August 2008 - The One where Sazzles was missing so this is what we got!

[oopsacoconut]

I can't do the list sazzles will have to do it when she is back!

VG absolutely nobody on here thinks you are VGHack at all

if anyone else was on asking advice re their work we'd help them too - just in same way nobody thinks Miamla is shoving slings down our throats or that I'm trying to make you all observe the speed limit or that am going to demand Sazzles digs me out of my financial pit although would be grateful if she could

actually would also love TS to organise my life and be a personal trainer too

right so onwards and upwards - shitey night here with Dylan and she bit me [meep]

DD1 at icerink school, DD2 at nursery for a random day and Dylan sleeping so am only on for a decent slow cooker recipe please then I have to tackle the house

thanks rotter vg I dont think you are vghack either
I am sorry to have rambled on, maybe should have kept my mouth shut/ or hands tied iykwim.
dizzy at Dylan biting you. Marcus sqeezes with his gums not nice at all.
Rough night here again. Tried not to feed him when he woke but gave in and he ate like he was starving. 4 times. DD up twice took 2 hours to settle. [very tired emoticon]
got pile of ironing and Marcus last set of jabs today.

I really wish I could have come to bristol and I really wish I could come to London. Train journeys are 3 hours each way - prob quicker to drive but then there is no guarantee I could keep my eyes open! Planes don't seem to fly east mids to London Bugger.

O woke up 3 times to be fed last night - I am now convinced he is feeding to settle himself, or just not drinking enough during the day. So, I will now resort to what I did with ds1, which is to refuse him a feed when he wakes and listen to him scream for an hour gently rock him back to sleep. It took ds1 2 nights to realise he wasn't getting any and to give it up (he was 10.5 mo), first night he screamed for an hour, second night he cried for 40 mins, 3rd night he whimpered for 20 mins. I am hoping O will take less time given that he is a little bit younger but 2 nights is ok

vg I travelled yesterday via tube and there was ALWAYS a helpful man or lady about to help - Londoners have a reputation of being aloof but if you have a baby, they are more than willing to help in my experience also miamla managed beautifully sans pushchair, is this viable for you?

dizzy at bite

gotta go, ds shouting the place down cos he wouldnt have his morning nap

dizzy I use my slow cooker a lot for
Chilli
Beef/brisket
Curry
Stew casserole type
hash/ash (sp?)
I am going to try some rice pudding too.

Also I made Polenta last night.(not in slow cooker) Never had it before it was very nice.

CC are you nearer to Fife

VG her bottom two have been through for a while and her top two (which look MASSIVE to me [hmm) are literally just about to cut and I think they're really bothering her - she's had some calpol this morning

No1 I have 1kg diced stew, carrots, button mushrooms and some onions - what am I doing with that then

I once made fresh strawberry and polenta cupcakes and they were fecking delicious

dizzy I might be up in lanarkshire again later this year, so if that happens I'd love to meet you and poppy.

oohh I have family in south lanarkshire, Hamilton and EK way - a very roughly detailed date Ann!!

did I miss how the chat went last night?

No1 I forgot to say, if you do decide to come (go on you know you want to!), you should book the destination as London Zone 1 because this will give you tube to Waterloo too.

Only just had breakfast, but the food talk is making me hungry, especially VG's shoulder of lamb. Did anyone see Celeb Come Dine With Me last night? My god Lesley Joseph's dinner was a disaster!

I saw it rotter - was cringing when she came marching through in that dress from birds of a feather and when she was showing off all sleb photos - really are dredging the bottom for the Z list contestants now aren't they?!?

dizzy just throw it all in add alittle water and some gravy granules or beef/veg stock.
Make sure you use boiled water. If near end of cooking time you find its no thick enough add bit of cornflour too thicken. Or I usually add more gravy granules.
You could brown the meat off first if you want, but I never do. Being a lazy slattern and all

Thanks rotter

Also could season with salt and pepper.i also put frozen peas in,broccoli etc...
anything goes really.

Well chat last night went ok. I told him that I don't get enough support. I do all the night wakings look after little man all week with no help, look forward to the weekend because I'll have him home, and then he just lies in bed for ages, then immerses himself in the internet, and I'm STILL looking after Seb by myself. He said he's so wiped out by the week that he just needs to unwind. I pointedout that I never get time to unwind I get no respite, no break whatsoever.. Said I need him to sactually be there for me at the weekend, as how does he expect me to stay calm when I can never have relaxed time.

We agreed that I'll try keep my temper under control during the week, and he'll make more effort at the weekend. I'm a bit about that, as I'm not sure his promise will stand up to the comfort of a warm bed on sat morning. I remember all too well what happened to his promise to help over the christmas break.

Ack I killed the thread.

ah ann I really feel for you. I am glad you managed to get it off your chest and tell him how you feel though. I hope he keeps to his promise this time too.
My dh at least realizes when he goes to work he is actually getting a break. He appreciates I don't get one and although he doesn't 'do' anything with ds, he is great with dd and does everything most things around the house.
If I was left to do everything I would feel like you too.

lol I thought I had killed it
I meant to say dh says himself he knows going to work is easier.iykwim

I don't think DP really appreciates how wearing it is. It's just the relentlessness of it. Never getting a break. And then at the weekend, watching him lie in relax etc, and I can't. He gets angry with me for getting frustrated at night. But last week, there was only one night that I didn't have to stay up with little man. Then the crappo weekend where he just lay in and I had to keep on going, and then monday night I just couldn't take it and I lost my temper. He forgets that there are many nights when I DON'T lose my rag despite getting no rest.
I just wander why he's gone from being caring, considerate, understanding, thoughtful etc, to just ignoring me, not bothering to comfort me if I'm upset, saying hurtful things to me etc. He was not like that before.

right, have just spent half and hour online trying to get our flights changed till the end of the year only for it to eventually come up with a message saying that they can't do it online

WHY NOT MENTION THAT IN THE FECKING FIRST PLACE?!?!?!?!?!?

arrgghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh [idiots wasting all my time stupid feckers emoticon]

deep breath. off to soothe myself by cooking something

Anyway, I should stop whinging now.

apologies for outburst

Ann glad you had a chance to talk, I tend to rant a LOT in the house (you may well be able to imagine that) and sometimes DH just looks at me like but every now and then he shows me what a true star he is and I let him away with murder for another few weeks - just keep talking, don't let it all bubble up - you're doing a terrific job and if you need to vent we're here to help

no1 am off to slow cook - wish me luck

oh oh and I managed to get us tickets for Scotland Ireland rugby match at murrayfield which is V exciting

so sambo, i forgot to ask you as well..... where did you get the "303" from?

VG, what time are your flights on the 27th? are you staying over? Oh and worry not about being VGhack, you'll always be VGcrazy to me

my reply above was a page behind!

dizz... but i am trying to shove slings down your throats!

vg, i've done london with pushchair and without.
With the pushchair, i assumed that nobody would help so i was ready with DS in sling and just bumped the pushchair either up or down the steps. 9 times out of 10 somebody has offered to help (Even with someone helping i was still happier having DS in sling in case they dropped pushchair. this maybe pfb though!)
Without the pushchair is a breeze when you're travelling but obviously you have to carry him all day. I've found people are more willing to offer me their seat if he's in the sling but this won't be so bad for you unless you're travelling in rushhour.
if i'm shopping, i always take pushchair. its a place to stash the bags and it acts like a barrier between me and crowds (when DS is in the sling). Barrier only really needed if you're planning on visiting Oxford Street

ann, your DP is acting how mine was ie having lie-ins at the weekend. we had a chat and we realised it was a lack of communication causing the problem. he was more than happy to look after DS but was waiting for me to ask. i pointed out i shouldn't have to ask! he saw the light and now, mostly, makes a big effort to get up alot earlier.
Keep talking to him. and then talk to him some more and when you're finished...have another chat

Miamla can we attempt to travel in together for the meet up? Cld meet either at l'stone or at one of our houses/stations? Am starting to panic - dh, dd and i went inot lOndon on sat and we managed pushchair between us but i can't do it one my own. Take my m and p rather than my silver cross but am wondering if i need a(nother) maclaren for such times (have a triumph but too unsupportive for ds - dd wasn't it in til she was 2).

ann so glad you had the chat. If i were you i'd gently, calmly remind dp on ftri night about saturday. One good idea is get dp to have ds for a couple of hours and you go out ALONE for a HOT coffee and a read of your book/heat. I lvoe to do that! Recharges those batteries!

dizzy - wondering if your ranting is as bad as mine . I can get a bit wild and irrational .

I need help with my ring sling. Is anyone comeing to the meet that KNOWS these things? Otherwise may sell it (anyone want it?)

My wraps are too saggy with heifer ds. Need to get us both used to the connecta more. Otherwise might look into a mei tei (is that what you made miamla?)

albs course we can! i'll fb you and we can sort out details

re slings.. i'm sure i can help you sort your ring sling out but if you really do want a new one i know a great place to get a new mei tai (Its ok, i'll stop trying to promote them now!)

ann albs' idea about going out is a great one, even if you only go for a walk round the block.