December 2008 - Its not wind they are smiling.

[JamInMyWellies]

Here we go ladies Rosmerta suggestion.

Well it looks like the dummy was just what the doctor ordered. He was starting to get grumpy now after his bath as he often does as he is getting overtired he had had enough feed so I popped the dummy in and he's settled, happily to sleep. I cuddled him for a bit as he went off because....well I just love cuddling him but tomorrow I will try putting him down awake. He had quite decent sleeps overnight and today and as a consequence was on fine form when he was awake. He thinks his father is quite hilarious and actually treated us to some giggling sessions. Oh my goodness he made just the cutest little noises when he giggled. I wish I could record them and have them with me all the time. I really must upload some photos onto my profile to show you.

Kayz was thinking about your hungry boy, Rosemerta would know more about this but our ds' were born a day apart and mine has been having a growth spurt do feeding more often so I assume yours is doing the same. I'm not sure what happens with ff or what to do maybe you can feed less amount but more often or just use the hungrier baby formula for a day for the growth spurt. Does anyone else know about this? I'm a little skeptical about the hungrier baby formulas as I think all formula companies are a bit cheeky and want your money but someone else may know if they help in this situation. Maybe you could post a thread on it.

Can I just first say Cat, I think it is sooooo outdated that your DP has to go along with your permission to be allowed to be officially called Dad, surely the use of his sperm a while back did that. Now with the registering it's fine friends of mine completely forgot about registering their 2nd and all that happened is that the office chased them up after a week, no fines or anything.

When DH registered ds2 the nice registrar lady said that soon they will have online registration which will be sooooooo much easier.

I was thinking he may be having a growth spurt Veggie. I do think they have them around 6 weeks.

hello girls
cat - we've got Infant Gaviscon and it seems to be helping with P's reflux. Her voming has calmed down a bit in general and she doesn't seem to get so upset or panicky before she voms - but then again it could just be that she's growing and maturing - who knows?! Anyway - can't remember if you're BF or FF - sorry I have a useless memory - anyway if you're bottle feeding (ff or EBM) you just add the powder to a bottle (quantities are written on sachet) and if BF you can mix it with cooled boiled water and give it via a spoon or syringe after the feed. We use a syringe - Phoebe pulls a face but does swallow it! You can give it 6 times a day - so not with every feed, but TBH I usually give it once or twice a day because I feel mean giving her something that's not milk, even though it's for her own good!

I decided yesterday that I was going to do a bit on the Wii Fit every day, because there are tings I can do even if Phoebe is awake, like Step aerobics. I did 10 minutes yesterday and....none today! That lasted long didn't it?!! Will try again tomorrow!

Veggie - I'm a paeds nurse too (lowly E-grade though! or should I say Band 5) and went back on 3 days a week after having dd1. It was a pain because work would not give me fixed days and nursery couldn't be flexible so I ended up paying for some nursery days that I didn't need etc. I need to go back to work after the summer but now that Lucy is at school it makes things even harder because of the short days! No idea how we're going to manage it! TBH I was do disillusioned with my job before I went on mat leave that I'd quite like to not go back, but finances won't allow that. If I still feel the same after a few months back though I will look at a change - maybe within nursing (school nursing or CAMHS appeal) or maybe out of nursing completely. I need my passion back!

My left nip is really sore It feels like my bra is made of sandpaper! Should probably get some advice from HV or BF person (not sure who!) but I'm such a prude that I don't know if I could reveal my boobarella for them to check my latch!

but...I've finally made a GP appointment about my piles !!! It's on Friday so unless i can come up with another ailment by then, I really have to go through with it!

WG hope you have another good night

my dds are both in bed but dd2 has not fallen asleep yet. She's been there nearly half an hour and is just making squeaky noises! She's had an odd day - has slept lots and vomited loads more than normal and had kind of mucousy poos, so I think she might be a bit out of sorts.

I'm sure there was something else I wanted to say but it's gone. hmm. will no doubt be back in a few mins when I've remembered!

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Evening girls,

Cat, Zoe and others with nap resistent babies - my DD1 only ever napped in the day if she was being pushed in the pram. I do feel for you. For two years I pushed her pram round every lunchtime to get her off to sleep. For the few months I had to keep her moving for the whole nap, then it was just necessary in order to get her to drop-off. The one advantage is I lost a lot of weight and got quite fit.

I know this is going to sound mad... but I think DD2 has a tiny bit of tooth coming through!!! Can that happen at 5 weeks?? There is def something hard and white beginning to poke out of her top gum. Its a tiny shite speck at the moment. I spotted it this morning as I could feel it while BF. Five independent witnesses have confirmed I am not going mad, although none of us can beleive it is a tooth. I cannot think what else it would be though. DD1 was 7 months before she got any teeth at all.

ZJ - how funny that you've done a spread sheet! You're worse than my mum! She prints lists and spread sheets for everything! She's a maths teacher, as is my DH, so I'm surrounded by ordered minds and I think I've inherited it too! Today I made dd1 a chart for her wall with the days of the week, showing what she does on different days because she wakes up every day and says " is it school/ ballet/ church today?", so now she can refer to her chart!

that wasn't the thing I was going to say but I still can't remember what it was!

arti - shite? no idea if that could be a tooth - have never heard of it being so early - my dd1 was all gum until 1 year! Can't think what else it could be though. Hmmm. Interesting!

me again - I've remembered what I was going to say...

some of my friends wake their babies at 10.30ish to feed them so that they wake less over night. Does anyone here do that? Phoebe has been going down about 7 or 8 or 9 and sleeps for 3 hours ish, feeds, then she wakes usually every 2 hours after that until morning. She doesn't feed for very long, and she settles quite quickly afterwards, so it's live-withable, but my friend reckons if I woke her at 10.30 then went to bed myself, that P would sleep longer because she'd be saving her longest stint of sleep till after that (ie 11-2 ish). Not sure that I've explained that very well - but do you think it makes any sense to do that? Part of me thinks it's worth a try, but the other part thinks it's crazy to wake her if she's sleeping! Any thoughts?

the squeaks have stopped so I'm assuming she's asleep now!

Trace - we do that. I think it is known as a dream feed and is advocated by the likes of Gina Ford and others.

DD usually goes down between 7 and 8 and I wake her when I go to bed (at 10 or 10.30pm) for a change and feed. She then usually does her longest stretch of sleep after that change and feed and I can usually avoid feeding her 'til morning.

teeth already?

have updated profile with some new pics - DS2 NOT photogenic so far

bugger not working...

I meant to type that I usually avoid CHANGING her 'til morning. I feed once or twice in the night.

aha!

arti - I read that and thought "WOW - doesn't need a feed till morning!"! I was very impressed - mind you once or twice would be an improvement so maybe I'll do that tonight. Thanks

effie - he's cute! love the pose!

well, hubris has struck. after great night last night, madam is screaming her little lungs out right now. here's hoing that means that she will have tired herself out by 11 and will sleep for most of the night.

also, after i had put her down last night, still awake and upstairs for the first time, you have never seen such anxious parents as dh and i sitting, basically watching the baby monitor in terror and disbelief. we both felt so sad leaving her alone in a dark room by herself, and even though she obviously went to sleep fairly quickly, we were nervous and upset by it. but it is obviously the way to go - we actually had an evening to ourselves. not that we enjoyed it, watching and listening to the monitor the whole time.

ah, here comes dh bringing dd down the stairs - she obviously isn't going to settle. bugger...

Hello Ladies

I've been trying to keep up with the posts but must confess I am doing a horrible job at it.

Things here are going well. DH has been amazing with helping out. Judah has been sleeping and eating well. Still seems to be stuck on his 4 hours schedule which is great! I am still expressing and think I will continue to do so until I can't keep up with him before switching to formula. He's been keeping us entertained with his ability to sound like a grown man farting! I've posted some photos of our little man.

Got some really bad news from a friend yesterday. A few months ago she found out she was pregnant and then miscarried shortly after. The doctors noticed something funny in her blood work and sent her for some tests. They came back and told her that they had found a cancerous tumor on her pancreas and that she needed surgery immediately. When she went in for her pre-op blood work ups they found out she was pregnant again. She ended up having to terminate the pregnancy because she wouldn't be able to wait 9 months to have the baby. Plus the chemo she will have to have would damage the baby. So it's been a rough week for her and her family.

Hope everyone is doing okay. Will try and catch up properly.

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kimberley - how awful for your friend. i am so so sorry - hopefully, though, the surgery and chemo will work and then she and her dp can come back to the idea of pregnancy (if their fertility isn't affected). it does put everything into perspective, doesn't it. i am so so sorry for them and it must also be very hard for you, too. much love all round.

Hello!! Just catching up from Friday!

Rosmerta I'm not bringing DS to the meet up so happy to help entertain your DS...between us we should manage!!! Hope DS had a great party..sorry we couldn't make it but I bet you are glad in a way to keep the numbers down!

Kim That is such awful news. Hope your friend is ok.

Kayz That is such a bummer on the bag! You'd think they'd let you keep it. My friend got 3 range cookers delivered by accident and they only bothered to collect one so she had an extra one! Not quite so easy to make use of though!! I think they Ebay'd it in the end!

Trace Love your story about baby Harry!! That made me laugh! Sort of thing I'd do! And then meet the same person again whilst trying to buy pink clothes!

Arti I work on the Strand...right near the Savoy. I wish I'd logged on Fri night...DH was out too and I had to do bath and bed for the two of them all alone!! It was scary!

ZJ I think you are entitled to ask for flexible working and I think that you should ask for exactly what you want and then be prepared to negotiate a bit. But you might as well ask for everythign to start with as it would be harder if they don't know exactly what you need to make it all work for you.

Sunday was DS birthday too..he was three. We tried to keep it small ()had all the family and a few kids round ...totaling 30 odd people. Ds had the best time. He went for his nap and when he woke the house was turned into SPIDERMANLAND!!! Complete with giant inflatable spider! My brother even dressed up as spiderman and did a guest appearance, waving through the skylight and coming down to deliver a spiderman playsuit! DS was totally taken in by it all and had a fantastic time! That all unfortunatly added up to a very unsettled overhyped nights sleep but DH is on 'big kid duty' so he took the brunt of it!

Part two!!!

Re weight loss, I am still about a stone over pre preg weight but was a bit 'rounded' so could probably do with at least losing a stone and a half. Doesn't help that I still have half a spiderman cake to scoff!

Veggie I know what you mean about the reorganising thing..I think it might be something about control! You can't control the bubba but you can damn well control the state of your knicker drawer!
My house is still in post party chaos. Balloons and plastic spiders every-bloody-where!

WG I'm with you on the monitor staring but not so much this time round. DH and I were obsessed with DS and bought one of those video monitors. We spent all our evenings watching that and not the TV! It will get better ...just think of the old saying 'this too will pass'...its never truer than with tiddlers!

Been ignoring DS (who is quite happy in his muscley spidersuit doing sportacus moves on the living room carpet) so should go and make him some breakfast really.

Take care ....catch up soon!

Morning have not been on all weekend! so will try to catch up but as usual its a tough ask

kim so sorry to hear about your friend. I hope her chemo goes as well for her.

cat & zoe DS seems to hae taken to having very short naps all day long, unless we go out in the car for a drive which seems to send him into deep slumber

Me post alert now....
Have had 2 shocking nights DS cannot shift this cold, is feeding very little so also very often but yesterday he just kept refusing both boob and bottle. Has had a couple of small feed this morning. He has a shocking cough which seems to leave him struggling for breath which is just awful to see. So for the past 2 nights has just been awake nearly all the time as he won't lie flat (have tried to elevate mattress, nno use either).

Last night has just about finished me off. I finally got DS settled, only for DD to wake at 3.30am refusing to go back to sleep. DH was shouting at me to 'sort her out', as he had a busy day at work today and its not like I do anything all day - WTF?? DD only went back to sleep at 5 and then DS woke at 6 and DD up just before 7. Am worried about DS cough and so tired and feeling . Am stuck todayu with noone to watch DD to allow me some sleep.

Just feel crap, DH is a shit and am tired of it being me who constantly does everything for both Am off to try and make breakfast if DS will let me put him down that long....

Kim sorry to hear about your friend. That reallyndoes pit things in perspective.

Oli your ds's spiderman party sounds ace! Can't wait for ds to grow up now so he can have parties like that!

Trace it sounds worth a try re the feed. I know my friend who does gf feeds around then and apparently her dd has started sleeping through at 8 weeks! I am very . Her dd is quite big though so I attribute it to that not gf! My ds tends to feed constantly from 930 til 11 anyway then has a big sleep which is good.

Posting from my iphone experimentally hoping to keep up more by doing little posts from it now and again!

Daisy that is out of order re your dh. I would be expecting an apology if I were you. It mist be stressful trying to get sleep if you have a hard day at work the next day but no excuse - it is also stressful getting no sleep and looking after two kids. I would tell him he is a rude git. Hope your ds is better soon