June 07: We are going to finish this thread skinnier than we started it

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Seeing as none of you lazy beyaches are going to start a new one...

OK, I am off. Got to get to the pool in the morning to show off my new cossie and do those lengths. I will fit into that dress in July!

Hi everyone, gosh this thread is BUSY - my October 09 one is so slow in comparison.

Tallulah - many many congrats, how lovely to have had twins!

Bumper and Ria - hello again, lovely to see you!

You are all making me feel much better about the prospect of having two dc's.

Holly - I am off to Ikea on Sunday for the first time but won't suggest we meet then as I will be with dh's ex girlfriend so won't inflict that combination on you! I would love to meet another time though.

Hello everyone else, yes I remember Norty as charlie something.

DS2 sound asleep, cuddling the teddy the hospital gave him (nice gesture, but must cost the NHS as much as rubber gloves! Do they recycle the rubber gloves?)

Am now over-indulging DS1. He is watching About a Boy (he asked to after seeing a clip at youth group last night), maybe it will help him understand "life" a bit better?

I bow down to your superior exercising jammy. enjoy!

goodness me, rescued laptop from DH, i bet u've all gone bed now!

ouch jammy, i have read stories of people tripping and falling onto knives in dishwashers, so i obsessivly put the blade down lmao!

30 lengths in 30 minutes (Plus half a mile walk each way through the ice and snow)

Morning

Well done Jammy.....

Nice to see you Doggus - yes I used to be charlie999 I think....but lurked until DD was born and then came "out" . Just had DC2 6 days ago, and it is great....although I am slightly knackered!

Poor DS2 Ria...hope he is ok

Daisy....it throws me when my DH is like that.....as I am the flaky one in this family, he hides it all away from me, thinking he is protecting me....and it makes me worry more . Hope all is ok and brighter this morning.

We had a shitey shite day yesterday (day 5 right on schedule). 4 hours sleep (me), raging hormones, very sore boobs, stitches out, blistered skin "down there" due to shitey dressing hospital put on, tears and sobbing all day (me, DD and DS), loads to do, achieving nothing, footie and fucking rugby (and more today) and then it finished with DS having 6 diarhorrea nappies in an hour, me thinking I'd poisioned him / forgotten to sterilise something / thinking he was going to be admitted to hospital etc etc. Luckily the on-call doctor was a thoroughly sensible calming person who said his digestive system is still adapting and to make his formula very slightly weaker for a couple of days. Two normal solid poos later, I am feeling much calmer

and breathe.........

that feels better. Sorry girls ...needed that.

As I was saying Doggus, having 2 DCs is lovely

aw norty sorry you had such a crap day.
and WE'RE interested in ur LO, we would visit!

morning all!
bin men came this morning i actually have space in my bin!

let hope it dont snow again!

thomas and ellen being good little kiddywinkles this morning, but i wonder how long it will last.

forgot to get wipes at shop yesterday so we are using cotton wool all day. yay

norty, hope you feel better today. Well, if you'd said you had belgian biscuits as well^ as a NB, I would have been round like a shot. Look on the positive side though, at least you aren't having to share precious newborn cuddles with people you don't really like(or is it just me that is so selfish)

very strange night with DS2, I think hewas a bit delirious. But he is a bit perkier today.

well done jammy.

hope all is ok daisy, it's like that here too. DH is off today, so he has gone back to bed

fury, sorry I missed your scare news, glad to hear all has settled down.

Sorry you had such a shitey day yesterday Norty. Those hormones certainly don't help, do they? Hope things calm down soon. And don't take the lack of visitors too personally, the weather hasn't been the best for it, has it? Enjoy those biscuits, and like Ria said make the most of having all the cuddles to yourself!

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} norty. I hope things are looking brighter for you today; pesky hormones, and sore boobs make everything seem much worse somehow.

DH and I had a bit of a chat last night and he is as fed up with me because of the state of the house, and although he didn't exactly say it, he implied I spend far too much time on the computer, which I do . He said he feels like he's just treading water and we aren't getting anywhere and that he is fed up having to move clutter to get to things he needs. We have resolved no more new stuff unless something is actually worn out (from the man who bought another fishing rod last week ). A lot of it is tiredness as well (he got a telling off at work for almost nodding off at his desk!) and I think he is genuinely worried about this new job....the other chap who started at the same time as him seems to be outshining him in everything (he turned up at a meeting with a full powerpoint presentation where DH had a few written notes!) and he is feeling the strain.

Anyway, I told him to take my laptop charger to work every day so I only have limited time on MN as my battery is shite and only lasts about an hour

I'm sneaking on while DH has popped out to the shops

poor DH daisy (although smarting a bit on your behalf re the house and PC stuff), if you're only getting an hour a day you do realise you'll have to dump all your other threads apart from us don't you

my DH is struggling too, but for different reasons. we are hanging on to a thread hoping this other offer is concrete

I am going to have to go and tackle some mess now (but my DH don't do anything regularly, so it's actually his mess too) Think I will start with sorting the playfood out so I can bring the toys kitchen and suitable food downstarirs for baggins to pay with. Need a change in the toy department.

Big hugs norty, the first few days are horrendous aren't they? Enjoys the biscuits and just be relieved that you don't have to get dressed for visitors!

Daisy, poor DH. I can see both sides really and DH and I occassionally have chats about me and the computer. It's good that you are compromising but also try and make him understand just how much support you get from here. I tell DH that we would have bought DD up much differently if it weren't for MN. I might not have persevered with BFing, no BLWing, it has really influenced me in a good way. But I have in the past spent far too much time on here and I am a lazy slattern. DH and I now have a housework rota and honestly it really helps. We both have agreed jobs that we do on certain days so there is none of this passive agressive who is going to do the washing up type situation. Do you think that might help you both? Also DH and I both take turns in barricading ourself (literally) in the bedroom with the laptop for some peace, just for an hour each. It really refreshes you. Maybe you could take turns doing that? Hope he feels better about his job soon.

Right, I'm off for some crocheting help...

good idea bumper, but he already does the bulk of the laundry and the washing up.....it's my job to put things away, but I never do

I've just added a couple of new pics to my profile.

Lovely pics Daisy

sorry your feeling the strain a bit daisy, you and DH.
hope it all gets better soon, but dont beat yourself up life is tricky balancing everything, i got quite bad with housework just after having ellen, particulary when i got depressed after the termination.

ive not been going to my councilling, as she infromed me it was 8 weeks and no i couldnt stretch it out, and it takes 3 hours to get there. when i told her i was sure i had been suffering from depression caused by having a termination i didnt want to have, not post natal depression, she argued with me.
well im sorry but ive had over a year to think about my behaviour, and what triggered it. the fact i got over it in 3 months also shows that it was the termination, as im sure if it had been true postnatal depression i wouldnt have recovered so damn quick.
so im not going no more, im going back to the doctors to find out what is avalible for me to work thru the issues i do have, and in this area so it dont take so long to get to the appointment.

Hope you're feeling better today Norty.

Lovely to see you Doggus, bet you didn't think we were still all nattering inanely to each other still! I've found having 2 quite easy and less of a shock than going from 0 to 1 IYSWIM. The first few months were quite tough though. Anyway, don't be a stranger!

DH is off again so I'm on my own for a week, at least I am more or less over the flu though.

By the way Norty, your DS is utterly gorgeous!

farking hell it's snowing again here

daisy, what are you doing here? Is DH out again or is this your hour?

cold here, the bit of snow we had overnight has almost gone.

I've got Sunday teatime-itis. I'm really bored and my tummy is not well.

Afternoon, lurking in between crochetting, making dinner (bangers and mash - oops to healthy eating ) and browsing ravelry my new forum, sorry guys! Daisy, I see you are on the MN group on there.

I was watching the rugby Ria, so doing a bit of multitasking . New regime will start tomorrow.

ravelry is great bumper; I want to knit everything on there!

Just popping in quickly with > for Norty. It is very hard at first but it will get better, honestly.

And what fine rugby coverage it is too, huh?

So sorry to hear of your tough days Norty. It is going to get better, I promise. But the experience the second time round is different to the first, and it is hard for different reasons. I don't just mean the logistics of balancing the needs of two very needy individuals, but because we are always comparing how we did it first time round, how we felt, and sometimes if its not the same we worry. I didn't get the 'rush of love' with DS2, it was more of a very slow burner. I felt extremely guilty for a very long time until I mentioned it to someone, and its quite normal it seems. Trying to be everything to the first child so they aren't compromised in any way whatsoever is really setting ourselves too high a target, and virtually impossible. Better to just accept things have changed, because this is the norm now. And eldest probably won't notice what you are doing anyway, because at this age its all about them anyway.

Rambling? Moi?