December 2006 - Terrible Two's here we come!

[Olihan]

Here we go. I thought the title was apt as ds2 has morhed into a stroppy little horror overnight. His favourite expression at the moment is 'I cwoss with you, I sceam at you AAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH' .

Happy Birthday ToddlerJabber and ToddlerEli .

DD is poorly again. I swear every bug in the vicinity has some kind of magnetic attraction to her . She has a bit of a temp, headache and earache today. I need to buy shares in Calpol and Medised I think.

Aoa, hotel is a very good idea - go for a posh one so you can have a vvvv hot, deep bath!

lol at oli the teacher and castles the American

sorry you're ill AQ. I hope you manage to get some rest.

eli, I'm so glad you're all back at home. Here's to a speedy recovery for dd2.

LenniEd, ds2 fed much the same - maybe it's something to do with gender

Just popped into see how eli's dd was, hope it all gets better from here on in Poor little mite.

Indith, do hope you get some answers/advice/places to turn re: DS. And v.pleased the pink wrap getting some use as it didn't fit dd by the time i got it!

How could I have forgotten to say before that I'm v.sorry about the dx for you, bp, I do hope you can come to terms with it and do agree that work will just have to put up with it. Am I wrong in thinking that they 'set you up to fail' somewhere along the line - misremembering someone else's story no doubt. But anyway, I've found to my cost that loyalty to your employer doesn't mean you get anything in return so just look out for you and your family. Hugs.

And Jabber, new venture sounds fab, when you think how worried you were about everything six months ago and now you're launching exciting new business ...

I'm alright, had the sickness bug yesterday but it's largely passed and just have horrible cold for which I can't take a damn thing . Have asked for some info on PND counselling locally as feel I am on edge of going under with it but luckily have been here often enough to recognise the signs and ask for help. Being sick has taken my mind off it at least .

Right off to look at lennied's pics of ds (I have actually seen one of indith's dd thanks to your mum, so cute!)...

AQ - glad you've asked for help, thought it might be that. Let me know if I can do anything to help at all.

Little rant - DD has come back from PIL this evening with it ringing in her ears that nappies are for babies and she needs to use her potty. Arrggghhh! Who do they think I am? I've got a week old newborn and now a toddler who doesn't want 'baby nappies'. DH quite literally wrestled her into a nappy tonight... cue an enormous tantrum, delaying bedtime by an hour and making poor DD hysterical. I wouldn't mind but we play at sitting on the potty when she is stripped off for her bath and not once has she ever produced so she isn't ready for this. And I'm not either. Feel all weepy over it now, bloody hormones.

Aww, sorry Lennied. Bloody PILs No you certainly should not be worrying about potty training at the moment! You sound like you are doing really well btw esp with the b/f'ing

Sorry AQ I think some of us are just prone to effing PND with every child. Talk to me via e-mail anytime. It always gets better every time too ... just a little reminder for you there.

FFS LenniEd, some people just don't think, do they? on your behalf. I have a quiet day tomorrow so should be able to post the pumps. Will message you back re postage when I've done it.

Castles, emotional is good, no? Shows it's working? (Teacher, me? No, no, no )

Eli, so pleased everything went well. Poor mite sounds as though she's been through the wringer and back, not to mention what you & dh went through - I always think parents need a GA to get through the waiting . Does she have plenty of pain relief?

AQ, I agree with castles re. PND. At least you know when to ask for help, I think knowing what it is is half the problem solved straightaway. ((hugs)) for you too.

Shall I tell you my embarrassing story of the evening to cheer you up?

DH & I have joined the local gym in an effort to get a bit fitter and lose a lot bit of weight. He had his induction last night, no problem. I went for mine tonight. Sadist gym instructor put me on the cross trainer thingy (kind of like a stepper but the feet pads go round and your arms go back and forward - was probably a torture device in a previous century) and set it to go for 15 minutes. I was pretty much ready to keel over after 5 but kept going [heroic].

Now, remember the scene in Bridget Jones where she gets off the treadmill and falls over?

It can happen in RL, that's all I'm saying . Mightily embarrassing . You can all point and laugh if you like, I don't mind.

I'm laughing hysterically Olihan...I've done that! was damned embarrassing! Smack! into the mirror behind me...full gym that day too...upside is that I can't do the gym anymore, so wont ever have to see anyone from there ever again!

Thanks for that Oli Not enough laughs round here although I do find Ds1's magic tricks pretty amusing at times (birthday hit). Has anyone seen Outnumbered as I found it hilarious! Phaps I should get it on dvd and have some lighter moments at home.

Oh Lennied hope dd has forgotten all about it by today curse those PIL! I felt under pressure with ds1 as well and forever regret pushing him into it. Glad bf going well - so well done you!

Castles sounds like therapy going to do you good excellent. sorry comma button not working today!

Feeling so much better despite heavy cold poor nanny now has sickness bug. Just saying I think I'm depressed seems to help. Nowhere near the downhill slope yet was just finding it v.hard to see things to look forward to. Felt as though it was only going to get harder from here on in - twins need more from me so that's 4 children all demanding my emotional attention as well as all the chores that go with looking after them. Had a decent night's sleep last night (sorry Lennied Indith & Eli ) which helped enormously and a chat with HV just now.

Another flying visit, it does me good (see, self-care ), Oli's story especially In case you still feel Oli, I once walked into a bus stop and apologized to it absentmindedly...in front of the whole bus queue...for some reason, your gym story reminded me of that....

LenniEd, re the PIL, honestly....poor dd, poor you, and silly silly them (I probably shouldn't say that, right?!). Maybe tell dd that MIL was referring to the small nappies she used to wear when she was a baby, like ds's?? That she, dd, isin BIG girl nappies?

((AQ)) I bet your Mum is dead proud of you for knowing when and how to ask for help. As an ex-therapist, its one of my top hopes for my girls: major life skill.

BP, my sister had ME dx a few years ago...she was much like you describe yourself, positive, energetic, do-er, and it was a hard mental adjustment to make, but she found her own way of doing it and is doing great. Email me if you want to chat/know more anytime.

Must run again, dd calling, she spiked 38.5 at 4am and was quite worried...seen GP, we're trying to call HDU for advice but she's eaten a bit now and taken her ABs (threw them up last night) and we have supps for pain relief in case she won't drink, so hopefully...

dd1 at school, far better and no nasties there atm, and dd2 slept on pillows next to me all night without ANY sleep apnoea

So all this horridness is probaby well worth it!

x post - glad you slept AQ, me too, amazingly, knackered enough to sleep regardless despite 4am hour up!

Indith, hope you did too...

Castles yeay, am glad.

Wow Eli improvement already! It will all be worth it.
My mum is a counsellor so I guess she's taught me something. I have a photo of us on my FB profile actually updated last night with some new ones of the dt's. Then I went to bed really really early....

lennied - put her in pullups?

Indith and AQ - just seen your photos on fb they are lovely. Can't believe how big they make our older ones look - DS looks so grown up next to DD Indith, and as for the twins with DS2 on their playmat AQ what a lovely photo.

Lennied - I was just going to say about putting her in pullups like AofA said.

{{AQ & Castles}}

So glad that the op seems to be working already Eli.

Another sad day today. One more co-worker gone, he hasn't been taken on after his probation. It's rotten in our place at the moment. I feel so sad.

Margo I'm sorry. I know how depressing it is to be working somewhere where people around you are being treated badly/sadly for whatever reason - very, very stressful.

dd is running a temp again tonight, and narrowly avoided a trip to A&E today

Just hoping it goes down again when she has her 10pm meds....

Margo - sounds Been there, done that and very glad I dont work in a big office now.

Lennied - My DD is insisting on 'pants (pullups) all the time now. I am insisting on normal nappies at night. She is sitting on the potty 2-3 times a day and doing nothing. It is a novelty and she is having fun but it is driving me nuts. Apparently at pre-school today she went to the toilet with one of the other kids and the teacher helped her so she feels like a big girl. I fear the road to pants may have started but I refuse to start properly until the weather is better.

Elibean - hope DDs temp stabilises. I imagine the next week will be hard but long term she will be so much better

Eli, reaction to op? Can you give her Neurofen? Sorry if stupid question but it's best thing for bringing down temp though if it's up a degree or so over normal, I wouldn't worry too much. So pleased to hear the aponea (sp?) is improved already. That's great news.

Margo I endured a hostile takeover in my last job for a year. It wasn't pretty.

Thanks for the laugh Oli

Big hugs (OMG what is happening to me??) to everyone who is ill or has ill littlies or has a newbie that is keeping them up all night.

Lovely piccies on FB btw.

Gorgeous FB photos AQ, Indith & LenniEd .

Eli, wahey for the disappearance of the sleep apnoea - mission accomplished , hopefully the temp will settle in a couple of days too.

Margo . Have no experience of any of it but it doesn't sound nice. How safe are you, or is that an impossible question?

I've just about stopped ing after yestrday. Have to go back tomorrow though - I may wear large sunglasses and equally large hat in manner of incognito sleb .

Oli, I wish I could join your gym (and trust me, I don't say that about a gym too often ).

dd's temp not bad tonight, last night was 38.5 at 4am which is why we nearly ended up being dragged to A&E today. That was higher than they expect in reaction. But GP said chest clear, and my instinct said not bacterial infection, and she's not had one all day so we avoided it. She's on strong ABs anyway - which are giving her v smelly runs and she's off her milk etc, but cover her for all nasties.

More pain, though - not drinking as much, will hvae to watch that. Not silly at all, Castles - but she won't take Nurofen, the rat, so she's getting Voltarol suppositories 3x daily, plus Paracetamol 4x daily.

Like the hugs, stuff being cool

eli, so glad dd2 had good sleep at least. I know your looking forward to normal temps now.

oli, lol at the whole gym thing. Good for you though. I loved working out back in the days before dcs

AQ, you get to join the club of recurrent PND'ers...I never had a full-blown case after ds2 but only b/c I started back on my AD's as soon as I was cleared to do so. I think castles is right, some of us are just prone to it. Must be some chemical/hormonal thing.

Anne, ds2 has made some moves to potty-train but I am trying to hold out for warmer weather too.

I tried to get on FB to look at pictures today but something wasn't computing. Will try tomorrow. Think I'm headed to bed for an early night tonight.

all the FB pictures are lovely.

I was going to give out big hugs last night but wondered if it was too soppy. You're very brave Castles.

Our next door neighbour died. We called the police after one of our neighbours alerted us to the amount of milk bottles outside his house. 86 yo and no family. He was born there.

I so hope I'll be posting on here soon with better news and better responses. It must/will get better.

Eli, do you want to join my gym to get fit or to have a good laugh at me making a t*t of myself three times a week? . Glad Dd's temp is stabilised, sending painfree vibes your way for the next couple of days.

Margo, poor you and poor neighbour . So sad to be so alone at that age. Did he not have carers or anyone else going in?

Jabber, I'm hoping I'll enjoy it at some point . I need to do something to get fitter and slimmer though. I've been 5 stone overweight since well before I had ds1 and have finally hit a point where I have to do something about it or I'll be like it (and probably getting fatter) for ever. I've lost 2 and a haf stone since September so this is phase 2!

Ds2 has been a horror all day - grumpy, moany, whingy - aargh! Hopefully he's just tired and not going down with something.

Wow, well done on losing 2 and a half stone Oli. That's amazing! I have to lose 1.5 stone minimum and I'm finding it really hard. I think my metabolism has completely ground to a halt as I barely eat a thing

Very sad about your neighbour Margo I hear so many stories of old people being found days after they have died.

Re "hugging" I am getting seriously worried about myself

Eli, hope things are continuing to improve.

My dear grandmother has just died

Happily, unlike Margo's poor neighbour, she wasn't alone (though only the carer there this evening when it happened) and it was incredibly peaceful. She just closed her eyes, she was very tired.

I was going to go and see her in Feb, but knew it was unlikely she'd make it till then...tbh, I am fairly numb to all emotions atm due to constant dd stress and lack of sleep, but at 101+ its not exactly a shock..sad, though..am steeling myself to ring my mother, not sure how she's coping.

dd had gd afternoon, but is in pain again tonight and wouldn't take ABs...