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jan 09; dream feeds, sod mummy's needs, shes on her knees...the one where it all starts to get better (hopefully)!

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fourlittlefeet · 01/03/2009 10:40

here we are; a bit early, but one more task done. tick

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PatTheHammer · 26/03/2009 15:52

ray I have taken Zach swimming twice, first time at 9 weeks, at the local pool when the do a 'baby and toddler' session. Very quiet and he absolutely loved it. He also loves his bath so take that as an encouraging sign in your DD. I just used a disposable swim nappy under a reusable pair of trunks with built-in nappy from mothercare, just in case.
Took DD at 9 weeks too and she had severe runny poo attack in the changing room just before, so take a spare disposable is my advice!

PatTheHammer · 26/03/2009 15:55

Lenni The one blessing is I'm only 0.7 and my school has no A'level so lessens the workload a bit. Would love to do 0.5 really but DH had a blue-fit when I suggested that!

rrrayray · 26/03/2009 16:25

Pat Esme will be 9 weeks tomorrow. So perfect! Will take several nappies.

Lenni Double nappy? you have lost me? i have bought huggies little swimmers?! do i need (or possibly need) something else? Esme is enjoying the baby massage already. So sure will enjoy the rest of course. Enjoy yours in june. Am booked in for baby yoga in june.

tinkhas2scrummygirls · 26/03/2009 16:35

hi

we r going to centre parcs in june so bracken will be 6 months when she first goes in a pool.
going to take her 2 swimming lesson @ local leisure centre when dd1 starts school in sept she will be 8 months.
dd1 goes to swimming lessons they are great

tinkhas2scrummygirls · 26/03/2009 16:36

rray - when dd1 started her swimming lessons @ 4 months i just used huggies swimmers nappy

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missjackson · 26/03/2009 19:22

dog I don't blame you for being p-ed off at him, that's just rude - maybe he thinks he's not welcome for some reason (sounds like he's def not now!)? Seems a shame to fall out though - is it worth getting DP to talk to him? Are they close?

LenniEd working with/ for OH - that's exactly my fear, work spilling over into our home life. Already we end up talking about business more than I'd like. Ideally I would prefer to do something that gets me completely away, but on a part-time basis, and really well paid (wouldn't everyone?!), and then pay someone else to help OH out because I do find the admin essentially a bit boring - although at least I am doing it for us and not for someone else's business... anyway, for the time being I am happy helping out but I am being careful not to become too helpful ...

rray at baby massage and baby yoga - there is nothing like that around here. Lightbulb moment - maybe I should learn to do it and set up my own sessions?!

Had fun morning at mum & baby group, then went to the farm for lunch and then to my SIL for muffins and tea, and a long afternoon on the sofa feeding LO... 8 week check up and injections tomorrow (we are behind most of you - I think only dog and eppm after us?) so will be interesting to see what he weighs. Was on 75th centile at 4 weeks.

rrrayray · 26/03/2009 19:40

missJ def a good idea- i'm sure there'd be lots of uptaketrs.. that is if your SURE there is nothing near you, might be a bit of a drive, but worth doing i would imagine. you'll find out what Nye measures length wise too! :-)

Dog Poor you - like miss j said, maybe (just maybe- although why we are excusing him i don't know) he doesn't feel welcome. have you actually invited him? As we had a bit of a stupid situation with OH's sister a few months ago. we hadn't been to her new house (shes been there over a year) and was moaning to their mother that we hadn't been. but the simple fact was she hadnt invited us, and i wasnt about to turn up uninvited on her doorstep, as you never know when is convient, etc.

Esme Zonked tonight, actually fell asleep in the bath while her daddy was washing her (we have one of those bath support things) so didnt take much feed post bath... so will be tanking her up at 11pm.

Sleepy Sleepy... off to snooze on Oh's chest while he watches some Football focus crap. Best place in the world to snooze!!!

EachPeachPearMum · 26/03/2009 21:36

dog- families can be a nightmare, sorry. I'm not one to advise, as my parents don't even know I've had ds.... (my choice, I emphasise)

lenni- My dd say 'Fee-a' ... I love the name, and knew I was having a DS, so DD's baby doll is named Thea sorry. DD adores her though

missJ we have 6 week check tomorrow... and immunisations on 6th april

My dd used to do the third person thing, but she has stopped now. I think it was us that encouraged it tbh... by saying 'Mama's this, Mama's that...' oops.

Does anyone else not do a dream feed?

LenniEd · 26/03/2009 22:30

EPPM - nice to know there are a few more Thea's about - even if they are dolls

No dream feeds here. I started doing them with DD but decided I was just swapping one night feed for another in effect and actually would rather get up at 3am than have to feed before I go to bed. I like to relax when I can in the evening as I work for DH until 9pm most nights. As it turns out DS has taken to sleeping 7pm - 6am anyway for the last week. Long may it continue

Yes think we are guilty of cultivating the third person thing. Must stop.

And empathise on families - mine also a nightmare. Won't go into it for sake of boredom but there are a lot of not so stable people about. Dog - rant away.

MissJ - I find the admin boring too. Groups sounds like a good plan for you - I know a few people who have made a decent living out of it, wouldn't say it is well paid though and you'll need childcare of some sort. If you get a few different locations going though you can duplicate your efforts.

elkiedee · 26/03/2009 23:14

Ray, I took ds1 swimming and will take ds2 - but I think I have to wait until he's had 3rd set of jabs here so it will probably be from June. I used a reusable swim nappy (trunks with lining). DS1 really enjoys water whether it's his bath, paddling or a swimming pool, hopefully DS2 will as well.

I'm very happy and relieved today, as hospital were very happy with C's weight gain and general appearance and consultant decided she doesn't need to see us again for a couple of months! So no one's going to demand I give him top ups or anything like that. I'm really quite pleased with myself and with my little milk monster, after weeks of worrying about him.

chefswife · 27/03/2009 00:22

ray DD and i have been swimming twice and she loves it. our rec centre has these foaming boats and you can place infant in 'budda sitting' position and pull them around the pool. there's a fantastic slide, currents in the deeper end and fountains. its fun and if you take someone with you, you can pawn off LO to them for 15 minutes while you scoot off and have a steam/sauna/hot tub. thats what i did last tuesday. DH came with us. there is also a family change room which is very convenient.

DD is only in the 10th percentile, jumping up from 3rd. good grief. she eats well and a good way to tell if baby is just little is by the fat on the shoulder and chubby cheeks, both of which she has. but i have noticed in the last week that she is noticeably growing.

i started going to a baby talk group when DD was 6 weeks and now am doing more with some of the woman i've met there. it has been a blessing. i remember when DH and i first came back to Canada last summer that i wouldn't get to know anyone in the same boat as me but there is certainly no short supply of newbies in my neighbourhood. a married couple friends of ours have just moved back to Victoria from Toronto and their LO was born Jan 1st. what a surprise. we bumped into each other at the grocery store. we'll be seeing them for brunch on sunday.

first signs of spring in my garden came up today; some calendulas. woohoo. gotta get the garden going. my uncle is letting me put in some raised beds to grow veg and put in some flower areas... his property is rocky and very uneven but very interesting.

we bought a baby carrier and can't wait to get hiking with DD. she loves being outside in her sling, looking around, so hopefully she'll love the carrier. its a little different. she is also almost sitting up by herself. she can go for a good 15 seconds before leaning forward in a very slow face plant. she still refuses tummy time, kicks up a fuss with loads of drama. she has this one sort of chatty cry thing which i've dubbed the 'sylvia plath recital', full of melancholy and lonesome looks out the window. very funny. DH and i are forever laughing. she is such a ham.

EachPeachPearMum · 27/03/2009 06:21

chef- she sounds so lovely... it's weird because she is so much older than mine (and dog's).... time goes so quickly when they're so small, doesn't it? The developmental stages come by so quickly...

PatTheHammer · 27/03/2009 08:10

Think I'm stuck with a 2 year-old trying to bunk off playschool this morning. Have told her she'll have to go back to bed if she is truly unwell and she seems to have changed her mind. Didn't think this started until they were at junior school at least!
Elkie -Fantastic news with the weight gain, must be nice to relax a bit more and not worry.
Lenni- How are you getting DS to sleep from 7-6? Zach goes to sleep at about 7 after the bath but then he always seems to have about an hour and wake up at 8 for more food, eventually going down about 8.45 till about 6ish. Could be why he is such a chunkster though .

Third person thing sounds almost as annoying as an imaginary friend, thankfully we have not had that stage but her other adorable annoying habit is counting.....a lot! She frequently counts up to 100, counts everything and can't walk past a number plate or road sign without her pointing out all the letters/numbers. Thought this was just a phase a while ago and was pleased she knew letters and numbers etc, but it has been months now and is driving me potty! DH has taken to calling her 'Rainman' as she certainly seems to have a fixation with it.

Anyone else watch 'pregorexic' thing last night? Certainly made me feel great sitting in my PJ's with a baggy tummy, milky boobs and highlights that havn't been done for 14 weeks. The massive Indian I had just snaffled didn't make me feel any better. Still Louise Redknapp looked great, just after having a baby.......bitch!

missjackson · 27/03/2009 09:35

Lenni and Eppm I am not doing the dream-feed either - I just feed either when he wakes up, or when my boobs can take no more, whichever comes first! Last night it was the boobs at 3am. If I dream-feed around midnight, I invariably find he wakes up at some point in the night anyway.. and my logic is that one day he will just sleep on and on and on and we'll find it's morning!

Pat I didn't watch that show, but it sounds interesting. In fact, I haven't watched any telly properly since LO was born - just can't concentrate, or too sleepy. I find it more relaxing to do something like cook or upload photos !

ray I could drive to Bristol for fun baby classes which is just over an hour away, but it would be nice to meet more people around here - there is a woman who advertises baby massage in Abergavenny so I am going to get in touch and see if she'd do a few sessions for a small group of us.

Lovely and sunny here - off to get him weighed - I am guessing about 12lbs. Will try to get him measured too!

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moosemama · 27/03/2009 11:34

Morning all,

Have only skip read thread as not feeling too great at the moment.

Dog sorry to hear Arlo is poorly, hope he gets better really soon. You have my sympathy with regard to your FIL, families eh - don't get me started! I don't really get on with my inlaws either and tend to busy myself in the kitchen when they come round. I always arrange for them to come when DH is here but they always arrive at least half an hour early which I find not only rude and inconsiderate, but really awkward as its often before DH gets back so I have to entertain them on my own. The other thing they have started doing is giving the kids several pounds each every time they see them. The boys have to earn their 50p pocket money via a reward chart and this really messes things up for us - they never ask us either and despite DH's pathetic attempt at stopping them they still do it, so the boys now say great Nanny and Grandad are coming we'll get some more money! Its blatant buying of affection in my book.

Anyhoo enough ranting. There's much more - I could go on for hours - but I wont!

I've got the weird stinging skin thing back. Its everywhere, even through my hair and feels like I've been burned or stung all over. There's no red rash but there are sort of pimples under the skin at the places where its the most sore (sides of knees, backs of forearms and outsides of calves). I've also got three mouth ulcers and have had several nose bleeds which seem to have left me with incredibly sore nostrils. On top of that I have really sore stiff fingers and feet. My feet are so bad when I get up in the morning that I struggle to walk and get downstairs and only ease after about an hour of moving about. (I had the foot and hand thing when breastfeeding the other two as well, GP said it was hormonal and would only stop if I stopped feeding, which it did.) Its all very weird, but am thinking could all be related to hormones and being run down.

Who was it that was asking about a cure for cradle cap? I asked my hairdresser, who is also a good family friend and she recommended making up a runny paste of bicarbonate of soda and using it to gently exfoliate in the bath, making sure to rinse thoroughly. I was a bit unsure, but gave it a a go anyway and it was amazing. It got rid of almost all the cradle cap in one go and completely after the second go. I did adapt her instructions slightly and exfoliate with the bicarb, rinse, dry and then apply weleda calendula oil, then gently brush out the flakes using a soft baby brush. She has a lovely soft flake free scalp now.

I am getting really frustrated trying to find clothes to fit DD. She has hundreds of clothes but seems to be completely between sizes, her newborn and up to 1 month stuff is slightly too small and the 0-3 stuff just hangs off her! Its such a shame, she is literally living in white sleepsuits at the moment!

She is on the 25th centile for head, length and weight, so as the health visitor said is perfectly proportioned, but it would seem that doesn't help with finding clothes to fit.

Chef my DS1 is on the 9th centile and has been since birth (he was on the 2nd prior to birth). He is also perfectly proportioned though, so that you don't notice how dinky he is until he stands next to the other kids from his year at school. He has chosen to be best friends with the tallest boy in the year and he only comes up to his chest! He's really gonna get it if he keeps teasing his little brother though, cos DS2's on the 50th centile and rapidly over-taking his big brother at the same time as starting to stand up for himself! Interestingly, despite being the smallest boy in the year, he is the one that gets the girls! I've lost count of the number of girls who have announced they are going to marry him and he is forever on the receiving end of batting eyelashes and doe eyes - mind you he is gorgeous! They are all going to be disappointed though as having grown out of wanting to marry Mummy he has already chosen his bride and she is the most beautiful and sweet little girl - don't think much of his potential MIL though!

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PatTheHammer · 27/03/2009 13:07

moose- had to chuckle at your post, it all sounds so familiar. Don't want to slate my MIL and step-FIL cos they are great and have stepped into the breach many a time in emergencies. but in our case its not money its the amount of goddam sweets and chocolate they give to DD, with no good reason! DH and I are partial to the sweet stuff but we see it as a treat whereas in their house its like a natural conclusion to a meal, plus acceptable to eat it with EVERY cup of tea. I found out the other day that she has a special jar stocked with all kinds of crap there, which she only has to ask for and they give her something, I went bonkers
I think any relationship with in-laws is a bit weird, even if you do get on with them. My MIL loves to be involved but sometimes I feel she doesn't always give my parents (who live 3 hours away) a look in. She regularly would invite herself round when she knew my parents were staying, we've stopped telling her now!
So Dog I have no real advice for you on the FIL situation other than it's hard to understand other peoples attitude to family. Weird that he keeps moaning about not seeing the kids though, Is he attention-seeking for an effect? Probably best just to ignore him for a while in that case. Thats what we did with DH's real Dad and Step-mum when they didn't see DD for 3 months recently. Didn't make an issue out of it cos we knew thats what they wanted. Some people are SO strange

moosemama · 27/03/2009 13:50

Just a quickie to mention that Mamas and Papas have a four day sale on at the moment. Some nice clothes on sale on their website.

tinkhas2scrummygirls · 27/03/2009 14:09

hi

dogm - grrr @ ohs dad, hope that arlo gets better soon

elk - great news

mm - poor u

EachPeachPearMum · 27/03/2009 15:28

dog- hope ds is well soon poor lamb.

moose stingy skin thing sounds horrible- hope it goes quickly.

I am lucky- my MIL is an absolute gem, and has been wonderful these last few months.

rrrayray · 27/03/2009 21:10

just whizzing in to say hi been at bluewater today. everywhere, including baby gap seems to have sales on.

xx