August 2008: Lovely Ladies with Beautiful Babies

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This makes our 28th thread.

utterly shit night followed by difficult morning so she's just been given some calpol night in the hope of knocking her out

am pooped

pf lovely blouse

rotter fessing up to being another mild goth here but mainly as I liked wearing black clothing, docs, striped tights and black eyeliner, was never much more than that

ann glad you got some sleep

no news from TS today, I do hope she's going ok

shazza lovely to 'see' you - hope your Lexie coming on well

in laws are coming people, in laws are coming this may be one of those times where I need you most
infact, god forgive me, but poppy if you could have a crisis that requires me to move in with you for the last weekend in Feb that'd be appreciated

sazz what a load of pap, if the others can make it then am sure they could too

I think Dylan has a touch of what DD1 had as her temp has been quite bad and the nappy I got earlier was horrendous lets hope a decent nap will help

Dizzy = sorry you had a bad night {{hugs}}

Am about to upload DD's first meal onto my profile for today only - She has had sweet potato bits and a apple slice (microwaved to make it soft) she ate the sweetpotato with caution but the apple went down a treat. The sweet potato was in cubes and a little crushed too so she could use her spoon. HV said pea soup and spices will do her no harm and to carry on as it would be mean to go onto baby rice after such good flavours

Will be back later as I need to clean up the dinner mess!

oh well, I suppose half an hour in her cot was better than nothing at least the tea is ready!!

Dizzy - want to make a deal - You do the tea and I will look after the kiddies for you?

oops done, DD2 has a stinking nappy, DD1 complaining of a sore tummy and refusing to eat her tea and Dylan in her standy uppy thingy

really garlicky spag bol and its delicious if I say so myself

All you need to do now Dizzy is put them in bed!

lol oops I would also like to go round to dizzy's for my tea

buckets that is certainly a ripe old age and not the time to start anything new

lol at oops' virtual babysitting skills!

hi all, a strange afternoon. I walked to the clinic and while i was out and about i thought i'd pop over to see a client of the company i used to work for years ago. He was a lovely guy, used to call me "miamla the great" because i helped him out with some paperwork he didn't understand. Anyway, I was quite sad to find that he'd died a couple of weeks ago. Really wish i'd made the effort to visit him earlier. I haven't seen him for about a year (was for previous job so haven't seen him in official role for almost 4 yrs).

But that's not the strange bit. While i was at his address, I realised my ex-bf's grandma lived in the same block. So i went to see her. Not sure why, i split up with ex-bf about 8 yrs ago. It was really lovely seeing her. She loved DS but it just felt a bit wrong. She was talking about how she'd love me to visit her daughter (ex-bf's mum) because she often talks about me so i said i'd pop up there next time she was there. She lost her husband a few years ago and she seems really lonely. it would be really easy for me to see her fairly regularly (10min walk from my house) but i'm not sure that i want ex-bf to be part of my life again (which he would be i imagine if i'm seeing his grandma) Ex-bf probably hasn't seen her for a while. He only visited her when we were together if i nagged him! It got to the point where i used to go round on my own! I'm not sure how DP is going to feel about it all. I'd think it was strange if he suddenly started visiting his ex-gf's grandma. History of my ex-bf... i dumped him for being a complete loser! He's now happily married (his gran showed me his wedding album, lol!) and i have absolutely no feelings for him whatsoever.
So, oh wise ladies of this thread, what do i do? DP doesn't now yet but i'm going to tell him when he gets in. You know what, he's probably going to laugh at me being worried that he's going to be upset! My quandary is whether to stop or continue seeing her...

MIamla Tell him about your day and ask him what he thinks about you seeing her again occasionally? I'm thinking he might not give a toss about the exbf connection, it's just you doing some voluntary work while you're on matty leave innit?

miamla I think it would be a lovely thing to do regardless of how you came to know her in the first place. if DP has an issue with you visiting am sure a weekly phone call or letter would still brighten her up

sazz glad you've got neighbours you can borrow from, I love our neighbours, always there when a cup of bisto/egg/onion needed - previous neighbour was local drug dealer (unknown to us when we bought it) and only considered borrowing stuff when in labour with the girls

all 3 down, will see how long for but not holding my breath, think another very early night for me

DP said he hasn't got a problem with me seeing her but did say (when i started telling him about her family problems..one of her daughter's is ignoring her atm) that he couldn't give a toss about the family arguments of my ex-bf. Which is fair enough!

Sazz.. thank goodness you've got lovely neighbours! can't believe the oil company are so incompetent!

A quick hello to say good luck to Mr Cyteen and yay to Ann for the btter night sleep.

What is it with all this wind in the night? DD2 was so upset last night, and just couldn't sleep. She was though truly fab for DH while I did my teaching this afternoon, and it was really nice to be out there doing my thing. Only 11 more classes to go ...

My eyes are shutting so I must go.
Sazzles - I ran out of oil here a few weeks ago and it's a nightmare. Glad to hear that you have oil for now but it isn't nice not to be able to rely on people for it when the weather is so bad.

sazz I personally think its the reason the tossers previous occupants sold us the house, knowing the security firm we work for but to be honest he didn't do us any harm and in terms of druggies he's one of the nicer ones I've had to have dealings with

miamla I think it is a v nice thing you are doing but yes maybe one your dp is not going to be too interested in. You may also want to contact your ex bf to tell him that in no way is this a sneaky way to get back in touch with him - or he might get the wrong idea (whether he is married or not).

sazzles at oil company. I would be livid. Had similar problems (won't bore you with the details) re gas installers recently (unless I have already bored you, which is quite possible ). I don't quite know how people think they can get away with this kind of service in the current climate. My attitude to it is that they can't and I will take my custom elsewhere - and I let the new provider know in no uncertain terms that if they let me down it is one strike and you are out..... Possibly they aren't that bothered but there are plenty more people to choose from normally.

Anyway, just had row with dh because he could see how fecking knackered I am but still wanted dinner cooked. Where have the flowers/I've run you a bath/cooked you dinner moments gone Mind you I am probably being irrational because of tiredness and he did at least look after dd this pm so I could take ds1 to gym with Toby as she really hates waiting.

sazzles dd would like that - I might try it. ds1 on the other hand is still eating toddler food so probably wouldn't touch it with a barge pole.

dizzy We lived next to drug dealers in London a few years ago. First we knew about it was when the police arrived in riot gear to raid the place! (And the cars stopped getting broken in to down our road)

Shitey oil situation there sazzles. You'd have thought that a company that delivers to houses that aren't on mains gas would have only lorries that get down little lanes etc. for your but good to know that the neighbours came to your rescue.

Thanks for your suggestion about my hair falling out(!) when I've stopped bf. Obvious really but hadn't occured to me. Have actually booked a consultation and long appointment for Saturday though..... Eek!

Also meant to say to you that DD1 has also really suffered with a rash on her face, which no potions from the GP can shift. Just assumed it was 'one of those things' and she does have bad skin, as it doesn't bother her but looks horrid. Sorry, that's not much help .

Glad you had a better night Ann and that your first day of teaching went well sibh.

Well, Dizzy, given that DD1's birthday is the final week of Feb, there may be a crisis or two here.... Hope the dizzy ladies are doing better tonight.

pf our lot were under surveillance and the first we knew about it was when we saw the 'in the courts today' in the local paper I am rushing to add that we've moved away from where we work into unknown territory iyswim, so there was no way for us to know really!!

poppy am very of your hair apt - where are you going? mine has stopped falling out in handfulls but I have a lot of hair anyway, still needs coloured and cut though!

will be delighted to help you out in your time of need/crisis etc - will obviously HAVE to move in to do so though

Rather crap day here. All started well and rather nice. I then left the girls alone for a minute to go to the loo and when I returned, DD1 was scarpering from DD2 who started really screaming. After a while DD1 admitted to having been jumping across DD2 and ended up jumping on her stomach . She was crying in a way that really isn't her so headed off to A&E. There a Dr who looked about 10 (I must be getting old...) uttered the wonderfully reassuring line 'well you'll know as well as I do whether anything's wrong'. WTF??? No, YOU'VE spent years at medical school so YOU should know. Anyway, not exactly reassured we were sent home, but I think she is fine and that it was an accident. Just horrible and slightly worried now about social services coming knocking now...

oh no poppy what a worry - did they not examine her at all am sure poor DD1 got as much of a fright as you did bless her

made similar mistake this evening and DD1 denied all knowledge of crying but big red lump came up on Dylan's head so stern chat about lying etc etc - you've now got me worrying thats why she's still sleeping

for those with rash issues (apologies I must have missed them) have you tried Nelsons tea tree antiseptic cream - I swear by it for all things skin related

either that or aveeno cream