish x

Pempe - good thing to remember is that at 6 weeks babies can smile so all the awful blurry days of crying and no sleep become worthwhile !

On a positive note DD slept for 6 hours solid last night - oh bliss! I ended up waking her up for a feed as I was worried she'd get hungry

catstar hope Sam gets better soon and you get your wine

spotty & herb I know EXACTLY where you are coming from ref (not so) DH's. Mine made the mistake of telling me to F off last night and I will NEVER forgive him for that the miserable bastard!

God - maybe we should have named our thread "attack of the idiot husbands/partners" instead . Sending huge hugs out to Pinktulips, Herbgarden, SMS, Spotty, MoS and anyone else who is royally pissed off with their other halves at the moment (FWIW there was a lesbian couple expecting their first baby on my hypnobirthing course: I cant help wondering if they're going through this pissed off at partner stage too ; somehow I rather doubt it)- and special "I am SO glad its not Meningitis but god, still so scary for you and hope the docs find out what it is soon as sort Sam out so he's right as rain" hugs (with chocolates and a bottle of wine to accompany it) to Catstar. Hope you have a lovely time with O when DH brings her over to the hospital.

Pempe - I actually found 6 weeks the turning point for me coming out of the feeling totally rubbish/blue/ready to murder DH stage and life actually started to settle down and make a bit more sense (suspect its probably because I suddenly became miles more mobile at that stage and got out and met people and did things with DS1 so got to enjoy being a mum at this point rather than feeling like a housebound milk machine) so we're all different and there's no guarantee you'll have a 6 week blip. And good on you for walking out on MIL - I'd have done that too! Hope you enjoy your walk after lunch and its not too frosty over lunch.

DH is back in good books after his pissed idiot impression on Thursday as he came home on Friday evening at 6.30 and presented me with flowers, bathed with both boys, made dinner and didnt once complain about feeling like death due to his cold. Sadly I now acknowledge he actualy has flu (and not just man flu) as he is in a terrible shivery state (he's in bed sleeping now which he NEVER does) so am back to tending to all 3 boys in my life again but as Danny let me sleep last night for 2 good 3.5 hour chunks today I am being all domestic goddess-like Spotty, Herbgarden, MS etc are everyday - and have done DS1's breakfast (tried to let DH have a lie in but he was up at 7.30 anyway), made orange french toast for breakfast, done the laundry, gone to shops to get drugs for DH, played with DS1, tended to DS1 who this morning managed to (i) fall down the stairs (thank god only the last 3 steps but terrifying) and (ii) concuss himself on a door (not entirely sure why he's turned all lemming on me today as he knows how to deal with stairs and doors!), made lunch from scratch AND dealt with Danny throughout (who also has the family cold but is fast asleep and being rocked in a bouncer by my foot as I type - bouncers are brilliant things! Pempe - if you have one, try Harry in them for his day time naps as he'll probably find it easier to sleep being on an incline). Fear not all, this is temporary blip and I will definitely be back to being a domestic slattern by tomorrow.

catstar OMG, just seen your post from ysterday evening. Hope Sam is ok, along with the rest of you, how scary! I'm hoping by the time I get up to date, you'll have posted to say all's well.
I'm shattered too, ds is having trouble adjusting now. Dp doesn't really help when he says stupid things like "I don't know why Jacob has started whinging and crying all the time" He's clearly a bit simple (dp, not ds), I'd think the reason is pretty damn obvious, especially when he's crying at the same time......
dinky about the noise through sleeping, it was just this morning I was asking dp if he'd noticed that Luke is a far better sleeper when he's in the living room to the bedroom, no matter what time of day. He must like being in the middle of all the hustle and bustle! Strange creatures aren't they?
catstar Thank God it wasn't the big M. I've actually just done a big sigh of relief! I'm having massive problems in trying to teach ds how to be around the baby and would be interested in hearing what you're doing and what your hv said. As ds is same age as your dd, no doubt they are behaving in the same manner. I name changed btw, it's llb .
herb and PT glad I'm not alone with the useless OH's. Mine acts like he's some sort of hero if he gets up at any point when he's not working. Why is it when they have a day off work, they think they can have a day off life? When's our day off?
I bought a box of fags so have been in a much better mood . I've also dcided to look for some part time work that will hopefully fit in with dp's work or my dad will be able to sit the boys here. I probably won't do it, but sometimes feel I need that little bit of independence back and am getting fed up of relying on someone else's income. Just coming up to Luke turning 5 weeks, so maybe it's just that period where everything feels a bit arrgghhh like some of you have said. Pempe for me, when ds1 was 4-6 weeks, was the time I fully realised what Id done, the responsibility really hit me and I was scared, also felt like I was slowly losing who I was, I was just a 'new mum' and all anyone wanted to do was talk about the baby. Think the 6 week mark is the turn around point, it's where reality fully hits us, we start to think about what sort of parents we want and aim to be now the babies are here (I'll bet some of us are doing things sooo differently from how we thought we would), but this stage passes quickly, when routines are found and we've worked out how to meet baby's needs and turn on the washing machine, and everything starts settling down properly, it gets better. Or that'w what it was like last time, this time I'm still a bit all over the place most of the time!

I'm all better today! yay. Me and dp are talking again which is nice, we even bought a pack of condoms today! Is it stupid that at 27 and 38 we are both still really embarassed to buy them?
Dp this morning decided we should go to a car boot sale, so I rushed around getting me and the boys ready, we got out at 9:30, drove all the way to where we know ther's one on, and it wasn't, we were met by a big empty field , so drove the long way home while ds1 slept and went to tescos. I wanted to go to the park but it pissed down after lunch so that was out, luckily we bought an ITNG magazine for ds so we all sat around the table and did some colouring and stickers, ds loved it, wouldn't stop laughing He has since cried alot, think he's tired again, but he's just about to ahve dinner, then I'm bathing Luke and then ds1, then cooking a curry for me and dp, then will sit down infront of telly for CSI sunday and go to bed.
Dp just said he'll be relieved when he has to go to work tomorrow, he's found it hard having one cry only for the other one to start the minute the first one has stopped. Welcome to my world!

Look at me, have just re-read my last post and it seems I don't remember what my last talk name was, so catstar, I'm lbb not llb. I'm also a bit of a numpty

Wanted to ask all of you......How often are you getting the newbies weighed? Just out of interest really. I had ds1 weighed weekly for 4 months, then fortnightly until he was about 8 months and then monthly. His graph is packed with little dots and the hv told me that if I hadn't had him weighed so often I'd have been better able to see weight gain. We'd had a convo about my main area of worry being over feeding, and that's the answer I got, so what are you all doing? It's only that we seem to be going through a growth spurt (coming up 5 weeks), dp thinks Luke wants feeding after 2 hours, he's taking between 4 and 5 oz so I think he could wait and he is just uncomfortable due to wind or something, but he is really chewing on his little hand, so it does look like he's hungry, but he does that when he needs to burp to so not really sure what to do....he's fed every 3 hours today but hasn't finished a full bottle so probably isn't getting that much more food.

Also, silly question, should I be giving my ff baby water every day?

LBB - glad you and DP are back on talking terms. I used to get DS1 weighed fortnightly for the first 5 months (and thereafter annually on his birthday ) - the hv has told me to do the same with Danny for the first couple of months at least but doubt will go so requently (maybe once a month) as I can see Danny is feeding well and plumping up (now on chin no.3 ) and dont really feel the need to monitor him so closely.

Sorry, no idea re the answer to the water q - hope one o the other ladies can help.