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LackaDAISYcal · 06/01/2009 23:02

hello

although I'm probably talking to myself.

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LackaDAISYcal · 12/01/2009 21:11

both of my DS's have "big giant heids" jammy. DS1 and I share hats.

you'd think they would move him up fury, if not for the fact that he is physically further ahead of the babies alone. sounds like he could use the mental stimulation of the older children as well though.

Done a quick count of the words DD knows and it's around 100, but she is a sponge, and repeats everything that is said to her. she can also relate abstract things as well. When she got her kedgeree tonight she tried it (first time she'd had it) and said "yum, curry"

DS was the same, and he is on the lower end of average at school so it didn't have any bearing on future abilities in his case!

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MyTakenIdentity · 12/01/2009 21:11

I think that could be true fury. DS1 was quick at talking and stuff, and has always been ahead with his vocabulary and stuff at school (he is an old head on young shoulders actually, and it is a shame watching him regress to being a pre-teen)

jammy, DS2 & 3 have that trouble with tops, DS2 especially as he has massive ears!

JammyQueenOfTheNewYear · 12/01/2009 21:19

Someone tell me I'm just a fretting old worry-gut! I know I shouldn't but I'm comparing DD with what I see and hear of other LOs and am getting myself wound up that she's behind with the walking and the talking. Now I know that she's definitely not ahead in these areas and that's fine but I keep getting nagging doubts that she's waaaaaaaaay behind. It's a cyclic thing, I get het up then calm down and a few weeks later am fretting again. I'm scared to actually ask the HV in case there is a problem, or in case I just get laughed at for being a PFB fusspot . Someone talk some sense to me please!

HellHathNoFury · 12/01/2009 21:21

Well yes, he might be ahead now but also I am very aware it might be a different story come school.

All he ever wants to do is draw, and will spend HOURS drawing pictures of flowers and birds. At least he points to the dot and squiggle and tells me it's a bird. Whatever.

Still, handy for me if I am trying to cook the dinner, at least he is happy and out the way.

He is still settling in at the new nursery - if in a couple of weeks he is still not happy I'll ask him to be moved up. It's just hard to push right now as he is fretting at settling in.

HellHathNoFury · 12/01/2009 21:23

Jammy - if you are worried, talk to the HV. If the HV says no problem, then at least your mind is at rest. If the HV says 'hmm actually yes, you have a point', then at least you are getting it addressed.

The longer you delay asking a 'professional' the longer you have to fret

MyTakenIdentity · 12/01/2009 21:23

Jammy, they do things at their own pace. she is happy and healthy isn't she? (ria is not very good at talking sense, being a fellow fretter) I think (IIRC & IME) with PFB you're wanting them to reach the milestones and make achievements (all part of PFB thingy), but with DS2 (my last, yeah right) I wanted him to stay a baby ... baggins is just plodding along like a true hobbit

DON'T PANIC!!!!

HellHathNoFury · 12/01/2009 21:25

or what ria said!!

My nephew was REALLY slow and only said 2 words until he was 2.5. My older brother refused to walk until he was 2. I think it is less common to be like that, but it's still within the boundaries of 'normal'

not that I am any sort of expert

BumpermightsuetheSindie · 12/01/2009 21:28

Hello, haven't caught up yet. Am in a lovely hotel in London in a hotel dressing grown watching the west wing. No DH, no Baby. Bliss!

And breakfast in peace...ahhhhh.

Hope you are all ok.

MyTakenIdentity · 12/01/2009 21:41

bumper

BumpermightsuetheSindie · 12/01/2009 21:46

As for the talking DD is doing pretty well I think (not sure as I rarely see my mummy friends any more). She says cat, baby, makes a lot of animal noises (recognisible only by us mostly!), if you call her a monkey she says "ooo-eee". She has just started to names parts of her body. After being able to point to her eyes, nose etc. one day she suddenly started saying them, except she accompanies it with pointing, which is fine but she usually leads with eyes!

I think you have to really pay close attention sometimes. I've only just noticed that dummy is num-num, that took a while. Another bizarre one is flower, she calls them 'hahs' we think after the hahoos in ITNG , oh and iggle piggle is 'diddy'. Aside from the actual talking she babbles a lot, very purposely, bless her.

What you have to remember jammy is that for the most part when we say our LOs are saying XXXX what we often mean is they are making a sound recognisible by no-one else that they associate with XXXX!

Defo speak to the HV tho, that's what they are there for. You are not being PFBish at all, neither is it something to panic about.

Sputnik · 12/01/2009 21:47

Bumper.
Try not to worry Jammy, I think language especially develops at different paces. I remember when DD was about 2 comparing her to a friend about 3 or 4 months younger who seemed to have a lot more words. A year later DD was definitely ahead of her and now (at 4) they are more or less the same as far as I can tell.

MyTakenIdentity · 12/01/2009 21:49

I think from what you've said jammy, the jamlet is way ahead of baggins in eating different things and in a nice way. But you should ask your HV if you are worried. (do you have a nice HV?)

BumpermightsuetheSindie · 12/01/2009 21:53

I love this from that site fury 'To sit down on low seat, backs into it.' DD does this and it is so funny to watch!

'Knows what 'NO' means.' This one is interesting too! DD says no quite a lot but if she know what it means she's not giving it away!

Oh and DD also says "isit?" meaning what or where is it? And "eeitis" for here it is!

Sputnik · 12/01/2009 22:19

It's true what you say about paying attention Bumper. I just noticed today a couple of times he was trying to copy the last sound of sentences he hears. Then I saw it mentioned on that list of Fury's. Anyway, who knows how long he's actually been doing it before I noticed!

BumpermightsuetheSindie · 12/01/2009 22:33

Neglected second child sputnik?

Jammy, this thread might be reassuring especially hazyjane's 21:56 post.

I tell you what is annoying me about DD at the moment, every we do something nice like play ring-a-ring-a-roses, read her favourite book (a soft book with a teddy that you take out and do an night time routine with), sit on the trunk at the window, when I inevitably want to stop she has a big strop. Makes me not want to do these nice things with her. Any advice?

BumpermightsuetheSindie · 12/01/2009 22:36

Oh and in response to what ria said about eating, DD is a fussy buggger. They promised me BLW would make her non fussy! They lied! She would happy live on tomatoes, satsumas and lasagne!

Sputnik · 12/01/2009 22:44

Bumper, you've no idea how happy that makes me
Seriously though, both mine seemed to get fussier at this age.

LackaDAISYcal · 12/01/2009 22:47

oh, god jammy, didn't want to worry anyone .

some of her words are crystal clear, but she says eenins for raisins amongst other things. I'm sure most of them are illegible to anyone not with her a lot and seem like babble.

In fact we used to pride ourself in DSs abilities and I was watching back some video footage taken on his second birthday and it sounded barely legible to me now, but at the time we thought he was a child genius.

and as i said in my earlier post; it's no indication of future abilities. I didn't talk till I was three...though to hear me now you'd never believe it!!!

distraction techniques and bribery bumper...tis the only way

DD does this as well and it's bloody infuriating, but like all things it's a phase and will pass!

off to bed for hopefully a decent stretch; DH is armed with some ebm.

of your night bumper...I hope you are raiding the minibar!

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BumpermightsuetheSindie · 12/01/2009 23:03

Right off to bed, and I get to wake up without the alarm call of DD! Although I expect I will be woken up by corporate flunkeys.

Night all x

JammyQueenOfTheNewYear · 13/01/2009 07:30

Thanks ladies for your support. I had actually read that thread Bumper and tbh it was reading behaviour/development threads last night that got me wound up even more, which is why I turned to you guys for sensible advice

It doesn't help that I was rowing with DH last night which made me feel very emotional and that I've got my "period". Such as it is - the teeniest tiniest amount of blood (imagine Mrs Pontipine having a period ) lasting just 3 days but regularly, every 4 weeks.

LittleMissNorty · 13/01/2009 08:25

Morning

Jammy, please don't worry....I feel exactly the same as you about DDs talking and purposfully don't do or discuss any developmental stuff as far as I can on MN as other people always make me worry. I also work with someone whose DC is 2 months younger than DD and am regularly told DD can do this, do that, say this and that.....and I just keep quiet because I end up being made to feel that my child is backward in some way as I can't respond saying oh well, my DC done that ages* ago......I see plenty of at the swings as well.

I still remember my 10 month HV check when she said to me "What do you mean she isn't waving or clapping?" I was in tears when she left and two weeks later, she was waving and clapping no problem . But that link that Fury put up made me feel much better as she hits every one of the those boxes more or less. I think Bumper was spot on when she said very often its a parents perception of speech (or any other developmental milestone).....makes sense to the parent but no sense to anyone else.

Children always catch up....and as Daisy said, has little bearing on future abilities.

All that said, it is important to pick up on areas where there really is a problem....but it doesn't seem any of us are there....

Don't you just hate competitive parenting....my nephew is 9 months older than DD and I have found watching his developement quietly from a distance a real yard stick and very useful.

Oh and to break my own rule, my DDs talking is very poor.....despite hours of encouragement and reading from us....but I don't think there is a problem.......

JammyQueenOfTheNewYear · 13/01/2009 08:38

Before I start work - Bumper hope you had a fab night's sleep and enjoyed your relaxed (ie no DD) start to the day!

I think you are all right and that she is within "normal" progress (if towards the slower end) but I will speak to a HV, if only so that I don't beat myself up endlessly in the future on the offchance that there is any problem.

OK, I'd better get to it. Those sewers don't model themselves you know!

LittleMissNorty · 13/01/2009 09:12

Awww my friend who was coming round for lunch today with her DD isn't well and can't come.....don't know what to do now....really should try and get out of the house...

FrazzledFairyFay · 13/01/2009 09:58

Good morning everyone.

I know what you mean Norty, I really should go out, but am tempted to sit here vegetate instead. DS seems quite happy destroying playing with DD's toys while she's at nursery, so I might sneak in a bit of morning tv

FrazzledFairyFay · 13/01/2009 09:58

And I don't even have the excuse of being pg

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