August 2008: Six Month Milestones and More

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who got a bin?

VG does! That girl has got expensive tastes!

Dh has been with the boys this afternoon whilst I escaped to play hockey - and we won 2-0 . I am also going out tonight with my friend (her ds is 6 weeks older than O) and am sooooo looking forwards to a night off .

Dh was proudly boasting that O 'just falls asleep on him' with no effort. I suggested that he do the night time wake ups then, to save me having to feed him. His face was like this . I really do think I will just have to go cold turkey at night times, like I did with ds1, and just refuse to feed him until he gets the message that it's pointless waking up.

yeah ann! yeah captain!

vg that's a bin alright...frees you of trash and coin.

babysitter never replied so the whole family went shopping this morning. dd1 had an itty bitty hard time keeping her nice girl image in line. overall it was a good trip. dh now has shorts that fit his middle. dd1 has a pair of flip flops and a matching dress with her sister. i have a bathing suit skirt.

one suitcase is almost full. still going through laundry though. trying to keep things to a minimum. i seem to always set that goal & fail.

Hello all,

Things going much better with Tom and my MIL these last couple of days. I suggested that if he cried it was usually because he wanted to be picked up, and she said that it was fine with her, but she hadn't wanted to spoil him. She and my FIL also fed him a whole pureed apple for his lunch which suprised me slightly but he apparently enjoyed.

Buckets, thanks for the "let him play with an empty spoon so that he thinks that he is doing it himself" suggestion for while feeding him puree. Purees here, and still only of a few fruit and veg, mostly because this is what the paediatrician suggested and I don't really mind enough to make a fuss.

Sleep still an issue, but wake ups only at 12, 2, 6 (I think, but wouldn't be certain) at which point I brought him in to bed with us. This is a good strategy as either he will go back to sleep or if he is wide awake this usually wakes DH up too and then they sometimes get up together to make breakfast. 6 also better than 5! Thoughts for all those with lack of sleep going on.

Is anyone else feeling really engorged? Will this be related to the weaning?

Hi TS!

no, i'm not feeling engorged and it worries me. Even when i don't feed overnight (cos dh settles him not him sleeping - ha) i'm not overful. I worry my supply is going wrong . Also at night when he feeds he seems to take AGES to get the letdown and the milk flowing and i feel him getitng frustrated as he tugs and jiggles. Bit worried.... A month and a half ago I was leaking everywhere if I didn't feed overnight.

I don't know much about it ALBS but do ask an expert if you're worried... I'm sure it's fine, but it's always worth setting your mind at rest, especially when you're so tired, everything seems like a big problem...

Wishing everyone a better night tonight. We managed to get some fresh air today which feels good! And DD has fallen into quite a routine these days - while I'm not dragging her round somewhere different at a different time every day . Fairly regular feeds, food at mealtimes, naps short but regular. The nights are another matter of course...

Evening. Took DS1 to his first proper birthday party today, loads of kids but he and the birthday girl played ticklechase a bit which was lovely for me to see. He told me they were 'very good friends' and that he'd had 'really extremely good fun'. DD still poorly, her temp went up again tonight to 39.8 so have given Nurofen this time. She managed to eat a McDonalds Happy Meal for lunch apparently though so not too bad eh?

Hey Albs, how long since you started the ADs? Spongey brain could well be a side effect in which case you will definitely feel better soon.

VG Matalan do cheap sports bras - I have one still in its box since pre-pregnancy. BTW what else have you got in your dressing up box?

CC Does he actually wake up crying each time? You could try sticking to a 4hrly feed rule at night and let DH tackle him in between. As long as he knows not to take him downstairs, put all the lights on and watch a loud wrestling match on tv...

You'll be pleased to know I didn't have a perfect night's sleep either. I woke up in the spare bed this morning so I guess I must have been up with Kurt for a while - but I honestly can't remember so must have done it all in a dreamstate! I do remember dreaming that I had aided and abetted a friend's DH in the dumbest murder plot ever and because I couldn't imagine how it had all started I couldn't decide whether to stick to his dumbass see-thru story or dump him in it to save myself. Was just bordering on a nightmare.

Still got a bath in my front garden - what a chav!

VG earliest appt I could get was for Monday so will be getting it seen to then - hasn't been too bad today which is good as last night wasn't pleasant at all. Very impressed with your treatmill efforts - am just not built for it myself

Ireland trip almost sorted, we've narrowed it down to two places, my friend is meant to be phoning them to see if they've got any cottages left but everytime I ask she's busy at work - if not done on Monday I'll be doing it myself

where is No1 these days?

ALBS I used to be on citalopram and found it helped me, hope yours are beginning to make a difference I'm not an expert BUT I think the stage we're at we shouldn't really feel engorged, we should be making on demand as we're more efficient I could be making that up though so please ask someone who knows better

pertelote glad you got some fresh air, we took the kids to a lovely cafe in St Andrews today and it was a bit of a mixed bag but nice to get out. Its now chucking it down up here, I love the sound of heavy rain in the velux but poor DH has to go to nightshift - maybe the rain will keep all the loonies inside

buckets party sounds great, how sweet of your DS to have a girlfriend but am afraid shall have to report you to the authorities for murder and the neighbourhood cluttering

I suddenly realised today that I had an ulterior motive in wanting a 3rd child - think I could already see that DS1 might have problems making friends as he got older and that another sibling might take the pressure off him when he starts to notice. I think I could also see from his behaviour that the house might not be as busy and noisy as I'd always dreamed of. Feeling a bit guilty and confused, did I only want Kurt as a seeing eye dog or an organ donor? I was broody before I made the leap to get an autism referral but looking back (and comparing him with Kurt even at 7m) I always knew there was something wrong with him. I don't know, why does anyone want another baby? Maybe the noise/busy-ness thing is just about having 3 kids as I am youngest of 3 and that's my sensory concept of family life. Rambling now.

buckets, my reasoning for wanting a big family stems from the same desire. I want all my kids to have best friends in their siblings and to have a full house and thats without any of the worry you have

its a very natural thing and the reason my brother and his wife are having another child 7yrs after their first

I'm the youngest of 2 (in my adoptive family - no idea biologically) and I want 4

oops just seen your message to No1 on FB, whats with the hospital ref? what have I missed?

oh FFS serves me right for skimming over the weekend - very with myself now

poor No1 - does anyone have her mobile to text?

Buckets - I can hear what you are saying about the choices you have made.

It would be impossible I think, if I was Kurt's mum, not to find myself thinking back over DS1's progress each time that his younger brother made a step forward. And that there would be a kind of grieving in a way for all the things DS has not yet done, or has done differently, or later because he has a different relationship to the world and the people around him.

Grieving is the wrong word there-- I suppose I'm talking about moments when you take on board and recognise the impact of things where that might not have been obvious at the time ...

I'm one of four, and I always wanted at least three because of the bustle and the noise and the give and take of the household. DD1 held DD2's hand today in the car on the way home from swimming, and did it just because she wanted to. DD2's existence gives her chances to be loving and caring and connected to people but that isn't DD2's only role.

Kurt can be both a great helper to DS2, his (second-best) advocate throughout their lives, someone who draws him out into other kinds of ways of being. And he can be, at the same time, your much-loved and wanted-for-himself third child.

DS1 has benefitted hugely here from having a small siste who is infinitely more cheerful, sociable and giddy than him. It's given him the confidence to be more sociable and to reach out to people more confidently. I know that my younger sisters did that for me, and we kind of make up for, and make use of, each others' differences as we go on ...

After you wrote about the two boys a few weeks ago, I came across the Robert Frost poem about looking at two paths, and taking the road less-travelled and it reminded me of what you had been sayinghere

I'm having a major dilemma at the minute because DS's friend desperately needs a referral for ASD and neither his parents nor his teachers are registering the extent of his distress. I can't figure out how to give this child his best chance at finding his own feet, and when I was talking about it with DH I was telling him about how bloody impressive you are, and how this little boy needs someone like you in his corner ...

VG I shall be coming to your house to check out your bins and report back to the girls!!

sibh I love seeing mine holding hands and looking after each other too

I really wish I was as eloquent as you and VG am afraid I'm more an argey bargey and fill the gap with inane banter kinda gal

VG, never any need for apologies on this thread

well thats certainly how I feel, not sure about the rest!!

i decided to have a second child so the first wouldn't be overwhelmed caring for two old farts in the years to come.

and i just wanted another.

vg, i don't think i heard you.

hi longway. i will be a bit closer to you next week. actually my dad is real close to you. he's in peru this week. that traveled to machu picchu yesterday.

dh cooked an early dinner and he cleaned up the mess afterwards. he can be very lovely when he wants to be.

reese is napping so i am back to packing, again. one day it will be done. sazzles i'm very impressed with you tiny bags.

VG shouting about bins on a Saturday night?
What is the thread coming to?

Will someone watch Dracula on DVD for me. I'm too scared.

sibh closest I'm getting to count Dracula on a night when DH is away is Count Dracula from Sesame Street, sorry