November 2008 - Cooing babies, tired ladies

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now I'm off to catch up.

Ceebee x posts there. Jay has his on thurs too - Or does he?? 3rd time lucky perhaps!
I'm not bringing DS1 with me next week, Much as I love him its easier when he is not there - How awful of me!

I have to go. Go and pick up Max. He has been with my sil last night and the night before.
You would think that the sleep would do me good, but I feel worse.

obs - oh my, oh my...Has this ever happened before? As ceebee says, is this a shock tactic?
You sound awfully calm about this. I'm sure you're not feeling calm inside.

rutho well done Fin!! What a star!!
Plum also slept 8 hours, from 8:30pm - 4:30am, then went back to sleep (eventually!) as she was giggling in her bed. And now we've overslept (Oh Gina would be SO disappointed). But hey ho. I'm just thrilled this is the second night on the trot she's slept an 8-hour stint or longer.

mummynic this must be incredibly stressful for you. Do you have any chums who work in HR? You could do with some advice here lady.

Hope everyone else has a good Friday.

Obs I am really sorry to hear that, I so hope that you can talk and things become easier for you soon. X

Monkey LOL Margot and the Giant Plum! Becca seems to be a dot compared to some of the weights and she has dropped to the 25th centile so I am hopng when we go in a few weeks she may have picked up a bit, she is BF but feeds plenty

Rutho Looks like you were running a few minutes behind wiht your routine, 8.09 shower and you posted at 8.12

Well I have treated myself . . . . to a Medla electric Breast pump, Ew Er! Just figured it was going well and the one I got is shite. I know the medla is supposed to be noisey but its got to be better than the one I had!

I feel very low at the moment and am trying to get myself out of it, I am recognsing the signs of PND. I am going to go for a nice walk to town, try on some jeans, look at clothes,buy healthy lunch from M&S, then walk back up the bug hill and -collapse- do some housework.

Mummynic sorry about work issues, I know how you feel as I am waiting for my union to some back to me about my problems.

Vbab That buggy (Aria) you linked to says suitable from birth so surely A would be ok in it on holiday, you could perhaps pad it out with a nice blanket.

bug - Big hill

Obs OMG, dunno what to say, hon. Big big hugs. And after all you've been through together, how awful. More hugs.

Why is there no magic wand?

Monkey, b*gger Ford, the woman is a nutter. I have never been able to keep to a timetable in my life (is hard as I am a teacher) so why the hell should my 9 week old son? Plus, DH is WORSE than me. We had a talk last night too, along the lines of "get busy living or get busy dying" and "this is not a rehearsal" and "this ship is now under the command of Captain Saurus, you scurvy dogs - now wash up the tea things!". DH v sheepish and I think tbh we ALL need a bit more structure in our lives, not just Fin.

So we are going to do the routine of up by 7.30 and in bed by 8 as a goal and not get stressed if it gets later. Plus, I am going back to work in June and need to get my head round getting Fin to nursery by 8...

PS, Monkey, is that true about GF? You know, the hair etc? . There is a God!

Hi Coolkat, sorry to ehar you're feeling crappy - are you sure about the buying jeans? If so, try on the size bigger than you think you need first. I got really sad trying on tops in Next 2 weeks after Fin was born cos I was trying on my old size and got down about new flabby tummy... Yay on the walk, though - I'm going for one in a bit as it's a horrible grey day out here and I feel the need for a bit of fresh air. Hope you feel less down after your excursion.

Am I mad trying to sand the bathroom door today? I am going to try and get a mate over to sit with Fin while I do it, but I have to get it done before tomorrow or I will actually die of irritation.

Union man rang me - said not to worry - we'll sort it. He thinks they MUST give me a part time job - but the law doesn't say that....

Anyway, I emailed LM with the direct question of - can you out it in writing that you WILL find me a part time job. No messing, not avcoidable. I look forward to his reply.........

God why do they do this when I'm meant to be enjoying my baby. I should sue for stress regardless - it is unacceptable to mess people around like this!!!!

Oh, Obs

Does he really mean that or is it just a reaction to everything that has been going on. I hope that it's just a blip and that you can talk it out. Can you get someone to look after the kids and then the two of you go out somewhere neutral so you can have a good chat? Also, he has a responsibility to you and the boys and surely can't leave you in the lurch with a toddelr, a newborn and problematic diabetes . You've got my number if you want to rant talk.

MummyNic, are there any other jobshares going on? if there are and they refuse to let you share yours then that wuld be grounds for a sex discrimination case I think. I hope things get sorted; as you so rightly say you don't really need this sh1t at the minute.

the sun is trying to shine here! We've been to stay and play this morning and chatted juanita and with lots of other lovely mums and babies. Will get out for a walk this afternoon I think before the school run; and try to avoid sweets and chocolate at all costs.

woohoo for sleeping babies, bumble is getting better; he was settled in bed by midnight last night....that's an hour and half improvement on last week so at this rate he should be settled in bed at seven in a few more weeks

hugs again to obs xx

Obs what a complete bugg*r for you I hope that things get sorted out - its a stressful time with a LO and this is just what you do not need.
Lacks well done on avoiding sweet thinsg and all the exercise I do lots of walking anyway but it makes no difference to me at all weight wise I need to do a food cut back and just planning meals for dh and dd1 is bad enough ( 2 fussy eaters !)
I am watching a M&P reversible pushchair on ebay I have just seen it and am so tempted but it expires in 44 mins and I can't get hold of dh should I souldn't I ....We have too many as it is but I do so want a reversible one ......

Really sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time Obs. Having a newborn is hard at the best of times, and it seems like these aren't the best of times for you. Hope things look up for you very soon.

Thanks for the tip on the aria pushchair from Argos, vbab. I have just reserved one from my local Argos, picking it up next week. I'm getting it for my mum and dad - they wanted to be able to take P out when we go to visit, but didn't want to spend a fortune, so this seems perfect!!

P has a bit of a cold today - no major drama, I know he's ok and that babies get colds, fact of life. But it doesn't half make him grumpy!! I feel dead sorry for him as all the snot pours out of him, wish he could blow his nose!!

We have made a no visitors rule this weekend - ever since P was born, people have been coming to visit (which means we have got some lovely pressies!!), but it means we don't spend much time together as a family, just the 3 of us........is anybody else finding this? I suppose it's cos he's our first - people probably won't be so interested second time round!!

Oblomov that is teribly sad news. Is he scared by all the stress? I do hope he's just having a big wobble and you can sort thing out between you. big un-mnety Please look after yourself.x

Imi seems to be changing her sleep pattern- woke up for a look around at 11:30 but went back to sleep without a murmur, then woke at 2pm for a feed then back to sleep til 7am. So she may be adjusting to 1 2am feed in the night, which would be fabby.

coolkat hope you feel happier for your trip out. I agree that getting out ofn the house is great for cheering yourself up, but do ask for help if you neeed it. Get me, never used to go to the gp for anything, can't believe I asked for counselling!!

mummynic I do hope you get your job sorted. I was 'let go' for having the audacity to get PG again with my second- but freelancers have no employment rights, obviously. What I hate is they excuses they find for doing it- they made me feel I was crap at my job, which was uncalled for, and I know I was very good at it.

Hey Rutho where you up to with the routine? GF is the one who tells you when to go to the loo etc. isn't she?

monkey bless your little plum pudding!

Rosa did you get the buggy? I have a few too many prams too but I'm selling the micralite with carrycot when Imi outgrows it.

I love having a parent-facing pram again- it makes long trips so much more enjoyable for us.

The parent facing option for the iCany pear is about it's only redeeming feature! DD and I had a lovely time chatting away to each other when we were out and about the other day.

I saw someone round here with one, she had twin toddlers facing her in pushcair seats, But what I can't get over is that the single pushcair is a good 3 kilos heavier than the P&T with double seat- how did they manage that??

Oh lordy I need to get the girls up to fetch DS!!

The pear weighs a tonne....about 16 kg. V hard going uphill i can tell you! the frame is very solid.

of all the doubles I've been testing, my fave is.........

MY phil and teds!!

Not a peep back from LM yet.....

Afternoon ladies

Thanks for the warm welcome back.

As everyone here resumed 'relations' with their DPs? We haven't gone the whole hog as there never seems to be a convenient time and DH is making me feel very bad about it. I can't be the only one, can I?

Rosa did you get your M&P which one was it?
I finally badgered DH into agreeing to get a loola, it is quite heavy but like you all say I love having it parent facing which is why I wanted to change. On the down side I promised to sell my beloved pramette when Jay is too big for the pram part.

I have just booked the church for Jays christening!
DHs family traditionally have big christenings so it will take some organising and has to be when Jay is small enough to fit the 'family gown'.
On the up side though we are having him christened as we did DS1 in my old church where my lovely mum was sunday school teacher and the font is a beautiful blue glass handblown one which is a memorial to her. Its lovely that she can still be involved in some way and to me makes it a bit more special. So Feb 15th is christening day

Betti you are not the only one no action here as yet either. DH is not impressed

no full on action here either rosa. My DH doesn't dare give me a hard time about it (he knows there's no point). He keeps wittering on about blowjobs though, which I steadfastly ignore

it's been said, but so hard keeping up with this thread! have done my best to skim the last 20 pages or so now that we are back home and have regular internet access (how on earth did we cope before the internet?!)

anyways...some input from me. firstly, hugs to all those having problems with other halves, family etc. can't really add anything wise or insightful but my thoughts are with you.

there was some chat about flying to Australia...I think...anyway, having just flown Thai on the way over and Singapore on the way back, can highly recommend Singapore. for a start, the bassinets are WAY better and hold up to 14kgs whereas Thai bassinets only hold up to 10kg and 67cm length (M was touching the end at 6 weeks old!!! ridiculous) Singapore bassinets much longer. Singapore flight attendants very good and Singapore airport better than Bangkok - nice big parents rooms at Singapore whereas Bangkok just had the fold down changing tables. Singapore airport also has a hotel in the terminals for transit passengers so if your stopover is long, you can get a room for relatively cheap (although 6hrs is minimum). other major stopover to Australia is Hong Kong but haven't been through that airport in a while...

on jeans, I do love New Look (got most of my maternity jeans/trousers from there) but can also recommend Uniqlo - higher waists also and good japanese denim for 25 quid - not quite the tenner of the hula jeans, but not bad!

on sizes...there was a bit of talk about the size of babies (esp feet!), but I think half the problem is baby clothes. i have 2 things from the same shop which are labelled the same size but are completely different sizes! and i have a bunch of things where the feet are way too small but the sleeves hang over the tips of M's fingers! where are these odd sized babies with really long arms and teeny feet?? anyway...my point is that the sizing seems so arbitrary that a baby's size depends on what brand they are wearing! (on while i'm on this rant, how much do you hate it when someone says 'oooh, isn't he big/small for 10 weeks!' - SO annoying).

right, enough from me. except, so of those with babies sleeping through! M sleeping 5 and 6 hours from 7pm, but after that will be up at least another 2 times. hopefully now that we're home can get this sorted!

I missed it as the phone rang - I was bidding in the last 5 mins and I would have gone 2 Euro more than what it sold for Also dh had too many things open so computer was a bit slow- am a bit annoyed as they sell for double. I was after
rosas missed buggy
I need a light but sturdy one that can be dragged up bridges . They get hammered here and have found that M&P ( Peg) are some of the best !
relations ...mmmmmm oh yes every night and twice !!

buzz, sorry your mum won't be there, but it is lovely that a part of her lives on in the glass font. Sounds lovely

I lost my mum last year and it was really emotional when DS was born, knowing that she never met him (she did predicted another baby, and a boy at that when she was really poorly and we all went and thought she was just getting confused)

Betti no action here either!