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May 07: The one where we celebrate LG&T's completed family

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NimChimpsky · 17/01/2009 11:29

Morning all.

Especially LG&T and India.

I will be requiring lengthy cuddles.

I shall be singing Hush Little Baby for the duration.

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JamInMyWellies · 10/02/2009 10:48

Thanks, think gardening leave is 3 months but at the mo we no no more as they told him and then he didnt even go back to his desk coat is got for him and he is escorted from the building. He will be "invited" back next wk to clear his desk and we think at that point will be told the redundacy package.

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 10/02/2009 10:55

It's very common for people to be escorted out of the building, unfortunately. Companies are terrified people will go back to their desks and cause ructions with their colleagues, much easier to just send them home, the cowards. I do think it's better for people to be at home to process the information really, but I do wish you didn't have to wait until next week before he finds out his package. Bloody idiots, it's not exactly hard to calculate!

SKYTVADDICT · 10/02/2009 11:26

Oh Jam - so sorry for you all x

MmeJaffaB · 10/02/2009 11:31

Oh Jam, I'm so sorry. I had really hoped that today was going to be good news for you. It must be so scary. It's awful not giving you some figures now, jesus you need that to start to work things out.
Try if you can to be positive, (hard so early on, I know) things may even be better in the long run you just never know? I really hope it goes that way for you guys. I am sure that if A hadn't lost his job 10yrs ago he'd still be doing the same crap thing now, at the time it was devestating we were 6 weeks into our first mortgage but he luckily found something else and it all turned out for the better. I do appriciate that todays climate and J's position are very different to those of A's all those years ago though. {{{{{{hug}}}}}}}

JamInMyWellies · 10/02/2009 12:04

so we have a bit more news 3mth gardening leave full pay and then they have given him a month for every yr worked so we should be ok up until the autumn so not quite as much doom and gloom as initially thought. Ideally he would find a job to begin at the end of the gardening leave and then we have a nice lump to pay off some debts.

ShowOfHands · 10/02/2009 12:12

Oh Jam that doesn't sound as bad as you may have first thought then.

Is your mortgage interest only for now? You know what, I agree with Jaffa, she's so wise. This could be a good thing. He may find a wonderful job that makes this one look like shovelling snow. Unless he particularly likes shovelling snow of course. I dreamt you moved back to the States last night. Wonder if it was a premonition...

JamInMyWellies · 10/02/2009 12:20

No mortgage is not interest only but we are going to call them and have a chat.

Oooh you are mystical and poweful SOH imagine if we did get back to the US.I could have meet ups with MKG.

Thankyou lovely ladies as usual you help lift me up and as always offer such brilliant advice and fabulous strong (but feminine and svelte ) shoulders to lean upon.

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 10/02/2009 12:24

Jam - that's a really good package, to be fair. I was able to pay all my debts off when I was made redundant on mat leave, and it worked out great for us, although it was still shit at the time!

MKG · 10/02/2009 12:41

Jam- I'm so sorry about everything, but it sounds like things aren't too bad. Try to stay positive and think of all the good things that can come of this.

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 10/02/2009 13:44
  1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? No.

2 . WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED? This morning on the way to work, but Scoot cheered me up .

  1. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? Not especially.
  1. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? Beef.
  1. DO YOU HAVE KIDS? 1 - she's enough at the moment.
  1. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? No, I'm a bit needy and self obsessed.
  1. DO YOU USE SARCASM? In most sentences.
  1. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS? Yes.
  1. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? I like to think I would, but I'd probably chicken out at the top.
  1. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL? Porridge.

  2. DO YOU TAKE YOUR SHOES OFF IN YOUR HOME? Yes.

12.WHAT DO YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE? For everyone that I love to be healthy and happy.

  1. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM?? Mint Choc Chip.

  2. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE? Their clothes.

  3. RED OR PINK? Red.

  4. WHAT IS YOUR LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF? My dramatic tendencies, I'd love to be a laid back type.

  5. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST? I'm going to keep that to myself - someone from my past, who I assume is still very much alive!

  6. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO COMPLETE THIS LIST? Yes, I am very nosy.

  7. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING? Black and Black.

  8. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? The cars on the road outside my office.

  9. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE? Yellow.

  10. FAVORITE SMELLS? My daughter's hair.

  11. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE? My boss.

  12. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? Yes.

  13. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH? Gymnastics - is that a sport?

  14. HAIR COLOR? Brown.

  15. EYE COLOR? Brown.

  16. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS? No.

  17. FAVORITE FOOD? Roast Beef Dinner

  18. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS? Happy endings.

  19. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED? 27 Dresses.

  20. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING? Black.

  21. SUMMER OR WINTER? Winter.

  22. HUGS OR KISSES? Kisses.

  23. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW? I've just read Grazia, ha ha, but am reading Songs of the Humpback Whale by Jodi Picoult.

  24. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? The cast of Grays Anatomy.

  25. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON TV LAST NIGHT? Gilmore Girls on DVD.

  26. FAVORITE SOUND(S)My daughter giggling.

  27. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES? Beatles.

  28. WHAT IS THE FARTHEST YOU HAVE BEEN FROM HOME? South Africa.

  29. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT? I can remember song lyrics after listening to a song only a couple of times.

43 WHERE WERE U BORN? Anfield Road Hospital.

  1. WHOSE ANSWERS ARE YOU LOOKING FORWARD TO GETTING BACK? Everyones.

  2. HOW DID YOU MEET YOUR SPOUSE/SIGNIFICANT OTHER? At work in 2001. He says I was wearing purple trousers. He is mistaken.

twelveyeargap · 10/02/2009 14:26

JAM, I'm so sorry. His payment package sounds pretty generous so that's helpful at least. Look at the good things. Three months' gardening leave means that you have help with the children now until L is more settled. He also has three paid months to look for a new job, which is more than a lot of people have when they get made redundant. The other good thing is that with effectively 6 months until the money "runs out", there is a very good chance that there will be signs of an up-turn in the economy before then. Lots of economic analysts think we're in a V-shape recession; a sharp downward shock, but coming out of it just as quickly.

Get straight onto the mortgage company and change to interest-only. You should be able to do this without a re-mortgage; just change the payment terms. This will help to stretch the money quite a bit.

It's a crap thing to happen, but it can't be changed, so just focus on what you can do from here on. Lots of love. x

twelveyeargap · 10/02/2009 14:31

It could be worse, I know someone that got made redundant from an investment bank and then went to work for the UK arm of Madoff Investments Oops.

Themasterandmargaritas · 10/02/2009 16:59

Jam you sound much more positive. Dh had the same terms when made redundant a year ago, and tbh it was the only way we could have done this moving overseas and setting himself up in the job he really wanted to do. The trick is for dh to keep upbeat during his 3 months gardening leave, use all the help they throw at you and stop and think about what you both want out of life. This is an opportunity, I'm telling you!

PS forget Dubai, come to Kenya, it's nicer. Actually if your dh does go to Dubai for a bit and you went too, I could pop over to see you!!

On a totally random aside, I am noticing a distinct correlation in the answers to the stupid absorbing 'note' of MKG's. Here are just a few of my findings:

The majority of us like mint choc chip ice cream.

Purple is a favourite crayon colour.

We are all far too woosy to think about jumping.

No one uses mousepads anymore.

Pink and I watched the same atrocious film only she remembered the name of it and I didn't.

None of us is sarcastic at all, oh no, oh no.

Nearly all of us still have our tonsils.

We all love MKG.

We all met our other halves either at work, pplace of study or in the pub!

Interesting findings to date. Do we all have AF at the same time too?

ShowOfHands · 10/02/2009 19:14

Mint choc chip icecream = cold toothpaste.

Bleurgh.

PJ, it's your turn to email. C'mon, I miss you...

AprilMeadow · 10/02/2009 19:45

Now i need some ice cream! In jimjams so cant very well go and get some. Maybe i could dream about it.....

MKG · 10/02/2009 20:44

I love you all too!!

Jam it would be so cool if you moved here.

JamInMyWellies · 10/02/2009 22:14

TYG at that link.

Thanks all again lovely girls.

Big positive am off to bed and DP is doing dream feed tonight and tom he can get me a hot chocie in the morning and let the dog out instead of me dragging my arse out of bed at stupid o clock.

Tillyscoutsmum · 11/02/2009 08:42

Sorry the news was bad Jam. Glad to hear you are keeping positive though and at having him at home for 3 months (although we'll wait for the posts from you in a month or so's time when he's driving you insane )

Glad CP was fun

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 11/02/2009 10:59

Hi ladies

SOH - have emailed you some drivel.

I've just booked my hotel for the NKOTB Party on 12th September. It's in Birmingham - Tilly, you are more than welcome!

AprilMeadow · 11/02/2009 11:42

Oh darn it i wont be able to make that party....... shucks!

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 11/02/2009 11:51

C'mon AM - the baby will love it!

Tillyscoutsmum · 11/02/2009 11:52

Ah Joe - lovely lovely Birmingham. Where are you staying ?

Unfortunately I'm away on hols that week so can't make the party Am gutted - obviously

MrsJoeMcIntyre · 11/02/2009 11:53

And can you all please let me know what you are getting your significant others for Valentine's Day.

Ta muchly.

twelveyeargap · 11/02/2009 11:56

A card.

Tillyscoutsmum · 11/02/2009 11:59

A card....if he's lucky. I forgot last year