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April 2008 - the one where we have to babyproof everything!

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EllieG · 03/01/2009 08:58

Am I first? Couldn't think of what to call it....

VS - I think she is hungrier, yes, I tried giving more milk, which helped, but then yesterday she spurned more milk for more food (I guess she can't take both) and she did sleep better last night. Woke once at 5.30 for drink water and then 6.30 properly. She is never hungry for her breakfast til about 8 though - does anyone else have this? Should I stop giving a ten o clock feed?

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EllieG · 04/01/2009 21:10

I think it must have been as my friend is the local NCT chair. It was a nice and friendly leaflet, which made me feel a bit happy. I have felt a bit weird about it lately, a friend has just had a baby, and seeing her go through it all has been strange for me - she got some really bad advice, and then luckily got a midwife who knew what he was talking about in hospital and really helped her, and she has managed to properly bf. I found myself feeling really so sad and angry about it all over again, silly really. Am fine now, I really am, just had a silly wobble about it.

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LadyBee · 04/01/2009 22:10

Ellie, I find myself still having wobbles about lots of things about the early days, it's such an intense time and we're so vulnerable.
It must have reinforced what might have been for you, to see your friend get good advice and manage to get past her problems. Nice for her, but hard for you.

SOoooo, this is my last evening before I go back to work. It's a very odd feeling - I keep looking around the house thinking, BabyBee won't be playing here tomorrow...I won't be changing his nappy and putting him down for his nap...someone else will give him lunch. Hey ho, several of you have already done this and survived so I expect I (we) will too.

chipmonkey · 04/01/2009 22:45

No hope for me! I am on dc4 and still have wobbles!

MadameOvary · 05/01/2009 00:22

Thanks for letting me in on your routines everyone. I must admit I feel pretty hopeless as she wont sleep through, have I been too indulgent? Am rubbish at just leaving without a backward glance.
Thing is, there is no point in putting her down if she is windy/uncomfortable, she will not go to sleep and we both get stressed, so I do what's necessary to calm her and get her back to sleep.

Ellie you've had some good support here. You know that wobbles are not silly at ALL.

Ladybee - let us know how you get on - I would feel the same but think of Babybee's face light up when he sees you.

scorpio1 · 05/01/2009 10:33

Ellie - you did fabby. That reasons to be proud list is really good

Ladybee - i hope your day goes well! You will be fine, so will B

Dondons - Nope, i just know its 12 months and thats what i have always done. Not very long to go, now. Are you fully FF? Apparently there is a scheme (Healthy Start)where you can get vouchers for baby milk, veg etc.

Goodness me, i have wobbles too!

scorpio1 · 05/01/2009 10:34

MO - you will find something that works for you as well as E. Agree totally on putting down comfy - dry, fed, warm, non-windy, etc. otherwise pointless!

DonDons · 05/01/2009 13:22

Scorpio - yep - finished BF at about 6.5 months so fully FF for 3 meals a day but she is also having 3 proper meals.

It's not an expense issue - I was just wondering really - I assumed that formula until 12 months was due to formula having vitamins etc added to compensate for not having balanced meals etc - which as A is having (and some of which include cow's milk anyway) - I therefore wondered if she still needed the formula.

scorpio1 · 05/01/2009 14:35

Hope i didnt offend suggesting those vouchers - just my BF person mentioned them to me the other day - we cant have them but thought worth a mention on here for anyone

Yep, i think it must be a nutrition optimum thing, becasue as you said, they can and do have it in foods, sauces, etc.

chipmonkey · 05/01/2009 14:54

I think cows milk lacks iron amongst other things and it is probably assumed that babies that age won't be having iron-rich foods. But I do sometimes wonder whether it is just very successful marketing on the part of formula companies. Particularly now that they have invented all these "growing up milks" for toddlers as well which are completely unnecessary IMO.

DonDons · 05/01/2009 17:23

no - no offense taken at all scorpio! was just trying to explain myself. I think that you may have a point chipmonkey

VSisFlouncing · 05/01/2009 19:16

It's down to vitamins apparently. If your child is having a fully balanced diet and has no dairy intolerances then cows milk should be fine.

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EllieG · 05/01/2009 19:24

How was your first day at work ladybee? Are you back full time? How was babybee?

Does that mean DD can have straight cows milk? She gets a very balanced diet with loads of everything she needs and appears not to be allergic or intolerant to anything.

[Shameless mummy boast] She had lamb and sweet potato curry for tea, and 'twas quite spicy and she loved it! Clearly she has a very developed palate and is going to be a gastronome.

Thanks for nice words people, what would I do without you people?

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scorpio1 · 05/01/2009 19:28

ooh ellie did you make it? Sounds lovely! We had quiche, wedges and salady stuff.

It's my wedding anniversary 2 weeks today. Think we may go to that same restaurant we went to for dhs bday again, and i think he wants a new watch for his present. Naturally, I'm getting diamonds Had a little cry last night over all that nasty business a couple of months ago - but maybe feeling that anniversary is a date i can use to look forward from. Feeling less shit about it as time goes on.

Everyone back to school etc today. I missed them it was so quiet. dh back to training, and is going to Thailand to train in April. (NOT over Mimi's bday i add)

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EllieG · 05/01/2009 19:32

I did and was yummy. Adapted a Nigella recipe which used honey and put in some stewed dried apricots as the sweetening thing instead. Was totally yummy if I do say so myself and I am feeling v full now.

Am I allowed to give her oranges etc now? She was eying up my clementine and I gave her some, which caused much lip-smacking and mmm mmm noises but wasn't sure if strictly allowed.

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VSisFlouncing · 05/01/2009 19:52

She is allowed anything except honey, or nuts if there are allergies in the family.

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EllieG · 05/01/2009 19:55

Coolio. Though the jury is apparently out on honey - I asked about it on a thread last night and there is an interesting article I will find for you which says might not be a thing to avoid. But I do cos am too wussy to take risks.

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EllieG · 05/01/2009 19:56

here 'tis

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chipmonkey · 05/01/2009 20:08

Good article Ellie but might the fact that the author is called Bee not bias them in favour of honey?

LadyBee · 05/01/2009 20:21

That is an interesting article...no relation by the way
My DP was asking why no honey just the other day and I had to confess to not knowing. I still probably won't give it, but won't be too worried about it if I discover it as a hidden ingredient.

I went to work today, and it was ok. And Benedict went to his childminder and was perfect. Of course . There wasn't any lighting up face when I got him though, more a very tired stare and then slow dawning recognition "...who are you again? oh yeahhhhh....yeah, I remember you....I think". Hmmm, not exactly the reception I was expecting but better than howls of protest . He was very tired, did have a nap in the morning but none in the afternoon, so dropped off as I was taking him home. I then had a small dilemna about what to do, but we muddled through with me sort of dream-feeding him a bit, then he woke up enough to bath and then we did book, feed again and into the bed fairly easily.

I'm working Monday, Tuesday, Thursday (at home), Friday. So we get Wednesday together and Thursday it's an easier day as don't have to commute in. I think it'll be ok, but am having to be more organised than I've ever been in my life to get out the door with everything I need in time. It's character building, right?

chipmonkey · 05/01/2009 20:26

harry is trying to crawl but is going around like a compass, his feet are exactly as they were but his head is going around in circles! Is that OK? Don't think the others did that.

VSisFlouncing · 05/01/2009 20:33

I personally don't really 'avoid' honey. The risk of botulism is so tiny, but it's one I'll always reel out if asked.

LadyBee · 05/01/2009 22:06

poor circular Harry - I have no idea really, but surely he'll work out how to coordinate front and back eventually. It took B a while to get all limbs working together..it's a complicated business after all...

My ears hurt. I can't believe I've been cold free for three months and the day I go back to work I can feel one coming on.

chipmonkey · 05/01/2009 23:43

LAdyBee, that happens to me every time I go back to work after ML! I think the stress of going back brings it on with me. I remember crying in my GPs surgery the first week I went back after having ds1 because I was sick, he was sick and I was sure my boss would go mad. As it happened he was actually very nice about it.

MommyHasaHeadache · 06/01/2009 10:24

Hello all - Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year (belated!) Hope you all had good festive seasons!

Well things have certainly changed in the MHAH household! Gigi is now sleeping through and has been for a while now! It was easy once I figured out what to do - a bit of CC and ensuring that she eats enough during the day. We are on 3 bottles and 3 meals a day here too. What a difference sleeping through makes!! I feel like a new person! She is just about to start crawling - up on all fours and waggles her bum around and kind of shifts backwards! SO cute to watch! Now sleeps on her tummy - freaked me out to begin with but she is fine and seems really comfy - have to admit that's my comfy sleeping position too.

I absolutely dread having to look for a new job and going back to work. I pray everyday that somehow we will find the money for me to be able to stay at home. I almost cry thinking about it. The whole organisational thing throws me too - I am SO crap in the mornings - so like you say LadyBee - this will be character building!

scorpio1 · 06/01/2009 12:39

Hi MHaH Good on the sleeping thing! Are you claiming tax credits, child benefit...all that? Could you maybe make an appt at the jobcentre/CAB to see if you can get any housing benefit, extra money to help you stay at home, or work less?

I'm waiting for the carpet people. So far, all morning. Everyone is at school/nursery, i could have gone out! What's the betting they come when i go to get Mimi in a bit, lol.