August 2008: Lovely Ladies with Beautiful Babies

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This makes our 28th thread.

Hello?!

Super hormonal week that had me, midway through, about to call work to arrange a hasty return to work . Anyway, calm more or less restored now, although lingering issues with DD1 remain. She's having truly terrible tantrums at the moment, particularly when we're in company (lots of 'I don't like x', x being the child who's come round to play and then pushing him/her or asking him/her to leave ). Yet, she's also become really clingy to me. Saying she hates nursery and dissolving into the most heartbreaking sobs when I drop her off. Have discussed it with them - she's fine quickly after I leave, but then will start crying spontaneously every now and then too. They think it's just a phase and she's finally realised DD2's not going anywhere (bright spark, eh? ). Still feeling so about it all and guilty and wondering what on earth to do.

So sorry... feel awful when some of you have big issues to face. So sorry to hear about all the rows with DP/Hs (a few of those here too) and work hassles.

Thank goodness we have a fab bunch of babies to keep us going .

Hmmm babies characters

ds1 very very smily as a baby and went through truly awe inspiring tantrum phase starting at 11 months and ending at about 3 -now still very smily and gregarious but also very sensitive and highly strung

dd not so smily, very chilled baby did not go through tantrum stage and started to get difficult at around 3 - now dangerously manipulative but a very bright spark - much more level emotionally than her elder brother and more independent and adventurous

Toby very smily like his brother and seems scarily similar so am waiting to see if he goes through the red mist stage like ds1

lwfh loved your post - it's great being in love with your dc

ataraxis have you thought about adding a blazer to your wardrobe to replace the hoodies when you want to be a bit more grown up eg this and a good pair of flats here tres chic

had a traumatic day - fell over whilst carrying my ds in the moby. just feel so stupid for wearing boots with a slight heel - I often go over on my ankles, dont know why I put the them on. I was so freaked out I kept replaying the whole thing in my mind and started thinking ds really hit his head, then I could not remember what really happened, now I'm not sure if he hit his head its all such a muddle in my head..he didn't cry, there's no bruise, at first I didnt think he hit his head...dp has checked and says he thinks its unlikely. ds has been his normal self. my knees are bruised too, quite painful

ataraxis just noticed there is 10% off boden at the mo

oh sambo, you poor thing. in dizzy's absence i'll pass on her standard message for bruises "slap some arnica on". As for DS keep an eye on him but it sounds like your motherly instinct protected him

DS is crawling!!!! Nowhere is safe now! And he's very close to going from lying to sitting on his own as well! I cooked dinner tonight for mum, sis, bro and DP. It was to celebrate my bday so not sure why i did all the cooking
i think they've worn DS out though! they had him crawling between them all.
right... DP asleep, DS very close to sleeping so going to attempt to get him in his cot
night all

no1, forgot to ask... are you in London? i'm more than happy to meet up with you so you can give my luna a test drive

morning, ( running in with a vat of strong coffee and pack of matchsticks)...

interesting night here, Tess woke up about 57 million times last night but didn't have to feed her once, so i think that is a result but definitely not the wake ups!!

DD1 woke me upm at 5.50am!!! whats that all about??? however she was gently stroking my hair to wake me up which i think is the sweetest thing every!!!!

So now i have to get through an entire day with both dcs by myself on no sleep.. arghhh... (drinks a huge sip of coffee!)...

hope everyone has a good day xxx

morning sarah we were also woken about 5 times between midnight and 6.30. Had ds in the bed for a while, cant really remember the details. got up at 7 as per the schedule...will now attempt to keep ds up for 2 hours then take him out when I go to collect the highchair so as dp can get some sleep. Why do I have a baby that doesnt sleep? Must of been bad in a previous life

Sambo right there with you... my dd1 didn't sleep thru for a year and i reckon dd2 is turning out the same!!!! lots of coffee and match sticks!!!xxx

argh. matchsticks please.

ds awake between half ten and 1 something up and downm like a yo yo. crying, wouldn;t feed. finally he took some nurofen and fell asleep while i sat and cuddled him (normally i HAVE to stand, so he must have been tired).

shattered.

wish I knew where ds's user manuel was cos ther must be a reboot buttons omehwere

Hi all,

Just on briefly as I am going to a SPA today! (yep, spa, not spar!). SIL (to be)'s hen weekend, I am just going for the day, to have some me time and an hour (at least) long massage .

All well in the ataraxis household. DH was in such a good mood yesterday having had some time out, that I decided not to say anything - except about the dd/cot situation, which I did very calmly and in passing. vg, you are right (as always) and I knew that, which is why I didn't go mental at him at the time.

ann, hope things are better with you.

sambo - ouch! Must have been a fright. If ds seems fine he probably is - you most likely got more of a shock than he did. Agree about the arnica, and possibly aconite for fright as well.

miamla how exciting about the crawling. Yes, the fun and games starts now... and nearly sitting too!

lwfh, we were talking about baby eye colour in Bristol. My comments about eyes likely to stay blue were blown out of the window when dd's eyes started to change about 2 weeks ago. They now vary greatly between a greeny/hazel and bright blue . So no idea now where they will end up, but I now stand corrected, and very blue eyes can go much later than I realised.

albs, very sound advice given on here, I hope things sort themselves out.

dizzy hope you are ok.

Thanks all for the clothing advice. sambo, I do actually have several very nice jackets like that hidden away somewhere. Realised that moving from Brighton I just haven't had access to the quirky shops I used to have. Will resurrect the jackets and go exploring methinks!

Gotta go, I can hear the ds's. Have fun!

sambo how scary Poor old you.......

mamla way to go theo... he can come and teach Henry a few things now please

ataraxis ooh a spa - how lovely. I want a massage (i think dh will get some something like that for my 30th this year - mmmm)

morning - I haven't caught up with all the posts yet so hugs/cheers/sympathy/celebration/laughs to each of you - (delete as appropriate)

I feel like a hamster on a treadmill at the moment. Been up since 6 with Izzy, which I don't mind too much as she is always so much fun in the morning. What I mind is that I just can't help her to get her nap. Been trying since 8.30 (tis 9.50 here now) she cries in my arms, cries in the bed just cries cries cries. She was asleep on the boob then woke up as I put her down, asleep in my arms as I picked her up - then stretched woke herself up and cried.

In the end I had to put her in her cot and walk away - so frustrated.

DH is giving and English class till 11 - so no help available. Think I might dress her and take us out for a walk.

I just get fed up that it is like this every morning at the moment then you know you are only going to go through it all again in an hour and half for lunchtime nap. And again in the afternoon.

Poor little mite is just tired and confused.

sorry to be such a moaning minnie.

Morning all,

sambo you poor thing, I bet that was very scary, glad he seems ok, though sorry about the knees. I used to live in high heels. All the way through pregnancy with dd (encouraged by chiro) however found it quite difficult when pregnant with ds round and running around after toddler.

Must admit feel strange wearing them now, unless holding onto a pram

miamla wow on the crawling, no rest for you now. You shouldn't have been cooking btw.
Thankyou so much for offering the test drive, that is`very kind.
However I am not in London.

ataraxix about the spa. hope you have lovely day.

sorry to here of lots of wake ups all round.

Dare i say i had the best night in months.
DD slept till 7-6.15 yeah
ds 7-4 fed then till 7

I did put a cloth with some drops of Lavendar on their beds. Wonder if it made a ddifference.

Sambo, scary! I slipped down the stairs yesterday and would have dropped Kurt and landed on him if he wasn't in the Moby! Let that be a lesson to anyone who leaves all their important documents in a 'filing pile' on the stairs...

Cyteen You did better than me! I let DH off as he is working overtime today and we were both knackered. So challenge is on hold til the spring (we've decided to try it quarterly) but am v proud of our current new record of 4 days in a row.

Poppysocks you know the answer don't you? You're going to have to find some time to have a special 1-on-1 attention session, then your DP can have one too. I've got to do it with my DD too as she's such a worrier and seems to have a v short fuse at the mo.

I spent much of the early morning in the spare bed with Kurt, big two woke us up at 8am. His 'routine' depends entirely on what I'm up to that day eg. cinema day: feeds at 8am, 12, 4pm, 7pm and 10pm with naps on the schoolruns and round lunchtime at the cinema. Trying to stop him sleeping after tea because it makes a mockery of his bedtime bottle if I have to wake him up for it.

DD has been sick now, have convinced her to stay in bed with a bucket and a Ben10 book.

Hello all, sorry I've been AWOL but have been ill since returning from London with terrible upset stomach and other associated symptoms not envy, that's the colour I've been. Was feeling better last night but DS decided to wake every 2 hours at least from 10.30pm and DD was up being sick at 2.30am
Meanwhile DH slept through the whole thing, cue much resentment from me this morning followed by tears and shouting but think we are OK now. I was reading of you red mist ladies the closest I ever manage is to storm into another room and cry but that just makes me feel worse because I think DH should come and say sorry / hug me / something but he never does

All you other knackered ladies I feel your pain and share your need for strong coffee. Still, enough whinging, sorry ,

Sorry it took you so long to get home No1. I missed my connecting train so got a taxi (no car seat so shoot me) so was home for 5. Fantastic news re your sleep last night, bet you feel fantastic!

Sambo poor you, hope you're not too bruised. I think it is true that babies are made of rubber, I'm sure DS is fine

Miamla wow that Theo is crawling! What a clever boy!

Was being gummed by DS yesterday morning, and he has definitely cut his first tooth! You can't really see much but can feel the sharpness with your finger. Is this why he's waking all the time? Aaaarrrggghhhhhhhh

Hey VG your poor DS . Of course you're not BU not to take him to the doctors. Sounds like a virus and they won't be able to give him anything anyway. Just keep him well dosed up and plenty of fluids, just not whisky honey and lemon just yet! Are you feeling any better? I hope so

Glad to hear you're feeling better. I think there can be too much of a rush to get DCs to the doctor especially for coughs and colds, when there isn't anything they can do. Or am I just a slack mummy?

Hopefully he'll spend the day just sleeping and feeding, can you both go back to bed? Wish I could, but mum and grandma coming in an hour, still in my jamas better get in the shower...

Yeah, you'd just give the bug to some really vulnerable people in the waiting room!

I'm having incredibly lazy morning (apart from all the vomit sweeping) in my nightie, ignoring kids and looking up obscure popstars on the net. DD in bed with bucket, DS1 downstairs v busy with Ben10 stickers and DS2 was happy on playmat watching DS1 for last 2hrs(!) But I thought I'd be a nasty mummy and make him have a nap.

Anyone fancy a proper coffee? I shall put on my magical expanding stay-hot virtual cafeteiere.

Oh bugger, just remembered I have to pick up a parcel from depot by 12.

buckets don't you just hate having a lazy day interupted??
Hate missing parcels.

rotter sorry to here you have been poorly too. Hope you are feeling better soon.
I do feel very refreshed after a good 4 hours solid sleep. so deep that dh had to wake me to say ds was crying at 4 for a feed [bad mummy]

vg no you do right to stay at home. My two have had this cold and cough since the begining of December. I am mighty pissed off it has gone on so long. Dh took dd to docs fopr second time other week and he said just viral nothing will work.
ds woke up more snotty, cough sounds worse, crackly on every breath. Feel so sorry for him.

vg i think you're right to just see what happens. my ds has a v hoarse sounding cry atm so I imagine there is a thing going round. Poor little babies

rotter sorry you've ben poorly since Tuesday

buckets enjoy lazy day(grr re having to pick up parcel).

We've got a friend coming to see us today. she's to be one of ds's godmothers and wants to meet him before the baptism in 2 weeks. that is just one of the sweet things about her that makes me sure she'll be a brilliant godmother

Dd and i had brekkie out - ds slept soundly thank goodness.

feel a little less crap having been out and drunk lots of tea....

buckets am v of Kurt spending 2 hours on play mat. my ds gets bored v quickly - less so if dd is in the room to entertain him but not two hours....