August 2008: Six Month Milestones and More

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TS Please film the final TaDah and post on FB. I am feeling quite angsty with no bathroom and no water right now. Even chips for lunch hasn't eased my troubled mind.

PF Is it you that has rellies in Winchester?

Buckets No - I think maybe Winchester is half way between us???? Have friends in So'ton and Bournemouth but no actual rellies that way

VG btw (have just emailed you) forgot to say my sister said the other day how much she enjoyed the Persephone books I got her -so that's 10 points to you then!

Paid breastfeeding it is. I have a truly truly lovely and wonderful manager. I just spoke to her about needing to feed O, and she said "of course, you take all the time you need to do this" How fab is that!?! So, I plan to pop to nursery to feed him about 1.30 every day. I am giddy with excitement and relief .

Dare I say that I am actually enjoying being back at work?

CC that's ace news about your paid breastfeeding We're going to see a nursery tomorrow that is practically next door to my work, so if we like it and Joe ends up there I could be doing the same.

pf thanks for asking after me, that's very kind (like you don't have enough on your mind already). I do feel much better today despite a totally crap night's sleep, feel much happier about things with DP as well. It's not so much that we've been arguing or that he's been winding me up, just that it sometimes feels like all the love in our relationship is currently being directed at the baby and we treat each other rather like work colleagues - you know, pleasant but brisk. It's hard to make time for kindness and silliness between us and I suppose I just miss that.

Think now is just a v busy time for us. God knows how I would cope with three!

cyteen All that is (both the feelings about it and the actuality of it) is perfectly normal - and gets harder each time you have another baby! You need to allow for the fact that your relationship needs time to adjust. Plus I'd say getting through the first year is the hardest - and then most of us feck that up by having another one (or two in my case)

I am still working on making time for me and dh. If you can't get out for a night I would recommend making him sit down with you and a film and a takeaway once a week. I would love to do this with dh but it is hard to find the time atm The little things like running each other a bath, fetching each other a glass of wine start to count for a lot.

i too am dealing with a sudden dip into depression caused by total lack of sleep and constant worry over both girls and dh and the house and the budget and, oh my this list could go on and on. i feel a little bad for whiney because it's nothing like pertelote or no1 or s&m. i guess i'm just trying to be honest. i get sparks of positiveness like my yoga class and deferring the ils to a later date but the just tiny sparks. i really just need a few days of quality sleep. that would help my mood, my patience, my head. i just don't see it happening any time soon. add to all that af should appear any day now.

if anyone needs me i'll be curled up in the far corner of this round tent, rocking.

Aw hugs to you TS {{{{{{{{ts}}}}}}}, in fact, hugs for everyone {{{{{{{{aug 08 ladies}}}}}}}. I have no wise words of wisdom, but I do have plenty of hugs .

A friend just posted her status on FB as: "is mad that the epidural isn't working. mad really really is an understatement." Guess what happening with her!!!

TS Hugs - and the 5 year old seems so much more naughty when you feel like this, no?

FIL here fixing the shower room so will see you all anon

Thanks Captain. I just need sleep.

PF crossed with you. Yes Yes you are so right. She & I are too close and I'm too tired. Perspective...a different one....is what I need.

TS well done for finding a corner in our round tent!!

Cyteen Ditto what PF says. It's one of the many things you have to juggle and nobody ever tells you / writes about / makes films about just how hard it is. We all start out with the myth that true love should be effortless and breathless and there's nothing like a baby to shatter that illusion is there? DH & I are v lucky that all our kids are such good sleepers which gives us plenty of me/us time but I we work our socks off to keep talking about our feelings (in a not too DrPhil way) and the blessings (for want of a better word) each of us brings.

TS Definitely sounds like the hormones may be a factor today. Which reminds me I still haven't got myself the homoeopathic pills we were all talking about last month. LOL at your friend, if she can still type she don't know what labour pain is!

Wow Sazzles that does sound like quite a difference! Well done on the housework - you have really earned your holiday.

Hugs to TS, PF, Cyteen and anyone else who needs them. Don't ever hesitate to moan on this thread on my account - I'm sure the others with medical concerns would say the same - we too are struggling with sleep, weaning, relationships etc and it is the all-round normality, good sense and everyday support on the thread that make it such a supportive place when more unusual troubles come along.

Brilliant news on the BF, CC! What great colleagues, but like they say, that's the sort of support that everyone ought to have!

sazz I will pretend I know what you are talking about

As if I don't have enough to do....ds' class have to dress up on Friday to celebrate world book week. His class theme is Cinderella. WTF am I supposed to dress him up as?

Sorry there's so much gloom around. Hope tomorrow brings a better day (after a good sleep!)

So glad all going well for you CC.

V. impressed by your cleaning stamina and swimming stamina sazzles!

DH in London for the rest of the week and currently sitting in a pub with my best friend. . Oh well, I've just made aubergine parmagiana. Yum.

Met with my boss today to discuss returning to work. She agreed to new hours with no problems (said she'd agree to anything rather than have me resign ) and we agreed on a new job which seems to be the best bits of my old job and some interesting new stuff. . Doesn't sort out the fact that it's not what I really want to do with my life, but until I work that out I can't really complain.

Thanks sazzles. Due back 16th June, but going back a week earlier than that so that I can then have a week off at the start of July for ILs 40th wedding anniversary shindig in France. Still far enough away not to dread it (in a sort of 'this is it for the next 30 years sort of way' a la ataraxis and CC) but pleased to know that it's round the corner, all sorted out. When do you go back?

Seriously scary thought. Really really have to work out what I want to do with my life....