December 2007 - Oh what fun, they are almost ONE!

[Caz10]

OK here we are ladies!

Ha ha at same name/same husband skid - although I can't see where my dh's name is on my Facebook page!!

arcadie no the guy with his arm around me is an old uni pal who is now married with two babies - that was taken a few years ago at a reunion party we had in London.

Sorry about lack of pics on my sight, I just find it impossible to download pics, it always seems to take so long!!! Possibly because we use our laptop for internetting as it's upstairs where we basically live!

skid when you asked for thoughts on having a third child I did think of mentioning something along the lines of what you are going through (and me, I also have moments when I find it very hard to control myself with dd1) but didn't want to put you off!! Also I didn't want Insy to get too stressed about it all!

Oh and clairey the q bit of my nickname is from my maiden name which I still use for my Yahoo email address as have never got round to changing it!

By the way, I dreamt about you and Skid the other night (after you both became my facebook "friends") - we were all on the Apprentice although you two were on the opposing team, which was winning! Anyway what was wierd is having now seen your pictures you actually all looked like you and not some random imagined person!

Ahhhhha.... Well that clears up skid and bt and claraq and claireyb . Sorry for being intensely nosey. my fave Mumsnet names are still foxytocin and fanjolinajoile. DH has taken to using the word fanjolina altogether too much.....

clairybee - you're right a "buzzybee" is a little pull-along toy almost every family in NZ has. It makes a buzzing sound as you pull it along. Has become almost iconic in NZ. There are some well known (in NZ anyway!) pics of Prince William with one when he came here aged about 6 months. I think it also describes me quite well and now quite coincidentally DD2 is called Bea (so I should really change to buzzybea!)

BTW I'm organising a meet up with Lackadaisycal next Friday we're going to some farm place in North Leeds, if anyone wants to join us - Arcadie I have messaged you on FB because you were the only one who I thought live vaguely near there lol. But perhaps there are others who fancy the trip?
Weather permitting this is where we are going!

Ok so I've spent nearly an hour trying to catch up on this thread, I only got upto January 5th, I give up and start here

Can someone give me a quick lowdown on what I've missed?

I will be able to pop in more regularly after Tuesday because it's my last day at work - HURRAH so BT I could meet you over in Leeds. It got too much with DD in the office with me, "No, don't touch the...files/photocopier/ phone or draw on my invoices etc" I've decided to take advantage of our drop in mortgage and stay at home for while until I find some part time work around DH. The finances will def. be tight, but managable.

DD is getting harder work, the baby stage was a doddle, but she's getting more demanding and stubborn (like her mama) She'll only walkholding our hands, and demands it a LOT, she has only just started cruising on the furniture, but will bum-shuffle and crawl to where she wants to go to. Her 6th tooth is on it's way - boy have they been hard work! She's still fun though and I'm hoping that being with her more at home will bring us closer together again.

As some of you on my FB will know, I got burgled a month ago - the bastards broke in at 11am on a thursday, I live on busy B-road, and I only work in the mornings so I still can't believe their cheek. They took our TV, PS3, camera, video camera and my laptop. I'm not so upset they took the things as they can be replaced, it's just dirty strangers in my house (they left grubby hand prints) rifling through my drawers, oh and our camera with DDs birthday party pics and our camcorder had our holiday vid in it , not to mention my laptop with all my pics and music - now I'm relegated to DHs computer - they didn't take it thank god. Anyways the good thing is that our neighbour witnessed the getaway car and it was picked up a few weeks ago and the feckers arrested (thanks for your message BT) It's almost unheard of that these thieves get caught, I don't think we'll ever see our things again but glad they've been caught.

Sorry about that loooooong message, but I guess I'm still bitter about it.

Hoping all the babies toddlers are well and blossoming and look forward to chatting to you all a bit more from next week onwards.

Ambi - great if you can make it to the meet up! Will sort out time of meeting and get back to you

Really shitty about the burglary, arsehole !

Lots of toddling babies and not so toddling babies, some are talking, some not so. Claraq will be off to St Lucia at some point (the lucky cow ) as that's where her DH will be posted to next!

And we've been desparately trying to get the post count up on this thread!

St Lucia Claraq - you are so lucky.

Yes, let me know about the meetup, DD has never been to a farm so she'll love it. It's only about an hour away and it's all motorway so dead easy.

Buzzybee - we have a buzzey bee given to me by a penpal when I had dd1

Ambi - we got burgled to about 6 moths ago...he was 17. We got all out stuff back and he got 18 months...the fecker....but it is the thought of someone in my house I hate (still)

Has anyone heard from Suey? Hope she is OK?

Evie is fine....she has a very good and clear no and an evil look now....

Sounds like a good plan Ambi. I know what you mean about the hand holding thing! My DD has simultaneously discovered toddler tantrums and the joys of pulling me around the place by my finger so she can walk with something to on to as she's very unconfident without. So if don't want to be pulled around the place, I get screaming!!! Oh and she wants to be read "Where's Maisy" incessantly

Hey all!

DrSkid, your cycle and meal on Mother's Day sound great! Mine was nice, got some home-made cards and a jar of jellybeans! Then we went to Felixstowe for the day which was lovely, it is not too commercial a beach IYKWIM so even better! Any tips for 3 kids??? Get someone to do your ironing for you!!! I can't believe the amount of extra washing and ironing one small person makes! Personally I found going from 2 to 3 much harder than going from 1 to 2 but it is great fun too.

Insy, my boys are very physical with each other, it was a nightmare when they were younger but now they are older I tend to let them get on with it unless one of them gets really hurt. With 3 of them now, it is lively in my house! Also you mention being short on temper, I was incredibly so when carrying Evie but as soon as she was born it was like the sun had come out and I was far clower to anger again. Don't listen to your family, everyone told me I would have another boy, I even thought so myself (despite the scan lady saying possibly a girl) and so was quite shocked to have a girl! Edward is a lovely name too, I like the shortening to Bear as well, lovely for a little boy (my friend's Edward was Teddy when small and Ted now he's older).

Clairey, to hear about your ulcer, I had one many many years ago which I believe was caused by a mixture of stress and too many Neurofen plus after I had my wisdom teeth out. My symptoms were very similar to yours and it cleared up with the help of medication only (although I did require 2 courses). I remember what BT's mummy name was - I'm sure she was furrymummy! My name is one of the names my Mum used to call me - probably daft to use it as could be easily recognised by anyone who know me!

Buzzy, sorry to hear about your DD's diagnosis, I do however agree with everyone who says an early diagnosis is a good thing and it does sound like she is a very bright girl!

Ambi, am in about your burglary and too! How awful for you, hope you are okay x

Right, off to update my profile with some nice Beachy pictures of the DCs, hope you all enjoy your Sunday x

Beckle - I think you were right, furrymummy does ring a bell lol!

Hellooooo all how is everybody? I tried to catch up too but started to go cross-eyed, so apologies if I miss any big news.

So sorry to hear about your burglary Ambi that is so shit, it has never happened to us (touch wood) but it happened to close friends and they were quite shaken up, take care of yourself!

Clairey do you have an ulcer? Poor you, I hope you get good treatment.

Buzzy what has happened with your dd, is she ok?

Arcadie are you a free woman now? I am still with my Yr6 brats kiddies - driving me up the wall, but actually they are ok compared to the real brats ie our SMT aaaaaaaargh.

DD is well, almost 16mths how did that happen? She is walking quite steadily now and REALLY getting a personality/TEMPER! Very very funny and independent but oh my goodness that girl knows her own mind...

Will try to be better at keeping up on here - my workload is driving me potty atm and I am so ill and tired - oh god is everyone else getting 12hrs sleep now?! I bet I am the last with a non sleeping baby?!!!

Thanks guys for kind words.

Buzzy, its funny but annoying isn't it? DD will be innocently sitting on my lap then she'll grab my fingers and leap off and want to walk somewhere very interesting like the dishwasher. She's gotten really steady and I think she could toddle on her own but she won't risk it.

You teachers have just reminded me that I've picked a bad time to finish work, oh no its school holidays. I might spend the first few weeks spring cleaning instead of all the groups I was planning on. Our local council has announced free swimming to everyone from April onwards, which includes all the classes, so I'm looking forward to taking advantage of that.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend and enjoying the sunshine.

Sorry to hear about the burglary Ambi, must have been scary.

Ah so your wrong initial is there for the same reason as mine Clara

Furrymummy eh? don't remember that one, just furryfox.

Caz not quite getting 12 hours but he is mostly going 7.30-5.30, not sure what the clock change will bring though! Has only been a week or so too so early days... I've done it by getting him to self settle at bedtime every night instead of just when he did it easily, had to do cc a couple of times but only for a couple of minutes (before if he cried when I put him down I'd usually just give in and cuddle him! ) and by not feeding him between 8pm and 6am. I was bringing him in with me to feed and he was feeding on off all bloody night so I had enough and decide to not feed. I brought him in with me and cuddled him but didn't feed him for a few nights (lots of crying and protesting and attacking my boobs!) and his first wake up got later and later til he was sleeping til 5/6. Now he does that most nights. We had gone through a horrendous stage of no sleep so it was a combination of me having had enough and him seeming more ready and accepting it a bit more easily...

However I am still not sleeping all night, maybe someone needs to sleeptrain me!

clairey so glad you at least on the the way to getting some sleep!

We moved dd to her own room in January and her sleep improved then - on "good" nights she was going down 7.30, waking once at 2ish for a feed (or at least I was giving her a feed then) then back down to 5.30-6ish. of course there have been colds/molars/MMR etc but basically that was the pattern. Then last week she did 7.30 to 5ish 2 nights in a row and I thought she'd cracked it, but then she has been up 3-4 times a night since then.
Our plan is that dh goes to her every waking except one when I will feed her - in the aim of getting out of night feeds, but it is hard because he works shifts and is away a few nights a week so it is not consistent.

Fingers crossed!

Lol arcadie if you saw the size of me now you?d be even more convinced about me having twins, I?m huge, although yet to be measured, everyone tells me I?m huge really helpful, dh asked PIL to stop saying I?m huge and that I?m having a boy as its getting boring
skid wanted a girl last time to prove them wrong too and of course cause I want dd,
beckle I?ve everything crossed for a girl but I am carrying exactly the same as ds?s and that?s why everyone says boys ? how much do you reckon is in that? Should have found out at 20wks!! Driving myself nuts?. Also, what?s the age difference between your boys? I watched my two this weekend and there isn?t any real malice in what they are doing ds1 is in terrible twos and ds2 copies so we end up with random pushing and snatching and then shouting/yelling/crying (them not me? well not always me ) so hoping they?ll grow out of it, went to my mum and dads today and they played really well, mostly with diff things admittedly but still nice that I didn?t have to issue any ?warnings? all day
claraq [fingers in ears not listening about anything bout madness of having 3 kids under 3]
And at meet up, although still a little weird now know what some of you look like?
ambi sorry to hear bout break in, never happened to us but I can only image its feels v scarey

My MN name is me not being v creative and working my way through nursery rhymes till found one that hadn?t been taken, rubbish really but not enough for me to try and think of another one? I?m the one that never changes my name for diff holidays as can never think of anything!

on sleep thing, ds's sleeping 7pm-6am but in seperate rooms, have cot bed and toddler bed in ds1's room and keep meaning to move ds2 in there before baby arrives but not been brave enough, anyone with more than one who's lo's share a room? any hints/tips?

I carried all mine the same Insy, all out front like a big football! I was my biggest with DD too without a doubt, she was also my biggest baby by far and I carried a lot of water. My Mum also carried me and my brothers the same way. I have a friend with 3 boys and she carried them all differently so I definitely think its rubbish that the sex of the child determines how you carry. The one thing I would say that was most different about my pg with DD was that I was much more emotional than with the DSs and needed to eat a LOT more chocolate... DSs have 2.7 years between them, when they were younger it was more pushing and shoving when both wanted their own way than anything nasty. They have shared a room for about 3 years now, we put them in together well in advance - before I was even pg with DD. It works well although no tips for putting younger ones in together. I guess the benefit with their ages is that it won't take long for them to get used to it and forget that they were ever in different rooms!

Hi caz10. I have not properly sat down with DD to work through with her the implications of the diagnosis. TBH I was in shock a bit myself for a few days and this week she has been with her father. Now that I've had a chance to come to terms with it I do want to talk it through with her. I think she'll be much less surprised than me. I think the main thing I'm working through at the moment is whether or how to tell others around us about her "disability" (see - I don't even want to call it that!). Everything I've read makes it clear that its important to be open about it so that she can have an easier time of it (i.e. not have to continue struggling to understand etc) but I'm very wary of the possible label that might come with it. First step talk to teachers and take it from there I guess!

Ambi, DD2's creche says she was taking loads of steps there today. Must be because they don't have time to be pulled around by the finger!!!

claireybee glad to hear you're getting more sleep. DD2 almost always wakes around 10.30/11pm but other than that is a pretty good sleeper. At least, I think she wakes but self settles. I often go into her in the morning and she's lying wide awake but hasn't made a sound. In fact this morning hadn't heard a peep and when I went in she was sitting up grinning cheekily at me and clutching her favourite teddy!

buzzy need your dd to have a word with my ds! although he sleeps very well most nights he wakes cying. Ds1 used to do exactly the same thing so I know he?ll grow out of it but its not a great start to the day, its lovely your dd is so happy in her cot

beckle you?ve given me hope that it might be a girl, I?m vey emotional this time too I used to pride myself in being quite together but most things make me cry at moment, I?m huge and looks like I stuffed a football up my top again, had a lot of water with ds2, mw?s comment was ?I?m swimming here? when ds2 came out and I panicked slightly thinking she meant I was bleeding so maybe that?s why I?m big again? only about 11 wks till I can find out!
We moved ds2 into ds1?s room after he was asleep last night but then he was up in night teething so promptly moved him back! Ds1 didn?t even stir, I think we?ll be fine during the night I just don?t know how to do settling them to sleep and making sure they don?t wake each other up early

IL's got boys today so dh can save days holiday, was kind of looking forward to dh being off with them as its lovely having a wife for the day, I get dinner cooked and the house is always lovely when I get home, it'll be mayhem tonight

I am on day 1 of the easter holidays and am completly knackered. Evie woek up at some time early this morning... it was still dark and just wanted to cuddle in bed..she didn't want milk or anything just cuddles which would have been fine had it not been so dark. Grghhhhh...so Evie and me are all grumpy today. and dd2 is bored and dd has gone to London with a friend.

I jinxed myself again. Ds woke twice last night

My tummy really hurts today, I think it is the tablets.

Buzzy dd was like that, used to play in her cot til she fell asleep and then play when she woke up. DS just cries when he wakes up!

Insy I keep getting all excited on your behalf Wow only 11 weeks til you have a newborn in the house again!!!

Am I ahead of myself with an easter name?

Hi everyone.

Please don't all be too of our move to St Lucia. Of course it will be lovely being in the sun and having the sea there etc but it's hard work moving wherever you go and I am dreading all the lonliness etc before I get to know anyone. I know it'll be fine in the long run (hopefully more than fine!) but I guess I am a little more cautious than I would otherwise be because of what we went through last year - and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Buzzy - I wouldn't think of your daughter's diagnosis as a "disability" in a negative sense, think of it as a special need - which can be a positive thing. It sounds like she is very bright to be as capable as she is despite having this issue, and at least now knowing what it is she will be able to get the extra help she needs.

My dd2 was sleeping pretty well and then she got a cold (etc) and has been waking every night for two weeks. I fear she is in a habit now of crying when she wakes up, knowing someone will come in to her. So wondering whether we will need to do cc again at some point. Hopefully she'll settle back again before we have to.

She tends to "talk" when she wakes up and just gets louder and louder until someone goes into her. We usually crack when she starts calling "mama" or "gaga" (dada).

How're you all getting on with the time change? We couldn't get them to sleep until nearly eight last night, but we had been out and they did both sleep on the way home. They go up at 7am this morning and I have put everything about half an hour later than normal, which seems to be working ok at the moment.....