June 07: We are going to finish this thread skinnier than we started it

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Seeing as none of you lazy beyaches are going to start a new one...

fine wise words foxy, as always

Poor DS1, it really isn't his life atm. He has been sacked from his role as junior helper at Sunday school (because the assistant adult leaders daughter is a vindictive cow, like her bitch of a mother). The main leader said there isn't enopugh of an age gap between him and the eldest child, come back next year - the age gap will still be the same FFS. I really feel for him, poor kid. And then I wonder if it is him, and what I have done wrong

Think I'll write this weekend off.

Poor DS1, Ria.
Hi Foxy. You are very wise.
Hi everyone else too

Thanks everyone - you are all so kind [sob]

Today has been better....sort of....farking hormones.

Catch up after dinner

Norty - many many congrats. Those few first days are horrendous, I remember just crying and crying, feeling hopeless and useless. There's some wise person's saying (Buddha?) 'all things will pass' which helps me when time is standing still and you are in a bad place.

Sputnik, Burnsified and Foxy - it's lovely to hear good stuff about having two children. Honestly I think I need to change some rl friends, they have been bloody crap at encouragement. Mind you, if it had just been me I would have stopped at one, I was an only child and loved it. But dh is like a dripping tap, just kept on and on about another one and in the end I just extracted loads of promises about childcare and cleaning the house and went for it!

doggus, once I got over the culture shock of two and got into a routine it wasn't so bad really. I just wish the age gap between them wasn't so big. And because I found two sooooo easy I thought what the hell, lets chuck another one into the mix

No Doggus, that was Daisy Its her mantra and she reminds us of it when we need to be reminded

Not wise (but thank you) I just remember it well, and feel guilty for DS2 now after feeling guilty for DS1 then!

Am quite glad this weekend is drawing to a close. Have done a lot of running around and not enough sleep. DP back late tonight, not going to have him here on the weekends for the foreseeable (not necessarily a bad thing }

And Daisy, about the house. I suppose DH hasn't been around much to experience the day-to-day mundane shite and all it brings. He may well be at that "isn't it time you got on with things, you don't have a newborn anymore?" stage of things. This is only in his head, you can either re-educate him into not thinking this way by listing all the crap that takes up your day (I once did this, in great detail) or get on top of it.

These are my suggestions: get a load of cardboard boxes (try freecycle, someone who has recently moved will want rid). Get all the clutter, shove it in a box, write on the box what is in there, shove it in the loft or shed (buy another shed if necessary).

I washed all the sofa covers today. One has lasagne hand-prints and its not even dry. Sometimes Daisy, its just not worth it.

Au contraire Fox, you are very wise (your 'buy another shed comment made me chckle btw)

evening all.
two isnt really as hard as you would think, i know ppl try to scare you with "three times the work" but once you get into it, its really quite easy.
i had ellen when tom was just 13 months old, and i would agree hardest bit is the first few months, till you've got your feeding and your sleeping sorted.
its suddenly gets a lot easier once your youngest starts walking and talking, then u'll find u dont have to entertain the eldest as much anymore.
im quite well known for getting down a box of toys (bricks, train sets, paint) and saying "play together" and going off to do dinner and leaving them too it!

you'll cope alot better then u thought u would.

hell im having another so it cant be that bad

lol, it's more of a MN mantra that one

Wise words oh, yes foxy...boxes....check. markers....check. big garage and loft....check. I'm onto it!

The garage is still full of double buggies. We are selling some on ebay and DH was whinging about them cluttering up the house so we took them all apart and packed them up today. Then I realised I hadn't taken any fecking photos of them

DS1 told me tonight, after another tantrum and being sent up to bed in disgrace, that it would be better if he was dead . And things have been better here; not great, but better. He is soooo quick to get aggressive or tantrummy over apparently nothing and is always looking for the worst in every situation. then when he gets in trouble he comes over all "I'm the worst son in the whole world" and gets all maudlin What to do???

aw daisy
im sure this will pass
seriously tho, i was like that as a kid took everything as a personal attack.
its just his personality, how he deals with things. just tell him u love him

Aw Daisy, hugs for you and DS too (oh go on then, for DS2 as well! and DD while we're at it!). I think boxes could be your answer to the clutter problem (if only a temporary one.)

Jamlet is coughing and wheezing and moaning a bit too She's had cough mix and vapour-rub stuff, and next stop if calpol or nurofen (whichever comes to hand first ). She sounds quite hoarse with it too. Poor wee thing, she's been a bit cranky all day for no apparent reason other than she refused to nap so was tired. But seems she was coming down with this, and maybe had a sore throat all along (which may have put her off her naps??)

She was very cute this afternoon though. After nagging me for an age I gave in and let her have another piece of fruit, so she was wandering round the front room, happy as a proverbial sandboy, munching on her pear. She would wander over to the cat having a nap on one sofa, give her a stroke, then wander round the room a bit more, occasionally coming over to share her pear with me. Then she accidentally knocked a Wii remote off the sofa. Tidy wee thing that she is, she picked it up and placed it back on the sofa, right in front of the cat, as if to say "here you go puss, you have a go when you wake up"

(You may gather from the above ramble that she's finally got the hang of this walking lark)

I think its normal 6/7 yo DS1 behaviour Daisy. They want us to feel sorry for them, probably because they actually want to make amends and have a cuddle. DS1 only ever does this when he's been horrid, not after a general upset or a telling off for something. I like to say "Do you think so? Well I disagree. I love you very much and want you here always". Do you see what I mean?

I can't wait to move house and have a loft. All the places I've seen Up North at have garages. YIPEEEE! But what is it with integral garages?

I think its normal 6/7 yo DS1 behaviour Daisy. They want us to feel sorry for them, probably because they actually want to make amends and have a cuddle. DS1 only ever does this when he's been horrid, not after a general upset or a telling off for something. I like to say "Do you think so? Well I disagree. I love you very much and want you here always". Do you see what I mean?

I can't wait to move house and have a loft. All the places I've seen Up North at have garages. YIPEEEE!

There you go! Jammy, send Jamlet round to Daisy's

Foxy - you do make me laugh - buy another shed - I have a vision of daisy's garden with 10 sheds in it full of double buggies.

Dasiy - hugs to ds1 he does sound absolutely adorable. At least he's in touch with his feelings and can express himself unlike three quarters of British male populace.

Jammy - my ds has much the same thing. Been in bed for an hour, woke up screaming the house down, calpol time, I reckon. He's got hideous spots all over his tummy as well as the runny nose. He's the spottiest child ever; rash on top of rash, lovely.

daisy, do you want to send DS1 to live here and then they can be the angsty big boys together? Or they could both live in your new shed? Poor lamb, I have no answers for you. Tonight my preferred plan is cry into my wine, but my actual plan is scrape together some crap educated argument to email to my tutor

and I found out too late that about a Boy was a bad plan. Though I don't hink he drew any parallels between depressed crying film mother and home

boxes of clutter = good plan. One day at a time... (although now I get hassle from Dh cos he can't get in the shed or garage the loft is tidy though)

for DS doggus

three is even better than two

I need a new shed. Can't even put the Christmas decorations away

Hope DS is OK Doggus. I just had to give jamlet some infant nurofen. Wonder if she's got a rash? She does tend to get them too.

OK, bath and bed for me. Shoulders are stiff after the swimming and I am just damn cold so a nice hot soak is just what I need I think.

MIL has a cupboard in the corner of the living room that is dedicated to the Christmas decorations. Am of having enough space to have a whole cupboard for the Xmas decs!

I'm off too. Have just scoffed a load of Quality Street and Celebrations But they were left over from Christmas.

A whole cupboard in the living room?! Mine would be full of platic tat from 7 years worth of party bags.

Bits of wobbly plastic monsters which fit on the end of your fingers. That kind of thing. We have tons of it.

I'm still here, just emailed my OU stuff. Am chuffed with myself though, I was only 3 words over on my 2nd draft. Only one more to go (the big one) and I'm done.

Snowing here now. DH had trouble getting home. Hope there's enough to cut us off from civilisation tomorrow, no work and no school and nopost. Perfect

Am in 2 minds about sending DS2 to school as I am worried about his chin. Would quite like to not send DS1 too.