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When did Cruz and Mateo arrive in relation to due date?

CM you only need one hand to bake a cake

AM called for a chat today she is coming to see me next week

SKY my lovely so sorry i missed your post, how are you about it now? Did i thank you for the gorgeous jumper you sent for Indie? It is so sweet, thank you.

She needs feeding in an hour, you boobies still work right?

Am - hope Ella is getting better - we used calamine cream on C when he had them last year - said it was tickly cream and he just laughed when we put it on.

Did you ring your Mum LG&T?

TYG what a numpty.

Well L slept in till 7 yesterday morning and only woke once in the night so that was a fab lie in for me. The boys got me some much nedded new make-up including something called erase paste a magic gloop for removing the gigantic bags under my eyes.

Went to see my parents yesterday which was rather tiring. They are in so much trouble right now but Dad doesnt even mention it and mum is busy looking at rental properties. Talk about head in sand.

LG&T did you call your mum in the end?

Elkie hows it going with the feeding, are you able to not get C weighed for a bit and just see if he settles down into his own weight curve. Archie was born on the 75th and went down the the 25th then has stayed there. Eats like a horse bit is just a skinny minny.

Mrs JB how was the dancing?

MrsJM how was the mojitos.

Sky had a nosey at the pohotos on FB your outfits looked fab!

Pro Plus rocks.

DH stormed off to see his mother. Two hundred miles away. I beg of you! The best part is that instead of getting tea and sympathy, she gave him an earful and said he was horrible. Plus he had to get up at 3am this morning to bring the car back and go to work. Ha. Stupid arse. I find it too hard to stay really cross so I let him apologise. Am currently looking through the travel supplements from yesterdays papers (and on sunshine.co.uk obviously) and deciding where I might like to go for the "me time" break in the summer he promised me ages ago. Need to find somewhere that won't sting me for travelling alone.

TYG if you find anything on sunshine that takes your fancy, let me know the details and i will see what we can do

Thanks Jam. I didn't take a camera but two of the others did so there are lots more pictures to come yet.

I have so much more to tell aswell. Really had my eyes opened this weekend. Haven't really got time to go into it but didn't get much sleep on Saturday night thanks to Mancunians (read Liam Gallagher types) recking their rooms and we think having a prostitute in!! Before we went out one of them was chanting "I am getting shot in the morning". When we got in at 2.30 ish the landlady told us various things that had been happening. I joked with her and said I hoped he wasn't getting shot over breakfast and she said no he wouldn't be as he was already in the cells! Me thinks stag and hen b&bs will be off for us in future!

Pro Plus does rock TYG but not for 12 year old girls to use at school discos . Thats was I meant by inappropriate use.

I found two on my stairs that one of DDs friends had dropped after the last school disco - I was not best pleased! I had not even heard of them until then - sheltered life that I lead

I cant tell you how I long for a week on my own

Men are such Mothers boys sometimes-its laughable really..Im glad his Mum told him off though..well done on the running thougb love.My word you must be as skinny as a rake now!

at the pro plus Sky..but then you have to experience these things so you can speak knowlegably about them to your DC's..

re your parents Jam.I often think that if we had to start again it would be dreadful but in many ways when you are older even worse as all the hard graft should be behind you by then.

I still feel rubbish.I wonder should I phone in sick to work.I only have one only slightly important meeting this afternoon.But I also will have 300 emails and a disciplinary investigation to start when I get in and I just dont have the wherwithall for it.Of course some of it is that I love being at home with the girls and I dont want to leave them again.Im always like this after a week off
I will have a Lemsip and try and man up a bit.

DH is in total panic now because his results come on Thurs..I have learned it is prob best not to speak to him just prior to his results.Keep everything crossed ladies will you..he will be unliveable with if he has failed at this very last hurdle..

Call in sick Scoot

Blimey - does that mean I have to go a try other "stuff" just so I can give her a lecture on it . Tbh I am surprised I wasn't offered anything on Saturday night (and that would have been before we left the b&b - told you it was ing!!)

Fingers crossed for your DH xxx

If I dont go today I will still have to go tomorrow though.

TYG, I'm glad to hear your MIL told your DH off.

Scoot, it sounds like you should call in sick but I appreciate the problem of having to go in tomorrow, the work still being there etc, and I hope you feel better soon. Fingers crossed for DH's results.

Jam, I wish I could just avoid getting ds weighed for a while as I do think he's ok, he's certainly feeding plenty. I was a bit concerned that he was constipated before when we were still giving him top ups, then glad to see him pooing more regularly but worried that it was all rather green. I'm pleased to see it now coming out yellowy-brown on nearly all of his latest nappies! (the things that become a preoccupation with a newborn, eh?).

I didnt call. She left a message this morning all breezy like. Dunno if i will call back.

TYG i am gobsmacked at your dh. However how fabulous that his mother told him off

SKY so glad you had fun at the weekend

Mrsjb well done on the dancing.

Scoot don't go, stay in. Another day resting will mean you feel better faster, more productive in the long run.

AM hope Ella is over the worst now, feet up for you lady.

Elkie glad the boy is ok.

Jam is the paste good, i reaaly need something like that.

Sorry for quick post, girl feeding endlessly...

Ella is much better thank you. She is all scabby (in the best possible way) and will be back at nursery tomorrow. Good job really as i have Jack's school appeal in the morning. Have managed to get them in all day rather than the morning which will mean that i have the afternoon to start my project that should have been in today. Gutted that i cant say tata to the people on the course but hey ho.

Went to Reading this morning for what was supposed to be a quick visit but ended up there for 4hours. I got some curtain poles for the spare rooms, curtains for the back bedroom, some birthday bits for Jack and nothing for me. Wanted to get to more shops but i kept getting dull aches/cramps in the bottom of my belly - i guess it was the baby telling me to go and sit down..... i dont remember having them with J&E. Could it be BH's already? Anyway i decided to listen to my body and headed home.

Ella has been in pants since Friday and has only had a hand full of accidents which is great - of which 3 were poo - yuk. She/I went backwards after xmas on the potty training front as she didnt seem interested and i didnt want to force it on her. I still think she is too little, but then i guess by the time J was her age Ella made her appearance. Going to send her in in pants tomorrow and see how that goes. She is very pleased with herself and takes herself off to the potty and even wipes

Sky looks/sounds like you had a great time at the weekend.

Scoot, fingers crossed for your dh.

LG&T, did you call your mum back? How is the feeding machine?

MrsJB we are due a phone call i think let me know when you are free x

Woo Hoo, my tutor has just emailed me to say that i passed my HR Planning Assignment - it took me 3 hours and i did it the morning it was due in..... i know a bot more effort would have got me a better mark but i dont care, i passed. That means that i have passed all 4 module assignments Lets hope i can keep it up for the main assignment...

Well done you clever thing you. I'll call soon, when are you going away?

Dancing was fab thanks Jam, I love it! Hope your parents are able to sort things out a little, such a difficult situation to get into.

Sky, your weekend sounded fun! Slight chukkle at the pro plus and the b&b antics, takes a bit to shock me though.

lg&t, did you call your Mum back? nice of her to call No? trying or grovelling? How is the brood?

TMAM, thank you so much for the message on FB, it meant alot, she had her scan today we'll know in a week or so.

TYG, I can't believe what DH did to you on Mothers day, good for MIL giving him some stick, it was quite disgusting behaviour. You are very accepting alowing him to apologise so soon. I'd have milked that one for weeks! Your running is amazing! I'm still far liking my bike better than my feet tbh, have upped my game, doing about 17km in 40 minutes now everyday except one rest day. Plus my 2 aerobics classes and 6 hrs dancing. I lost 4.5lb this week so it's worth it all. You must be super skinny by now?

Scoot, everything crossed for dh, he has worked hard and you have taken some grief over this qualification so I hope it's all worth it.

My Gran is 90 today!!!!!! 90! I wished her a Happy Birthday an the phone and told her she was officially old now. lol She likes a bit of a joke so took it well.

Dh has a specialist appointment in the morning, he has a very nasty looking mole! he has been hiding it, ffs, what is the matter with men? I noticed him itching it last week and said, jesus, how long as that been like that?, Oh a while he replied. He was up the dr's that eening by order of me. God, I hope it's nothing serious, I'm not sure I can cope with more.

Hey very well done April Now we just wait for Scoot's dh to excel as well.

I hope you are not overdoing things April

So, LG&T I'm dying to know if you called Mum back, sounds like she knows she has seriously upset you.

TYG I managed 13k on Sunday and I'm just back from 7k, but it is 27 degrees out there and its killing me. Sounds like you should be in the intermediates, you are no beginner that's for sure! I honestly am quite shocked that your dh went all the way to his mums! Tell him to Man Up. Though I did snigger to think she sent him packing with a flea in his ear.

Sky, wow, it looked wild Good on dp as well for coping on his own.

MrsJB, just keep on dancing. Happy Birthday Granny. My FIL is 90 next year!!

We are on the last week of term and it is hectic, the usual swimming gala/concert/choir/easter service/party nonsense. To top it all it is MEGA hot, yesterday's swimming gala recorded 45 degrees in mid afternoon in full sunshine . We are all coated in a fine layer of red dust and are waiting desperately for the rains to come, they should have started a couple of weeks ago but as yet there is no sign of a cloud in the sky. The house is cracking, seriously, there are huge cracks appearing in the walls! More depressingly is that it signifies the start of a drought and millions are already facing massive food shortages. The Red Cross and the biggest radion station here, have started a huge campaign, in the country, to raise about 200,000 pounds and ask for food donations to put on a train which will travel the country delivering food to the needy. It's very sad especially in a country like Kenya which is relatively developed.

Hello! Hope you're all ok!

I will catch up when I have more time, C's been really ill and my third assignment is due in in 3 days and I haven't even looked at it yet!

I am majorly pissed off because I just got my second essay back, I passed with 52% but my tutor has completely torn my essay to shreds. I wouldn't mind, but I like constructive critism and she has just totally focussed on everything that I've done wrong - I react badly to heavily negative feedabck and I loose all my confidence. She hasn't told me a single thing that I did right, how am I supposed to get a better mark if she's just thrashed lines all over my work telling me 'don't do this!' I want to get better and do well on my assignments but I know from experience that if a tutor does this I loose my confidence and can't find the energy to do better.

It's worse because I thought I'd not done too badly on this assignment and I truly believe she's been overly harsh considering it was my first assignment for the course, she has seriously not given me a single piece of positive feedback. How are students supposed to pick up and do better if you just drown them with negative feedback? I honestly feel like crying, and the last thing I want to do is my next essay, confidence in it has all gone!

I knew the first time she emailed me that she was going to be this type of tutor, my other tutor is much more 'up my street' and told me what I had done right, where I had gone wrong and how to fix it. But this one has just torn my essay up for arse paper without telling me how to fix it.

I may email her and ask her to, in future give me at least one piece of positive feedback so that I don't feel totally useless, what do you think?

Hope you're all ok.

I think you should e-mail her catcha, afterall a good tutor will be able to adapt to each of her students ways of learning.
I am like you when it comes to learning but having also been a teacher I know how important it is to be able to adapt your teaching methods to suit each student.

Hope C is better now.

TMAM, sounds like things are getting serious there, hope you get some rain soon.

dh's mole on his leg was a wart.... apparently! It has been there 10 years plus and suddenly changed and now it is a wart that the specialist has burnt off. He did however also do a full check and is concerned about another mole dh has on the inside of his foot. Dh has to see another specialist at another hospital now to have a closer look at it. We will ask him to look at this wart/mole on his leg too for a second opinion.

Thanks MMJB, I did email her about it.

My dad just popped round with a packet of chocolate buscuits and a bunch of pink tulips from him and my mum to cheer me up. Gotta love em!

Glad to hear the mole wasn't really a mole, hope the one on his foot is ok.

Right, back to work. Catch up on here tomorrow hopefully!

My page is all screwed up, anyone else?

I am worn out, the girl has been up in the night for hours. She is a bit off atm but tbh it is probably me.

I spoke to my mum yesterday. I was predictable really. She didnt know all Dad had said but a good deal of it. She said she could get him to apologise but i know it is not worth it,he wont mean it. I am sick of the fake excuses.

I tink we have reached an impass. He wont change and i amnot about to let this slide and just put it down to 'it's how he is'. I have said i will not be staying there again. My mum is welcome to come and stay with me. She will if dh is away.

I think they are tying in all this with dh tbh. I explained all the reasons behind it again and said i expect more from them in terms of emotional support. I was not prepared to accept the 'it's all for the children' line anymore. I am their daughter, i will look out for the well being of my children.

I also pointed out that i was sick to death of people raving about the joys of their children/grandchildren (in respect to ex and my parents) but actually putting in nothing to the well being of them. I hold it all together through everything and they enjoy them for a few days. It is not fair. The rest of the time they only add to the stress of daily life for me and them.

Anyway she said she loved me and couldnt bear the thought of not seeing me. She really wants me to stay and has asked if their is some kind of compromise we can reach. There is not. I am not staying there with Dad, i am not brushing it under the carpet. He has hurt me deeply.

Likewise with my sister. There are no excuses for her behaviour, she is a grown woman who can make her own decisions. I am so upset that she may never see Indie or Beau but have to accept she does not really want to. She has made no effort.

Thne wedding plans sound like they are not going to plan. All the grandparents are not going. My Mum is very upset that i will not be goingand the children. I think she realises people will be asking her why i am not there and she is going to have to say "because dd invited dd1's ex and partner" It is not going to look good it it.

On aplus the counsellor came and spoke to the twins, she was lovely and i feel hugely reassured that she will be able to help them through this.

Aplos for being useless at catching up with everyone and for being a bi me,me

My page was screwed last night, everything on the right. Tis OK now.

Lg&t, I'm so sorry, it's all really crap for you. I'm pleased you have spoken to your Mum. I know how you feel with your Dad, you have every right to be hurt. Mine as you know is unbearable for me to live with, most of the time now we ignore each other or speak through the children. Your parents and your sisters behaviour has been terrible towards you, they should be ashamed. You are an amazing woman, who fights and tackles everything full steam ahead, I wish I was more like you. I know you don't do hugs! Is N home at the moment?

Ta MRSJB,much appreciated DH home atm thank goodness.

Did you and your Dad have a big fight or just drift? How does your mum handle it?

I weighed myself... MISTAKE! Am 12.6 ffs. 2 stone to lose before i am back to pre Indie weight and 2 and a half before i am at pre Beau. Arg.

LG&T, how sad that it has all come to that. Thank goodness your mum said she loved you, and that she asked if there is a compromise. Maybe it is something you can think about over time and work out a way to reconcile both sides of your family, i just feel it is all so sad. Did she understand why you were so angry with your sister? What has it got to do with dh?? Do you think it has a lot to do with you being quite far from them as well so they don't really see or understand what your daily life is like? Would it be possible for her to come for an extended stay and be more part of the family for a while?

It's not what you need right now, really is it?

Catcha did the tutor reply to your email? Good for you for sending her one, I think sometimes students are too scared or worried to stand up to tutors and noone can benefit from a constant barrage of negative criticism. Did you ask her to provide an outline of what a 'pefect' essay should have included so you can use that in future assignments/exams? Also it might give you more of an idea of her 'style'. Is C a little better this week?

J has officially turned into a terrible two. We have had the worst tantrums possible in the last couple of days, one extremely public one, at which I managed to remain as cool as a cucumber about, but god he is heavy especially when he kicks off. I am putting it down to him being slightly off colour due to his molars coming in And he did perk up a bit when I had adminstered a hefty dose of Calpol and took him on a little outing with me. Jam does Archie still squeal? We now have it at a mega volume.

I could have written that post about Jorja, I was going to say replace your J with a.....then realised mine was a J anyway, So the post can stay the same, I'l sure it is teeth, J keeps putting her finger in her mouth saying, Owwww hurt, mouth hurt. Oh the tantrums too! My child putting cupboard is nearly worn out.

lg&t, Dad and I have a love hate relationship, he is my Father and I do actually Love him, BUT he is a very unreasonable, rude, arrogant and sometimes a very mean man. He is also very childish and regualy throws his toys out of the pram for little or nothing. It is because of this I choose to ignore him as I figure that if I don't take any notice of him then he can't GET to me. Even the kids will say, Oh Grandad is grummpy again on various occassions. We did have a big bust up a while ago for which I have not forgiven him, When we moved here together, we bought this property together only OUR money went into it in different ways and not onto the papers as legal and heriditory laws proved it difficult to do it anyother way. I vowed that if he every played the MY HOUSE card, we would be out and he and Mum knew this. He played the it's MY house card during an argument about MY hoover....ffs! I did post about it, I was so hurt, I did actually pack us up, whilst sobbing, Mum was beside herself, wouldn't let me put the bags in the car, got in the car and refused to get out, so I drove off with her leaving the suit cases in the middle of the lounge for Dad to see. When Mum finally talked me into going back a few hours later, Dad made some gentle remark about not being silly and that it wasn't meant like that but never said the word SORRY. I didn't utter a single word to him for about 2 weeks after that and it has still left a very sour feeling inside. I now know that to protect my feelings and my sanity I am best to try to not be concerned with trying to keep him happy and to just get on with MY familys life around him. Wonders if they do Father size cupboards, would like to try it!
They say time heals, I hope this will be the case for you. x