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May 2008 - The Third Thread.... Hot sausage and Mustard continued.....

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Haribosmummy · 13/01/2009 18:34

New thread... Hoep this one is a bit more accessible!!!

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macaco · 06/03/2009 18:36

OhMyGod Haribo !!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! wow. How far along are you, you must be a couple of months if you've had a scan? How are you feeling? You must be bowled over! Wow. How's DH taking it, sounded like he'd come round to the idea of numer 2, no?
So, what will your age gap be? When are you due.....oooh so exciting!
Blimey I think I need a lie down too! My broodiness, I'd just like to point out, ladies, was PMT I am most definitely NOT pregnant and do not intend to be until at least next year.

Go put your feet up HM

xx

fuzzypeach · 06/03/2009 18:58

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Haribosmummy · 06/03/2009 19:39

Dh is very pleased - actually happier than I thought he would be.

DSDs - no not yet. not really fair to land this one on them esp. when we haven't really had the chance to talk.

Will tell them soon!!

I'm 18 weeks... So, due in August 09...

So that will make DS 15 months old [eek emoticon!!] - I can't believe I'm going back to an AN thread all ready!!!

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Mitchell81 · 06/03/2009 19:47

Haribo I still can't believe that you get to 18 weeks without knowing anything.
So pleased that DH is happy.
I am so excited for you. You are our first pregnancy for our postnatal thread????

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luckymummy74 · 06/03/2009 20:37

WOW! HM Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I also cannot believe you got to 18 weeks before finding out.....!!!!!

You must be very fertile, as DH away so much. I'm so pleased for you.

15 month gap???!!!......

luckymummy74 · 06/03/2009 20:39

so sorry HM, just re-read that and realised I sound quite cheeky/rude. Sorry .

Haribosmummy · 06/03/2009 20:59

, LM - I've had quite a few comments along the lines of 'how did we manage that?' given how much DH is away - but he was home for nearly a month from late December to Mid January...

I think I am bit that it's 18 weeks - I was expecting 8-10 weeks, I really was. I really don't have any 'pregnancy' symptoms atall - I only thought to test cos I was feeling the way I felt in November 07 (with what turned out to be Harry!!!) I've been in a bit of a daze all day and tried to walk out of Waitrose the wrong way (AKA: the way there is no exit.. I just got to the end, sort of looked at the wall and then walked the whole length of the shop again... I mean, once seems surreal... twice... Is a bit stupid really... this is it, though... DH (or me?) off for the OP after this one.

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mumofkandj · 06/03/2009 21:57

haribo WOW congratulations
Wow! Happy Nappy Daze.... or is it days, lol?! Glad you're so happy with your news too!
And completely amazed at not knowing for so long....So enjoy you're nice, SHORT pregnancy! ( NOT jealous at the shortness bit, NOT really not {trying to convince myself here...})

Have a story to go with this though: I did meet a lady this week who, having been to her GP 3 times in the last couple of months for IBS, and lost a stone recently with weightwatchers, and I had to tell her she was 24 weeks pregnant. Yes, thats 6 months. She was, well they were, in complete shock. Ah. I didn't mention the 7 month old baby in the pushchair, did I? He was happy shocked, she was swearing as it sunk in.
I've only had 1 period since J, have broody moments but 2 is quite enough for a few more years yet! I wish I could be sure 2's enough, like some people seem to feel- but I don't. Definately would like another sometime. Just need to get DH onside for that one.
Niknak sorry for breaking off- I was mid-thought and of course can't remember what I was thinking now. Anyway, if he'll use a potty that sounds fab. Our child toilet seat only fits well on some toilets, which just raised the thoughtt with me has he had any scary moments with toilets- wobbly seats or slipping that might put him off? Hope you find a solution your comfortable with, anyway.
Baiyu No I haven't tried a hippichick. I did consider it for a bit with K, but the ringsling did the job back then. I remember being in a museum or at least somewhere you look around and they had hippichicks there for parents to rent while they did the tour- can't remember for the life in me where it was. Possibly a National Trust place? We (ducks) pretended to be my parents for the day somewhere last summer. Not quite our thing, but something different for us all to try- and free.

Well, I seem to head here in times of stress, and I have been very stressed out this week. My best friend came for her 20 week scan this week. Thankfully I wasn't scanning her, as her baby has a congenital defect- a diaphragmatic hernia. They've been to the tertiary referral centre, had the diagnosis confirmed and been given 20% chance of baby's survival. The dad has been on the web and speaking to all the medical folk they know (much more knowledgable than me, and in various countries) and with all this info is gradually getting his head around it- for their exact case, for some things he's found/people he's spoken to, they've been told e.g. in Germany they'd be given 90% survival -WTF?! Thankfully they're both now settled and happy with the decision to continue with the pregnancy, talking to them both earlier in the week was really tough. One talking about baby in 20 weeks, the other talking almost planning a funeral for next week.
I've not been remotely professional with this- so v.v. glad not professionally involved but I've been crying with every patient who's got emotional with me, found anything to do with pregnancy scans very edgy- thank god I've not had to diagnose any abnormalities this week as I would not have been helpful to those parents- an emotional wreck is no help to anyone. I'm starting to get a handle on it, so am able to discuss my friend a bit without crying every time, but I'm appreciating a degree of emotional fitness is required to do my job. I recall being upset easily when I went back after K, and thought I was doing quite well until this.
Sorry, just putting this down is helping me order my thoughts.

mumofkandj · 06/03/2009 22:07

Sorry Baiyu, got sidetracked.A friend made herself one, and it did look comfy to use (her version, that is, I've not seen one in use). Its effectively a bumbag, so my pal made a bag with a bit of padding so biscuits didn't get squashed. I haven't got to the point of wanting to try something like that, but if I did I'd probably try something involving a belt and a towel or something wrapped around first, IFKWIM? That way you can see if that kind of thing is helpful to you, and if it is, then you know what you'd pay for it- not cheap if its not right for you, even on ebay used they're £20.

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Niknak21 · 07/03/2009 07:41

HM that is wonderful news. One of my friends has 15mnths between her 1st and 2nd and loved/loves it (they're 17 and 16 now). Amazed you managed to get so far along again without realising. I was shocked and felt a bit stupid when I found out at 7 weeks with DS1, I thought I was only 3/4wks. Lovely short preganancy. Still don't know what buggy you bought, if it wasn't a Phil and Ted's vibe, you'll need one now!

mumofjandk I also tend to post when stressed, never written one so long as last one, and has lost one a similar length the night before. Although that post was less about the poos in pants, less selfish and notes to particular people . He's not really had any awful incidents with loos. He has slipped in a couple of times, but I've just yanked him out and made a joke of it. He does like me to hold him and he tries to avoid washing his hands by not touching the toilet seat. He is a lazy sod!

Sorry to hear about your friend, since having kids I find it harder to be less emotional with pts. I remember after having DS1 I nearly cried with a sweet little old lady when she told me her lovely 90 odd year old DH had died. He was sooo lovely. But I'm not good with death. It was the reason I didn't want to do medicine (even though my biology teacher told my Mum I should do it), I didn't want to have to tell someone they were going to die. I don't know how I would react to the uncertainty that my child may not make it. They're very brave to continue the pregnancy and I hope they are the 20%.

Fuzzypeach at times over the past year I have had a week at a time when all the focus is his toileting, sometimes wees sometimes poos. He didn't ask to come out of nappies. I decided the time and day so that I didn't have to do it when he was ready which I thought would be when Pond was a few months old, ie last summer. I did say this time last year, he'd be 5 if I waited for him to want to lose the nappy. On day 3 of no nappies I went out to a soft play area and he wet himself 3 times in one hr, I ran out of clean clothes and had to leave him wet in the end .

Anyway, no poos in pants since Wed!! But it just makes me think he's had the upset tummy bug we've all had. DS2 did 6 poos on Wed, most leaked...Normally DS1 can hold in poos for days and we struggle to get him on the toilet. Then it hurts I think so I sit with him and encourage . So it will be a weekend of trying to get him to go I think. Better than cleaning up the poos twice a day (that was Mond and Wed).

Thanks again for support on the poos in pants. It only got to me this week cos it's all we talked about at his 'parents evening' and I was on my own. Having to then repeat what she said when I got home double my angst I think. I also suffer from white coat syndrome so panic when have to take kids. The thought of going to the drs to check out his 'bowel problem' gave me high BP. We'll just have to keep on going with it, positive positive...

DS2 will be potty trained when he asks and I will not feel pressured by anyone, not even myself! I'm hoping with a big bro to idolise he'll want to do it. But I can see me waiting til the summer after his 3rd birthday .

Hope everyone has a good weekend. We have my bro and his wife here and we have blue sky!!! . Must go and wake up the house before it decides to cloud over....

monkeysmama · 07/03/2009 12:11

HM Wow! Congratulations! [blows HM a big kiss] I hope you're feeling great & not too tired. Babies are the best thing in the world (even none sleeping ones!)
MM

monkeysmama · 07/03/2009 12:31

....and just think, this necessitates at least one more pram!

Still-only-1-pram MM

baiyu · 07/03/2009 17:00

mumofjandk that's a brilliant idea! I hadn't thought of making one but will definitely give it a shot!

HM WOW! CONGRATULATIONS! That's wonderful news. I have a friend in the same position, same baby and new bump gap I mean and she's had awful morning sickness but how amazing to have 'skipped' that stage already! How exciting! Are you still moonwalking?!

We have hellish D&V here . Luckily so far DP and I have stayed healthy all the better for the cleaning up! Washing machine was miraculously 'fixed' when the man came to look at it on thurs, did 3 loads feeling like an idiot but now when I have piles of sick covered bedclothes it won't work These things always happen at the weekend!

Niknak21 · 07/03/2009 19:07

It must be going round the country. I felt really ill last weekend, wasn't sick but had the d. DH's best friend had something few days before. DH was off work with it Monday (he never takes time off). DS1 has had the dodgy poos for over a week, and DS2's record was 6 on Wed, mostly like water. Both kids seem better.

AND STOP THE PRESS, we had poo on loo tonight after a couple of tries today, and he even tried to wipe himself where I was feeding baby in the kitchen and left him on loo for about 5 mins (I would normally stay with him for encouragement).

Waiting for babysitter to arrive and going out for cocktails and dinner with Bro and wife. Very exciting! Almost like don't have 2 small children (until woken at 6 tomorrow that is).

Must go and put some make up on so I look like I've tried a bit to get done up

macaco · 07/03/2009 19:32

Oooh sorry to hear about D and V Baiyu and Niknak. hope things settle down soon and hope you don't get ill too. What an arse about the washing machine.

How you feeling haribo? hope all is well with you, have you felt any movements? Don't mean to pry but how did you get so far without knowing?

We've been to a lovely wedding today. We came back early to relieve mum of babysitting duties. We didn't take DS as he has the most dreadful cold. he's quite miserable poor little thing. So we went for a few hours and it was lovely, all outside in beautiful gardens and the weatehr's been gorgeous today.
DH unfortunately overdid the beers a bit and is currently passed out on the sofa.

Haribosmummy · 07/03/2009 21:19

Hi All!

Niknak enjoy your night out!

Baiyu Sorry to hear about the D&V - quite a few friends here have had it too, so it's def. going around the country. Thankfully, DS and I have escaped so far!

Macaco - LOL at your DH. Hope he doesn't have a headache when he wakes!!

I have no clue how I manage to not notice I'm PG.... I simply don't have any symptoms... I haven't put on weight nor do I have (any sort of) a bump... I don't have any sickness (not even first thing), I'm not off any foods, not finding any smells 'particular', have no cravings (other than sweets, but that's a pretty constant craving of mine!!), Boobs aren't swollen / hurting... In fact, the only reason I took a test was because of feeling bloated in the morning (like you'd eaten pasta or curry the night before, IYSWIM) and I was feeling a bit tired (often going to bed as soon as I'd finished my chores after putting DS down)... and an inability to drink alcohol (one or two glasses of wine would have me pretty much passed out!)... they were the symptoms I first went to the Dr with late 2007 (I actually thought I had diabetes!!). I must admit to feeling a bit cos I really thought it was a bit off that the Dr (in 2007) never suspected pregnancy but talking to the Dr. this time, she also wouldn't have considered pregnancy if I'd just talked about feeling tired and a bit bloated... so it's obviously just me

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Niknak21 · 08/03/2009 06:34

Haribo what about periods, are you still getting them? Some of your symptoms are the ones I get cos I'm a knackered Mum of 2! I don't have the energy or inclination to get preggers again.

D and V update in Dorset, DH gave it to the babysitter when she came on Monday, the poor girl's been off work (she works at our nursery) really ill and she's pregnant. She arrived last night at 7.30 after sitting for another child down the road from 9am. She didn't leave ours til well gone 12. Poor thing is knackered from it. I got off lightly! And apparently it's going round the kids in nursery, thankfully I think both LOs have done the D. I can't be doing with clearing up sick...Poos fine, well practised at those

Although I always say we don't do D and V in our house. Can only ever remember DS1 vomiting once when he was 10mnths old. He did it loads through overfilling (on milk and food), in fact it was a sign when he gagged that I should stop shovelling it into him .

Haribosmummy · 08/03/2009 08:08

Haha! Just re-read what I wrote 'finished my chores' - makes me sound like bloody Cinderella, doesn't it???? - YKWIM, though... once I'd sorted the house, made bottles for night / morning etc., I wasn't fit to stay awake!!!
Anyway, no... no periods at all since DS was born....

Niknak - Glad your household has escaped... Poor old babysitter though!

Fuzzypeach - What's the career choice????

Hope everyone is well! I'm afraid DSDs have got action packed days planned, so DH is going to be a taxi service for most of the day - so it looks like DS, DDog and me have (another!!) day to ourselves.

HM x

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Niknak21 · 08/03/2009 17:57

Hangovers in the niknak house today. Got to bed at 1 and woken at 5 for a feed (normally 6ish or even 7 grrr) and 5.20 DS1 came in for me to blow his nose. Tried to go back to sleep but my head was banging. All self induced. But DH was acting like he was dying (twice in one week!)and he'd had more sleep than me and more water before bed.....

HM hope you've had a good day, must be hard when you look forward to a family weekend and DH is family taxi instead. Teenagers, eh? who'd have em! We've got all this to come .

2 days in a row with clean pants and poos on the loo. Hooray! Long may it continue .

luckymummy74 · 08/03/2009 19:23

LOL HM at 'chores'......Cinders! We all have to do them, but it does sound funny putting it like that!! Hee hee!

Had a day at SIL's for neices b'day tea. I did some pass the parcels for the kids as my poor SIL trying to cope with 4 kids (one being a 2 month old baby). DD2 'joined in' the pass the parcel and as I'd put a little packet of buttons in each layer (as I've seen done so assumed it was the done thing nowadays?) DD2 ended up with a packet of buttons. MIL couldn't rip the packet open quiok enough to give them to her, knowing damn well that I don't give them choc at this age. I was fuming, but also kind of thinking, 'oh well, once won't kill her'. Then DD2 spat it out in disgust and wouldn't take anymore from her......ha ha ha!!!!! (strange child...not liking choc buttons!).

AIBU to not want my 10 month old baby to eat chocolate? We didn't give it to DD1 until she was over one year, and then rarely. I just think while I can get away with her not having it, I should? (esp as she has gone from the 50th to 91st centile for weight !!!)

(I wouldn't dare post this in the normal AIBU thread.....can you imagine??!!)

niknak glad you had a poo in the loo.....well, not you, but DS!!!! (although I hope you do yours in the loo..).

shonnomanom · 08/03/2009 19:33

Congrats HM!

My (f)sil had a baby girl yday, v traumatic birth she lost over 2litres of blood. But both are healthy and happy. DN actually looks alot like mine

On the baby front, we'v made a unconcious decision to stop usuing protection. Although dont expect any news from these quarters any time soon. dd was over 3 years in the making iykwim

Thanks for all your concerns re my brother. Their both ok, just a bit of muscular stiffness. But it looks like their travel plans will need to be reassessed as they need to go to court

must dash dd screaming!
sx

luckymummy74 · 08/03/2009 19:39

Forgot to say, flick I think it was you who suggested I read the 'Toddler Taming' book. I got the new version out of the library and I love it !!! It has really helped me deal with DD1 and I can't thank you enough as it really has made a difference. I would highly recommend it to you all (as our babies will all be toddlers soon!!!).

Thanks .

Niknak21 · 09/03/2009 06:33

LM I'm with you on the choc, what is with grandparents and treats?

Although DS2 nearly had a choc button as his 1st solids at 3mnths, DH was giving them to DS1 one by one and absentmindedly tried to pop one in DS2's mouth . It was quite funny at the time though.

I have a (dental) friend who didn't give her DS1 any choc until he was over 2. His 1st was a mars bar given to him by her DP's friend, he ate the whole thing, and loved it! She was surprised it didn't make him sick. Her opinion is don't let them get a taste for it. But my DS1 didn't have any for ages and since the pooing probs he's become an addict, asks for it as soon as he wakes etc, along with his other treat cbeebies .

Clever DD2 for spitting it out though!

shonnomanom hope the SIL recovers quickly. That happened to my friend on New Year's day, her poor DH was in a right state being left holding the baby as she was whisked into theatre. And your bro must be about his travel plans, how annoying on top of the injuries.